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Jan 20, 2015 15:56:19 GMT -5 notthefather said:

I went back to the Trying to Get Pregnant board last year but stepped away when my husband decided to put having a second child on indefinite hold.

Sorry, but all I got from your post was this. He decided that for you?  Please say there is some backstory nobody knows.

[Mags748]

Jan 20, 2015 16:00:17 GMT -5 @armywife1318 said:

Jan 20, 2015 15:56:19 GMT -5 notthefather said:

I went back to the Trying to Get Pregnant board last year but stepped away when my husband decided to put having a second child on indefinite hold.

Sorry, but all I got from your post was this. He decided that for you?  Please say there is some backstory nobody knows.

Welcome @nottthefather

And I dont see anything wrong with your husband wanting to put a second on hold. Its always said around here that if one of you doesn't want more babies, you don't get more babies until you are both on board. There are lots of women here who would have more if their husbands agreed to it and also the other way around.

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Jan 20, 2015 16:05:39 GMT -5 notthefather said:

We discussed it quite a bit and although I'm ready, he's not, and if we're both not on board it's not an option at the moment. Poor choice of words on my part!

I figured that was the case, he was just the one that was opposed to it. The wording had me ready to kick him in the shins for you.

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Jan 20, 2015 16:11:02 GMT -5 Mags748 said:

Jan 20, 2015 16:00:17 GMT -5 @armywife1318 said:

Sorry, but all I got from your post was this. He decided that for you?  Please say there is some backstory nobody knows.

Welcome @nottthefather

And I dont see anything wrong with your husband wanting to put a second on hold. Its always said around here that if one of you doesn't want more babies, you don't get more babies until you are both on board. There are lots of women here who would have more if their husbands agreed to it and also the other way around.

Having quoting issues. There is nothing wrong with her husband not wanting children and them making the decision TOGETHER to not have children until they're both ready. Last I checked this isn't 1941 and your husband doesn't make that decision for you. OP did clarify they discussed it but her first post read like he made the decision and that was that.

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Jan 20, 2015 16:19:17 GMT -5 notthefather said:

Jan 20, 2015 16:15:14 GMT -5 @armywife1318 said:

But that is a decision you make TOGETHER as a couple. Last I checked this isn't 1941.

You're reading too much into my word choice. The decision is simple though. I would never purposely have a child with someone who isn't ready for one. That wouldn't be fair to me, him, our daughter, or the new child.

That was meant for Mags748 . The quoting buttons here are going to take some getting used to.

[bearfootz]

Jan 20, 2015 16:19:29 GMT -5 @armywife1318 said:

Jan 20, 2015 16:11:02 GMT -5 Mags748 said:

Welcome @nottthefather

And I dont see anything wrong with your husband wanting to put a second on hold. Its always said around here that if one of you doesn't want more babies, you don't get more babies until you are both on board. There are lots of women here who would have more if their husbands agreed to it and also the other way around.

Having quoting issues. There is nothing wrong with her husband not wanting children and them making the decision TOGETHER to not have children until they're both ready. Last I checked this isn't 1941 and your husband doesn't make that decision for you. OP did clarify they discussed it but her first post read like he made the decision and that was that.

Well, actually, I think if one partner decides they are not ready for another child then that's that - I think that's how it works, otherwise she'd kind of be going behind his back and getting pregnant and that would be a mess, which she recognizes.  I mean, it's not like he's having her sterilized or anything, it's just on hold.  Whatever, not my business.

Anyhow, welcome to the board notthefather

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Jan 20, 2015 16:25:07 GMT -5 bearfootz said:

Jan 20, 2015 16:19:29 GMT -5 @armywife1318 said:

Having quoting issues. There is nothing wrong with her husband not wanting children and them making the decision TOGETHER to not have children until they're both ready. Last I checked this isn't 1941 and your husband doesn't make that decision for you. OP did clarify they discussed it but her first post read like he made the decision and that was that.

Well, actually, I think if one partner decides they are not ready for another child then that's that - I think that's how it works, otherwise she'd kind of be going behind his back and getting pregnant and that would be a mess, which she recognizes.  I mean, it's not like he's having her sterilized or anything, it's just on hold.  Whatever, not my business.

Anyhow, welcome to the board notthefather

This. I got what you were saying notthefather . We are in the same boat. I am the one done though and my husband isn't sure. I think you both have to be 100% on board. I'm a newbie too so welcome from one noob to another!

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Welcome.

I agree that both partners need to be on the sane page about having more kids. I do hope your H changes his mind in the near future if you want a second though.

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Jan 20, 2015 20:32:26 GMT -5 @kaybee203 said:

Hi! I also have a toddler who hates sleep!

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Jan 20, 2015 20:52:15 GMT -5 ceebug said:

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Jan 20, 2015 23:15:32 GMT -5 Emmentaler said:

Jan 20, 2015 20:52:15 GMT -5 ceebug said:

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You got your member!!!! Yah- and jealous ;-)

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