HDBD/ Wtf Wednesday

[narbuckle01]

ladytiffany24 No, no, no... you didn't intensify the guilt! Don't think that! I just needed to vent really and I knew you all would understand.

And exactly what you said about being "resentful towards her for changing my life so drastically". This morning was the first time I said out loud to my husband although I have been thinking it for weeks. I really resent what she has done to my life sometimes, but I know that is not fair to her. The struggle is real.

And I second the awesomeness that is this forum, it is crazy how much I need this in my life.

[becole]

I hesitated even saying what I felt about the article ladytiffany24 because I didn't want you to feel bad for being the one to post it. It was helpful for you- in the moment you are in now- and I'm sure lots of other moms. But I was not in that place. I am almost getting to that place of nostalgia where I almost forget how terrible it was.

Hugs @narbuckle we have all been there before. It's hard when some moms seem to take the wakeuos and spit ups and being locked in your house in stride, when you feel like- ahh what have I done? But I love you? I'm so sorry, I feel guilty- I wouldn't trade you for the world. It doesn't have to be all or nothing and I think every mom has been and felt both scenarios.

[becole]

Mar 25, 2015 11:11:51 GMT -5 babylove518 said:

ladytiffany24, yes. All the yeses (yes's?).
No wtf for today... Just a pic of DD sleeping with her hands up after I put her to sleep in the mei tai carrier. How can she sleep so peacefully with her hands up like this?

Not my kid. He had the worst startle reflex and had to be swaddled constantly because he would flail his arms and wake up. So cute though!!!

[mrscatfarmer13]

I really want to jump in the mommy guilt discussion, but work isn't allowing me time to have feels today.

[bluerainfire]

sorry for the poop explosion I had a toddler one this week, but in undies, and now my 2 year old, knows the phrase "oh shit"-meh I think it was one of those poops, she didn't know was coming. what a freaking mess.

I think its pretty natural to have those moments in life; when you don't like your childs behavior, or love waking up at 3am. doesn't make anyone a bad person or bad parent, its just yes we mom's need a time out too.

[bazingaa]

My two cents on the article.... I think reaction to it changes over time. If I had read it during the middle of DS's 4mo wakeful period or during one of the times he's been sick, I would think "oh hell no!" But lately sleep has been going great and I honestly said to DH last weekend that I hoped DS would get up just once in the MOTN for a few moments of snuggle because I missed them. The me of a couple months ago and the me of the future when he's cutting his next tooth would bitch slap the me of today for thinking that, but the me of today truly feels that way. It's all a repeating circle to me. Same with feelings on the whole life change of having a baby. There are days when I'm a tad resentful and days where I'm all "this is the best thing ever!".

Too many mes or did that make sense?

[ladytiffany24]

Mar 25, 2015 13:07:45 GMT -5 bazingaa said:

My two cents on the article.... I think reaction to it changes over time. If I had read it during the middle of DS's 4mo wakeful period or during one of the times he's been sick, I would think "oh hell no!" But lately sleep has been going great and I honestly said to DH last weekend that I hoped DS would get up just once in the MOTN for a few moments of snuggle because I missed them. The me of a couple months ago and the me of the future when he's cutting his next tooth would bitch slap the me of today for thinking that, but the me of today truly feels that way. It's all a repeating circle to me. Same with feelings on the whole life change of having a baby. There are days when I'm a tad resentful and days where I'm all "this is the best thing ever!".

Too many mes or did that make sense?

You just hit the nail on the head! This is so true. And very much the case for me. I've gone through all kinds of different thought cycles on this.

[narbuckle01]

bazingaa I think that makes perfect sense. It actually is some really good perspective for me.

[becole]

You're right bazingaa I think the mom wanted to implore folks to be "in the moment" but I'm all like- "I'm in hell and you are telling me to enjoy the heat" .

[bazingaa]

becole, that and I would definitely say the author was relishing in an unexpected, not the norm MOTN wake up... Not waging war on a weeks or months long battle of "why the fuck won't you sleep kid!"

[sstwinklinglites]

We got DS a play yard not two months ago:



Today, he learned how to climb it. And doesn't know how to get back down, so the screaming and crying begins. I now have him in the jumper, that I had to move into my room, so I could get some work done.

[nachomomma]

sstwinklinglites DS1 was a disaster with every tooth. I hope your LO finishes this tooth soon.
bazingaa I think you're exactly right. Before I had this baby, my toddler would wake up and I'd run in for all the cuddles. Now if he wakes DH has to handle it, because I'm in newborn sleep hell.
Also, looks like I'm adding PLL to my list of shows to binge watch.
And here's my HDBD. He's 7 weeks tomorrow.

[vlagroupie]

nachomomma omg he is so adorable could just squeeze those cheeks!

[becole]

What did you all do with the nice weather?

[vlagroupie]

sstwinklinglites oh no! How are you getting any work done? I could totally see my kid using some of the toys as a step to climb that thing.

[narbuckle01]

Mar 25, 2015 19:24:29 GMT -5 becole said:

What did you all do with the nice weather?

