Post by origamimommy on Apr 3, 2015 9:52:47 GMT -5
mrsrek10 as THAT mom at Tylers daycare, DOOO ITT!!!!! The teachers love that I'm so involved, and it's cool to see what they're up to. Another FC? I still call daycare every day to see how his day is, and his teachers expect it. If I have a super busy day and don't call around lunch, they usually text me how he's doing. I'm the opposite of the kind of mom I thought I would be, but I've embraced it.
But my FC is actually shit I want to bring up. Be respectful of people's time. I hate more than anything people being late. I made play date plans with someone for 10:20. She just left her house at 10:20 and needs to stop by the store. What the fuck? My kid needs a nap, which I already said, so now I have to keep him up. Just so rude
wtf? at the very lesat she can go to the store after the play date
I cringed when I read the one kid comment because I knew it would be hurtful to several women here. I don't want to say any more because I'm just not in the mood for dramz.
Post by bantyrooster on Apr 3, 2015 10:15:24 GMT -5
I have another. I am judging a coworker. She is also a nurse so IMO should know better. She has told us this more than once, like she is justifying it. She has started smoking again postpartum, okay whatever. BUT she did research and learned smoke is out of your bm 90 minutes after you smoke. So she has decided to start smoking in her car again. Her kid is at least not in it but her car seat is. So she justifies smoking in her car so the smoke will be out of her bm when she gets home. I just want to slap her and say or just smoke outside before you leave so its not soaking up in the car! Dumbass. I lost respect for her.
A friend of ours has a 1 year old and I suggested to him to take his son to the Easter Egg hunt tomorrow morning in our town. He said he wasn't going to because he isn't keen on taking him in that big of crowds yet.
Post by aylafsu1881 on Apr 3, 2015 10:15:39 GMT -5
mrsrek10, You should offer to help at DC. I am sure his teachers will appreciate it. Our teachers love when parents help with the parties and egg hunts. It makes it easier on them.
origamimommy, I feel you on the fact that having sibling does not mean you are close to them. I have a brother and we do not speak. He has done some pretty crappy stuff and has some serious issues. I refuse to be around him or have my child around him. We have not spoken in years but before that we had a crappy relationship. Most times I feel like an only child and you know what, I am OK with that. I have friends, I have my IL's, I have activities that fill my time. Yes, some families may be close but just having a sibiling does not ensure that closeness.
I have another. I am judging a coworker. She is also a nurse so IMO should know better. She has told us this more than once, like she is justifying it. She has started smoking again postpartum, okay whatever. BUT she did research and learned smoke is out of your bm 90 minutes after you smoke. So she has decided to start smoking in her car again. Her kid is at least not in it but her car seat is. So she justifies smoking in her car so the smoke will be out of her bm when she gets home. I just want to slap her and say or just smoke outside before you leave so its not soaking up in the car! Dumbass. I lost respect for her.
My H has a younger sister and she is a total eff-up. So much so that was his main reason for not wanting to have a #2 for so long. He didn't want to run the risk of having a child that is such a mess. The don't even talk anymore and we don't even know where she is. Everyone has their own reasonings behind it.
But my FC is actually shit I want to bring up. Be respectful of people's time. I hate more than anything people being late. I made play date plans with someone for 10:20. She just left her house at 10:20 and needs to stop by the store. What the fuck? My kid needs a nap, which I already said, so now I have to keep him up. Just so rude.
Was your play date with my sister?
She is just like that. Or she'll be at a place and ask if I want to meet up. Well by the time I get the kids ready, food packed for shane and in the car she is ready to leave. I always tell her I need more notice but she just doesn't think that way.
On the flip side if my store opens at 9 and I'm opening the gate at 8:58 or even 9 on the dot no one shod comment on "cutting it close" I don't get paid for any minutes before 9 am I usually come in early to make my life easier but if I don't make it in until my scheduled start time you can't comment. Even if I get there before 8 I won't ring you out until 9.
Post by aimeefarrahfowler on Apr 3, 2015 10:19:13 GMT -5
bantyrooster ew, that's so bad. or she could just not smoke. I don't get not smoking for 9+ months and then picking it back up again?
What do I know though, my mom hasn't smoked since her breast cancer surgery and says she is still struggling with it and is tempted all the time and I just want to shout "YOU HAD CANCER, STOP SMOKING FOREVER DUMBASS"
Post by bantyrooster on Apr 3, 2015 10:24:34 GMT -5
Ya I totally get it aimeefarrahfowler I smoked for years before kids. I also struggle when I am around it. I had some at a wedding between the kids, Gage was even weaned. As shitty as it sounds I love my kids more than my want to smoke and feel like obviously she doesn't. That is a hardcore judgement but that's how I feel. Being a former smoker its not like I don't have the same urges.
