So sad but so true. My BIL had a mini-meltdown when a friend of his announced she was pregnant. When his wife asked him what the heck was going on, he said that he just didn't know how to cope with his feelings. Every one had been asking SIL how she had been doing after her D&C and checking in with her, but no one asked him how he was and he really didn't have anyone to talk to about what had happened besides SIL.
** Trigger Warning **
We've had three losses at various stages of pregnancy and two very, very complex, high-risk, and difficult pregnancies including many months in the NICU. Each time, I've noticed that people seem to assume that I'm the only one who is truly affected...as if I was the only one who wanted the baby. But the truth is that DH and I both cried ourselves to sleep after each loss. We both grabbed each other's hands and held on tightly when someone said something insensitive. We both still turn and give each other a knowing look when we see a family with a child the age our lost babies would be now. It's just that his grief is not given the air time it deserves. It's really not fair.
nuggetrn, MH is so similar. When we moved to LA, going shopping with him to furnish and set up our house with appliances was the worst!! He took forever deciding and reviewing and comparing and I just wanted to lie down on the showroom couch and take a nap.
cabgirl, hope the cramps lessen up! If it is AF, then she better come soon so you can get this cycle going!
So sad but so true. My BIL had a mini-meltdown when a friend of his announced she was pregnant. When his wife asked him what the heck was going on, he said that he just didn't know how to cope with his feelings. Every one had been asking SIL how she had been doing after her D&C and checking in with her, but no one asked him how he was and he really didn't have anyone to talk to about what had happened besides SIL.
** Trigger Warning **
We've had three losses at various stages of pregnancy and two very, very complex, high-risk, and difficult pregnancies including many months in the NICU. Each time, I've noticed that people seem to assume that I'm the only one who is truly affected...as if I was the only one who wanted the baby. But the truth is that DH and I both cried ourselves to sleep after each loss. We both grabbed each other's hands and held on tightly when someone said something insensitive. We both still turn and give each other a knowing look when we see a family with a child the age our lost babies would be now. It's just that his grief is not given the air time it deserves. It's really not fair.
I feel like this is very true re: over looking how a SO would be feeling through that process. Case and point - I've never really thought about how it would affect a partner until I read these last few posts although I would think of both parents if it were a living child that was lost. Its funny how these ideas are over looked or maybe ingrained into us that a mom is a mom when she turns a test but a dad isn't bad until he holds his child? weird. but enlightening. Thank you for sharing your experience.
on a different more light-hearted note. I cannot get enough of Sia's Elastic Heart. Honestly have listened to it at least 10 times today. I get all the feels every time.
I went with the Fridgedair smudge free French door, the Bosch 44 dba dishwasher and samsung range. All stainless. I am excited to cook on my stove, even though it will be awhile! It has all kinds of buttons!
Those all sound nice! We just spent a few hours at Lowe's as well and ordered a new fridge, range, dishwasher, and vent hood...hooray for new kitchens!
on a different more light-hearted note. I cannot get enough of Sia's Elastic Heart. Honestly have listened to it at least 10 times today. I get all the feels every time.
I have the worst fucking cramps and bloating going on right now. Either I'm having the worst, earliest PMS ever, or my luteal phase decided to shrink to 10 days. Either way, fuck. At least there's vodka.
Wait, this is the TWW, right?
I feel your feels, man.
Cramping and bloated all last night and this morning. Randomly went away this afternoon. Baffling, since today is 10dpo and usually by this point I'm miserable and PMS'ing.
Dude, I'm only 6 dpo, and I'm PMS'ing like crazy. I'm preparing myself for a super short LP. Boo.
Cramping and bloated all last night and this morning. Randomly went away this afternoon. Baffling, since today is 10dpo and usually by this point I'm miserable and PMS'ing.
Dude, I'm only 6 dpo, and I'm PMS'ing like crazy. I'm preparing myself for a super short LP. Boo.
My usual LP is 10 days. So once I started cramping yesterday I figured I was done. But nope. Not that I'm complaining, I've been hoping my LP would lengthen up a little bit.
My BIL just text me a secret I can't tell MH. I feel so weird having a secret with my BIL. (It's work related - not anything dirty LOL)
^^This would be me if BIL gave me a secret to hide from anyone!
I was so excited when he text me "I have something to tell you but you can't tell YH" (he obviously used his name though) And then he fell asleep for 8 hours and I had to wait.
Post by thelittleredm on Apr 13, 2015 21:48:30 GMT -5
I don't know how many of you keep up with any specific racehorses, but I'm super excited for a maiden 3yr old, Cozmic One, who is making his debut race Friday! He's the first foal out of Zenyatta who was a superstar racehorse. I miss watching her race, but I'm hoping she's passed on her grit to her babies! I wish I could be at Santa Anita when he runs
I don't know how many of you keep up with any specific racehorses, but I'm super excited for a maiden 3yr old, Cozmic One, who is making his debut race Friday! He's the first foal out of Zenyatta who was a superstar racehorse. I miss watching her race, but I'm hoping she's passed on her grit to her babies! I wish I could be at Santa Anita when he runs
I should because I live near one of the big deal racetracks.
I don't know how many of you keep up with any specific racehorses, but I'm super excited for a maiden 3yr old, Cozmic One, who is making his debut race Friday! He's the first foal out of Zenyatta who was a superstar racehorse. I miss watching her race, but I'm hoping she's passed on her grit to her babies! I wish I could be at Santa Anita when he runs
I should because I live near one of the big deal racetracks.
I'm into the races. You can come with me and I'll teach you.
So.. are there no drinking threads anymore? Anyone want to update me on the last two weeks?
Slow nights we've been combining the drinking thread and the random thread. I feel like we should just title the thread chat thread with drinking after noon (or before - whatever mood in) I'm the last person to give an update but we missed you! Hope all is well
Slow nights we've been combining the drinking thread and the random thread. I feel like we should just title the thread chat thread with drinking after noon (or before - whatever mood in) I'm the last person to give an update but we missed you! Hope all is well
Ah I see! Thanks! I'm ok. We had two more deaths within my extended family this week so that's been tough. I'll be around more now though.
Ugh I'm sorry to hear that. Deaths, even though they are part of life, never get easier. MH avoids funerals and wakes at all costs.
Ugh I'm sorry to hear that. Deaths, even though they are part of life, never get easier. MH avoids funerals and wakes at all costs.
I agree. I believe that death comes in threes, so I'm hoping this is it. I can't take anymore. One funeral is out of town, but the other is Wednesday so I'll attend that one.
Well you've hit your three, may you be spared for a long time!
Hi, The wind outside just woke me back up. My condolences on the loss of your family members W . I hope your background check comes back soon. I know they are taking a little longer these days. I hope you won't have to nanny for too long. You don't sound happy about that. How are you and YH adjusting to the distance. I hope you are making use of skype or facetime.
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