Nowhere else to put this but need to vent. DH bought me flowers tonight, first time in years and Im thinking he's such a sweetheart. Then we head out to his friends bday dinner where he proceeds to get absolutely shit-faced and refuses to leave when I ask (several times) even tho I'm obv driving home and we live an hour away, I've been up since 5 and worked 10 hours, puking 4 fucking times today. Every 2 mins on the way home; "why do you have to be angry with me? I'm sorry this is such a big deal for you. That's why I bought you the flowers, I knew you'd get pissed" Thanks for that, not 'sorry for being a tool', just 'sorry my wife is uptight'.
He's currently sleeping by the toilet bowl with vom on his face and I'm in bed silently seething. I hope his hangover is a total bitch!! And even if it isnt, i certainly will be.
And...breathe....
I think what makes me upset the most was that he ANTICIPATED thins and that's why he bought flowers before going. What a jerk! I would be livid too.
Nowhere else to put this but need to vent. DH bought me flowers tonight, first time in years and Im thinking he's such a sweetheart. Then we head out to his friends bday dinner where he proceeds to get absolutely shit-faced and refuses to leave when I ask (several times) even tho I'm obv driving home and we live an hour away, I've been up since 5 and worked 10 hours, puking 4 fucking times today. Every 2 mins on the way home; "why do you have to be angry with me? I'm sorry this is such a big deal for you. That's why I bought you the flowers, I knew you'd get pissed" Thanks for that, not 'sorry for being a tool', just 'sorry my wife is uptight'.
He's currently sleeping by the toilet bowl with vom on his face and I'm in bed silently seething. I hope his hangover is a total bitch!! And even if it isnt, i certainly will be.
And...breathe....
my like means bitch away. totally warranted. The couch for him for sure!!
H got drunk at my birthday party and I was so pissed at him he hasn't been drunk since. I was 10-11 weeks then? So I was still sick and I was NOT taking care of him. I get how you feel!
I've been home alone with DD all week and I'm exhausted. I hauled her into Starbucks today after a way too early morning and the barista asked if I wanted decaf. Stop judging me, and go make my caffeinated coffee.
I keep seeing posts about these rude customers and baristas in Starbucks and it floors me. You ladies handle this oh so well because I would probably go all the way off. I can't believe the nerve of some people. Glad you got some caffeine
The men are having a board game day, so DH and kids and I are hanging out at IL's. I had a nice relaxing day planned, letting the kids watch tv (we don't have netflix at home, so this is a treat for them), while I worked on some knitting.
Then SIL shows up for breakfast (without her husband) and announces her 2 older kids are on a TV fast, so we have to turn the TV off. And now I'm on kid duty for 4.
I hope they leave soon. Maybe I should let slip one of the kids from a bday party last weekend has chicken pox.....
I am actually all the way in another state (I think ) and very mad (for you) about this post. My pet peeve is people imposing themselves/things on me. Yes, I may be a little selfish but still. Your SIL is just a little ridiculous . I hope you treat yourself because you deserve it for how it seems you handled this. This is the reason I like being at my house and I usually do all the hosting for any gatherings etc . Because at my house what I say goes. Lol
It depends. Many women don't have their water break until after they're admitted to the hospital, their labor doesn't start that way, so it could easily be a non-issue. If you're really worried you could wear a pad every day closer to your due date. When my water broke (in the hospital, hours after my contractions had been going for 2-3 min. apart) it was like I was peeing myself for a couple seconds but obviously it wasn't coming from the right place. Some people do have a big gush of liquid, but that wasn't my case. I ended up having to have my water broken a couple times, it was pockets of fluid for me rather than a single huge gush.
So in other words, it totally depends. I do recall we threw a towel on the seat of the car en route to the hospital just in case!
Ohhh okay. Yeah, all in good fun they are. I think they jst like to try and scare me. Lol!
Thank you! I read multiple ways but never got the impression that it would be enough to warrant a clean up. Lol thank you!
I would wear heavier pads closer to due date and bring a change of clothes to work and a towel for car just in case. Both times mine had to be broken at hospital and wasn't that much. When my mother's broke when she was pregnant with my little sister it was just like in the movies. It was a huge gush and all over the floor.
Ohhh okay. Yeah, all in good fun they are. I think they jst like to try and scare me. Lol!
Thank you! I read multiple ways but never got the impression that it would be enough to warrant a clean up. Lol thank you!
I would wear heavier pads closer to due date and bring a change of clothes to work and a towel for car just in case. Both times mine had to be broken at hospital and wasn't that much. When my mother's broke when she was pregnant with my little sister it was just like in the movies. It was a huge gush and all over the floor.
Gah! So be prepared for anything! Thanks ladies! I will definitely do as you all suggested.