Post by somethingcleverer on Apr 3, 2015 10:25:58 GMT -5
Smoking at all while breastfeeding is unacceptable to me. It's not like the nicotine has completely disappeared from her system after 90 minutes. Plus the third hand smoke on her clothes... Don't get me started...
Jimmy Johns brought mini sandwhiches to our office today and there was 1 veggie left, but I took ham instead.... It's not only Friday, but it's Good Friday. I'm such a bad Christian.
bantyrooster ew, that's so bad. or she could just not smoke. I don't get not smoking for 9+ months and then picking it back up again?
What do I know though, my mom hasn't smoked since her breast cancer surgery and says she is still struggling with it and is tempted all the time and I just want to shout "YOU HAD CANCER, STOP SMOKING FOREVER DUMBASS"
it's so sad how addictive those things are.
1st bantyrooster, I totally judge her too! Especially because her car still smells like shit, even if it's "not in her BM by the time she gets to daycare".
My mom has smoked my entire life (even while pregnant, ugh) and it drives me insane. She had breast cancer when I was a kid and yet never quit... she has tried multiple times and yet never gets past a few weeks. I have told her multiple times how proud I am of her when she's stopped, but the minute I stop praising her or asking about it she just keeps doing it. I can't be her cheerleader 24/7 - it's ridiculous.
When she came out to help us move, I made a comment that if J was going to be at her hosue a lot she had to stop smoking in the house, and she totally got butt-hurt about it. I told her not to take it personally, but that J (and H and I) has not been around that in her life and is not used to it. Nor is it something I want her to be around. She really is trying and has stopped smoking in the house, and has cut back, but hasn't quit entirely. I hate bringing it up now (even for encouragement) because I feel like I shouldn't have to...
She's about to have a grandchild that will have a reduced lung capacity, if this doesn't get her to stop, I'm going to really side-eye my own mom, hard core. My sister has stopped and I'm so proud of her, so my mom no longer has the excuse that it's hard when she's around them.
PS - I love how FC turned into judging and ranting... haha.
Also, origamimommy, I'd be pissed too. I know it's sometimes hard to get out the door on time to things, but to leave when you're supposed to be somewhere and still have to stop at the store? That's someone who just didn't pay attention at all, not even the slightest, or is just extremely rude.... or both.
I was irrationally sad this morning when I realized that I wouldn't be able to go to target by myself or at all for that matter to get things for p's easter basket. I can send my husband but he won't get anything extra or that he deems unnecessary. I'm very close to calling my mom and having her push me in my wheelchair so I can go. How silly is it that I want to do this and can't seem to let it go? I cried all through my shower this morning, (and by shower, I mean sitting on my bath chair and hosing off with the shower head). This leg thing just gets to me sometimes and I don't handle it well.
Post by somethingcleverer on Apr 3, 2015 11:58:56 GMT -5
Even though I said I wasn't going to go crazy buying Easter presents for the kids I've gone overboard on their baskets. It's just too much fun getting them little things!
Jimmy Johns brought mini sandwhiches to our office today and there was 1 veggie left, but I took ham instead.... It's not only Friday, but it's Good Friday. I'm such a bad Christian.
I think you are absolved (is that the right word?) if you are pregnant or breastfeeding. At least Catholics are, I think that's why I breastfed the kids so long.
Post by mightythorgi on Apr 3, 2015 12:01:49 GMT -5
I am not signing up for anything other than bringing in a craft or snack for parties next year.
I thought that as a SAHM I was somehow obligated to sign up for ALL THE THINGS this year.
It has been nothing short of ridiculous. For example, there is a teacher birthday coming up, we just went through this a few months ago for the other teacher, and we had the kids put their hand-prints on a tote bag and they brought in home-made cards. Cute and sweet, right?!
I have received emails about bringing in ALL THE TREATS AND CHOCOLATES AND FLOWERS AND BURNT OFFERINGS, ZOMG!!!111!!!!!11111!!1!111!
I've simply responded with what amounts to "You do you."
I mean, I contributed a healthy sum to the Christmas gifts and I plan on doing the same for the end of year gifts. I certainly appreciate them but the other parents turn every opportunity into a Hunger Games level of competition. For what, I am perplexed.
I was irrationally sad this morning when I realized that I wouldn't be able to go to target by myself or at all for that matter to get things for p's easter basket. I can send my husband but he won't get anything extra or that he deems unnecessary. I'm very close to calling my mom and having her push me in my wheelchair so I can go. How silly is it that I want to do this and can't seem to let it go? I cried all through my shower this morning, (and by shower, I mean sitting on my bath chair and hosing off with the shower head). This leg thing just gets to me sometimes and I don't handle it well.
