Pretty much hit a bump in our marriage. Found some not so good stuff when using the iPad and I just feel so small. I thought I would flip but I've been calm and just trying to decide what to do next. I know my husband is shitting it and doesn't know what my next move is but its hard to look at someone the same after they make you feel as if you're not adequate. Gah. If a man decides to look at x rated pictures and whatnot they should be honest. At least in my mind that's how it goes. And how could he be so stupid to follow this chick on INSTAGRAM. Come ooooon dude. I think I'm just hurt?
As far as my LO, I'm cherishing my last weeks of maternity leave with him. I'm going to miss him going back to work.
Post by 3littleones on Mar 11, 2015 5:12:23 GMT -5
I'm really glad I looked at my calendar doing LO's feeding. DS2 has the teacher coming to our house at 11 not 1. There goes the idea of not setting an alarm and sleeping in..
Post by grumpycat88 on Mar 11, 2015 6:06:43 GMT -5
I have a dentist appointment early today. I made it thinking the dictator is up so early anyway. He is still sleeping. Gr. and it's DH'S day taking care of him. I definitely feel like I'm coming down with a cold so I'm going to start taking my prenatal vitamins again to try to help my immune system a little.
Pretty much hit a bump in our marriage. Found some not so good stuff when using the iPad and I just feel so small. I thought I would flip but I've been calm and just trying to decide what to do next. I know my husband is shitting it and doesn't know what my next move is but its hard to look at someone the same after they make you feel as if you're not adequate. Gah. If a man decides to look at x rated pictures and whatnot they should be honest. At least in my mind that's how it goes. And how could he be so stupid to follow this chick on INSTAGRAM. Come ooooon dude. I think I'm just hurt?
As far as my LO, I'm cherishing my last weeks of maternity leave with him. I'm going to miss him going back to work.
I'm sorry this is happening. I hope you two can talk about it and figure out a solution. DH looks at porn too sometimes, but was honest about it when I asked.
It's 8:40. I've had about an hour of sleep, and that was thanks to Nyquil + Melatonin. LO has been sleeping fine; I'm the problem. Throwback to Saturday night...
At least my house is slightly less awful after several hours of cleaning.
We HAVE to go grocery shopping today even though I was trying to make it until payday on Friday. I have zero money where I was on maternity leave and it's stressing me out
Pretty much hit a bump in our marriage. Found some not so good stuff when using the iPad and I just feel so small. I thought I would flip but I've been calm and just trying to decide what to do next. I know my husband is shitting it and doesn't know what my next move is but its hard to look at someone the same after they make you feel as if you're not adequate. Gah. If a man decides to look at x rated pictures and whatnot they should be honest. At least in my mind that's how it goes. And how could he be so stupid to follow this chick on INSTAGRAM. Come ooooon dude. I think I'm just hurt?
As far as my LO, I'm cherishing my last weeks of maternity leave with him. I'm going to miss him going back to work.
I'm sorry this is happening. I hope you two can talk about it and figure out a solution. DH looks at porn too sometimes, but was honest about it when I asked.
Thanks I hope we can too. I want Oliver to have both parents together. That's all I ask for but it seems unreasonable. He feels it's an invasion of privacy. My brain kind of turns into a question mark. Its just honesty. That's all.
Pretty much hit a bump in our marriage. Found some not so good stuff when using the iPad and I just feel so small. I thought I would flip but I've been calm and just trying to decide what to do next. I know my husband is shitting it and doesn't know what my next move is but its hard to look at someone the same after they make you feel as if you're not adequate. Gah. If a man decides to look at x rated pictures and whatnot they should be honest. At least in my mind that's how it goes. And how could he be so stupid to follow this chick on INSTAGRAM. Come ooooon dude. I think I'm just hurt?
As far as my LO, I'm cherishing my last weeks of maternity leave with him. I'm going to miss him going back to work.
Something similar happened very early on in my relationship with DH (except chat room grossness). It took me a while to get over the anger and feelings of inadequacy. We had to have some frank conversations about what I consider cheating, and respect and a lot of other stuff. We got through it though. I hope you guys can find your way.
