Monday Bitchfest***

[ohinvrtedworld]

Mar 16, 2015 13:04:56 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

Mar 16, 2015 12:45:10 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

The same people who call for the dog to be put down if he acts aggressively in response. I fucking hate people. 

That's why I get so protective about it, one incident can be a death sentence for a dog. He is a Pomeranian, so it always looks like he is smiling, I think that is why people ignore me when I tell them he is not friendly. He has the opposite of bitchy resting face. 

Same story with my chihuahua I used to take care of. She looks like a precious little angel, but she was kind of a monster with strangers. Methinks she got super territorial about "her house" as a puppy. 

Everyone always hated her but me. I miss my little Chi Chi so much!

[SheilaTheTank]

Mar 16, 2015 13:04:56 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

Mar 16, 2015 12:45:10 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

The same people who call for the dog to be put down if he acts aggressively in response. I fucking hate people. 

That's why I get so protective about it, one incident can be a death sentence for a dog. He is a Pomeranian, so it always looks like he is smiling, I think that is why people ignore me when I tell them he is not friendly. He has the opposite of bitchy resting face. 

I did a quick search and found this site: theyellowdogproject.com/The_Yellow_Dog_Project/Home.html

If you tie a yellow ribbon on the leash or on the dog it is a sign that the dog needs space. 

[moirin8]

Mar 16, 2015 13:09:15 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Mar 16, 2015 13:04:56 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

That's why I get so protective about it, one incident can be a death sentence for a dog. He is a Pomeranian, so it always looks like he is smiling, I think that is why people ignore me when I tell them he is not friendly. He has the opposite of bitchy resting face. 

I did a quick search and found this site: theyellowdogproject.com/The_Yellow_Dog_Project/Home.html

If you tie a yellow ribbon on the leash or on the dog it is a sign that the dog needs space. 

I've also see red yellow and green collars and harnesses meaning different things. It's great but a lot of people outside the community don't know what it means and will just ignore it.

[piccyami]

Mar 16, 2015 13:09:15 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Mar 16, 2015 13:04:56 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

That's why I get so protective about it, one incident can be a death sentence for a dog. He is a Pomeranian, so it always looks like he is smiling, I think that is why people ignore me when I tell them he is not friendly. He has the opposite of bitchy resting face. 

I did a quick search and found this site: theyellowdogproject.com/The_Yellow_Dog_Project/Home.html

If you tie a yellow ribbon on the leash or on the dog it is a sign that the dog needs space. 

So few people know about it, though. And then there are the people that just ignore it anyway. "Ooh, what a pretty ribbon! Can I pet her?" *pets dog anyway*

[samanthasays]

Mar 16, 2015 13:06:55 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

Mar 16, 2015 13:04:56 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

That's why I get so protective about it, one incident can be a death sentence for a dog. He is a Pomeranian, so it always looks like he is smiling, I think that is why people ignore me when I tell them he is not friendly. He has the opposite of bitchy resting face. 

Same story with my chihuahua I used to take care of. She looks like a precious little angel, but she was kind of a monster with strangers. Methinks she got super territorial about "her house" as a puppy. 

Everyone always hated her but me. I miss my little Chi Chi so much!

I love Chi's My second dog is a long haired Chi (he is a sweetheart). I love all dogs, but little dogs have my heart  

SheilaTheTank, thanks! I am going to do it, even if it only works occasionally it will be worth it!

[shemarie82]

Mar 16, 2015 12:33:19 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

I just spent $10 on a gift bag and birthday card. I think it's totally ridiculous that birthday cards cost $4.99. It's a piece of fancy paper! I should just start making my own.

I refuse to get them anywhere other than the Dollar General because they are so damn expensive!

[pismoduo]

This whole day is just a bitch.

CD3 and I'm crampy and cranky.

I thought my first meeting today was at 9. It was at 8. I called in 15 minutes late while racing around my kitchen trying to make my lunch, and after 5 minutes they decided that no one was really prepared for this (really, an 8am Monday meeting and no one is prepared? Shocker.) so they'll reschedule to tomorrow.