Had the patio door open while I ate a ginormous dinner while wishing I had sunscreen so I could take baby outside. Hyper sunburn paranoid since her burn on Saturday. You?

[sstwinklinglites]

Mar 25, 2015 19:24:35 GMT -5 vlagroupie said:

sstwinklinglites oh no! How are you getting any work done? I could totally see my kid using some of the toys as a step to climb that thing.

I'm not getting any work done. I got so exasperated today I just gave up and hung out with him. I'm now seriously going to interview for a mothers helper.

Btw, DS just sticks his little feet in the openings and climbs up. Dafuq with this kid? He's not even walking, but he can climb wall like structures?

[vlagroupie]

I don't really have a wtf just that I have ADD and can't bring myself to read and retain all the comments. But I just have to say I'm so jealous of everyone and their cuddles with their LO's. My DD has never really been that cuddly where did I go wrong?!?! She's always trying to get down and play with toys and explore.

[vlagroupie]

Mar 25, 2015 19:29:57 GMT -5 sstwinklinglites said:

Mar 25, 2015 19:24:35 GMT -5 vlagroupie said:

sstwinklinglites oh no! How are you getting any work done? I could totally see my kid using some of the toys as a step to climb that thing.

I'm not getting any work done. I got so exasperated today I just gave up and hung out with him. I'm now seriously going to interview for a mothers helper.

Btw, DS just sticks his little feet in the openings and climbs up. Dafuq with this kid? He's not even walking, but he can climb wall like structures?

Future rock climber? Or Spider-Man? Ha that's kinda awesome though.

[babylove518]

I loved the weather today. I took the twins out, but DD was taking her 2.5 hr growth spurt nap while we were out there. She's still not used to the sun. She can't open her eyes. Even when it's overcast out, she squints real bad. Poor thing.

[becole]

Mar 25, 2015 19:27:35 GMT -5 narbuckle01 said:

Mar 25, 2015 19:24:29 GMT -5 becole said:

What did you all do with the nice weather?

Had the patio door open while I ate a ginormous dinner while wishing I had sunscreen so I could take baby outside. Hyper sunburn paranoid since her burn on Saturday. You?

I used the zinc based sunscreen for lo before he was 6 months but pedi said any of them are fine.

We took a walk in our neighborhood over to the park. He loved the slides and sand.

[lindsay]

Trying to catch up on these! I gotta admit I don't really get hump day bump day... Is it cute pictures? Anything goes?

My wtf Wednesday... I've been trying to get DD to smile all day. She will kinda smile but then immediately cry.. Huh? Guess she's not ready lol. She rolled from her tummy to back today for the first time- so cool to see!

[mrscatfarmer13]

narbuckle01 you should be able to use sunblock before 6mo. I can't remember the difference, but I remember having the sunblock vs. Sunscreen discussion with my BMB. I remember that sunscreen was not ok before 6mo but I'm mostly certain sunblock is alright. You can always throw a hat and long sleeves on and go out for a little bit.

[lindsay]

I agree with the consensus on the article... I read it and like the message- the sweetness of your LO can catch your heart in those tough, MOTN moments. But it's still hard and exhausting and I'm only a month in and not back at work- so I know it's going to be ROUGH soon, and I would be fooling myself if I think I'll enjoy every second of it. I kinda had the mindset for the first two weeks of LOs life- it was so hard- the loss of an easy life, sleep deprivation, BFIng struggles- I didn't want time to go by bc I knew she'd grow so fast and would never be so itty bitty precious again, but I was counting the days Til some of that hard stuff just passed (or I adjusted).

[JoBub]

Mar 25, 2015 20:20:33 GMT -5 lindsay said:

Trying to catch up on these! I gotta admit I don't really get hump day bump day... Is it cute pictures? Anything goes?

My wtf Wednesday... I've been trying to get DD to smile all day. She will kinda smile but then immediately cry.. Huh? Guess she's not ready lol. She rolled from her tummy to back today for the first time- so cool to see!

I guess HDBD doesn't really make sense if you just jump in at this point. One the birth month boards, HDBD is where people post their weekly bump pictures while they're pregnant. And then when the babies are born it turns into pictures of the baby. 

My baby took FOREVER to smile. I was seriously getting worried. But he figured it out, and now he smiles all day long.  

[chunkymonkeylvr]

sstwinklinglites we have that same play yard and instead of it being set up like that we left the ends unattached and wrapped it around out tv to keep little hands out that way.
But I just read you have a spider monkey I'm not sure it will work lol

But this is what I did..... don't hate on the awesome moose rug.

[sstwinklinglites]

Mar 26, 2015 10:17:12 GMT -5 chunkymonkeylvr said:

sstwinklinglites we have that same play yard and instead of it being set up like that we left the ends unattached and wrapped it around out tv to keep little hands out that way.
But I just read you have a spider monkey I'm not sure it will work lol

But this is what I did..... don't hate on the awesome moose rug.

Lol. We got it because we really needed something to hold him that was big enough for him to have lots of play space while I was busy with other things. I put shoes on him today though, and he's unable to climb with the shoes on, hopefully that lasts a while.