Bridesmaid dress shopping would've been so much worse.
I SHOULD avoid it, but there were some things I really needed/wanted for the warmer weather that's approaching, and I was off today and didn't know when I'd have another chance to go. There's nothing like fitting room mirrors to make you criticize your body, and when you add trying to squeeze into pants in a size that fit three months ago.. ugh.
I hate when they DON'T have the mirrors in the changing rooms though! Then you have to open the door and peak to see if you look horrible, and everyone gets to laugh at your outfit lol!
Oh man. I don't think I've ever shopped at a place that didn't have mirrors in the fitting rooms. I can see both pros and cons.
I hate when they DON'T have the mirrors in the changing rooms though! Then you have to open the door and peak to see if you look horrible, and everyone gets to laugh at your outfit lol!
Oh man. I don't think I've ever shopped at a place that didn't have mirrors in the fitting rooms. I can see both pros and cons.
I've been to a few stores that don't have them. I like getting jeans at certain stores. Bluenotes has stretchy jeans for my lovely thighs, but when I try them on, I have to open the door and look across the mirror to see how I look. I hate that!
@erin2021, what on earth is wrong with your CW?! shadesofgold, I hope YH's coworkers give him a break soon. lilsneezy, I hope you still got to your appointment ok! pismoduo, I'm sorry you didn't have a proper lunch. cabgirl, so many hugs. I'm going through a phase like that too but sadly I can't blame it on PMS. Just trust that this too shall pass and that it's a sign that your body is working normally just like it should be. You are beautiful!
TW today is MH. He is so bad at taking compliments. When I say, "Wow, baby, you look so handsome today" or just lay across his chest and say that his working out is paying off, or just point blank tell him how ridiculously sexually attracted I am to him ALL the time, he just shrugs it off and says something like "I'm really tired today" or fidgets. Ugh! He makes me feel like a fool sometimes. I need to talk to him about this today because it's really starting to bug me!
@erin2021, what on earth is wrong with your CW?! shadesofgold, I hope YH's coworkers give him a break soon. lilsneezy, I hope you still got to your appointment ok! pismoduo, I'm sorry you didn't have a proper lunch. cabgirl, so many hugs. I'm going through a phase like that too but sadly I can't blame it on PMS. Just trust that this too shall pass and that it's a sign that your body is working normally just like it should be. You are beautiful!
TW today is MH. He is so bad at taking compliments. When I say, "Wow, baby, you look so handsome today" or just lay across his chest and say that his working out is paying off, or just point blank tell him how ridiculously sexually attracted I am to him ALL the time, he just shrugs it off and says something like "I'm really tired today" or fidgets. Ugh! He makes me feel like a fool sometimes. I need to talk to him about this today because it's really starting to bug me!
He sounds just like MH, minus the working out. lol.
@erin2021, what on earth is wrong with your CW?! shadesofgold, I hope YH's coworkers give him a break soon. lilsneezy, I hope you still got to your appointment ok! pismoduo, I'm sorry you didn't have a proper lunch. cabgirl, so many hugs. I'm going through a phase like that too but sadly I can't blame it on PMS. Just trust that this too shall pass and that it's a sign that your body is working normally just like it should be. You are beautiful!
TW today is MH. He is so bad at taking compliments. When I say, "Wow, baby, you look so handsome today" or just lay across his chest and say that his working out is paying off, or just point blank tell him how ridiculously sexually attracted I am to him ALL the time, he just shrugs it off and says something like "I'm really tired today" or fidgets. Ugh! He makes me feel like a fool sometimes. I need to talk to him about this today because it's really starting to bug me!
He could be like me and get really uncomfortable with compliments. I never know what to say back and "thank you" sounds moronic. How does he handle talking about feelings?
@erin2021, what on earth is wrong with your CW?! shadesofgold, I hope YH's coworkers give him a break soon. lilsneezy, I hope you still got to your appointment ok! pismoduo, I'm sorry you didn't have a proper lunch. cabgirl, so many hugs. I'm going through a phase like that too but sadly I can't blame it on PMS. Just trust that this too shall pass and that it's a sign that your body is working normally just like it should be. You are beautiful!