You should go! I bet your mom would be happy to help you. My Target has the motorized scooter things too. Can you drive yourself?
I haven't been a very supportive wife. DH applied for a new job and I was kind of hoping he wouldn't get it. It would mean we wouldn't be able to carpool, and he'd have to leave super early to avoid a 2 hour commute or else pay $12 in tolls per day (snd still drive an hour).He currently gets the kids ready every morning and it's a huge help. Ugh I know I'm just being selfish but change sucks. He's already had a phone interview (with a previous coworker friend) so I think chances are high he will get an offer. We will know within two weeks. I'm feeling better about it now. Its a great opportunity for him and he's just so excited and ready for a new start.
Even though I said I wasn't going to go crazy buying Easter presents for the kids I've gone overboard on their baskets. It's just too much fun getting them little things!
Me too! Especially tracking down those darn Big Hero 6 action figures. We've been to several Targets and still can't find the "yellow" one for Emma. Amazon has them but they jacked up the price.
I was irrationally sad this morning when I realized that I wouldn't be able to go to target by myself or at all for that matter to get things for p's easter basket. I can send my husband but he won't get anything extra or that he deems unnecessary. I'm very close to calling my mom and having her push me in my wheelchair so I can go. How silly is it that I want to do this and can't seem to let it go? I cried all through my shower this morning, (and by shower, I mean sitting on my bath chair and hosing off with the shower head). This leg thing just gets to me sometimes and I don't handle it well.
You should go! I bet your mom would be happy to help you. My Target has the motorized scooter things too. Can you drive yourself?
I can drive myself since it is my left leg but I think H is gone tomorrow so I will have P. If I do then I have to stay home because I can't take him with me anywhere, it just isn't safe since I can't chase or carry him. Hopefully my mom can go with me. I'm just tired of not being able to do anything by myself or the "normal" things I should be able to do. Sorry, pity party over.
I was irrationally sad this morning when I realized that I wouldn't be able to go to target by myself or at all for that matter to get things for p's easter basket. I can send my husband but he won't get anything extra or that he deems unnecessary. I'm very close to calling my mom and having her push me in my wheelchair so I can go. How silly is it that I want to do this and can't seem to let it go? I cried all through my shower this morning, (and by shower, I mean sitting on my bath chair and hosing off with the shower head). This leg thing just gets to me sometimes and I don't handle it well.
Oh. Can your h drop you at the door? You could use the scooter. Also I'm sorry I didn't see this before I posted about Easter.
I was irrationally sad this morning when I realized that I wouldn't be able to go to target by myself or at all for that matter to get things for p's easter basket. I can send my husband but he won't get anything extra or that he deems unnecessary. I'm very close to calling my mom and having her push me in my wheelchair so I can go. How silly is it that I want to do this and can't seem to let it go? I cried all through my shower this morning, (and by shower, I mean sitting on my bath chair and hosing off with the shower head). This leg thing just gets to me sometimes and I don't handle it well.
Oh. Can your h drop you at the door? You could use the scooter. Also I'm sorry I didn't see this before I posted about Easter.
No worries. I might try the scooter thing. I'm sure ours has them too.
With all the talk about smoking, my FC is that I get pissed off when people talk about "smoker's rights" and complain about having to stand a certain number of feet away from a building to smoke, and that they have to stand in the rain and the cold and blah blah blah. You don't want to stand in the cold? THEN STOP SMOKING. Having an addiction is a terrible situation but I don't think it affords you special rights in public places. Society doesn't make space for drug addicts to be a little bit high or for alcoholics to drink just a little, so why should any building or company have to spend extra money because you'd like to be warm and cozy while you smoke? I have literally no fucks to give about you and your nasty cancer sticks.
About the whole only child thing...I am an only child. I am not lonely or maladjusted and I have never, ever thought my parents were selfish in their choices. Will it be devastating when I lose my parents? Of course. But I honestly don't believe having a brother or sister would at all ease my pain, because a sibling =/= a parent.
I could just as easily argue that I believe people who have large families of 4, 5, 6 children are being incredibly selfish, because they're having those children because they want the children and not because their kids want another sibling. Every child you have spreads your time and resources thinner than before.
Except I wouldn't ever argue that, because it's none of my business how many kids you want to have. Or don't want to have. Because being childless by choice doesn't mean you're not a family, and it's an equally valid decision to have 0 children as it is to have 6.
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