My H is really stressed out and depressed between work, his side project and his grandfather's funeral this coming weekend. I'm trying to be supportive, but it gets really frustrating when he won't take any advice and gets irritated when I all have to offer is sympathetic noises. You don't want advice, but you want more than sympathy. Sorry, does not compute.

And he's just constantly bugging me about when my boss and I are going to have a meeting to talk about whether or not I'm getting a compensation increase this year or not. I know part of the reason he's bugging me about it is because he's excited, but the other part of the reason is that a) he thinks I don't stand up for myself enough at work so he tries to push me to do so and b) he wants out of his current job to be able to devote all his time to his side project/job sooner rather than later. It just puts all this pressure on me and no matter how many times we talk about that fact, he just continues to do it and it drives me nuts. We were texting earlier this morning about him having to work late and whether I could meet him for lunch and then he starts asking me whether I'm meeting with my boss today and what time is the call and I just stopped responding because it's so frustrating.

Ugh. Sorry, that was a lot of bitching.

[daisy818]

Mar 16, 2015 11:51:15 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

My bitch is at the woman who let her toddler approach my dog when he was taking a shit. When I tell you "My dog is not friendly" please don't mistaken that for "please come let your child harass my dog mid-shit".

I totally initially read this as the toddler being the one mid-shit, and I was picturing the dog starting to sniff the kid's butt aggressively bc dogs love to smell shit.  Then I read the second sentence and realized I'm an idiot.

[dee]

I'm so irritated with our heating/cooling system at the office. Either it's arctic or it's 100 degrees. Why never a temperature in between?

[moirin8]

Seriously h. If it's in the hamper it needs washed. Not hung back up in the bathroom. The last time I used my bath robe I was horribly sick and feverish. Way too much sweat. It stinks. That's why it was in my hamper! Along with my hoodies that NEEDED to be washed as well ugh! But no you hung those back up in the closest. You make no sense to me.

[Deleted]

My SIL pulled her pregnant belly out yesterday and had everyone feel the baby kick. I'm excited to be an Aunt again... but man oh man. A lot of feelings today.

[ashair]

I'm usually just a major lurker, but I felt like bitching about this some where.

I have some sort of infection in my face. My lymph nodes are swollen, I'm breaking out terribly on my chin, and my bottom molars are bugging me on and off. I wish I knew which one was causing the others to happen. Mostly I just want it to go away. Ugh.

[Deleted]

Mar 16, 2015 14:04:00 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

My SIL pulled her pregnant belly out yesterday and had everyone feel the baby kick. I'm excited to be an Aunt again... but man oh man. A lot of feelings today.

Im going to see my 8 month pregnant SIL for the first time since Thanksgiving in a few hours. She found out she was pregnant right after I went off the pill.
Im excited to be an aunt again too but yeah...there's alot of feelings for me too.
Edit: missing words

[pismoduo]

Mar 16, 2015 13:46:29 GMT -5 @emilie818 said:

Mar 16, 2015 13:38:13 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

This whole day is just a bitch.

CD3 and I'm crampy and cranky.

I thought my first meeting today was at 9. It was at 8. I called in 15 minutes late while racing around my kitchen trying to make my lunch, and after 5 minutes they decided that no one was really prepared for this (really, an 8am Monday meeting and no one is prepared? Shocker.) so they'll reschedule to tomorrow.

My H is really stressed out and depressed between work, his side project and his grandfather's funeral this coming weekend. I'm trying to be supportive, but it gets really frustrating when he won't take any advice and gets irritated when I all have to offer is sympathetic noises. You don't want advice, but you want more than sympathy. Sorry, does not compute.

And he's just constantly bugging me about when my boss and I are going to have a meeting to talk about whether or not I'm getting a compensation increase this year or not. I know part of the reason he's bugging me about it is because he's excited, but the other part of the reason is that a) he thinks I don't stand up for myself enough at work so he tries to push me to do so and b) he wants out of his current job to be able to devote all his time to his side project/job sooner rather than later. It just puts all this pressure on me and no matter how many times we talk about that fact, he just continues to do it and it drives me nuts. We were texting earlier this morning about him having to work late and whether I could meet him for lunch and then he starts asking me whether I'm meeting with my boss today and what time is the call and I just stopped responding because it's so frustrating.

