Post by ahayden1230 on Mar 15, 2015 11:05:23 GMT -5
Going back to work tomorow and super nervous.... Afraid LO will be upset all day without me. It's strange but when my DH gives him back to me when he is crying he stops.... Every single time!!! Why can't DH console him!!?? It's so upsetting. And now I'm worried about my mom . She is going to be watching him for me during the day. I don't want her to get so upset because she can't console hkm and say it's too much for her. I really don't want to take him to daycare!!! I probably won't sleep tonight worried about all of this. Does anyone else hAve the same issue with thier DH?? How can our babies know already that it's daddy and not mommy? (Dumb question). But it's like he does. ?
Going back to work tomorow and super nervous.... Afraid LO will be upset all day without me. It's strange but when my DH gives him back to me when he is crying he stops.... Every single time!!! Why can't DH console him!!?? It's so upsetting. And now I'm worried about my mom . She is going to be watching him for me during the day. I don't want her to get so upset because she can't console hkm and say it's too much for her. I really don't want to take him to daycare!!! I probably won't sleep tonight worried about all of this. Does anyone else hAve the same issue with thier DH?? How can our babies know already that it's daddy and not mommy? (Dumb question). But it's like he does. ?
Yes I do. LO is not a big daddy fan at all. He's a great dad and I don't want him to just give up and always hand her back to me. So far so good. He's so used to you, it might take a day or two to get used to someone new. It might take some time, but LO will come around.
ahayden1230 we have the same problem. My husband had his absolutely inconsolable after about 20 minutes of trying to get him to sleep. I finally took over because lo was just getting so upset. He went right to sleep for me. My husband will hand him to me every time he cries saying he's hungery. And when I'm gone he feeds him for every cry. It's just not good! I know his first few days at daycare will be rough because he's used to me but everyone will get through it! Maybe warn you mom that the first few days might be really hard and ask if she can try to get through them, it will get better!
Post by ahayden1230 on Mar 15, 2015 11:47:14 GMT -5
@heidhie21 I have he same issue with the feedings while I am gone. My DH also think ihe needs to be fed. It is so frustrating! I'm hoping this all improves as he gets older... I don't want him to grow up too fast but seriously would love some help especially during thr MOTN!! I've done everything since day 1 in the MOTH.
Post by littlelion on Mar 15, 2015 11:47:30 GMT -5
It's 11:30 here and I am still in bed with lo. No plans to move. Might start watching netflix on my phone. Only problem is my tummy growling. Rather fiercely. I was hungry last night when lo cluster fed from 8 pm-1am. I managed not to get up and eat. I sent dh for food just now. First to a bakery for some sweet empanadas and then to a restaurant for my fav tacos. And my coffee is ready too...yep haven't even had that yet. Must. Hold. On.
ahayden1230,I am having this problem right now too... LO will fall asleep with me, but won't with N... it is frustrating with N he said last night after I got home from work that H wouldn't sleep for him like he does for me.. I just talked to him on the phone and he said it again....
@heidhie21 I have he same issue with the feedings while I am gone. My DH also think ihe needs to be fed. It is so frustrating! I'm hoping this all improves as he gets older... I don't want him to grow up too fast but seriously would love some help especially during thr MOTN!! I've done everything since day 1 in the MOTH.
I'd have to say I do almost everything day and night. I get a few hours a week to go see my horse and that's it. He tried 2 motn feedings and he ended up yelling at me during both and making me get up to calm a very upset baby. However he is sttn now so that's a plus! But when I go back to work he will have to put him to bed a few nights a week. We will see.
This is my last week of maternity leave before I go back to work...it's a daily struggle not to cry. Last night after 2 glasses of wine my mom told me she couldn't hold it in anymore and didn't want to tell us what to do, but that she would feel better if they watched Z for us. My mom said that Friday was kind of like a dry run (I took my sister to orlando that day and they watched Z until my H got off work) and they had tons of fun with her. I only have another 2 months before school is out and I'm off for the summer so after that we can reevaluate the whole daycare thing but right now I'm really happy she mentioned something. My anxiety about going back to work isn't as bad knowing that Z will be with them. Don't get me wrong I really like the daycare we had lined up but I know she will be more comfortable with them. Today though it's just me and Z and we are going to go to the beach and take a nice walk down the nature trails and then go do some shopping. I blame you all for making me want one of those sit-me-up seats! Lol
kml218- I know what you mean about the anxiety of having to go back to work... I was having bad anxiety thinking about having to take H to daycare and leave him with strangers at 8 weeks old.. so thankfully my MIL can work from home so she watches him 1-2 days a week and my mom watches him on Thursday's... that helped my anxiety so much, don't get me wrong I was still anxious about leaving my little man after being with him 24/7 for 2 months but we both did great...
As far as the Bumbo chairs go, I put my little guy in it about a week ago to see how he would do and he did great, I figured it would help him get stronger to have more control.
