Wham, Bam, Thursday Spam

[misshart00]

dacora That may be reflux. Mine does the same thing.

Happy spam: DS slept 10 hours last night. Unfortunately I stayed up late binge watching a tv show so it didn't matter much. But woo hoo!

[michelle142]

Apr 2, 2015 8:48:57 GMT -5 @nolagal said:

Apr 2, 2015 8:28:35 GMT -5 michelle142 said:

Dd slept for 7.5 glorious hours last night. I feel like a new person!!

Today I'm going to lounge around with dd and enjoy our last day of just the 2 of us before I start working again.

It's supposed to be nice out, so I'm hoping to take a nice long walk.

How is your DD doing? Is the colic getting better?

Things are getting better. Wearing her keeps her happy and white noise keeps her calm, most of the time. She still screams a lot.

Our new battle is trying to get her to take a bottle, which has been a huge challenge.

[michelle142]

Apr 2, 2015 9:54:36 GMT -5 @nolagal said:

Apr 2, 2015 9:49:27 GMT -5 michelle142 said:

Things are getting better. Wearing her keeps her happy and white noise keeps her calm, most of the time. She still screams a lot.

Our new battle is trying to get her to take a bottle, which has been a huge challenge.

it's always something, huh? One challenge down, a gazillion to go!

Pretty much. She's making me nervous because I have to go to the office at least once a week starting next week! I need her to take a bottle!

[ace226]

DS woke me from a dead sleep, screaming like he was in immense pain. I got up, picked him up, and he instantly fell asleep again.
Thanks for the panic attack kid!

[aggiebug]

Pest control dude should be here soon and baby is hungry. Let's hope they are running slow today.

[aggiebug]

older people who try to be hip amuse me.

My sister's MIL (who is also an old family friend longer than I have been alive) thinks TBT stands for tossback Thursday and now I have an older cousin of my dad's who is doing flashback Thursday.

I also love it when they post comments like they are a letter : Dear Aggie, Love Aunt so and so

[Mom2Ms]

Sometimes I don't shower for days.

I'm guaranteed to have either spit-up, pee, poop, blood, or breast milk on me at any given time, usually a combo of those. (Seriously? Stop bleeding)

I've been up since 2. Been thrown/spit up on 4 times now.

DS has really bad baby acne.

DH got orders 5 hours away. FML.

My sweet boy is already 1 month. He's sure cute though, which makes up for all the above except DH orders.

[Mom2Ms]

xoxolicia - I'm so, so sorry for your situation. I can totally relate. I've been doing pretty much everything since day 1. I guess I don't mind doing everything, with a hernia & bad knee, but some serious appreciation and gratitude would be nice from DH. I'm gkad you have people you can reach out to. I hope you feel better soon!

[Mom2Ms]

Apr 2, 2015 8:53:11 GMT -5 @nolagal said:

I've been taking Fenugreek to try and increase my supply and my sweat smells like maple syrup. It's bad. Lol.

Have you noticed an increase? How much more? How long did it take to see increase?

[lilyelayne]

Apr 2, 2015 10:29:12 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Apr 2, 2015 10:25:31 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

older people who try to be hip amuse me.

My sister's MIL (who is also an old family friend longer than I have been alive) thinks TBT stands for tossback Thursday and now I have an older cousin of my dad's who is doing flashback Thursday.

I also love it when they post comments like they are a letter : Dear Aggie, Love Aunt so and so

Oh man my aunt is obsessed with Facebook. She comments on everything and uses ALL CAPS AND TONS OF EXCLAMATION POINTS!!!

I have an aunt like that! She also uses "unnecessary" quotation marks for "emphasis" ... And ... "Random" ellipses. ...

[michelle142]

My mom and mil drive me crazy on Facebook.

[xoxolicia]

Apr 2, 2015 8:14:41 GMT -5 anchovies said:

xoxolicia love tit for levaquin & help from your mom. DH needs a wake up call. Has explained his reasons?

He says he's "overwhelmed" because he has to work then come home to take care of the baby. He doesn't get a "break". He has to be "sharp" for work and the "lack of sleep" is "too much" for him. I had a hard time not laughing in his face. I have to be a parent 24 hours a day. This kid has me at her beck and call. I told him, while he's at his fancy "job" (which is at trader Joe's; probably the coolest place to work), I'm responsible for keeping a tiny human alive. One that can't tell me what she needs, so my whole day is spent guessing and assuming what she needs. There are no breaks for me. He still didn't get it. Its like talking to a brick wall.