Nursing and feeding my baby in the daycare parking lot. I do not have the morning routine figured out yet. Monday I was nursing her while trying to get the boys ready. That didn't work either.
Pretty much hit a bump in our marriage. Found some not so good stuff when using the iPad and I just feel so small. I thought I would flip but I've been calm and just trying to decide what to do next. I know my husband is shitting it and doesn't know what my next move is but its hard to look at someone the same after they make you feel as if you're not adequate. Gah. If a man decides to look at x rated pictures and whatnot they should be honest. At least in my mind that's how it goes. And how could he be so stupid to follow this chick on INSTAGRAM. Come ooooon dude. I think I'm just hurt?
As far as my LO, I'm cherishing my last weeks of maternity leave with him. I'm going to miss him going back to work.
Something similar happened very early on in my relationship with DH (except chat room grossness). It took me a while to get over the anger and feelings of inadequacy. We had to have some frank conversations about what I consider cheating, and respect and a lot of other stuff. We got through it though. I hope you guys can find your way.
I'm glad you guys were able to work through it. That's what I told him. That even if I decided to forgive, I wouldn't forget. It put me at a low spot with self consciousness. I just had a baby, my body is changing, and now to think I don't look a certain way puts me in a dark place. I haven't dug deeper to see if I find anything else. I'm afraid, I guess. I know it's a long road ahead. Thanks for listening, guys.
We're also going to my moms today. I love spending time with her and I'm taking my dog. The only thing that worries me is that they dig holes to go to the neighbors house. Latest item Molly has returned with is a brush (wtf?)
My in laws are gone! It was a pretty good visit, but I am happy they're gone. Celebrating by holding my sleeping baby and watching tv. Plus, I am going to go on a walk with the dog later. Pretty exciting day.
Post by tomorrowisanotherday on Mar 11, 2015 9:30:15 GMT -5
Had a good evening, DH and I had some friends over for supper and set up our "new to us" pool table in the basement. We had a drink and played a game; it was nice to hang out like we used to (LO went to bed early so that helped.) But then for some reason I got all emotional when we went to bed; I guess I've been feeling like DH is disinterested in me and doesn't appreciate everything I do. He assured me that all of that wasn't true and I could tell this morning he was making more of an effort to show me affection. I feel like I'm weird because I seem to want to be intimate more than my DH does... Anyone else feel this way? Also LO woke up MOTN, which hasn't happened in three weeks; guess that's payback for going to bed early!
pczmtru good luck talking to you H. Been there done that. Forgetting is difficult. It's easier as I see my dh evolving as a husband and as a father. As long as he continues to make efforts in our marriage I am too.
pczmtru good luck talking to you H. Been there done that. Forgetting is difficult. It's easier as I see my dh evolving as a husband and as a father. As long as he continues to make efforts in our marriage I am too.
Yes. I am willing to work at it, if I feel he's being honest. But this whole "I don't know how that got there" on Instagram. Dude. No one got on your Instagram on followed a girl who sells her x rated home videos. Gross. Not just that but I cannot even glance at his phone cause he will practically stuffs his phone in his crotch so I can't see it. Whenever I ask to use google or maps cause I don't carry my phone all day, he needs "to do something" AKA clear search history etc. I haven't told him his glasses reflect his screen lol.
Post by BabyStandish on Mar 11, 2015 9:48:20 GMT -5
Had LO 's 2 month appt this morning. I definitely cried during his shots, but he stopped crying after like 30 seconds and is okay now. The nurse felt so bad lol and I felt silly for crying. His appt went really well, he's up to 10 lbs 7 oz now and 23 inches. He was 6 lbs 14 oz and 20 inches at birth. His head shape and muscle strength all looks good. He has a bit of scar tissue on his belly button so we got some steroid cream to treat it. DH is working from home today to help out in case LO is more fussy and I have a endo appt in like an hour so it'll be nice not having to worry about him during my appt.
