Post by cgiles120812 on Jan 20, 2015 9:48:31 GMT -5
We lived in a one bedroom apartment until my daughter was 8-9 months and she slept in our room in a bassinet type pack in play. She also slept with me in our bed sometimes until 11 months, it actually was easier for me because she still fed at night so all I had to so was feed her next to me. Dh slept fine 90% of the time, of course he can be a heavy sleeper. Yes there were times when I was exhausted but I now look back on it and miss those days where she would fall asleep next to me. She started sleeping through the night alone around 11 months in her room and at first I would cry to my dh because I missed her. We plan on having the baby in our room for a little bit this time too.
Post by queenofcats on Jan 20, 2015 9:49:55 GMT -5
I don't know about the SIDS rates and comparison, but we will have baby in a bassinet in our room for at least the first couple of months for convenience sake. I want to breast feed and having the baby nearby will make that easier. Since new babies tend to wake up the most and need to feed often sleeping in the same room just sort of makes sense to us.
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I don't know about the SIDS rates and comparison, but we will have baby in a bassinet in our room for at least the first couple of months for convenience sake. I want to breast feed and having the baby nearby will make that easier. Since new babies tend to wake up the most and need to feed often sleeping in the same room just sort of makes sense to us.
This is how we saw it with DS - it was definitely more convenient having him in the room with us. We kept him in our room for almost 4 months and then transitioned him to his crib. We will most likely do the same with this baby.
We had DD in our room in the top level bassinet of a PNP for the first 4 months. I think I actually would have slept worse if she had been in her own room early on. Having the PNP near the bed, I could roll over and check on her easily for peace of mind. DH sleeps soundly so he usually didn't wake up unless I woke him to help me out.
I also had DD in my room in a bassinet for the first four months, then transitioned her into the crib. It was more for first time mom worries and also convenience.
We had DD in bed with us the first month. That was not ideal. However the bedrooms in our house are small and there is a 2ft space between our king size bed and the walls on all sides. Not practical for another bassinet. After that DD went into her own room with a sound machine. I had a few nurses tell me I was being a bad parent for this, but tough. It's what worked for us.
Post by cookiesandwine on Jan 20, 2015 10:03:29 GMT -5
We had DD in our room for about 4 months. Especially breastfeeding, it made it easier to have her nearby. She slept in a rock'n'play for that time and this one will as well. They wake up so frequently that I wanted to be right there.
Maybe your H is a lighter sleeper than mine is, but he didn't wake up unless I woke him for help. Even then, I gave zero fucks if he was disturbed from his restful slumber.
We had our babies in our room in a bassinet next to the bed for the first 4 months or so, then we sleep trained them to their own rooms. It was very convenient for BFing, and gave me peace of mind to roll over and see them sleeping soundly. I don't believe DH was ever woken by them, especially because I think you get accustomed to their pre wake sounds and wake as they are stirring, not just when they cry. That was my experience anyways, we will try the same with this LO as well
Post by decembergirl1216 on Jan 20, 2015 10:15:15 GMT -5
I kept my daughter in a pack and play next to my bed until she was about 3.5 months old. When I went back to work it was not working for me to have her in my room because I could hear every single thing she did all night long and didn't rest well at all.
I think that I read that the thought on SIDS having the mother right there to respond if there is a problem is a benefit. Also I have read that if baby is in hearing range of an adult while sleeping they will mimic the breathing pattern. Also important that is stressed for SIDS prevention is sleeping conditions. Firm surface, not overly warm, on their back, no blankets or bumpers, etc. that can obstruct the nose or mouth.
You are the mother and will make decisions for your child. With mine she slept in a cotton sleeper in a swaddle sack with a pacifier on the firm pack and play mattress. Some people buy those Angel Care monitors that are supposed to alarm for periods of apnea, but they can go off when there isn't a problem. I didn't get one of those. I hope this helps.
Everything PP'S said. Reduces SIDS risk, easier for nighttime feedings, and the monitor would wake my H up anyway, so that's no different. My pediatrician also recommends it.
He slept in our room for the first 4.5 months. It just made sense to me.
Are you registering for a pack'n'play? That can serve as a bassinet...many even come with a bassinet attachment that raises the mattress up higher. Another option is a rock'n'play. It is not expensive ($50ish I think) and it is portable. That is nice to have because you can easily move it around your house to have somewhere to set the baby when you can't hold him/her. It also folds flat for storage so space isn't a problem. It could take the place of a bouncer.
We weren't planning on registering for a pack n play - there's just no place to put it in our room, we barely have room for a nightstand on either side of the bed
I think pregsomnia SIDS reading turned my head in circles. There's more talk about super firm mattresses and sleeping surfaces, and the rock'n'plays don't look super firm?
I guess to make this work, we'll have to remove/move furniture like whoah in our room, get a bassinet-type thing (budgets be damned!), or just figure it out when baby comes and we are too tired to over-analyze every baby article we read.
Thanks for the feedback, ladies!
