I like the idea of bridesmaids - I hate the idea that they all must be female and all sides must be even. They're there because you love them and they love you. The end. That doesn't come in matching numbers or only with vaginas.
My grandmother told me a story of how when she got married she couldn't have one bridesmaid because she was pregnant. "It was so stupid, Joy. Who really cares? They're your friends and they should be there no matter. But, those were the times."
One of my "bridesmaids" was a man. I did it wrong. We did even it out though and one of H's was a woman.
Yes, the love story is at the forefront, but it's not necessarily what the whole series is about. I think of it more as historical fiction.
So... more Gone with the Wind and less Danielle Steel?
This is important. My eyes bleed profusely at love stories.
Yes. I would never compare it to Danielle Steel or Nora Roberts or anyone like that. Yes, there's a love story. Yes, there's sexy time. Lots of sexy time. But it's so much more than that.
Then again, I feel like we've disagreed on our likes before...
historical romance? The love story dominates. The books have a lot to say about Scottish politics, the French court, slavery, colonialism, etc. The protagonist is a strong, outspoken woman who questions many things about the past. But, my husband refers to them as the "Oh, Jaime books" and he isn't wrong. They aren't "serious" fiction.
But it is not a love story in the anxty hemming-and-hawing-will-they-or-won't-they way... it is more the story of a relationship than the falling in love...
A lot of it is just misguided nonsense - like what dress everyone needs to be in or whether they show up to the rehearsal dinner. It's all bullshit. I picked the people who I couldn't imagine getting married without, let them pick whatever dress they wanted, and truly just wanted them standing next to me at my wedding. I know I did some things wrong (I totally freaked about not being able to get my nails done before the wedding) but I tried really hard to remember that the day wasn't about pictures or perfect make up/hair - it was about my husband and I getting married. Everything else was just fluff.
It is hard to do, but I very much tried to be as chill as possible. I am a planner by nature, but when it came to the wedding party, I was so happy that they wanted to be a part of our day that I wanted them to be as comfortable as possible. I just picked the color of dress, other than that it was whatever worked best for them.
In the end, none of "details" matter and are forgotten about. It should be about the marriage, not so much the wedding.
I think shows like Bridezilla may allow people to feel like they can act like total bitches because they are the bride. My BMs would have put the smack down in a quick second had I started acting like a child.
I eloped! Got married, ate at a sushi restaurant and went "cosmic" bowling. Best day ever because I beat my husband in bowling.
Post by rablissful on Mar 24, 2015 10:45:35 GMT -5
HOLY CRAP. I am actually ALMOST caught up on my grading... that's why I haven't been around much today. One more big assignment and then it's just late work people are still turning in and stuff that was due yesterday/today. WOOHOO!
It is hard to do, but I very much tried to be as chill as possible. I am a planner by nature, but when it came to the wedding party, I was so happy that they wanted to be a part of our day that I wanted them to be as comfortable as possible. I just picked the color of dress, other than that it was whatever worked best for them.
In the end, none of "details" matter and are forgotten about. It should be about the marriage, not so much the wedding.
I think shows like Bridezilla may allow people to feel like they can act like total bitches because they are the bride. My BMs would have put the smack down in a quick second had I started acting like a child.
I eloped! Got married, ate at a sushi restaurant and went "cosmic" bowling. Best day ever because I beat my husband in bowling.
We played putt-putt golf (with all our guests). I got a hole in one on the first hole, and my husband and I legit tied. No cooking the books or anything.
I love recommending mine. I was just thinking about puting it in my siggy.
Eta I have a "you WILL love it!" Mentality. Like you don't have a choice. Haha.
I hate it. I start stressing out about whether the person will like it. But if they don't like it, I'm all like, "Psh. You're wrong."
In my mind they already love it. I'm just waiting for them to catch up. There is no other option. Most of the time they just don't read it. But people that I've talked to that have read it love it so I know I'm right.
I need to leave and go for a walk, but I'm cold and don't feel like not being wrapped in a blanket.
A reflection of my morning.
It's cold today! At least compared to last week. Really the problem is that I don't have enough sweatshirts. I only have one really heavy one and one jacket/sweater thing that's pretty light. I need to go get more that fit. Or I could lose 30 lbs. I've been hoping for the losing 30 lbs, but I think it'll be hot out before that happens. Ugh.
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