Nowhere else to put this but need to vent. DH bought me flowers tonight, first time in years and Im thinking he's such a sweetheart. Then we head out to his friends bday dinner where he proceeds to get absolutely shit-faced and refuses to leave when I ask (several times) even tho I'm obv driving home and we live an hour away, I've been up since 5 and worked 10 hours, puking 4 fucking times today. Every 2 mins on the way home; "why do you have to be angry with me? I'm sorry this is such a big deal for you. That's why I bought you the flowers, I knew you'd get pissed" Thanks for that, not 'sorry for being a tool', just 'sorry my wife is uptight'.
He's currently sleeping by the toilet bowl with vom on his face and I'm in bed silently seething. I hope his hangover is a total bitch!! And even if it isnt, i certainly will be.
And...breathe....
I think what makes me upset the most was that he ANTICIPATED thins and that's why he bought flowers before going. What a jerk! I would be livid too.
The anticipation would piss me off too! Hope he has a raging hangover today. You should drag him to a bunch of big baby shops with bright fluorescent lights.
I need a little vent. My poor DD. I just want to cry. I thought this viral thing would be over by now and has seemed to get better but the last few days it's gotten worse I really dot want to have to go to the picu.. No fever just tons of secretions coming from her nose and trach. So much that I am constantly suctioning her out which is irritating her nose and trach hole enough to bleed. Her trach hole looks horrible and painful she looks miserable and I can't get it all the mucus out of her chest. I just want to cry. She is on the ventilator STILL this morning. She's normally off of it by now. I talked to the doctor last night and they are having me give her children's Benadryl in case it's an allergy thing. They can't figure out what it is!!! And if it doesn't clear up soon we will be headed for a long stay at the children's hospital. I really don't want to do that.. I can't be up there with her the whole time and it scares me and breaks my heart just the thought of leaving her alone. It was different when she was younger because she spent the first 8 months of her life in the nicu and even after when we would have to go back she was comfortable being around other nurses because we had multiple nurses in and out of the home all the time. But it's been four years since she's had to go to the hospital for any reason and she's only comfortable with me now. I just want whatever this is to go away!!!! It is a huge set back to be on the vent during the day and she is in pain from suctioning and coding again. I haven't had to do CPR on her in two years!!! And now Everytime I suction her she turns blue and stops breathing!!!!
Sorry for the long rant. I just want her to be healthy again..
maddib I'm so sorry your DD is going through the wars right now hoping and praying she gets better soon x
Thank you!! I am too. I hate seeing her like this. The scarey thought in the back of my head is what if it's RSV!?!? That's viral!! And this hasn't gone away yet.
mrskblack11 and @pcrunk thank you! I hope so too. This morning was a mess. I was suctioning her and she started crying so I had to bag her (ambu bag to give breathes) and then I started crying. She came back out of it and was ok but I was still crying! This so hard!!
thank you! @pcrunk. I just hope it gets better today. I have been giving her breathing treatments and children's Benadryl so hopefully that will help break up some of the congestion and I won't have to suction her as much. I can't even imagine how horrible it is having a small tube go down a hole in your throat and irritating the sides of your trachea!! And then sticking another one in the nose!!
Post by sidneyvicious on Mar 22, 2015 11:40:12 GMT -5
I threw a full on temper tantrum at my gym yesterday. Right now walking my dogs is the only working out I'm up to, and I have a solid workout plan for after the baby comes that doesn't involve this gym, so I went in to cancel. They pulled the whole, oh, only a manager can do that and he's only here Mon-Fri during the day.
Please. I'm not going to take leave from work to drive 30 minutes to this gym just so the manager can try to talk me out of canceling.
Let's just say I left there with my membership cancelled and two early 20-something gym employees shaking in their Nikes over scary pregnant lady. Fuck that bullshit scam!
maddib can you try running the shower or bath water on really hot to create a kind of steam room while the two of you sit in the bathroom? It might break down some of the congestion. You seem to be completely on top of things, your little girl is lucky to be in such good hands x
The humidity chamber on her vent works in about the same way. Lots of steam. I have it turned up. But if it doesn't help I will definitely give that a try!! I had to turn the humidity off last night because it makes her secretions bubble up and flow all down the vent circuits. And blocks the tubing with frothy watery secretions. Ugh it's a no win right now. With the humidity there is too much secretions and I am sucking them out of her lungs all day but with no humidity it dries up and clogs her trach and airway... I have it in the middle right now but still lots of suctioning.. It sucks!!!!
Did I miss an update from the girl whole bil n sil had a lot of kids they were gonna adopt? Been thinking about lately and feel like I missed the update.
That's me! Meant to update you guys this week and was just super busy with the new job. We made the call to CPS. Are waiting to see when the home visit happens. A friend who is a social worker said it can take a couple weeks, so we're just waiting.