[xoxolicia]

Apr 2, 2015 7:39:46 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

xoxolicia don't let your sister and mom bail your H out! Have them pick you up and leave him with the child. Seriously he needs to realize he is a father.

I think I'm going to take your advice. Unfortunately my mom goes to work at The time DH is getting off. My mom is using my car while she gets hers taken care of so we're down to one car here. I'd hate to leave him here with our baby and no transportation. I could go to her house after he gets home. I think I will.

[lilyelayne]

Apr 2, 2015 11:57:31 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

Apr 2, 2015 7:39:46 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

xoxolicia don't let your sister and mom bail your H out! Have them pick you up and leave him with the child. Seriously he needs to realize he is a father.

I think I'm going to take your advice. Unfortunately my mom goes to work at The time DH is getting off. My mom is using my car while she gets hers taken care of so we're down to one car here. I'd hate to leave him here with our baby and no transportation. I could go to her house after he gets home. I think I will.

Sorry your talk with him wasn't productive. I agree with aggiebug 's advice to have your husband keep Leilyn while you go elsewhere. I'm glad you have your mom around for help in any case!

[dacora]

Apr 2, 2015 11:50:13 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

Apr 2, 2015 8:14:41 GMT -5 anchovies said:

xoxolicia love tit for levaquin & help from your mom. DH needs a wake up call. Has explained his reasons?

He says he's "overwhelmed" because he has to work then come home to take care of the baby. He doesn't get a "break". He has to be "sharp" for work and the "lack of sleep" is "too much" for him. I had a hard time not laughing in his face. I have to be a parent 24 hours a day. This kid has me at her beck and call. I told him, while he's at his fancy "job" (which is at trader Joe's; probably the coolest place to work), I'm responsible for keeping a tiny human alive. One that can't tell me what she needs, so my whole day is spent guessing and assuming what she needs. There are no breaks for me. He still didn't get it. Its like talking to a brick wall.

Sounds like he needs a real "come to Jesus" talk. Working retail is not that hard. I get that everyone handles things differently, but unless the man is working a legitimate STRESSFUL job, he doesn't get to be a whiny bitch about having to take care of his child when he's home. It takes two people to make a baby, and two people to take care of said baby.

I don't know your family dynamic or your relationship with your inlaws (or if they are still living, sorry if this is a stupid suggestion), but if he's refusing to listen to you could you get his mother on your side? How does she feel about her son's behavior? If this isn't possible for a variety of reasons, I would second the previous suggestion of counselling. It's a problem in of itself that he won't listen to you, which needs fixing, but in the meantime you need to try to find someone he WILL listen to.

Creepy internet hugs to you, lady. I'm sorry.

[mels823]

dacora, yes. This is every single night It's always either her second to last bottle (5 or 6 pm) or last bottle (9 pm) of the night.. I know she is hungry but she acts like it pains her to eat. I have tried all breastmilk, all formula, different types of formula, half and half, and now 5 different types of bottles It's so frustrating. But then she cries herself to sleep and sleeps for 9 or 10 hours, so I can deal with the screaming I guess. There used to be a ton of spit up too, but that has relaxed a bit. Let me know if you find a solution!!

[lilyelayne]

miniwheat glad your toothache is improving!

babycfeb2015 hope your appointment goes well. Sorry you're dealing with this.

aggiebug Holy Week services are my favorite so I'm also attempting church tonight, tomorrow, and Sunday. Good luck!

dreemkin hope your house sells quickly!

mels823 enjoy your last week of leave!

missys DS's eyes started grey and are now blue, they really turned blue around 3wk. I'm interested to see if they stay because they are dead on the color my eyes were until college, when mine got more hazel or green.

dacora glad you & H are getting to go to bed together. As far as being hungry & fighting the boob, if it's not gas sometimes he just wants to nurse in a different position.

[aggiebug]

lilyelayne Easter is quickly becoming my favorite holiday. I acknowledge that may change with kids as there is something special about kids and the wonder of Christmas, but I love the beauty and the meaning of the entire Lenten season especially Holy week. Of course DD is extra fussy today.

[mamabutt2]

Sending happy thoughts your way xoxolicia and sending dick punches to you H. I've had to flip out on my H a few times before he realized I'm a much happier human being if I get a break every once in a while. My anxiety peaks after a super stressful day with LO, so now when I tell him how my day was, if it was rough, he'll take LO and let me do whatever for at least 30 minutes or an hour. It took about 7 weeks for him to get this, so I hope your H comes around. Maybe he's just unsure how to help or what to do with LO?