Had a good evening, DH and I had some friends over for supper and set up our "new to us" pool table in the basement. We had a drink and played a game; it was nice to hang out like we used to (LO went to bed early so that helped.) But then for some reason I got all emotional when we went to bed; I guess I've been feeling like DH is disinterested in me and doesn't appreciate everything I do. He assured me that all of that wasn't true and I could tell this morning he was making more of an effort to show me affection. I feel like I'm weird because I seem to want to be intimate more than my DH does... Anyone else feel this way? Also LO woke up MOTN, which hasn't happened in three weeks; guess that's payback for going to bed early!
I feel this way too. It's hard because in my mind he isn't being as affectionate because of how I look now versus before. None of those feelings are justified but with all these pp hormones floating around it makes me emotional as well.
pczmtru good luck talking to you H. Been there done that. Forgetting is difficult. It's easier as I see my dh evolving as a husband and as a father. As long as he continues to make efforts in our marriage I am too.
Yes. I am willing to work at it, if I feel he's being honest. But this whole "I don't know how that got there" on Instagram. Dude. No one got on your Instagram on followed a girl who sells her x rated home videos. Gross. Not just that but I cannot even glance at his phone cause he will practically stuffs his phone in his crotch so I can't see it. Whenever I ask to use google or maps cause I don't carry my phone all day, he needs "to do something" AKA clear search history etc. I haven't told him his glasses reflect his screen lol.
Yeah that's not right. There shouldn't be anything to hide from each other. I hope you guys can work things out. Dh and I worked through something similar very early in our relationship.
Post by megan81112 on Mar 11, 2015 10:00:48 GMT -5
I really need to stop lurking on TD. I've found myself in an argument with Sept15 ladies about having 2 weddings. Ughhh...
But there was a funny post from a chick scared to give birth because she thought her but would rip open and they wouldn't be able to close it right and she wouldn't be able to keep her caca(her word) from falling out of her butthole.
I really need to stop lurking on TD. I've found myself in an argument with Sept15 ladies about having 2 weddings. Ughhh...
But there was a funny post from a chick scared to give birth because she thought her but would rip open and they wouldn't be able to close it right and she wouldn't be able to keep her caca(her word) from falling out of her butthole.
pczmtru I know my DH looks at porn, but I'm fine with it. I don't pry too much, I know that he needs to basically relieve himself every day (morning before work actually) and porn is how he gets there. I masturbate too. It's just visual stimulation for him, nbd. It sucks that your DH is so secretive about it, that just makes it feel weird, but he's probably not actively comparing you to porn stars- he's just masturbating. I understand that may not be in your comfort zone though, to each their own.
It's not the porn that irks me. It's the secretive shit. Like be a man and be honest. It doesn't help the situation. I personally don't watch porn. It doesn't call my name and he's always bagging on men who do (I tell him he shouldn't judge) and then he lies. I feel as though he enjoys doing this behind my back. Idk. Weird feeling. He still denies it. That is what I want. An open and honest relationship. I don't have to like it for him to feel comfortable telling me he enjoys it.
Post by shannjohnston on Mar 11, 2015 10:20:38 GMT -5
DS had the best drop off at preschool yet! DD was up frequently last night, probably thrown off because of her shots, but we managed. DH is home today too. We just got to take the dog for a walk without the toddler running in twelve different directions - a real walk, in the sunshine +4 temperature for over an hour! Yay!
I really need to stop lurking on TD. I've found myself in an argument with Sept15 ladies about having 2 weddings. Ughhh...
But there was a funny post from a chick scared to give birth because she thought her but would rip open and they wouldn't be able to close it right and she wouldn't be able to keep her caca(her word) from falling out of her butthole.
Mason finally fell asleep at 6:30 for a nap, kind of late but he was so tired and usually only sleeps 20-30 minutes. Nope, I got 3 hours! He was up from 9:30-10:30 then back out until 7:30 with just a little fussing that a binky fixed a couple time in the motn. Now he's laying with daddy in bed while I eat breakfast with both hands! We've been having 7-9 hour stretches for over a week now. Hoping to keep this up!
Nothing annoys me more than when pregnant people post on facebook at 37 weeks that they're dilated to a 2 and they will have a baby in the next week or so. No that's not always how it works. You could still have up to 5 weeks left. Don't get your hopes up.
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