Work Shower Question

[belle0720]

Just a little background info, my office throws baby showers and bridal 'showers' for anyone having a baby or getting married (whether it's second, third, or whatever). Basically your group admin will send out an Outlook invitation and book a conference room at the office, there will be cake and soda, and a few people tend to pitch in for a bigger gift card than what the company budgets. There's no games and they generally last under an hour. None of my coworkers and I are particularly close and definitely don't see each other outside of work at all, people usually just attend these things for the free cake.

So anyways, I'm currently covering for a coworker while he's out on vacation and that means I monitor his emails. An email came in titled "Baby MyLastName". Thing is, I didn't change my last name when H and I got married but baby will have H's last name. H is coming to the shower and I know that it would hurt his ego (and I would feel awkward) if there was a banner or cake that said, "Welcome Baby MyLastName" instead of his. Is it rude to let one of my coworkers know that I accidentally saw that email and just wanted to give them a heads up that baby's name will actually be Gianna H'sLastName (not my last name)? People definitely know that I didn't change my last name but I don't think anyone knows what my H's last name is (to my point about not being friends outside of work with any of my coworkers).

[somerandomchick]

Mar 24, 2015 13:32:15 GMT -5 belle0720 said:

Just a little background info, my office throws baby showers and bridal 'showers' for anyone having a baby or getting married (whether it's second, third, or whatever). Basically your group admin will send out an Outlook invitation and book a conference room at the office, there will be cake and soda, and a few people tend to pitch in for a bigger gift card than what the company budgets. There's no games and they generally last under an hour. None of my coworkers and I are particularly close and definitely don't see each other outside of work at all, people usually just attend these things for the free cake.

So anyways, I'm currently covering for a coworker while he's out on vacation and that means I monitor his emails. An email came in titled "Baby MyLastName". Thing is, I didn't change my last name when H and I got married but baby will have H's last name. H is coming to the shower and I know that it would hurt his ego (and I would feel awkward) if there was a banner or cake that said, "Welcome Baby MyLastName" instead of his. Is it rude to let one of my coworkers know that I accidentally saw that email and just wanted to give them a heads up that baby's name will actually be Gianna H'sLastName (not my last name)? People definitely know that I didn't change my last name but I don't think anyone knows what my H's last name is (to my point about not being friends outside of work with any of my coworkers).

I think it's entirely possible your coworkers will be confused if they show up to a shower for baby (husband's last name). Uh who is that? Am I in the wrong room?

I would just let it go. And honestly if your husband is going to have his "ego" hurt that somebody who knows you but not him would use YOUR last name to refer to the baby, he needs to get over himself. That sounds like a ridiculous thing to get upset over, as long as nobody is giving you monogrammed gifts in the wrong name.

Just tell your husband before the shower 'hey since they know me by my name the banner says baby My Name'. Tell him ahead of time so he won't be confused or try to correct it at the shower and can just let it go

[kissandglow]

+1 for the reply from somerandomchick

[Bluedaisy]

Yup, definitely let it go. If you are worried about him that much I'd tell him about it and give him the option of going or not.

[ECB]

Yeah.... I'm with the others. This is a WORK shower for YOU by people who know YOUR name. That's really the reference here. They aren't naming your child.

This would really hurt your DHs ego??? I don't get that, at all.

[helenahhandbasket]

I think you are reading way too much into this.

Your work showers sound a lot like my work showers, and while we might refer to the baby to be as "baby whomever's last name" in an email, there wouldn't be any sinage saying that. Maybe a few streamers and a general "baby shower" sign and a cake that usually says "congrats."

So are you thinking they are going to make you a personalized banner or something that says "baby yourlastname"? That's sounds unlikely-- so unless this is definitely the case, how would your hubby even know what your co-workers are referring to your LO as?

Anyway, if it's really THAT big of a deal, just tell your H that your co-workers don't know his last name and might refer to the baby as your LN.

[mrspadfoot]

Is your H's ego going to be hurt if the baby doesn't have his last name on her hospital bracelet. He should be prepared.

Because I didn't take my H's last name, our LO's hospital bands all said BabyPadfoot instead of Baby H'sLastName. All hat matters is what is on the birth certificate

[emmyg65]

Mar 26, 2015 19:47:56 GMT -5 mrspadfoot said:

Is your H's ego going to be hurt if the baby doesn't have his last name on her hospital bracelet. He should be prepared.

Because I didn't take my H's last name, our LO's hospital bands all said BabyPadfoot instead of Baby H'sLastName. All hat matters is what is on the birth certificate

This. My husband and I have different last names and baby went by my name in the hospital. Didn't matter what we were planning. Surely your husband is used to being called Mr. YourLast sometimes, as you are sometimes called Mrs. HisLast. It shouldn't be a big deal.