Ugh. Sorry, that was a lot of bitching.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with all this, and all your bitching seems completely warranted.

It sucks that H is putting pressure on you to get promoted/make more money.  You say if you get a compensation increase "or not" - so what happens if it's not?  Will he be resentful, or is he prepared to deal with that possibility?

I don't think there will be any resentment on his end. I've been the one making the higher income up until last year when he got a big cost of living increase, so it's not like there's this whole "not pulling my weight" dynamic or anything. At this point it's not a huge issue financially for us if it doesn't happen, and he knows that even if I get like 15% (which is pretty high to hope for) it's not going to be enough for him to just quit his job outright, particularly since we're trying to get pregnant and neither of us wants to put that off. He goes through phases as to whether or not he wants to quit his job anyway, depending on how frustrated he is that week. This week it's worse than normal because he's not feeling well, he's stressing about deadlines on this side project, and his grandfather's funeral is on Saturday and we're both dreading it because we know there's bound to be a bunch of family drama (not to mention 12 hours of driving). So his boss pissed him off this morning, and here we are again.

We've discussed it, and if there's no compensation increase this time I'm going to go back to looking for another job. I've been underpaid at this one for the last few years, and there were several points during the integration phase of the new parent company purchasing our company that I was treated unfairly (not by my boss, but by the HR team that did the payroll and job title integration), so if this doesn't resolve those issues I'll go back to looking for a new job.

He has the best intentions. He just wants to see me stand up for myself. It's hard to get through to him how much I am standing up for myself, but it's just me and my boss against this giant HR department for this huge corporation, ya know? And to be honest, new parent company's HR team doesn't care that I've been underpaid and dicked out of promotions for years by the previous parent company.

I went for a nice long walk on my lunch break and that seems to have helped my stress and frustration level. We'll probably have to have another conversation tonight about him pushing me on this stuff. And I know he'll apologize about it. We are making progress, little by little, it's just that on days when I'm already frustrated and stressed out it doesn't help to have that extra little nag going on.

[anustart]

@emilie818 wtf. So not okay! I'm sorry that happened. Most people just don't get it. I've had my fair share of trying to tell people how what they say is offensive, but I don't know that it gets through all the time. And I'm sorry about Cycle 10. I'm at the end of 8 and it kind of aches knowing I've been trying for almost an entire gestation period.

paloslee that's the pits! Always disheartening Good luck on your search!!

[anustart]

@wallflwr926 my SIL told us she was 8 weeks along with her 2nd right before i went off the pill. It's taken them 7 months to conceive 2 children, while we are at 8 without a BFP. It's hard, but you can do it! And meeting that new babe will be amazing! As always

[paloslee]

Mar 16, 2015 12:08:39 GMT -5 lemoncupcake said:

Mar 16, 2015 11:51:12 GMT -5 paloslee said:

Didn't get an interview that I thought I was for sure gonna get!!!

I'm sorry Job searching is the worst. 

Sucky part is I actually work part time it was for a FT position

[paloslee]

Mar 16, 2015 15:34:04 GMT -5 anustart said:

@emilie818 wtf. So not okay! I'm sorry that happened. Most people just don't get it. I've had my fair share of trying to tell people how what they say is offensive, but I don't know that it gets through all the time. And I'm sorry about Cycle 10. I'm at the end of 8 and it kind of aches knowing I've been trying for almost an entire gestation period.

paloslee that's the pits! Always disheartening Good luck on your search!!

Sucky part is that I actually work at this site part time...I was applying to a FT position!

[cheshie6]

My MBF is that taxes are done! All the money we owe... YUCK!

[pismoduo]

Mar 16, 2015 11:51:15 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

My bitch is at the woman who let her toddler approach my dog when he was taking a shit. When I tell you "My dog is not friendly" please don't mistaken that for "please come let your child harass my dog mid-shit".

I hate this. My dogs are friendly, and I still ask people to have their kids approach slowly because they don't have a lot of experience with little kids.

[Ray]

Mar 16, 2015 16:00:03 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Mar 16, 2015 11:51:15 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

My bitch is at the woman who let her toddler approach my dog when he was taking a shit. When I tell you "My dog is not friendly" please don't mistaken that for "please come let your child harass my dog mid-shit".

