Its just the term for it, to me. I say that my brother used to be a 'meth head' and he uses it like that too. It's not meant to be horrible, it's just kind of what it is to me. I'm sorry I worded it wrong.
People are not meth heads. They have an addiction. I feel like this is common sense...you are not your disorder/addiction, etc. People aren't bipolar. They HAVE bipolar.
So you're going to be an emotional wreck, unable to see baby items/pregnancy announcements for YEARS while he finishes school? Does he know you're this emotional TTA? Sounds like he decided y'all are TTA, not that you guys decided on it together. You're in for a long, hard road.
Unfortunately TTC is not a choice you can compromise on. You either do or don't. I finished school and he deserves that right, too. I don't know how else to approach this situation.
So you're going to be an emotional wreck, unable to see baby items/pregnancy announcements for YEARS while he finishes school? Does he know you're this emotional TTA? Sounds like he decided y'all are TTA, not that you guys decided on it together. You're in for a long, hard road.
Unfortunately TTC is not a choice you can compromise on. You either do or don't. I finished school and he deserves that right, too. I don't know how else to approach this situation.
I'll add to why this post was so harshly judged (as it should be). My little brother who I love with all my heart and soul who is an amazing person inside and out is currently in California in rehab because he is a recovering, how you would put it, "meth head". Addiction is real. It's painful not just for the family and friends of the addict, but for the addict themselves. It's a terrible thing that I wouldn't wish on anyone. He is trying so hard to get his life together and needs all the support he can get. If I knew a friend of his was referring to him as some "meth head", I would break my foot off in their ass. Just saying. It's a very derogatory statement. He's a human, and a damn good one who happened to get involved with the wrong shit. And every friend of his will tell you the same thing. Just watch how you word things in the future.
Its just the term for it, to me. I say that my brother used to be a 'meth head' and he uses it like that too. It's not meant to be horrible, it's just kind of what it is to me. I'm sorry I worded it wrong.
I can guarantee that your brother does not like referring to himself as a meth head. I am thinking he refers to himself as that because others around him are calling him that.
So you're going to be an emotional wreck, unable to see baby items/pregnancy announcements for YEARS while he finishes school? Does he know you're this emotional TTA? Sounds like he decided y'all are TTA, not that you guys decided on it together. You're in for a long, hard road.
Unfortunately TTC is not a choice you can compromise on. You either do or don't. I finished school and he deserves that right, too. I don't know how else to approach this situation.
Marriage counseling...I highly recommend. If you're this emotional at this point, it will get worse as time goes by. You could grow to resent him, especially if when you do start trying it takes a long time or you have IF issues.
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My SIL got married over the weekend and her new in-laws did so many side-eyable things! Example: the mother wore sweatpants and a tie-dye t-shirt to the reception. Who does that?
Yeah that's what I will do. It just frustrates me and feels very inconsiderate and gift grabby.
Umm, most baby things are expensive. You could buy some bottles or pacifiers, a bottle brush.
Just because someone registers for something, doesn't mean they expect everyone to buy it for them. It's just things they need. Also, most stores give a discount for those people when they want to finish buying the things on the registry for after their showers and stuff.
It's not gift grabby.
Agreed. I registered for a lot of things on our wedding registry that I don't expect people to buy for us, like luggage and china, because we get a 10% discount on everything that is leftover after the wedding.
Unfortunately TTC is not a choice you can compromise on. You either do or don't. I finished school and he deserves that right, too. I don't know how else to approach this situation.
Marriage counseling...I highly recommend. If you're this emotional at this point, it will get worse as time goes by. You could grow to resent him, especially if when you do start trying it takes a long time or you have IF issues.
Thank you so much for your advice. I will look into that.
My SIL got married over the weekend and her new in-laws did so many side-eyable things! Example: the mother wore sweatpants and a tie-dye t-shirt to the reception. Who does that?
SOmeone who doesn't want the wedding to happen. That's Passive Aggressive MIL 101
This made me laugh. My Passive Aggressive MIL to-be sent our wedding invitation back unopened this weekend. This from the woman who was truly my BFF just 6 short months ago. I guess that means you don't want to come to the wedding??
Sounds like there's a whole club of them...PAMILs!
Post by teenybenoit on Apr 6, 2015 16:58:54 GMT -5
Super tired today, woke up at midnight with THE worst indigestion. Took a Nexium and lay on the couch in agony until it was time to go to work. Need some sleep, no gym for me tonight.
Post by ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ on Apr 6, 2015 16:59:20 GMT -5
LOVING "hoppo."
Here's some bitching for you: I have been on hold on the phone with MLB.com because their online sign-up system for MLB.tv is absolute shit. SHIT. Fix your fucking system, you twats!!
The first person I spoke with asked if I would try using IE instead of Chrome. Whut? Sure, fine. Did it work? Fucking no. I'm pissed.
If people purchase things on a registry does it stay on the list or get removed/hid? If I buy one item on the registry and someone then goes to the store and prints/views the registry - is that item on there?
Going back to the registry talk 5 pages ago - perhaps there WAS inexpensive items on there and they were purchased already.
Most of the places I've seen will take it off when it's fulfilled. So yea, it's entirely possible that all the inexpensive stuff was already purchased.