Don't they have those bed things that can attach to the side of the bed or a thing that can sit in the middle of the parents? I've seen it on pinterest
Post by wineandcake on Jan 20, 2015 10:17:12 GMT -5
We had Mac in our bed for the first 3m I believe, then he went to the PnP next to our bed, and to his own room around 5-6m. He loved to snuggle and needed to be touching one of us at all times or he would scream bloody murder. He ate every hour around the clock so it just made sense. I felt safe having him in bed with us and that was the only way any of us got any sleep. This time we'll have a bassinet set up next to the bed, but I bet we'll end up with baby in bed with us again for convenience.
DS slept in a PNP in our room until 3 months. I started doing naps in his crib around 6-8 weeks probably to get him used to it, but didn't want him doing overnights until he was sleeping through the night. Moreso for convenience because our bedrooms are on different floors. I plan on doing the same with these babies.
There's always something different about SIDS. Some simple things you can do to reduce the risk are get a firm mattress (DS has one that is infant on one side and a little softer toddler side on the other so you flip it when they get older). Also having a ceiling fan helps by circulating the air in the room. Even if there isn't one in there you can get one for as cheap as like $40. We always have DS' on at least the low setting.
We will be room sharing and co-sleeping with this sweet baby. I will start out with an arms reach co-sleeper and eventually side car a crib to our bed as the baby gets bigger and needs more space. We ended up bed sharing with my son and I'd like for this baby to have its own space to sleep (probably for my sanity) so I can roll over and use blankets when I want to.
I do believe that it helps Mom get maximum sleep and will benefit your breastfeeding relationship. For us, also, it's about house space and not having an extra room to set up a separate nursery.
Post by lindylogana on Jan 20, 2015 10:42:37 GMT -5
Baby will be in a bassinet in our room for the first 4-6 months. We did this as well with the first 2. On top of it helping with SIDs prevention it's easier when baby gets up every 2-3 hours to eat if they're right there in the room with you.
As far as SIDS risk and firm mattresses - I believe the theory is that they won't sink in and impede breathing with a firm mattress. In the rock n play they are wedged in there and face up so I believe it would be fine. The point is that their face isn't in the mattress (especially for side or belly sleepers). Don't stress! You are contemplating all good options. Mitigate risk (which you are already doing) but don't drive yourself crazy with the worry of SIDS. XO
With DD, we coslept until she was 5 weeks old, then I moved her into her crib in her nursery which was down the hall from us. She's been very independent since day 1, so moving her was the best thing - she gave us an uninterrupted 8 hours of sleep that first night (I DO NOT expect that this time at all, because DH was a horrible sleeper, so I'm assuming this one will be). The reason I moved her so early was because I was going back to work at 7 weeks, and I know they wouldn't be able to hold her while she slept, so we worked on the transition early. We will most likely do that again this time.
As far as SIDS is concerned, others have mentioned it - things change all the time because they don't know what causes it. What's fine today may not be fine tomorrow. Do what's best for your family.
Post by mischiefmama on Jan 20, 2015 10:46:55 GMT -5
I slept in the nursery with DS for about 9 months. He was in a rock n play for the first 3-4 months and then his crib. Its just what worked best for our family.
We're side carring a crib. Bedsharing makes a breastfeeding moms life way easier! I, also, don't even care about if it wakes up DH. I actually woke him up with the first two! If they didn't fall asleep nursing, he was on duty.
I recommend the book Sweet Sleep. It was just published last year and is full of research to suggest that bedsharing/co sleeping is normal and safe.
My oldest slept in a pack n play at the end of my bed for a few weeks. I was a single mom though and it was easier for me. My 2nd shared a room because that was our only option. My son was in his own room from day 1. His room was 3 steps from ours and I kept his door and our door open. Our room at the time was just not big enough for him to sleep in there.
This baby will be in our room for a while. I don't want the new baby sharing a room with my son get because they wake so much at night. But we have a much larger room now and a crib will fit in the corner perfectly.
Having baby in room does help reduce SIDS among other things, but If you isn't have the room or your not comfortable with that then leave the doors open and try baby in their own room. You could always re-evaluate if need be.
We'll be doing a PnP in our bedroom for the first few months, at least. I'm try to see if we can get out of buying a third crib, to be honest. Our friends have a PnP mattress that we're borrowing, too -- so it's not like sleeping on cardboard or whatever is the bottom of that thing!
With the twins, we went straight to cribs in their room (they had been in them in the NICU the whole time, so it wasn't a big transition). We used the Angelcare monitor things (which are EXCELLENT) so we weren't ultra stressed out about not necessarily being in the room with them. DH has said he'll likely try to wire the Angelcare monitor in the PnP somehow -- but we also purchased a Snuza for #3, knowing she/he will be napping in swings, etc, in other rooms while we tend to the twins.
