It's 150am - sleep training question

[mustardseed2007]

I did finally create an account over here ?
I'm willing to give this new board a shot even though I mostly lurk on a14 these days.

So I went to pick up my kid at 130am and it was dark; I thought I was picking her up by the armpits and instead I had her by the hips-i had picked her up and was holding her upside down.

After I realized she was ok, I started thinking that maybe I needed to buy a sleep training book or some such. Biggest problem I have, I think, is that she's still in the room with us and no nursery. I have a 4 bedroom and my sister and her daughter are living with us until may.

I'm kind of thinking air mattress in the living room? Or move her crib for a week?

What books do I need to read to sleep train and how would you logistically do it with our set up (apologies for mobile bumping and all the typos that brings).

[mamrotu73]

I liked Ferber's book. It has so much more info than just the sleep training part.

I'd keep her in the room she will sleep in for the next long while. What is the 4th bedroom? Can it not become a nursery?

[lala]

Yea - what about the 4th bedroom? You want to move her or you to the living room?

What are you concerned about that you think you need to sleep train - what are you trying to "fix?"

[macgrs]

In the Ferber book they actually talk about sleep training while room and bed-sharing, so you don't necessarily need to move her if you don't want to.

Like lala (does that work here?) said though, you need to decide what the issue is first and if you even have one. Sleep issues are kind of subjective too, what might be fine for you is an issue for others. If you can skim the first couple of Ferber chapters you might find it helpful for deciding if you need to sleep train and then you can read more if you need to.

[mustardseed2007]

Sorry I don't usually post and run.

We have the master, my son's room, and then my sister and her daughter each have their own room. I could make them share I room I suppose, but the 15 year old would hate that so much and I feel really sorry for her.

They've moved in with my while my sister finishes her master's and that's forced them to move out of a two bedroom town home into our upstairs. My niece is going with it but she's not happy, and I don't completely blame her, though I don't completely blame my sister either.

ETA: Also on what I think could be "fixed" is that she's still waking up 2x per night usually. 1am and then 4:30 or 5am. I would hope I could get rid of the 1am wake up. Sound reasonable or is this a suck it up moment? 

[lala]

I mean, that's normal but that's not to say you can't try to eliminate it, too. I'm okay with 1 & 5, that's a good night! Is she needing to eat both times?

If you want to get rid of the 1a, id have your dh deal with her for a week or so. I guess that might not work as well if you're not bfing, though.

I've never read ferber, so I can't comment. I've read both sleep easy & the sleep lady shuffle, both have good info, too.

It doesn't sound very feasible or sensible to move her now. I'd probably try to ride it out.

[macgrs]

If she's eating at both feedings, there are approaches for gradually shifting the earlier feeding (BFing or formula) until it basically merges into the later one and you can drop it altogether. I've only read Ferber so I know there are methods in there, but I'm sure there are other books as well that address it.

[twofold]

No suggestions cause we apparently suck at sleep training (we haven't had two consecutive nights where things are the same!) but to make you feel better about the hip thing:

We have a vtech sleep bear that plays music when you push the star on its belly, well DD woke up one night and I went in to turn on her bear and ended up tapping HER belly (lightly) thinking it was the bear. It took me a few minutes trying to figure out why the bear was suddenly squishy and not playing any music.

Good luck though!! 1 & 5 definitely isn't too bad

[mustardseed2007]

Thank you guys. She is eating both times. She never eats more than 4oz in a sitting, which I think is part of the problem.
(We are ff after 7.5 months of EPing).

I'll check out Ferber. Isn't it interesting how things come back around, Ferber was cool, then he was awful, then he was like hey no I didn't say stuff people think I said, and now he's cool again.

[CurlieWhirlie]

We're kind of in the same boat re: having baby in our bedroom for the foreseeable future. We've been sleeping on the pull-out couch in the living room until we really get a few weeks of sleep training under our belts. I would TOTALLY take a consistent 1 and 5 wakeup, OMG. We're trying to train our way out of waking every hour, something I think was made worse by the fact that we were all in the same room, waking each other up with our sleep patterns and noises and whatever.

[mustardseed2007]

Jan 21, 2015 17:28:15 GMT -5 CurlieWhirlie said:

We're kind of in the same boat re: having baby in our bedroom for the foreseeable future. We've been sleeping on the pull-out couch in the living room until we really get a few weeks of sleep training under our belts. I would TOTALLY take a consistent 1 and 5 wakeup, OMG. We're trying to train our way out of waking every hour, something I think was made worse by the fact that we were all in the same room, waking each other up with our sleep patterns and noises and whatever.

Thank you on giving us perspective - to you and everyone else. It's not bad I guess but sometimes it seems bad. I think too, if she would go to sleep faster. Sometimes it's quick and then sometimes you can't put her down.