3/16 Newbie Playdate
Mar 18, 2015 13:05:58 GMT -5
Post by daisy818 on Mar 18, 2015 13:05:58 GMT -5
NO, I'm not hands off and do not advocate that. I'm glad you had a non-shitty stepdad. And the research shows stepmoms vs stepdads in creating loyalty binds are substantially different. But do I discipline him? Handle doctor appointments? No. I play a wonderful role model, help with homework, teach him to cook, but he's utlimately my husband's responsibility and my husband needs to spend time with his son. YOu have both missed my point, which is that DH only has 6 days a month with SS and he likes to spend pretty much every minute with him. That isn't going to fundamentally change.
ETA: If it were a second child, DH would NOT be the sole caretaker, so while I spent time with my older child he could care for baby. It wouldn't be that he would help me - it's that we would each share in the responsibilities for both children. That's the difference.