Post by bendherova on Mar 23, 2015 18:07:45 GMT -5
My vent: My BIL proposed to his 2-year gf in January and they have decided to get married five weeks after baby's due date. Five weeks. Driving there is impossible because it is a 30+ hour drive (not including stops for breastfeeding every 2-3 hours) we have fly, and I am so pissed about the whole thing. They asked us if it would be a problem; our reaction was kind of like, well, it isn't ideal, but if we have to we can probably make it work, we'll have to check with the pediatrician. What are we supposed to say? We can't be the assholes who say no, you can't get married when you want to, but the fact that you even have to ask should tell you THIS IS A BAD IDEA FOR US. So now I have to travel and attend a wedding with a baby who can't even receive immunizations other than hep B before 6 weeks or start WWIII with the in-laws.
DH told MIL that DS1 definitely isn't coming. With DH likely in the wedding and the time difference, DS1 would last until between 6-7 p.m. at the wedding before hitting an utter meltdown because it would be so far past his bedtime. So I would have to leave with him and baby, whereas with baby I can at least stay for the whole thing. MIL is going to fight us on that decision and I think this is going to be the ultimate fight she and I ever have and I'm not looking forward to it. But I'm not budging. And, you know, finding a dress that fits 5 weeks post-partum and is easy access for breastfeeding every 2-3 hours. So pissed!
I'd send your DH as your family's ambassador to this wedding and say to hell with it. I'm also not willing to put my unvaxed kiddo on an airplane.