I hate this. My dogs are friendly, and I still ask people to have their kids approach slowly because they don't have a lot of experience with little kids.

Yep not cool. I have a lab and a mastiff. People are usually pretty good about letting their kids alley approach the mastiff (who is a teddy bear). But will let their kids run up to my lab who is not friendly and has snapped in the past. Just because she is a lab does not mean she is cuddly - I will be responsible with my dogs if you are responsible with your kids.

[pismoduo]

Mar 16, 2015 16:12:02 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Mar 16, 2015 13:38:13 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

This whole day is just a bitch.

CD3 and I'm crampy and cranky.

I thought my first meeting today was at 9. It was at 8. I called in 15 minutes late while racing around my kitchen trying to make my lunch, and after 5 minutes they decided that no one was really prepared for this (really, an 8am Monday meeting and no one is prepared? Shocker.) so they'll reschedule to tomorrow.

My H is really stressed out and depressed between work, his side project and his grandfather's funeral this coming weekend. I'm trying to be supportive, but it gets really frustrating when he won't take any advice and gets irritated when I all have to offer is sympathetic noises. You don't want advice, but you want more than sympathy. Sorry, does not compute.

And he's just constantly bugging me about when my boss and I are going to have a meeting to talk about whether or not I'm getting a compensation increase this year or not. I know part of the reason he's bugging me about it is because he's excited, but the other part of the reason is that a) he thinks I don't stand up for myself enough at work so he tries to push me to do so and b) he wants out of his current job to be able to devote all his time to his side project/job sooner rather than later. It just puts all this pressure on me and no matter how many times we talk about that fact, he just continues to do it and it drives me nuts. We were texting earlier this morning about him having to work late and whether I could meet him for lunch and then he starts asking me whether I'm meeting with my boss today and what time is the call and I just stopped responding because it's so frustrating.

Ugh. Sorry, that was a lot of bitching.

I get how the situation with H is frustrating. A lot of times, MH is the same way. He doesn't want me to try and "fix" it for him or spitball approaches to deal with it, but he doesn't want me to just say "oh, I'm sorry," either. I get super irritated when I try to offer advice and it is not wanted or he seems to ignore it.

In case it helps, here's my approach which seems to work pretty well for when MH is in one of these moods. When I get the signals that he needs some support, I literally stop whatever I am doing and turn to face him, at least in the beginning, to let him know he has my attention. What I've found works best is asking him an open-ended question or two that lets him a) talk more about the situation and/or b) express what he needs from me, because otherwise what often happens is that I'm giving what I think he needs, as opposed to what he feels he needs. I'll ask if he wants advice or to try and work out a plan, but he can say no and then I just have to let it go. Always end with a kiss, hug, and tell him I love him or say something goofy to try and get him to smile and relax a little.

I dunno if that helps you. Either way, I hope things get easier soon.

Thanks. I've been doing all that except the open ended question, so I'll try that!

[anonymouseliza]

Issue 1: It's fucking spring break. Why the fuck is traffic as bad as it usually is?

Issue 2: After all the build up, I probably won't get official word on the job this week. Compensation is down to a single employee and the dept head is on vacation this week. Goddamnit. All indications are favorable, but I need to KNOW.

[joy]

I just ate sweet potato chips and ice cream for dinner.

[pismoduo]

Mar 16, 2015 16:30:59 GMT -5 Ray said:

Mar 16, 2015 16:00:03 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

I hate this. My dogs are friendly, and I still ask people to have their kids approach slowly because they don't have a lot of experience with little kids.

Yep not cool. I have a lab and a mastiff. People are usually pretty good about letting their kids alley approach the mastiff (who is a teddy bear). But will let their kids run up to my lab who is not friendly and has snapped in the past. Just because she is a lab does not mean she is cuddly - I will be responsible with my dogs if you are responsible with your kids.

