What would you do????
Mar 17, 2015 11:07:08 GMT -5
Post by paloslee on Mar 17, 2015 11:07:08 GMT -5
First, I apologize if this is too long of a rant!
I have a 17yrs old son. He has been such a great boy. I've never really had too many problems/issues with him. The headache of having a teenager seemed rare for me as other people would talk about their teens. My son is in band and has overall done well in school (3.0 or higher GPA). He even has started researching colleges and career options, its his junior year in high school. He has had a few "friend girls" in high school but nothing too serious. We have had the sex talk and all that great stuff. He is a big mama's boy and is very open and comes to me with any concerns.
Back story: I had my son when I was 16yrs old. I met his dad in 8th grade. I started having sex when I was 15yrs old. I got married to his father when I was 21yrs old. We got divorced when I was 24yrs old. His father and I had a very toxic relationship. He's father abused drugs and alcohol, which then lead to DV. It got to the point where I had to put a restraining order on him. My son has always hold resentment towards his father. He doesnt really like visiting him and they dont have that "father son" relationship.
Brings me to an incident that happen yesterday with my son. Last night my son and I had dinner alone together. He tells me "mom, i have to tell you something" but "please promise me you wont get mad". Well right away, I am thinking the worst! He reveals to me that he made out with a girl he has been talking to, and then he shows me his neck. He has a huge hickie!!! Of course I was really upset and disappointed. But, I also was happy that he came to me and disclosed this info. I asked him if he had sex and he said no...not sure if I believe him but he was pretty clear that they didnt.
I took away all his electronics and told him that I was not happy with his decisions. I also asked him to think about what his punishment should be??? How do I ground a 17yrs old? I cant be with him every moment of the day. As it it, I rarely let him go out unless I know all the details and I drop him off and pick him up...I also exchange phone#s with the parents of his friends. I mean it could be worse...right? I even cried beacuse I felt that my once little innocent baby is now a young man.
What would you do? Am I being naive here??? Should I give him a harsh punishment?
Thanks for hearing me out! And again, sorry its such a long rant. I had to get off my chest!
Thank you!!!
I have a 17yrs old son. He has been such a great boy. I've never really had too many problems/issues with him. The headache of having a teenager seemed rare for me as other people would talk about their teens. My son is in band and has overall done well in school (3.0 or higher GPA). He even has started researching colleges and career options, its his junior year in high school. He has had a few "friend girls" in high school but nothing too serious. We have had the sex talk and all that great stuff. He is a big mama's boy and is very open and comes to me with any concerns.
Back story: I had my son when I was 16yrs old. I met his dad in 8th grade. I started having sex when I was 15yrs old. I got married to his father when I was 21yrs old. We got divorced when I was 24yrs old. His father and I had a very toxic relationship. He's father abused drugs and alcohol, which then lead to DV. It got to the point where I had to put a restraining order on him. My son has always hold resentment towards his father. He doesnt really like visiting him and they dont have that "father son" relationship.
Brings me to an incident that happen yesterday with my son. Last night my son and I had dinner alone together. He tells me "mom, i have to tell you something" but "please promise me you wont get mad". Well right away, I am thinking the worst! He reveals to me that he made out with a girl he has been talking to, and then he shows me his neck. He has a huge hickie!!! Of course I was really upset and disappointed. But, I also was happy that he came to me and disclosed this info. I asked him if he had sex and he said no...not sure if I believe him but he was pretty clear that they didnt.
I took away all his electronics and told him that I was not happy with his decisions. I also asked him to think about what his punishment should be??? How do I ground a 17yrs old? I cant be with him every moment of the day. As it it, I rarely let him go out unless I know all the details and I drop him off and pick him up...I also exchange phone#s with the parents of his friends. I mean it could be worse...right? I even cried beacuse I felt that my once little innocent baby is now a young man.
What would you do? Am I being naive here??? Should I give him a harsh punishment?
Thanks for hearing me out! And again, sorry its such a long rant. I had to get off my chest!
Thank you!!!