Post by boxerrrmama85 on Mar 25, 2015 6:42:42 GMT -5
I'm attention whoring my husband! Last night while I was tending to Charlotte, he packed my lunch, folded laundry, unpacked the dishwasher, and packed C's bag for daycare! (So he basically did everything that I usually do at night!) With his hours we aren't always home together at night and it was so nice. Last night I felt like we were partners sharing the load of day to day life and it was awesome!
LO was a freakin angel yesterday (for the most part). Napped for 3 hours and then was quiet awake for the rest. Let's hope today he's just as good! He slept ok again. One happy momma over here.
mishka29 probably but I haven't seen the second one. If you're not that concerned, just read a plot summary of the first online. Make sure it's the movie not the book because there's a lot of differences.
We got a 5 hour stretch then a 4 hour stretch between feedings! I feel awesome! My boobs aren't crazy engorged either, which of course makes me worry about supply, but DS is chugging away so must be okay!
Post by toadandbuggie on Mar 25, 2015 7:00:59 GMT -5
My H and I finally made up after the other days fight over baby duties. I think he was just having a hard time coming to terms with the fact he's not going to have as much free time as he wants anymore.
Question: when does the constant stranger attention go away from having a newborn? It's cute in a way but everyone wants to talk to me about my LO when we're out.
My H and I finally made up after the other days fight over baby duties. I think he was just having a hard time coming to terms with the fact he's not going to have as much free time as he wants anymore.
Question: when does the constant stranger attention go away from having a newborn? It's cute in a way but everyone wants to talk to me about my LO when we're out.
Glad you and H made up.
Unsure about the attention. To some degree, never, but the more your baby looks like a toddler / kid, the less attention probably.
DS slept great last night after being really fussy in the evening. I wish DH would help me with trying to comfort him. I asked him to try and he said, "I don't know what I'll do different from what you're doing". Ugh, maybe he just wants someone else for a minute. I know I certainly needed a minute to myself.
It's frustrating because sometimes he will be quick to grab him and try to soothe him, but yesterday he just sat there watching tv while I struggled with a crying baby.
toadandbuggie, glad you and your husband made up! And I am glad to hear some of you got some good sleep! I hope your babes keep it up for you.
My Spam/Vent: I confided in a good friend that DS has a flat spot on his head that isn't improving and a lazy eye. We are both moms and I just needed to get it off my chest. Well now she is calling my son "lazy eyes" rather than his name. She thinks its funny and I can take joke, but no I can't. Sorry, not about something in regards to my child. I don't need friends like that. Its a shitty feeling.
toadandbuggie, glad you and your husband made up! And I am glad to hear some of you got some good sleep! I hope your babes keep it up for you.
My Spam/Vent: I confided in a good friend that DS has a flat spot on his head that isn't improving and a lazy eye. We are both moms and I just needed to get it off my chest. Well now she is calling my son "lazy eyes" rather than his name. She thinks its funny and I can take joke, but no I can't. Sorry, not about something in regards to my child. I don't need friends like that. Its a shitty feeling.
Ugh. That's not a true friend. I hate people who "joke" when they know it's not funny.
Post by toadandbuggie on Mar 25, 2015 7:38:01 GMT -5
cougarette, my H does the same thing with me sometimes. I'm like, hello, are you deaf to this screaming baby? TAKE HIM!!!
@holachica, I thought the same about 4 hours yesterday. If you told me that I would feel refreshed after 4 hours of sleep when I was pregnant, I would have laughed in your face!
I forget if I put this in spam yesterday, but we are going to the office today. Its earlier then I planned, since DS is 7 weeks today. I was going to wait until a week or two before I went back, but one of my team members there is moving to Dallas next week, so we are taking her to lunch. I'm not sure really what I should do about bringing DS up...I work in a large non-profit, dominated by women, and in my role I work with tons of different departments, so I pretty much know everyone...just to to my desk with him will take a while and I don't think he's quite ready to play pass the baby with that many people. I"m kindof thinking of calling my coworker when I get there to just have her come down. And my boss. Cant go there without seeing my boss, who is lovely and been incredibly supportive.
Post by modernfairytale8709 on Mar 25, 2015 7:42:28 GMT -5
Good morning!
We had a rough night last night. DH thought he might be able to stay and help us through the night, but ended up with another panic attack and had to leave before xanax was necessary. I broke down crying after he left. I think the zero sleep I've been getting here combined with the emotional toll of having my baby poked and prodded and screaming in pain is just really getting to me. Being alone with an infant in a hospital in the middle of the night is the loneliest thing I've had to experience. I've got a new appreciation for all the NICU mommas who've done this far longer than me. You women are so strong!
