Nope, nope, nope. The day he met me I was wearing an oversized pair of jeans that I had borrowed from a friend. I'm also not 100% positive that I washed my hair that day. We met at the bar he worked at. I won him over with my drunken honesty. He keeps asking me to try a pixie cut, but I won't ever do it. My hair is pretty much down past my boobs right now and I have no intention of going short.
Post by expatmama11 on Mar 25, 2015 13:15:14 GMT -5
My husband is very opinionated and will tell me what he likes and doesn't like but knows I will not necessarily listen to him. He likes my hair long but I like it short. I respect his opinion but it's my hair so it is short. When it comes to clothes, I wear what I feel comfortable in but I do want him to tell me if it doesn't look right. I may decide to ignore him but I still ask his opinion a lot.
If I listened to him on what to wear I would be dressed in mini skirts or super short dresses 99% of the time. That is not happening!!
Post by LadyNymeria on Mar 25, 2015 13:16:34 GMT -5
Not at all. The only think I can think of that is even close is that I learned how to curl my really long straight hair because he loves my hair when it's wavy. But I love how it looks too so I do it more for me than him.
I make it a point not to take fashion/beauty/general appearance advice from a man that would still wear ripped cargo jeans, flannels and sweaters from when he was 14 yrs old. On a nice occassion, I might throw on a dress he prefers if I feel like wearing it, but I get advice from fashion-conscious friends before I do from him and he doesn't care
True story: When we were in college, I went on a Spring Break trip with him and 5 of his frat brothers (I felt like a Den mother, honestly, but it was super fun). The first day we got to the beach, I stormed out of the hotel room, met the other guys in the hallway and they were like "What's wrong with you?" I said, "We'll meet you at the beach, we're going shopping first." They were all confused until DH walked out of the room and got into the elevator. He was wearing sneakers with socks (because he didn't own flip flops) and his bathing suit came up maybe 6" above his knees. They all looked at me and went, "Yup! We'll see you at the beach later." Poor DH was like "What's wrong?!" and one of his buddies said, "Dude, it looks like you haven't bought a new bathing suit since you were 14." DH got SUPER red then and went, "Well, that's cause I haven't." To this day, he still only wears the bathing suit we bought that day. I have managed to convince him to wear flip flops more often at least, even just at the beach.
TL;DR: I don't take fashion advice from DH.
Are we married to the same guy?
That and he destroys his clothes. That man has more rips, holes, broken zippers and missing buttons then anyone I've ever met. He works an office/tech job so I just don't get it! I asked his parents once and they say it's been like that since he was a kid.
Post by chimomma19 on Mar 25, 2015 13:21:21 GMT -5
Ehhhhhhh kinda.
I mean, he loves my hair back, so if we're going out for a nice dinner, I'll do an updo, but I'm most days if he says he doesn't like what I have on I tell him to suck it.
When I ASK for his opinion I take it into consideration. Other than that he doesn't comment, so I guess the answer is no.
He has known me since HS, he has seen my body and look through 40lb weight changes and numerous hair colors and styles... the best thing about my DH is he thinks I am hot no matter what as long as I love how I look.
Post by mustloveerica on Mar 25, 2015 13:26:03 GMT -5
Not really. I think the only thing I haven't done because of A's opinion is chop my hair really short. But other than that I wear what I want. I wear makeup or go without depending on my mood. Actually he jokes that I changed everything he ever liked originally (never liked blondes, never liked short hair on a girl, always preferred dark eyes and I have light green eyes, etc. until he met me). I am the complete opposite of the girls he dated previously. And I'm the one he married.
Post by squeakyduck on Mar 25, 2015 13:26:27 GMT -5
MH likes longer hair, but I usually keep mine just past my shoulders. I don't chop it all off kinda because of him, mostly because I'm too chicken to try a pixie or bob.
He also doesn't like blonde hair, but hair dye is too much upkeep for me, so that's a non-issue.
Post by mrsrexmanning on Mar 25, 2015 13:27:18 GMT -5
H isn't one to tell me he doesn't like something, but he is quick to tell me when he does like something I do with my hair or something I wear. I make a mental note. While I'm not generally going to go out of my way to dress a certain way just to please him, there are outfits I'll wear, etc, that aren't my favorite, but I know he likes it. He does think I should have bangs. He is wrong.
DH has never said that he has any specific preferences and even if he did, I doubt I would change my daily routine. I wear my hair in a ponytail 90% of the time right now because it is in this weird growing out phase. I wear the same 5 minute make up routine during the work week and no make up on the weekend unless we have plans. My clothes are pretty much about comfort.
^me, but just because.
I think MH likes it when I wear my hair down, and a few shirts have gotten a "you look nice!" So, if I feel like it, sometimes I will wear those shirts or take a little extra time to do my hair. Make-up usually is never really for him. Maybe anniversaries.
He apparently thinks I'm pretty all the time, though, because he says it randomly, such as: during a Netflix binge braless in ratty t-shirt/PJ pants, while I'm licking the last bit of ice cream out of my bowl, and after I have woken up and have that terrible bed head/morning breath combo.
MH really doesn't pipe up that much, one way or the other. If he's happened to mention that he likes a dress or a top, then yeah, I'll wear that a little more frequently. But I spend 90% of my time without make up and I only style my hair a couple times a week. Otherwise, ponytail or bun. He doesn't seem to care. Considering he wears t-shirts from 20 years ago and will wear shorts until they are literally falling apart, he has no room to talk. I finally, FINALLY was able to convince him to buy new sandals, since his wide strap Adidas ones were about 15 years old and atrocious. So he bought a new pair. OF THE SAME SANDAL. He's hopeless.
