I hate naming a human life!

[junch817]

Anyone else have no idea at this point on names? I have the (boy) name I didn't use when I was team green with my daughter, but I'm not sure I love it as much as I used to. Now I have another boy name that I really like, but still don't feel like it's "the one" and DH is being a butt about it. He thinks names are very unimportant and just wants to go with our boy name from 3 years ago to make it easy - says he "got used to it".
I know there's time, but I just want to know! I thought it would be easier knowing the sex this time, but it's not.
Who else is struggling?

[alayne926]

We're team green and it's SO hard to come up with names. I just feel like we're going to stick this little person with a name and s/he may or may not like down the road. Also, I stupidly came up with an idea to have two girl names and two boy names so we can choose when we see the baby. I don't know why I decided it, but DH liked the idea....we didn't do that with DS....stupid pregnancy ideas.

[missjenniebean]

We decided early on. Team green. But fought about it. Finally came up with two names a month or two ago. It was a lot harder than I thought it would be!

[theBeeMama]

*raising my hand*

I am soooo over naming this baby.

And yet, I must name her. Ugh.

[nettje]

We've got a couple of names but nothing really decided. We'll probably have a few names for both sexes when we go in and like last time, probably discuss them on the way to the hospital.

[islandgirl14]

Yes!! We've always had girls names we loved and were ready to use, but alas, we're having another boy. We struggled with DS, but ended up finding one we love fortunately. Now we're struggling with this little boy on the way again...We have one that we both like, and DH actually loves it, but I feel like I want to keep exploring other options, but there is nothing else that is really jumping out at me... sigh...

[pghtruelove]

We decided on our girl name based on the nn we wanted to use. Still having a tough time choosing a middle name.

[mathistm]

I was worried for awhile about coming up with a name-then one night we heard a name and both really liked it. Before then I had liked some and DH was unsure or vv. I'm hoping you all get one that jumps out at you soon!

[ladysif]

We think we have a first name, but middle name is a struggle. I signed up for the trial of ancestry.com and of course am now paying for a full month because I didn't get it done fast enough. (We're big into family names and feel like we HAVE to for this one because DS1's name is so rooted in family history). Like islandgirl14, we were totally set with a girl's name and really struggled with DS1's, we didn't decide until 37 weeks and it was my #3 choice, DH's #1. So it figures we're having another boy.

[Deleted]

We have had a girl's name picked out for two years, Phoebe Josephine. So of course we're having a boy because, in two years, we were unable to agree to anything. I thought we would be at the birth still completely undecided and arguing. And then one day, around 22 weeks, I threw out a name from DH's side of the family that he had never brought up and I'd had in the back of my mind but never verbalized and said, "What about _________ and we can call him ________." And just like that. Boom. Done.

It will come. Possibly when you're least expecting it. Or I know several people who have gone to the hospital with a list of three names and then once they meet the baby, one of them just sticks.

[trixi282]

Boy names have always been much more difficult for my H and I to agree upon.  Like you, we were team green with our 1st too and we had a boy and a girl name picked out (3 years ago) - but this pregnancy, after already having our daughter, I didn't love the boy name anymore, especially with J's for a sib-set.

We scrapped it, luckily my H agreed he didn't love it together with DD's name... We have 2 picked out for a girl, and a boy name narrowed down, but we can't agree on a MN for the boy name we like.

[noeliav]

:: pulls up a seat ::
Oh hey there. DH wants to name baby boy after him. DH has a very unique name. I am not on-board. The conversations have been super-fun.

If baby had two X chromosomes instead of one X one Y, we would have been all set, but noooooo...

[kemdupuis]

We are really struggling too. I thought we had our name picked, but things have transpired, and although I shouldn't let them bother me, they still are. So, we're still on the hunt- but might just end up using our original name anyway. It's so hard! And so stressful! I am so glad I am not the only one feeling this way

[wifedeangel]

We can't agree on one name, so we're taking a list of names to the hospital and will decide when we see the little guy.

[tulips114]

We've got nothing. I went through the baby name book and had a list of 30. I thought that was a good solid place to start and DH would narrow it down to 5 or so. Then we'd at least have short list. That was the general process we went through when naming DD1. Nope, he said no to every single one.

A third girl would have been named already, but apparently boy names are hard for us.

[turtletyme]

We picked ours before I was pregnant. At this point, I can't imagine having to name another kid though, it was IMPOSSIBLE to agree. I am convinced the Duggars/Bates/other people with a dozen kids don't really even like all of their children's names.

[megd893]

Mar 27, 2015 13:16:54 GMT -5 pghtruelove said:

We decided on our girl name based on the nn we wanted to use. Still having a tough time choosing a middle name.

Curious on this one... 
We decided on Leo for our son and are already being asked what his "real name" or "full name" is.  We both discussed and realized we'd never actually call him Leonardo, Leonard or Leopold... so why were we making it longer? 

Whats your reasoning for basing her name on the nn  you want to use?  Is there a reason you don't want to just, name her her nickname?

[clbehenna]

Right there with ya! I chose a name for DS1 fairly easily, and DH went along with it even though I know he didn't love it. Naming DS2 has been SO. HARD. DH likes trendy names like Brayden and Mason. I prefer more timeless names (DS1 is Colin). We can't agree!!!

[jessila]

So we're down to two. This morning H says he wants to figure out the name soon but each of us is set on one of the names. He thinks we should look for more names...uh, I've suggested all the names we've talked about. I asked if I should get a book for us to go through and he said no.
It is hard figuring this out!