I'm looking forward to go home today, although DDs bottom is still sore from the ulcer, so she screams every time you even open her diaper. I'm sure I'll sleep again someday. I'm an emotional train wreck without sleep.
toadandbuggie, & cougarette, The worst part is she is a friend of over 20 years! I have noticed her to be a bit stand-offish the last year, but still, thats a low blow. I started my post thinking I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with it to avoid confrontation... but the time I had written it our and read it back I realized I would rather just not have people like her around regardless of length of time.
toadandbuggie, usually everyone stops my husband and I to tell us how cute the baby is, but yesterday I was at Loft shopping by myself and no one said a word to me!! Are they just trying to flirt with my husband? My baby is adorable dammit and I'm annoyed no one told me LOL
speaking of shopping, I went in to the store, the super bitchy sales girl goes "is there anything I can help you find?" and I say with a big ass smile "well, I'm headed back to work soon and don't fit into any of my old clothes! I think I need a whole new wardrobe!" to which she replies in her bitchy voice "...ok... let me know if I can help you find anything".
whaaaat? I just told you I need everything. I would have given that store so much money! She had the opportunity to ring in a HUGE sale, but bitch face just wanted to be lazy and do nothing so I left the store and decided I didn't want to buy anything from her, even though I really needed new clothes. Wtf is up with that terrible customer service?
toadandbuggie, & cougarette, The worst part is she is a friend of over 20 years! I have noticed her to be a bit stand-offish the last year, but still, thats a low blow. I started my post thinking I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with it to avoid confrontation... but the time I had written it our and read it back I realized I would rather just not have people like her around regardless of length of time.
@holachica, glad you had fun!
Yeah, even long time friendships can become toxic and too much. It may be worth considering letting this "friend" go.
toadandbuggie, usually everyone stops my husband and I to tell us how cute the baby is, but yesterday I was at Loft shopping by myself and no one said a word to me!! Are they just trying to flirt with my husband? My baby is adorable dammit and I'm annoyed no one told me LOL
speaking of shopping, I went in to the store, the super bitchy sales girl goes "is there anything I can help you find?" and I say with a big ass smile "well, I'm headed back to work soon and don't fit into any of my old clothes! I think I need a whole new wardrobe!" to which she replies in her bitchy voice "...ok... let me know if I can help you find anything".
whaaaat? I just told you I need everything. I would have given that store so much money! She had the opportunity to ring in a HUGE sale, but bitch face just wanted to be lazy and do nothing so I left the store and decided I didn't want to buy anything from her, even though I really needed new clothes. Wtf is up with that terrible customer service?
Ew, what a bitch.
Although now I'm thinking of the shopping montage in Pretty Woman.
miniwheat kick her to the curb. It's hard when you have that much history, but you don't need her in your life. Maybe things will change, and she'll be your friend again in the future (from her efforts, likely not yours) but bye bye for now.
modernfairytale8709 I'm so sorry you're going through this. My heart breaks when you talk about your husband's anxiety. I hope he / y'all figure out ways to get it under control. Lots of hugs and prayers.
We're going to Texas this weekend for my friend's wedding (very small, low key affair - brief ceremony at a park followed by a reception at VFW hall) and DH says this morning "I really figured you'd have started pumping by now to make things easier for this weekend." Um, in what way is pumping easier than nursing? We'd have to bring milk, and bottles, and the pump, and then deal with dirty bottles and pump parts and possibly extra milk, and I'd still have to pump when he got the bottle because he's only 3 weeks tomorrow and I'm not risking my supply by playing with pump / feeding times yet. I know he wants to feed DS and that's a good reason to intro a bottle (you know, AFTER our first trip) but I fail to see any way it would make this weekend easier.
Maybe nursing has been going so well DH assumes pumping will go equally as smoothly? Or maybe he doesn't grasp all that's involved? In reality I think he's just nervous or uncomfortable with the thought of me NIP.
When I tried to explain the extra steps involved in feeding the kid a bottle, he replied "you'd have to do all that with formula" and I said exactly!!
Formula & pumping are great options but if nursing is going well to me it's simplest, especially when away from home.
H and I fought last night. The sad thing is that I don't even remember what it was about. But then we had sex at 4am and then talked some about it before he went to work (DTD again) and I think we're good now.
We're supposed to get severe weather today. I hope we don't. The tornados of a couple years ago are still fresh in my mind.
We're going to Texas this weekend for my friend's wedding (very small, low key affair - brief ceremony at a park followed by a reception at VFW hall) and DH says this morning "I really figured you'd have started pumping by now to make things easier for this weekend." Um, in what way is pumping easier than nursing? We'd have to bring milk, and bottles, and the pump, and then deal with dirty bottles and pump parts and possibly extra milk, and I'd still have to pump when he got the bottle because he's only 3 weeks tomorrow and I'm not risking my supply by playing with pump / feeding times yet. I know he wants to feed DS and that's a good reason to intro a bottle (you know, AFTER our first trip) but I fail to see any way it would make this weekend easier.