I will never cut my hair into a pixie cut or anything. One - because he hates that style, but I also don't think it would look good on me. That's the only thing he seems to really have an opinion on.
ETA: Oh, he always makes fun of cowl neck shirts, thinks they look like he should throw something in there. I love them and have several tops and dresses in that style. He's given up on making the jokes about it, but he's never made it seem like he didn't think I was attractive in them or that he didn't like it when I wore them. Just that they were silly.
Post by hydrangea1019 on Mar 25, 2015 13:33:53 GMT -5
This came up recently for us. I made a comment that I was going to cut my hair to shoulder length and he made a face but quickly tried to hide it. So I proved more and he finally admitted he likes my hair longer, but that I can do whatever I want. I'll keep it longer for now, but if it gets to be too long, I'll chop it off.
He also prefers me blonde rather than a brunette. I get bored with being blonde, so I tend to just randomly dye it. But I get that comment from everyone and not just from DH.
Post by heatherj9603 on Mar 25, 2015 13:41:53 GMT -5
I may way a certain dress he really likes on a date night, or we might coordinate colors for weddings or special events (he likes to match, I'm meh, but I think it's cute after 12 years and he likes to match) but no I wouldn't choose something I absoltely don't like just because he does.
Every once in a while I will wear my hair half up. He really likes it because it shows more of my face but yet still having my hair down. I think it's just okay, but I don't hate it. But I will do it every so often cuz he likes it.
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MH doesn't have a lot of preferences but I buy a style of underwear I hate, the cheeky kind from VS, because he loves them. If I'm trying to get some then I put them on and we're good to go.
I have to agree with your H on this one - that is my favorite underwear. I probably have 15 or 20.
Post by akraus2015 on Mar 25, 2015 13:53:52 GMT -5
I pretty much do my own thing. I think if my fiance had his way I'd be in jeans and a Harley Davidson or drag racing t-shirt 90% of the time, and in lingerie the other 10% of the time. But I'm a dress and heels girl almost always. He teases me because I made him put saddle bags on our motorcycle so that I could put my heels and hairbrush in them when we go on rides together.
We had Battle of the Wills 2015 over Victoria's Secret's new "itsy" bikini bottoms. I bought a white bikini for our honeymoon and he threw a huge fit because he said he could see my ass. I think they're super cute bottoms, and I am NOT returning them. He eventually got over it. I win.
Post by michelleca on Mar 25, 2015 14:06:52 GMT -5
I would probably take his opinion into account if he ever really gave one. He doesn't like a lot of make up so usually I don't wear a lot. I do value his opinion. My high school boyfriend said he looked when I wore red, and I made sure to get a red prom dress.
MH doesn't have a lot of preferences but I buy a style of underwear I hate, the cheeky kind from VS, because he loves them. If I'm trying to get some then I put them on and we're good to go.
I do this too.
Yes, DH likes certain style of bras and undies. Those I'll buy and wear for him.
I definitely care about MH's opinion on how I look, dress, and act, but I will ultimately have the last word. It goes both ways, and DH values my opinion as well although he is more steadfast in knowing what he wants and not letting anyone change his mind. Admittedly, I am a little insecure and do ask MH what he prefers, but he doesn't like to force his opinions on me. We might have a talk about clothes and makeup at some point and H's main concern is just that I don't take anything personally and remember that he still loves me no matter what. He has seen me at my worst and at my best and all he asks for is for me to be healthy and faithful. Which is what I'm working on
Post by TheEleventhHour on Mar 25, 2015 14:40:49 GMT -5
The only preference DH has ever expressed to me is he likes lacey underwear. Ha! Otherwise I wear what I want. I recently cut off all of my hair (pixie cut) and thought for sure he wasn't going to be a fan since I've always had longer hair but he loves it. I would say most of our preferences are in line anyway though. My style hasn't changed much since we've met and he likes what I wore when we first started dating so it doesn't really pose an issue.
I definitely care about MH's opinion on how I look, dress, and act, but I will ultimately have the last word. It goes both ways, and DH values my opinion as well although he is more steadfast in knowing what he wants and not letting anyone change his mind. Admittedly, I am a little insecure and do ask MH what he prefers, but he doesn't like to force his opinions on me. We might have a talk about clothes and makeup at some point and H's main concern is just that I don't take anything personally and remember that he still loves me no matter what. He has seen me at my worst and at my best and all he asks for is for me to be healthy and faithful. Which is what I'm working on
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Dh doesn't like make up. I wear it when we go out. It makes me feel better about myself. I like it and I don't wear it often. He'll live. I don't over do it.
We agree on my hair. It's almost to my butt. I'm want to grow it out as long as I can. Sometimes I joke with him that I'll cut it as short as hers (think brandy from joe dirt) as a point out a random woman in a movie or on the street. His response is always the same and it makes me laugh.
I was going out with some friends one night. He didn't like the shirt I was wearing. He told me I wasn't going to wear it. That didn't go over well. I wore it anyway. I don't take well to being told what to do.
I often ask his opinion on everything else. And I'll ask him to pick me out an outfit a lot of the time. He has a keen eye for nail polish so he's the go to in that department.
I definitely care about MH's opinion on how I look, dress, and act, but I will ultimately have the last word. It goes both ways, and DH values my opinion as well although he is more steadfast in knowing what he wants and not letting anyone change his mind. Admittedly, I am a little insecure and do ask MH what he prefers, but he doesn't like to force his opinions on me. We might have a talk about clothes and makeup at some point and H's main concern is just that I don't take anything personally and remember that he still loves me no matter what. He has seen me at my worst and at my best and all he asks for is for me to be healthy and faithful. Which is what I'm working on
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