TW today is MH. He is so bad at taking compliments. When I say, "Wow, baby, you look so handsome today" or just lay across his chest and say that his working out is paying off, or just point blank tell him how ridiculously sexually attracted I am to him ALL the time, he just shrugs it off and says something like "I'm really tired today" or fidgets. Ugh! He makes me feel like a fool sometimes. I need to talk to him about this today because it's really starting to bug me!
Aw, thank you, dear. I can't really blame it on PMS, either. PMS just exacerbates it. But it's okay, I feel better now.
As for your H, I wonder if his response to the compliments is actually overkill modestly, or just embarrassment at being complimented. My husband is like that, too (though actually when I tell him he looks hot, he'll argue with me). He probably has no idea he's making you feel foolish. You definitely should tell him! Maybe he can work on it. I think the ability to accept a compliment is actually pretty important.
@erin2021, what on earth is wrong with your CW?! shadesofgold, I hope YH's coworkers give him a break soon. lilsneezy, I hope you still got to your appointment ok! pismoduo, I'm sorry you didn't have a proper lunch. cabgirl, so many hugs. I'm going through a phase like that too but sadly I can't blame it on PMS. Just trust that this too shall pass and that it's a sign that your body is working normally just like it should be. You are beautiful!
TW today is MH. He is so bad at taking compliments. When I say, "Wow, baby, you look so handsome today" or just lay across his chest and say that his working out is paying off, or just point blank tell him how ridiculously sexually attracted I am to him ALL the time, he just shrugs it off and says something like "I'm really tired today" or fidgets. Ugh! He makes me feel like a fool sometimes. I need to talk to him about this today because it's really starting to bug me!
He could be like me and get really uncomfortable with compliments. I never know what to say back and "thank you" sounds moronic. How does he handle talking about feelings?
I think "thank you" is a perfectly nice, appropriate response to a compliment. It's usually what I say when someone I don't know compliments me on something. Then I might make some comment in reference to whatever was complimented, if it makes sense to. It's gotten less awkward for me, but I had to work on it for a while.
@erin2021, what on earth is wrong with your CW?! shadesofgold, I hope YH's coworkers give him a break soon. lilsneezy, I hope you still got to your appointment ok! pismoduo, I'm sorry you didn't have a proper lunch. cabgirl, so many hugs. I'm going through a phase like that too but sadly I can't blame it on PMS. Just trust that this too shall pass and that it's a sign that your body is working normally just like it should be. You are beautiful!
TW today is MH. He is so bad at taking compliments. When I say, "Wow, baby, you look so handsome today" or just lay across his chest and say that his working out is paying off, or just point blank tell him how ridiculously sexually attracted I am to him ALL the time, he just shrugs it off and says something like "I'm really tired today" or fidgets. Ugh! He makes me feel like a fool sometimes. I need to talk to him about this today because it's really starting to bug me!
I'm sorry YH makes you feel like a fool when you're just trying to say something nice to him. I can't imagine it's intentional (because who doesn't like a good compliment?). I know I can get uncomfortably awkward sometimes when someone compliments me but I do still appreciate it. I think talking to him about it is a good idea!
(ETA: Oh and no I didn't make my appointment. Boo.)
Last Edit: Apr 14, 2015 15:22:06 GMT -5 by lilsneezy
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MH will usually look down and mumble "thank you" and sometimes say "you look nice too". Like last night I tried to snuggle with him and just fidgeted and tried to get away from me and I felt really bad about that. Part of it, I think, is he was brought up with the military so he is always pretty stoic. He prefers not to talk about his feelings and is super private. He also doesn't like it when I talk about my feelings because it makes him nervous that I'll fly off the edge like I've done in the past. I know he appreciates the comments but I still feel silly when I'm the only one making an effort to say these things and show that kind of affection.
ETA I know he is definitely not trying to make me feel bad and I have a problem with being overly sensitive anyway, so it's partially my fault, too
I think "thank you" is a perfectly nice, appropriate response to a compliment. It's usually what I say when someone I don't know compliments me on something. Then I might make some comment in reference to whatever was complimented, if it makes sense to. It's gotten less awkward for me, but I had to work on it for a while.
I usually laugh because that's what I do when I'm surprised/nervous/embarrassed.