We are room sharing, for both convenience and financial reasons. Prior to getting knocked up, I talked to recent parent friends and almost all of them said that they had baby in the room with them for 6 mos to a year. To move to a two-bedroom in our neighborhood would run us almost 40% more than a one-bedroom, so for us, we are not moving until we have to do so. We have a large one-bedroom and re-arranged our furniture to accommodate a crib and a glider. If we find we can't share the room, we have enough room in the living/dining space that we could carve out a nook for us or babe.
I'm still on the fence about starting with a mini-crib over a full-size crib though. Anyone use a mini-crib? How long did it last? I think my hesitation is, if DD is like my side of the family, she will be a super active sleeper who craves room to move, and a mini-crib would feel too confining. I think for that reason we are leaning towards a full-size crib.
@officedronette - I think the cosleeper is totally worth it. Plus the resale value is great- you can list it on craigslist or fb when you are done with it and make at least 50% of your money back. The cosleeper is so much smaller and will be good to use for at least the first 6 months while the baby is small and non mobile.
I'm a crazy person and DD slept in the pack n play in my room until her 1st birthday (when I say that, I literally mean the day she turned one was the first night in her crib). And she didn't have any trouble transitioning into her room, she had napped in the crib at that point. I nursed her until then, so it made BFing much easier. Like PPs have said, the room sharing thing is supposed to help the baby follow adult breathing patterns while sleeping. DDs dad wasn't with us every night, but when he was, she didn't bother him. Men will either wake up because the baby is in the room, on the monitor, down the hall, or they won't wake up at all. From what I've heard, more often than not, they don't wake up at all. It has something to do with a mother's hearing being more in tune with the high pitched sounds of a baby where a man's hearing is more sensitive to lower pitched sounds during sleep. (I don't know, read or heard it somewhere). So, totally room share if you want, won't hurt anyone!
You definitely don't have to put the baby in your room, but for me it was much more convenient. We had the Arms Reach cosleeper but DD would absolutely not sleep in it. We got much more use out of the (significantly cheaper) Rock and Play. It is small and portable so I carried that from room to room when she was a newbie. I would bring it into the bathroom when I was showering and DD would be calm and happy.
One note, you don't know now how your baby will sleep best. I was ready for her to use the cosleeper, but she hated it. She loved the Rock and Play and we actually bed shared when she got bigger, which I never planned to do. I know people who slept in recliners for the first couple months. Others had absolutely no problem with the baby in the crib from the start. Your baby may love the crib, but I would we see about fitting in the Rock and Play, even if that won't be the main sleeping spot.
We room shared for the first year with baby #1. I bed shared with baby #2 for 6 months. We had a king sized bed and it made night feedings much easier. We only have a queen sized bed now so we'll be doing a bassinet: either an Arm's Reach Cosleeper, Halo bassinet or a mini pack n play with bassinet level.
We're planning on the babe rooming in with us for as long as it make sense, both for the SIDS prevention benefits and for ease of breastfeeding. First time, though, so we realize things may change! We'll have both a PNP with the newborn napper/bassinet and a RNP so I guess we'll see what works best.
Post by maritimemama3 on Jan 20, 2015 12:48:01 GMT -5
I guess I'm the odd woman out here. DS slept in his own room starting when he was 5 days old. Like you, we didn't have space in our room for a bassinet, and his bedroom was right next to ours, so we would just leave both doors open, and I could hear just about every sound he made. You just do what works for you. DH also went back to work at his very stressful job after one week, and he needed his sleep (I took a year off). I didn't mind getting up and nursing DS in his own room. Oh, and it's also easier to put the baby to bed early without waking him/her up when YOU go to bed.
As for SIDS, there are about 1000 identified "risk factors", the strongest of which are smoking and drinking while pregnant, smoking inside your home, and using soft bedding. If only one risk factor applies to you, you're doing really well.
We have a bassinet on our registry, but I might change it to the Rock n Play since it has a higher weight maximum. We don't have the space for a pack and play in our bedroom. I only plan on room sharing until the baby is sleeping a little better. We don't plan on bed sharing. After watching my sister bed share with her son until he was 5 and her daughter until she was 2, I just can't bring myself to do it. I'll be breastfeeding (hopefully), so we'll see how things go.
We have a bassinet on our registry, but I might change it to the Rock n Play since it has a higher weight maximum. We don't have the space for a pack and play in our bedroom. I only plan on room sharing until the baby is sleeping a little better. We don't plan on bed sharing. After watching my sister bed share with her son until he was 5 and her daughter until she was 2, I just can't bring myself to do it. I'll be breastfeeding (hopefully), so we'll see how things go.
Thanks. That is a similar size to what we are considering.
FWIW, I was just at a friend's place whose daughter ADORES the Rock n Play. She was out like a light for her nap with us all chatting loudly around her. Definitely seems like a worthwhile purchase.
We kept our son in our room for exactly 1 month because his pedi recommended at least that long. We slept much better once we moved him and that was what worked best for our family.
If you are hesitant to buy an extra sleeping device, but are planning to buy a pack n play anyway, you could put baby in that while you room share.
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