Funny enough, my random relates: BIL/SIL (who have no idea about the call, obv) are bringing the kids over today because my SIL is making some weird scrapbook of every family member holding the baby because she has some weird notion that the baby is going to die. WTF, lady? I do not know how I'm going to make it through this lunch without punching her in the face, because my FIL just called to tell me that she told my nieces that they hadn't attended my baby shower because I didn't tell SIL what day it was. This after my DH specifically told his brother that even if SIL didn't feel up to coming, their grandmother volunteered to bring the girls because it was super important to me. Then BIL came back with, "Well, we think the girls need to stay home and spend time with their mom because they don't get to do that often." Are you kidding me? You CHOOSE not to spend time with your kids every single freaking day and now the 3 hours that I want them to be at my baby shower are the ones where you decide you need to hang with them? Come to find that SIL hid in her room and slept while the girls entertained themselves at home that entire day. I am livid...it's been a long time since I have been this angry and I don't know how I'm supposed to stay calm about it. I almost cancelled on them but I know the kids are looking forward to seeing us, so of course I'm not going to disappoint them. I've been talking myself down from the ledge for the last half hour...
Did I miss an update from the girl whole bil n sil had a lot of kids they were gonna adopt? Been thinking about lately and feel like I missed the update.
That's me! Meant to update you guys this week and was just super busy with the new job. We made the call to CPS. Are waiting to see when the home visit happens. A friend who is a social worker said it can take a couple weeks, so we're just waiting.
Funny enough, my random relates: BIL/SIL (who have no idea about the call, obv) are bringing the kids over today because my SIL is making some weird scrapbook of every family member holding the baby because she has some weird notion that the baby is going to die. WTF, lady? I do not know how I'm going to make it through this lunch without punching her in the face, because my FIL just called to tell me that she told my nieces that they hadn't attended my baby shower because I didn't tell SIL what day it was. This after my DH specifically told his brother that even if SIL didn't feel up to coming, their grandmother volunteered to bring the girls because it was super important to me. Then BIL came back with, "Well, we think the girls need to stay home and spend time with their mom because they don't get to do that often." Are you kidding me? You CHOOSE not to spend time with your kids every single freaking day and now the 3 hours that I want them to be at my baby shower are the ones where you decide you need to hang with them? Come to find that SIL hid in her room and slept while the girls entertained themselves at home that entire day. I am livid...it's been a long time since I have been this angry and I don't know how I'm supposed to stay calm about it. I almost cancelled on them but I know the kids are looking forward to seeing us, so of course I'm not going to disappoint them. I've been talking myself down from the ledge for the last half hour...
That "baby is going to die" thing absolutely needs to be reported to CPS, like now. It'll probably prioritize their home visit, but most importantly, that is a really fucking scary thing for a mom to be saying. Holy shit.
sidneyvicious, I know! My DH was totally creeped out when my SIL said it to him. She is really superstitious and thinks because it happened to her mom with the 4th child, it's going to happen to her too. I just want to grab that sweet baby and run as soon as she gets here!
Did I miss an update from the girl whole bil n sil had a lot of kids they were gonna adopt? Been thinking about lately and feel like I missed the update.
That's me! Meant to update you guys this week and was just super busy with the new job. We made the call to CPS. Are waiting to see when the home visit happens. A friend who is a social worker said it can take a couple weeks, so we're just waiting.
Funny enough, my random relates: BIL/SIL (who have no idea about the call, obv) are bringing the kids over today because my SIL is making some weird scrapbook of every family member holding the baby because she has some weird notion that the baby is going to die. WTF, lady? I do not know how I'm going to make it through this lunch without punching her in the face, because my FIL just called to tell me that she told my nieces that they hadn't attended my baby shower because I didn't tell SIL what day it was. This after my DH specifically told his brother that even if SIL didn't feel up to coming, their grandmother volunteered to bring the girls because it was super important to me. Then BIL came back with, "Well, we think the girls need to stay home and spend time with their mom because they don't get to do that often." Are you kidding me? You CHOOSE not to spend time with your kids every single freaking day and now the 3 hours that I want them to be at my baby shower are the ones where you decide you need to hang with them? Come to find that SIL hid in her room and slept while the girls entertained themselves at home that entire day. I am livid...it's been a long time since I have been this angry and I don't know how I'm supposed to stay calm about it. I almost cancelled on them but I know the kids are looking forward to seeing us, so of course I'm not going to disappoint them. I've been talking myself down from the ledge for the last half hour...
Oh my! I just can't even!! Kuddos to you for your self control that woman would have got a throat punch from me. That is do messed up! The baby thing and the poor girls!!! I am sorry you are having to go through such BS!!
sidneyvicious, I know! My DH was totally creeped out when my SIL said it to him. She is really superstitious and thinks because it happened to her mom with the 4th child, it's going to happen to her too. I just want to grab that sweet baby and run as soon as she gets here!
Please report this to CPS ASAP. If there ever was a true cry for help or a sign that something terrible is going to happen, this is it.
@pcrunk she def could be that looney, we are more and more convinced that she's got some serious mental issues. Her saying that to DH was what made us call initially, but after FIL told me that she's making the scrapbook for that reason, I def will be following up with CPS and letting them know that she's still saying those types of things. I told DH that I need to just make it thru their visit today with a fake smile plastered on my face so they don't clue in to anything being wrong. Last thing I want is for them to know shit's about to hit the fan and get prepared.
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