Maybe nursing has been going so well DH assumes pumping will go equally as smoothly? Or maybe he doesn't grasp all that's involved? In reality I think he's just nervous or uncomfortable with the thought of me NIP.
When I tried to explain the extra steps involved in feeding the kid a bottle, he replied "you'd have to do all that with formula" and I said exactly!!
Formula & pumping are great options but if nursing is going well to me it's simplest, especially when away from home.
I think a lot of guys don't really understand the pumping thing. When DD was 4 weeks, we had to go 11 hours away and he kept asking if I had packed my pump and bottles. I told him I just planned to nurse the whole time and I don't think he understood how that was easier.
miniwheat, I am really sorry, that is so shitty. We will likely be dealing with the same eye issues with dd and it makes me want to cry every time I see her eye go too far because I am so worried she has the same issues as DH so if someone called her what your friend called LO, I would probably go ape. Are you guys going to a pediatric optometrist? DH was working on setting something up for dd, I think I said in another thread they wanted to see her at 6 weeks. Fingers crossed for healthy eyes for everyone.
modernfairytale8709, super huge creepy Internet hugs to you, you are such a strong, amazing mama!!!! Glad to hear LO will get to go home and hopefully you can get some sleep!!
mels823, you totally should have gone somewhere else then pulled a Pretty Woman-do you work on commission? You just made a big mistake! Huge! I have to go shopping now twirl and flounce out of the joint
We haven't really moved past 6.5-7 hours of sleep at night and I really wish we could extend that a little, like another hour would be ideal.
Does anyone have any ideas of where to get a cute Easter dress for dd? It has been cold here so I feel like she needs something with leggings and possibly long sleeves. I looked at Saks, Nordstrom, Janie + Jack (no way am I paying those prices), gap and carters. Why doesn't anyone make warm Easter dresses? Like the past Easters I can remember have all been crappy weather and cold!!
We're going to Texas this weekend for my friend's wedding (very small, low key affair - brief ceremony at a park followed by a reception at VFW hall) and DH says this morning "I really figured you'd have started pumping by now to make things easier for this weekend." Um, in what way is pumping easier than nursing? We'd have to bring milk, and bottles, and the pump, and then deal with dirty bottles and pump parts and possibly extra milk, and I'd still have to pump when he got the bottle because he's only 3 weeks tomorrow and I'm not risking my supply by playing with pump / feeding times yet. I know he wants to feed DS and that's a good reason to intro a bottle (you know, AFTER our first trip) but I fail to see any way it would make this weekend easier.
Maybe nursing has been going so well DH assumes pumping will go equally as smoothly? Or maybe he doesn't grasp all that's involved? In reality I think he's just nervous or uncomfortable with the thought of me NIP.
When I tried to explain the extra steps involved in feeding the kid a bottle, he replied "you'd have to do all that with formula" and I said exactly!!
Formula & pumping are great options but if nursing is going well to me it's simplest, especially when away from home.
We are pretty much EPing right now which is working for us great. It is a TON more work than breastfeeding. There,are definitely days I would just like to breastfeed. Less dishes that's for sure!
We had a rough night last night. DH thought he might be able to stay and help us through the night, but ended up with another panic attack and had to leave before xanax was necessary. I broke down crying after he left. I think the zero sleep I've been getting here combined with the emotional toll of having my baby poked and prodded and screaming in pain is just really getting to me. Being alone with an infant in a hospital in the middle of the night is the loneliest thing I've had to experience. I've got a new appreciation for all the NICU mommas who've done this far longer than me. You women are so strong!
I'm looking forward to go home today, although DDs bottom is still sore from the ulcer, so she screams every time you even open her diaper. I'm sure I'll sleep again someday. I'm an emotional train wreck without sleep.
So sorry you are going through this. I can't even imagine. Hugs!!
toadandbuggie, glad you and your husband made up! And I am glad to hear some of you got some good sleep! I hope your babes keep it up for you.
My Spam/Vent: I confided in a good friend that DS has a flat spot on his head that isn't improving and a lazy eye. We are both moms and I just needed to get it off my chest. Well now she is calling my son "lazy eyes" rather than his name. She thinks its funny and I can take joke, but no I can't. Sorry, not about something in regards to my child. I don't need friends like that. Its a shitty feeling.
miniwheat, that's really shitty of her. Before you cut ties I would totally say something to her. Maybe its her way of trying to get you to not worry or stress about it? Not that she's helping at all.
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