Yes! We have a dog park in our community that is shared space with the rest of the marina park. The community designated it the dog park but never actually fenced in the part that is for dogs and the part that's not. So in the summer, we get a lot of people who come down with their kids but not their dogs, and a lot (A LOT) of people with their dogs. People get seriously uppity about it. Their kid comes shrieking toward my dog (who politely lies down and wiggles their butt happily) and they're like "Oh, so cuuuuute", but the dog runs past the kid to chase the ball someone threw and the person loses their shit.

[mugster]

My mom just called me to tell me my aunt and cousin both took over a year to conceive, so if I do too, it doesn't mean anything is wrong. Thanks mom.

[anonymouseliza]

Mar 16, 2015 16:30:59 GMT -5 Ray said:

Mar 16, 2015 16:00:03 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

I hate this. My dogs are friendly, and I still ask people to have their kids approach slowly because they don't have a lot of experience with little kids.

Yep not cool. I have a lab and a mastiff. People are usually pretty good about letting their kids alley approach the mastiff (who is a teddy bear). But will let their kids run up to my lab who is not friendly and has snapped in the past. Just because she is a lab does not mean she is cuddly - I will be responsible with my dogs if you are responsible with your kids.

God, we try so hard with V to keep her from running up to strange animals.  It's not easy - she's faster than us!  We are actively working on it, but our dogs are nice and friendly and she loves animals, and she doesn't get danger at all. 

So I bitch about people who let their dogs off-leash at a kid park (even if they are friendly - my kid might tackle your dog before I can stop her because I don't attach her to my hip at the park), and a giant THANK YOU to those of you who do and who actively try to warn me if there is a threat.  I swear, we're trying to teach her, even if it doesn't look like it.

[joy]

Mar 16, 2015 17:52:57 GMT -5 joy said:

I just ate sweet potato chips and ice cream for dinner.

This isn't the randoms thread!

Ha.

[pismoduo]

Mar 16, 2015 17:57:12 GMT -5 anonymouseliza said:

Mar 16, 2015 16:30:59 GMT -5 Ray said:

Yep not cool. I have a lab and a mastiff. People are usually pretty good about letting their kids alley approach the mastiff (who is a teddy bear). But will let their kids run up to my lab who is not friendly and has snapped in the past. Just because she is a lab does not mean she is cuddly - I will be responsible with my dogs if you are responsible with your kids.

God, we try so hard with V to keep her from running up to strange animals.  It's not easy - she's faster than us!  We are actively working on it, but our dogs are nice and friendly and she loves animals, and she doesn't get danger at all. 

So I bitch about people who let their dogs off-leash at a kid park (even if they are friendly - my kid might tackle your dog before I can stop her because I don't attach her to my hip at the park), and a giant THANK YOU to those of you who do and who actively try to warn me if there is a threat.  I swear, we're trying to teach her, even if it doesn't look like it.

And a big thank you back for trying to teach her.

[cheshie6]

Mar 16, 2015 17:54:53 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Mar 16, 2015 16:30:59 GMT -5 Ray said:

Yep not cool. I have a lab and a mastiff. People are usually pretty good about letting their kids alley approach the mastiff (who is a teddy bear). But will let their kids run up to my lab who is not friendly and has snapped in the past. Just because she is a lab does not mean she is cuddly - I will be responsible with my dogs if you are responsible with your kids.

Yes! We have a dog park in our community that is shared space with the rest of the marina park. The community designated it the dog park but never actually fenced in the part that is for dogs and the part that's not. So in the summer, we get a lot of people who come down with their kids but not their dogs, and a lot (A LOT) of people with their dogs. People get seriously uppity about it. Their kid comes shrieking toward my dog (who politely lies down and wiggles their butt happily) and they're like "Oh, so cuuuuute", but the dog runs past the kid to chase the ball someone threw and the person loses their shit.

I couldn't go to a dog park like that! I'm not even ok with kids in the fenced in dog parks where we lived in Seattle.   I would make sure they were dog parks that didn't allow kids under 6 years old specifically because younger kids don't know better. Their dog is friendly with them therefore all dogs must be friendly. My girl wasn't properly socialized as a puppy and though she'll usually run away and bark in a dog park, I've seen kids try to chase her.  I've been hollered at by other dog owners who have used the dog park as a two for one.  (I made sure we only went to dog parks that have a no young children restriction) I think people are ridiculous sometimes!