Hour of Silence/Light a Candle Thread

[maddielynn321]

Whoever posts this today, will you please mention the Sunshine threads? I want to make sure people don't miss the opportunity.

[finchfeeder]

@jimbobcooter, nchauhan,budders I just got something posted up on both boards. We're ready to roll this week, unfortunately.

[leenziepops]

Bump. Did this not happen this week? Can we please do one 12pm est Friday for this week?

[leenziepops]

Feb 12, 2015 11:11:10 GMT -5 finchfeeder said:

@jimbobcooter, nchauhan,budders I just got something posted up on both boards. We're ready to roll this week, unfortunately.

Could you start it Friday 12pm please? I'm asleep at that time and can't do it but we should do one

[leenziepops]

Feb 26, 2015 20:59:31 GMT -5 budders said:

Feb 26, 2015 15:37:01 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Could you start it Friday 12pm please? I'm asleep at that time and can't do it but we should do one

Did I miss a loss this week? I haven't had a lot of time to check in, so I feel terrible if someone posted and I didn't see it.

No not at all
I think I got confused. I thought it was a weekly thing

[veggiemo]

There was a loss at 22 weeks on the other board, people were suggesting it be carried over to here.

[leenziepops]

Bumping this us in light of the recent tragic events that has happened over at The Bump to fellow BMB member Mamabish. She's not on PB but I feel like we should have an hour of silence this Thursday for her loss of her little Baby Cadence who will be born sleeping today. budders, @jimbobcooter,can you please arrange this? I'm out of the time zone.

[billyhorrible]

Mar 24, 2015 22:09:36 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Bumping this us in light of the recent tragic events that has happened over at The Bump to fellow BMB member Mamabish. She's not on PB but I feel like we should have an hour of silence this Thursday for her loss of her little Baby Cadence who will be born sleeping today. budders, @jimbobcooter,can you please arrange this? I'm out of the time zone.

This is going to sound bitchier than I mean it to sound, but where do we draw the line at this?  This is a poster who not only hasn't ever posted here, but stated that she's happier since we all left and likes it better without us.

[leenziepops]

Mar 24, 2015 22:22:21 GMT -5 billyhorrible said:

Mar 24, 2015 22:09:36 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Bumping this us in light of the recent tragic events that has happened over at The Bump to fellow BMB member Mamabish. She's not on PB but I feel like we should have an hour of silence this Thursday for her loss of her little Baby Cadence who will be born sleeping today. budders, @jimbobcooter,can you please arrange this? I'm out of the time zone.

This is going to sound bitchier than I mean it to sound, but where do we draw the line at this?  This is a poster who not only hasn't ever posted here, but stated that she's happier since we all left and likes it better without us.

I can understand where you are coming from. We are now a separate board with our own members who choose to be here and there are others who choose other places. You must have a good running post-it note of names because I can't remember her saying that. Perhaps we do need to draw the line at some point and focus on our own community and those who want to be a part of it. I'm just very touched and heartbroken for her , no matter what she has said, I cannot help feeling for her loss and wanting to do a candle thread for her. Perhaps our mods can weigh in ? 

@jimbobcooter,budders, thoughts on where to draw the line? do we continue to show support on TCF for TD members? 

[carolyngrace]

Many of us are not on TB at all (or rarely) anymore... It seems kind of odd to try and "keep up" with what users over there are experiencing. In this particular case since people remember her, and leenziepops in particular would like to recognize her, I say why not? But in general it doesn't seem like something we should try and keep up on. If that makes sense.

[Deleted]

I'm not going to be around on Thursday.

[sidneyvicious]

I think that the candle thread for someone not on this board is appropriate, though it may mean something different, as in less of a show of support for that person, since they likely won't see it, but more of a chance for all of us to pause and reflect, if that makes sense.

[alayne926]

Mar 24, 2015 23:06:31 GMT -5 sidneyvicious said:

I think that the candle thread for someone not on this board is appropriate, though it may mean something different, as in less of a show of support for that person, since they likely won't see it, but more of a chance for all of us to pause and reflect, if that makes sense.

This. No matter what we think of someone, the loss of a child is tragic.

[Deleted]

Oh, and as for drawing a line, I don't think there is a line that has to be drawn and I don't think we need a hard fast rule about who we can an can't recognize. If someone wants to recognize someone, that's a kind gesture and kind gestures are never a bad thing. Personally, if someone has never posted here it feels a little odd to me that we would do it (as heartbreaking as it is I don't remember this poster.) but that's just me. But like I said, I'm out of town and in trial all day on Thursday so I'm not able to set anything up.

ETA:  I like the way sid vicious just framed it.

[leenziepops]

Mar 24, 2015 23:06:31 GMT -5 sidneyvicious said:

I think that the candle thread for someone not on this board is appropriate, though it may mean something different, as in less of a show of support for that person, since they likely won't see it, but more of a chance for all of us to pause and reflect, if that makes sense.

I like this. It's definitely a great time to pause and reflect. And we can also reflect about past losses that are still fresh for members here in this community.