How often do you and SO have sex?

[boogerbear]

We used to average 3x a week, ah life pre-kids. Even after lo1 we aimed for 1x week minimum. Two kids broke me, I'm just damn tired. And stressed. And if I'm being totally honest, irritated with h about his laziness that was less apparent when he worked nights.

[mevaroo]

Ummm... Not often. Maybe once a month? Lol. We've both been so tired lately that it's just not been a priority for either of us.

[rachaelmary]

Not very often . Maybe once or twice a month.

I'm glad you posted this. I was thinking recently how sad our sex life is.

Weird and personally question ahead...what do you guys do for foreplay?? I think we are in a rut and do the same routine every single time.

[homebrewgirl]

We aim for 3 times a week (perverts).

But also looking for other people's answers to @rachelmary 's question ...because pervert.

[iwubrory]

Right now it's been minimum 3 times a week with the exception of last week when we were both off. Then we only managed once which makes no sense.

I'm really making an effort to make sure DH gets an amount he's happy with because he deserves it and it makes him really really happy/content with life.

[MissDemeanor]

Apr 3, 2015 21:35:32 GMT -5 rachaelmary said:

Not very often . Maybe once or twice a month.

I'm glad you posted this. I was thinking recently how sad our sex life is.

Weird and personally question ahead...what do you guys do for foreplay?? I think we are in a rut and do the same routine every single time.

wait... You get foreplay? If I ever hot anything beyond 'take off your pants" I'd probably be willing to do it more often.

But I'm rarely in the mood anymore, but I'm not willing to have duty sex either.

[bepandnick]

I said a handful of times a month. That seemed like a good average.

[wildflowers]

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[iwubrory]

Apr 4, 2015 0:41:05 GMT -5 @thatgolfbitch said:

I do have to say, sex has been better post baby, overall.

Sex got much more comfortable after my first baby. I've never had a high drive but it's been so much stronger since we do it much more regularly now. Those two things combined make me enjoy it and want it so much more. I thought it would be a real chore to try and step up my game to meet DH's needs but it's been the opposite.

[laur]

Probably 3x a week. Depends on H's work schedule and whether E goes down easily.

Say he works every other night we probably do it every night he is home less a night I pass out while he is groping me.

Honestly you can tell when he hasn't been laid in a while cause he is on edge. Once he gets some he's much nicer and I can get him to do anything.

[utpony]

Rarely. And we're in the middle of a stress induced dry spell. Shoot me.

[djtippietoes]

Around once a week.

[starfisher]

Handful of times a month. Usually try to get once in on the weekends but it doesn't always happen.

Unfortunately we are in a pretty rough patch right now marriage-wise so I'm sure that's contributing to it.

[bluedot]

Apr 4, 2015 0:41:05 GMT -5 @thatgolfbitch said:

I do have to say, sex has been better post baby, overall.

Yes yes it has!

[ramfan05]

I said a handful of times/month, but before last month, it had been awhile. And really, the only sex we've had lately involves him waking me up for it, which just makes me annoyed the next morning that I missed sleep for it.

[sjelwood]

I'd say we average about 6 times a month, so 1-2x a week. DH gets really crabby if we go more than a week without something, and even though I don't need it that often, it's just easier and a more pleasant life if I try to keep up. Sex is pretty much the only thing we ever argue about, but it's a recurring event.

[lovebug]

Can I just say, I am jealous of those who do it 2+ times a week lol. DH took vacation this past week, and I got excited that we would get to make up for the lack of it in the past 2 years. It only happened once! Anyways, we are in the handful of times a month, we're lucky if that's more than 3

[marajadeskywalker]

Not as much as I'd like. .. maybe a few times/month. It comes down to sex or sleep and sleep usually wins

[5ofthem2ofus]

ALOT- I'm not going to get all 50shades of Hollywood- but with DD on second shift and majority of our kids in school we probably do afternoon nooky 5x a week (the littles still nap a good 1.5-3 hours so what else is there to do right?! plus usually the 2 of the 3 weekend nights- my husband is hot to me I can't help it!

[elissamarie]

We are another in a few times a month club. It's a combo of stress, being annoyed with the other, not going to bed at the same time, etc

[vshumway]

I voted 3-4 times a week, but really it could be more lately. Sex has been amazing; so while I am enjoying it so much, it is happening as much as possible. I usually don't have a drive, but it is here now. So the last few months, has probably been 5-7 times a week. Hence the reason why there is another one on the way

[iwubrory]

Apr 4, 2015 9:24:17 GMT -5 sjelwood said:

I'd say we average about 6 times a month, so 1-2x a week. DH gets really crabby if we go more than a week without something, and even though I don't need it that often, it's just easier and a more pleasant life if I try to keep up. Sex is pretty much the only thing we ever argue about, but it's a recurring event.

Same with us, it was pretty much the only thing we argued about. It took me many years to realize just how important sex is to him not only physically but emotionally as well. He doesn't get that my much lower drive has nothing to do with him, so it made him feel bad about himself like I didn't want him/wasn't attracted to him. Understanding this is what led me to making sure I meet that need for him.

[mosaicmoscato]

We just recently kicked it up a notch (4 times a week) before it was like 1 time a week. I blame my crazy baby fever.

[5ofthem2ofus]

It won't let me officially vote?!

[ciaomama]

Not often enough...my sex drive is out of control. It was actually worse when I was pregnant, which I didn't know was possible.

[katybriggs]

I can't vote either. Stupid mobile.

We aim for 3x per week too.

Fun fact, we had our 4 year do-it-versary this week. Ha! I remember the most useless stuff!

[hammysmommy]

Our dry spell is going on 6 months, and a grand total of 3x since LO was born. Sleep wins. I'm not spontaneous. We don't go to bed at the same time. And I don't feel attractive.

Dh's idea of foreplay is sticking my hand down his pants or his down mine. In other words, none.

[5ofthem2ofus]

Apr 4, 2015 13:15:49 GMT -5 megash113 said:

Apr 4, 2015 11:38:29 GMT -5 5ofthem2ofus said:

It won't let me officially vote?!

Because your answer is too outrageous to count.

Haters gon' hate!

My dad always told me once you find something you're good at it stick with it! Lmfao I'm sure he NEVER meant for it to be implied about this!

[tenniscourt]

I'd say we average 1-2/week but we definitely go through periods with either a lot more or a lot less. It just depends.

[suzyqq02]

It took awhile after DD arrived (we did other stuff but actual sex took months). When things are normal, a handful of times a month, usually 1ish time time a week when AF isn't around.

I've been on pelvic rest for almost 4 weeks, so obviously nothing lately... poor H.