My spam for the day: LO slept AMAZINGLY last night. Slept a solid 4 hours in his bassinet last night. We both fell asleep nursing though (oops) so I didn't get to try and put him back. I'm feeling confident about our progress with getting him out of DH and I's bed though

Later this afternoon I'm going over to my friend's house to meet her new little squish and to give her a break from her 4 year old and the new baby. If her H is there I may kick them out of the house so they can regroup and maybe grab a bite to eat or something in peace lol

[cginge]

xoxolicia, Sorry. I hope you get a break and start feeling better and that your H starts acting like a partner. This newborn stuff is super tough, but if he can't handle 4 hours in one day how can he expect you to do it 24/7, especially while sick?

[aggiebug]

xoxolicia make it happen! Take a taxi I don't care. I am all for communication and acknowledging the spouses need for a break and rest etc. But when you have an infant and a spouse with pneumonia man up and take care of your family. We all have hard days, weeks heck maybe even difficult months but sometimes you just got to acknowledge your responsibility and deal with it. Once you are feeling better I propose you discuss a plan on how to help each other. Including set times / expectations from one another. Stop focusing on the now and how he isn't helping you at this instant, but discuss a plan for both of you

[cginge]

Weird. I realized we may have a schedule of sorts (though I know it will probably change as soon as I post this). So far this week, we've followed this almost down to the minute at night (without any effort on my part):
Bed between 9- 9:30 PM
Wake up 1:30, nurse, back in RNP at 2:30-ish
Wake up 5:00, nurse, back in RNP at 5:30
Up for the day at 7:00

I am cool with this.

[michelle142]

After 2 weeks, I finally got DD to nap in her crib, laying flat and unswaddled! She's been in there for 35 minutes now, woke herself up once but fell back asleep - I'll call that a WIN!!

All thanks to the white noise app.

[mels823]

Apr 2, 2015 13:00:09 GMT -5 michelle142 said:

After 2 weeks, I finally got DD to nap in her crib, laying flat and unswaddled! She's been in there for 35 minutes now, woke herself up once but fell back asleep - I'll call that a WIN!!

All thanks to the white noise app.

I love our white noise machine! It helps lo sleep so well and when I nap I need it on too now!

[ace226]

Apr 2, 2015 11:50:13 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

Apr 2, 2015 8:14:41 GMT -5 anchovies said:

xoxolicia love tit for levaquin & help from your mom. DH needs a wake up call. Has explained his reasons?

He says he's "overwhelmed" because he has to work then come home to take care of the baby. He doesn't get a "break". He has to be "sharp" for work and the "lack of sleep" is "too much" for him. I had a hard time not laughing in his face. I have to be a parent 24 hours a day. This kid has me at her beck and call. I told him, while he's at his fancy "job" (which is at trader Joe's; probably the coolest place to work), I'm responsible for keeping a tiny human alive. One that can't tell me what she needs, so my whole day is spent guessing and assuming what she needs. There are no breaks for me. He still didn't get it. Its like talking to a brick wall.

Oh my gosh. He's being such a baby, as someone who used to work at Trader Joes. I do my best to let DH sleep on his weeks on, since he works 12 hour days in law enforcement, but he still helps!
I have no advice just, solidarity sister, and punch him if you need to.

[mishka29]

xoxolicia, your dh is fully deserving of a PIP (punch in penis)

The whole who has it harder is a common argument that I think most people have once a baby is involved. The thing is you can't compare, there are hard parts and easy parts both at home and work. This is the conclusion you two will eventually arrive at. However, before you get there you will have to fight it out so that he understands why your day is hard bc I think it can be hard for them to realize if they don't stay home.

You had some good points to throw in his face...I mean point out. Your job is 24 hours, no you can't nap when baby bc you have to do laundry or make dinner, your boss is a loud crier, everyone wants a break and 'me' time so get in line.

[cginge]

On the subject of stressful jobs, I would like to once again express my admiration for the mama's taking care of LO's while they also have other children they are responsible for as well. This is tough enough with just one.

I now understand why my mom is a basket case at times-- she raised nine kids and I'm pretty sure you don't recover from that level of sleep-deprivation.

[cloe111479]

After a crappy week of trials etc... The case i went to court for this morning settled before lunch. I was able to come back and pump before lunch.

Tomorrow we are both off and have NO plans. It is wonderful. I may take a bath, and sleep in aka not leave the bed just bring little bit to me til at least 10.

[cougarette]

We've had a pretty good day today. DS was a little fussy for a bit this morning, but after he got in the swing he was happy as a clam and napped for a while.

[cougarette]

DH said we definitely need our own white noise machine after we move DS to the crib. Hmm, now that I think about it, I have a blue tooth speaker. I need to download a white noise app!