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If people purchase things on a registry does it stay on the list or get removed/hid? If I buy one item on the registry and someone then goes to the store and prints/views the registry - is that item on there?
Going back to the registry talk 5 pages ago - perhaps there WAS inexpensive items on there and they were purchased already.
Good point. It was target I looked at so if anyone knows.
This made me laugh. My Passive Aggressive MIL to-be sent our wedding invitation back unopened this weekend. This from the woman who was truly my BFF just 6 short months ago. I guess that means you don't want to come to the wedding??
Sounds like there's a whole club of them...PAMILs!
Your future MIL sent back the wedding invitation? How does your future H feel about this?
I haven't told him yet. I'm afraid it will break his heart. I want to reach out to her first and I'm really hoping she did it by mistake.
She's been acting really funny these past few months. She's quite a bit older than my parents (she is my grandma's age), so I don't know if she's having some health issues or something, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. It's a long shot, but maybe she did it by accident and isn't actually trying to be passive aggressive.
Your future MIL sent back the wedding invitation? How does your future H feel about this?
I haven't told him yet. I'm afraid it will break his heart. I want to reach out to her first and I'm really hoping she did it by mistake.
She's been acting really funny these past few months. She's quite a bit older than my parents (she is my grandma's age), so I don't know if she's having some health issues or something, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. It's a long shot, but maybe she did it by accident and isn't actually trying to be passive aggressive.
Are you sure the address wasn't written wrong? I had that happen with my aunt. It was the difference of one number.
I haven't told him yet. I'm afraid it will break his heart. I want to reach out to her first and I'm really hoping she did it by mistake.
She's been acting really funny these past few months. She's quite a bit older than my parents (she is my grandma's age), so I don't know if she's having some health issues or something, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. It's a long shot, but maybe she did it by accident and isn't actually trying to be passive aggressive.
Are you sure the address wasn't written wrong? I had that happen with my aunt. It was the difference of one number.
Unfortunately of that I am sure. She had her husband (my future FIL, who is wonderful) hand-deliver it back to our house. He said "It's our RSVP! [MIL] asked me to give it to you." He was all cheery and clearly didn't understand that what he was bringing back was the unopened invitation that was addressed to them. When I explained to him that she didn't even open it, he seemed really embarrassed and said "Oh, it must have been a mistake, I'll take it back home." I'm hoping he was right and that it was an accident, but based on prior events in the past few months, I have a feeling she was just being mean.
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Marriage counseling...I highly recommend. If you're this emotional at this point, it will get worse as time goes by. You could grow to resent him, especially if when you do start trying it takes a long time or you have IF issues.
Thank you so much for your advice. I will look into that.
I hope that was sincere, this actually is great advice. My fiancé and I were on different timelines on when to start TTC, and we weren't sure how to go about compromise. We ended up talking to a counselor and it was really, really helpful.
Unfortunately of that I am sure. She had her husband (my future FIL, who is wonderful) hand-deliver it back to our house. He said "It's our RSVP! [MIL] asked me to give it to you." He was all cheery and clearly didn't understand that what he was bringing back was the unopened invitation that was addressed to them. When I explained to him that she didn't even open it, he seemed really embarrassed and said "Oh, it must have been a mistake, I'll take it back home." I'm hoping he was right and that it was an accident, but based on prior events in the past few months, I have a feeling she was just being mean.
Lol maybe she said "can you fill out the RSVP card for X and Y's wedding and take it to them" and he only heard the last part?
But do you understand this is coming off? It's worse than people complaining about CD1 or baby stuff after a month or two of trying because you haven't even tried...
Unless she's trying and her H doesn't know.
I just saw this comment cause I was only replying to notifications earlier but sorry, no. Try again.
Unfortunately of that I am sure. She had her husband (my future FIL, who is wonderful) hand-deliver it back to our house. He said "It's our RSVP! [MIL] asked me to give it to you." He was all cheery and clearly didn't understand that what he was bringing back was the unopened invitation that was addressed to them. When I explained to him that she didn't even open it, he seemed really embarrassed and said "Oh, it must have been a mistake, I'll take it back home." I'm hoping he was right and that it was an accident, but based on prior events in the past few months, I have a feeling she was just being mean.
Lol maybe she said "can you fill out the RSVP card for X and Y's wedding and take it to them" and he only heard the last part?
Ha, yes! For the sake of the dear, sweet man that I love, I'm going to assume this is the case.
Unfortunately of that I am sure. She had her husband (my future FIL, who is wonderful) hand-deliver it back to our house. He said "It's our RSVP! [MIL] asked me to give it to you." He was all cheery and clearly didn't understand that what he was bringing back was the unopened invitation that was addressed to them. When I explained to him that she didn't even open it, he seemed really embarrassed and said "Oh, it must have been a mistake, I'll take it back home." I'm hoping he was right and that it was an accident, but based on prior events in the past few months, I have a feeling she was just being mean.
Lol maybe she said "can you fill out the RSVP card for X and Y's wedding and take it to them" and he only heard the last part?
My parents never bothered to send in the RSVP to my sister's wedding. Even after she asked them because they were using to the cards to help with seating charts. The RSVP cards were all sent to the wedding planner's address and I think that pissed my parents off.
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