You should get one, if you don't want to spend a ton of money (we were given ours so I am not sure how much they cost) try a second hand childrens store.. they usually have a bunch of them for cheap and they are super easy to wash...
Post by ahayden1230 on Mar 15, 2015 13:16:05 GMT -5
It's so very frustrating! I just left the house to go to the grocery store and I fed LO right before I left.... I get a text saying he is upset and hungry. NO he isn't hungry I JUsT fed him. He is tired..... I feel like I can never leave... I could just cry.
Post by littlelion on Mar 15, 2015 13:27:27 GMT -5
kml218 that's great news about your mom taking care of lo! And so jealous of your summer offs. My sisters all work in education and 1 of them after she had her first baby finds jobs that allow for this. First she found a job that gave her the same time off as students (summer, winter breaks etc). And now her new job is part time so she can pick up her kids from school. And it pays really well. She hates it. She calls it her golden handcuffs. I'd like me some of those.
babyw15 it's nice to hear that you and H are doing well with the transition. We only need someone to watch Z 3 days a week too. I know things will get easier but it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. We have a Bumbo chair (our friends little boy didn't like it so they gave it to us). I haven't put Z in it yet but I did consider finding a cover for it because it's really similar to the sit-me-up but the back is a little lower. Z is doing really well controlling her head when she's sitting up but she still has a few bobble head moments lol. I'm torn between getting that and a playmate with a keyboard at the feet for tummy time. I do Shopkicks so I have $30 worth of certificates to put towards either one. I think I can find a playmate cheaper at Ross though so I'm heading there first.
littlelion It definitely helps! I was able to go down to part time (without having to take a pay cut) last October because of a scare with the pregnancy and decided to stay part time until the end of the year. I go in at 9am and leave at 3pm (or 2:30 haven't decided yet) but I love the flexibility. It helps working for a small private school, and that they haven't found someone who's willing to take on all of the fundraising, trip and club organization yet lol. I hope you can eventually find your pair of golden handcuffs
It's so very frustrating! I just left the house to go to the grocery store and I fed LO right before I left.... I get a text saying he is upset and hungry. NO he isn't hungry I JUsT fed him. He is tired..... I feel like I can never leave... I could just cry.
My dh does this to me too. This morning I pointed out lo is fussy and rooting but once I get him on the boob and start rocking him he falls asleep. So he's just tired. It'd help if he took a paci. But I'm trying to emphasize these things today since tomorrow is dh first day taking care of lo and don't want him going thru all the bm.
It's easier for me to stay home and send dh grocery shopping. But although I send him with a list he gets things wrong esp meats. Which makes dinner making problematic. Oh well, I'm sure these kinks get worked out. Hang in there!
Took LO to watch DH play hockey last night, her first game. The team they were playing were feisty, sore losers and tried to start so many fights. It's just a rec league; absolute zero tolerance for that. Anyway, I'm pretty sure LO's first words are going to be "That's bullshit, ref!"
DS1 has been in his room fighting a nap for an hour and 45 minutes. Just go to sleep, little boy!
DH wants to go to an Irish pub/restaurant tonight with both boys to have a Guinness. It's not an extremely kid-friendly place. I think I'll order a margarita if we go. It's not very Irish, but that's what I want. At least it's green.
Post by shannjohnston on Mar 15, 2015 16:51:34 GMT -5
Looks like DH's gluten intolerance is now nearing celiac proportions. Lately it was the wheat in the sauce of the marinade of the beef jerky that set it off. I've gone through the fridge and cupboards looking at the labels of all the condiments - I had to chuck more than a few. Very frustrating.
Tried LO out in the Bumbo this afternoon - still not enough head control. Also packed up all her 0-3 month onesies and DS's 2T footie pjs. But then I got to buy 6m and 3t ones!
Went to the wild animal park today and made it for about 4 hours before going home. It was hot but it was nice to get out with the living, although the lady next to me on the tram had a kid with a runny nose, hopefully not contagious!
Post by luciddreamer on Mar 15, 2015 18:55:37 GMT -5
It's MH's birthday and we have family over to celebrate. My sister, a pastry chef, is making a cake. Am I wrong for being really annoyed that my SIL brought over a huge Costco cake without asking or mentioning anything about it? I always assume whoever is hosting will have the cake or whatever dessert covered. Plus, we have no room in the fridge for the enormous, "keep refrigerated" cake. It's thoughtful, I know, but come on!
So Z had a fit in the car on the way to see daddy after the park and I thought our shopping trip was canceled. I told H to meet us in the parking lot because she was quiet and I didn't want to risk a major melt down. When we got there he jumped in the back seat to see her and told me she was falling asleep. I decided to go to Ross (right across the street) and check on her because she had started cooing. When I looked at her this was the face she gave me! I guess she just wanted to see daddy lol She fell asleep shortly after. I'm glad she did because I found some cute onesies and a baby carrier on clearance! Now mommy and daddy don't have to lug around her car seat when we go places that the stroller won't work in.
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