[trixi282]

Mar 27, 2015 15:00:47 GMT -5 turtletyme said:

We picked ours before I was pregnant. At this point, I can't imagine having to name another kid though, it was IMPOSSIBLE to agree. I am convinced the Duggars/Bates/other people with a dozen kids don't really even like all of their children's names.

Seriously.

And add to that the stress they've created for themselves by having all of the names (Duggars) start with the letter "J" - I would shoot myself after trying to name the first 3 probably. 

I wonder if they made a seriously conscious decision early on (like while pregnany with baby 1, 2, or even 3) that they would most definitely name all of their children 'J names' no matter how many God blessed them with.  

I can't imagine 20 kids with the same intital... I wonder if all of their middle names are matchy too...

[ktbear]

Naming humans is hard! I get so stressed out about it too. We didn't decide on DS for sure until he was practically born. This ones a girl and neither of one of us still likes our backup girl name in case the u/s was wrong last time. Also, I think girl names are so much harder than boys!

[clbehenna]

Mar 27, 2015 15:13:18 GMT -5 jessila said:

So we're down to two. This morning H says he wants to figure out the name soon but each of us is set on one of the names. He thinks we should look for more names...uh, I've suggested all the names we've talked about. I asked if I should get a book for us to go through and he said no.
It is hard figuring this out!

This made me laugh. It reminds me of conversations with my DH! He shoots down all of my choices, but really has no solution to our problem. This little guy will be named by the nurses!

[mmo2112]

Pre-pregnancy, I absolutely loved thinking about baby names. During pregnancy, TOTALLY different ball game. Honestly, I had no idea how stressful this would be!

Our boy name was set, but we had two favorite girl names when we found out it was a girl in December. We figured we'd be able to pick one of the two within a week or so. NOPE. Still stuck. DH slightly prefers one, I slightly prefer the other. We've tried starting from scratch, and we've gotten nowhere. 

Because it is a gloriously slow day at work, I'm off to stalk the baby name board again... 

[gigi3126]

Mar 27, 2015 13:05:46 GMT -5 islandgirl14 said:

Yes!! We've always had girls names we loved and were ready to use, but alas, we're having another boy. We struggled with DS, but ended up finding one we love fortunately. Now we're struggling with this little boy on the way again...We have one that we both like, and DH actually loves it, but I feel like I want to keep exploring other options, but there is nothing else that is really jumping out at me... sigh...

This is exactly how I feel too! MH hates when I bring up other names now because he's so settled on the one that we have, but I just don't know that I can commit to it.

[Deleted]

We have our name picked out now... But I had a really hard time! My favorite favorite boy name was out because with our last name would have been the name of a famous author, and even though people told us to do it anyway, I couldn't get past it.

We spent a weekend reading through the top 100 names for a decade (pretty entertaining) and narrowed down from there. The name we selected really stuck out to DH, and the more I thought about it the more I loved it. It is a lot of pressure though!

[noeliav]

Let's just call all our unnamed ones "fluffy" or "fido" and call it a day.





No?

[billyhorrible]

We were totally set on names for my first - team green and we had both boy and girl names at the ready.

This time around? Not so much. I feel like the girl name we had picked out is too rhymey with my son's name, so it's out. We do have a couple girl names on the table we vacillate between. But boys? Not a clue. The only name we both like I worry sounds too similar to my son's name. And we can't agree on any other names.

[pghtruelove]

Mar 27, 2015 15:02:23 GMT -5 megd893 said:

Mar 27, 2015 13:16:54 GMT -5 pghtruelove said:

We decided on our girl name based on the nn we wanted to use. Still having a tough time choosing a middle name.

Curious on this one... 
We decided on Leo for our son and are already being asked what his "real name" or "full name" is.  We both discussed and realized we'd never actually call him Leonardo, Leonard or Leopold... so why were we making it longer? 

Whats your reasoning for basing her name on the nn  you want to use?  Is there a reason you don't want to just, name her her nickname?

We are naming her Juliet and calling her Jules. Jules is usually a boys name and I do want her to have a nice pretty girls name. I also would like to give her the option of choosing what she goes by when she is older. Some of the MNs we are thinking abot are other J names so we could call her JJ. I grew up with the name Elizabeth with my parents intending on calling me Liz. They never called me Elizabeth ever. I loved having the option of more than one name. I am really big on NNs.

[tiffbot]

So, I admit we've actually had an easier time this time than with DS. But in the spirit of the conversation when we were still seriously discussing it I brought up a girls name (team green again) once and H immediately vetoed it. Only to come to me 2 weeks later and say 'I thought of a great name today' and proceeded to say what he had quickly shut down. I told him yes I agreed and thought it was a lovely name a couple weeks earlier when I first brought it up! Whatever works, at least we are on the same page now haha.

[honeybunches101]

We have made no progress whatsoever. Boys names were so much easier with DS and we agreed on several this time around before finding out it's a girl. We have basically no overlap at all and really dislike eachothers favorite names. I have had my heart set on Violet and hoped DH would come around, but it doesn't seem like its going to happen. I am getting worried that we seem so far apart, I just keep hoping we'll come across something we both love.

Re: the Duggars, I remember reading somewhere that the first few names were all Js by accident. They had a miscarriage early on and had decided on the name Caleb for him, but by the time the next was born they figured they had to keep the same theme so there wouldn't be one left out. It's not like they planned to have 19 kids, just against birth control and she happens to be insanely fertile. I bet if they knew how many they would end up with they'd have done it differently!