MH will usually look down and mumble "thank you" and sometimes say "you look nice too". Like last night I tried to snuggle with him and just fidgeted and tried to get away from me and I felt really bad about that. Part of it, I think, is he was brought up with the military so he is always pretty stoic. He prefers not to talk about his feelings and is super private. He also doesn't like it when I talk about my feelings because it makes him nervous that I'll fly off the edge like I've done in the past. I know he appreciates the comments but I still feel silly when I'm the only one making an effort to say these things and show that kind of affection.
ETA I know he is definitely not trying to make me feel bad and I have a problem with being overly sensitive anyway, so it's partially my fault, too
Everyone flies off the edge sometimes. Actually, I think getting to talk your feelings over with your partner whenever you need/want to is one way to avoid flying off the edge, since you're not keeping things bottled up.
I know what you mean about feeling silly. There are aspects of my relationship with H that seem really one-sided, and I feel dumb when I don't get reciprocation from him. I guess I don't really have any good advice, except maybe find a time to talk about it when he's relaxed (ie; you guys aren't arguing), and make sure he knows you're not accusing him.
MH will usually look down and mumble "thank you" and sometimes say "you look nice too". Like last night I tried to snuggle with him and just fidgeted and tried to get away from me and I felt really bad about that. Part of it, I think, is he was brought up with the military so he is always pretty stoic. He prefers not to talk about his feelings and is super private. He also doesn't like it when I talk about my feelings because it makes him nervous that I'll fly off the edge like I've done in the past. I know he appreciates the comments but I still feel silly when I'm the only one making an effort to say these things and show that kind of affection.
ETA I know he is definitely not trying to make me feel bad and I have a problem with being overly sensitive anyway, so it's partially my fault, too
Everyone flies off the edge sometimes. Actually, I think getting to talk your feelings over with your partner whenever you need/want to is one way to avoid flying off the edge, since you're not keeping things bottled up.
I know what you mean about feeling silly. There are aspects of my relationship with H that seem really one-sided, and I feel dumb when I don't get reciprocation from him. I guess I don't really have any good advice, except maybe find a time to talk about it when he's relaxed (ie; you guys aren't arguing), and make sure he knows you're not accusing him.
Thank you! Yes, we're definitely not fighting right now and things are on really good terms so I'm fairly confident he will be ok with sitting down to talk.
MH will usually look down and mumble "thank you" and sometimes say "you look nice too". Like last night I tried to snuggle with him and just fidgeted and tried to get away from me and I felt really bad about that. Part of it, I think, is he was brought up with the military so he is always pretty stoic. He prefers not to talk about his feelings and is super private. He also doesn't like it when I talk about my feelings because it makes him nervous that I'll fly off the edge like I've done in the past. I know he appreciates the comments but I still feel silly when I'm the only one making an effort to say these things and show that kind of affection.
ETA I know he is definitely not trying to make me feel bad and I have a problem with being overly sensitive anyway, so it's partially my fault, too
Everyone flies off the edge sometimes. Actually, I think getting to talk your feelings over with your partner whenever you need/want to is one way to avoid flying off the edge, since you're not keeping things bottled up.
I know what you mean about feeling silly. There are aspects of my relationship with H that seem really one-sided, and I feel dumb when I don't get reciprocation from him. I guess I don't really have any good advice, except maybe find a time to talk about it when he's relaxed (ie; you guys aren't arguing), and make sure he knows you're not accusing him.
I feel so bad for my H, because we break all stereotypes and are the opposite. He processes very much through talking and shares his emotions and thoughts way more often. I grew up in a somewhat emotionally stifled family -- they are super great and I love them, they just DO NOT cry in front of each other or talk about personal things often -- and I am sucking at learning to listen well and share my deeper feelings as well.
Just so you guys don't feel alone in having to work on communication, no matter how long you are together It's a struggle!
MH will usually look down and mumble "thank you" and sometimes say "you look nice too". Like last night I tried to snuggle with him and just fidgeted and tried to get away from me and I felt really bad about that. Part of it, I think, is he was brought up with the military so he is always pretty stoic. He prefers not to talk about his feelings and is super private. He also doesn't like it when I talk about my feelings because it makes him nervous that I'll fly off the edge like I've done in the past. I know he appreciates the comments but I still feel silly when I'm the only one making an effort to say these things and show that kind of affection.
ETA I know he is definitely not trying to make me feel bad and I have a problem with being overly sensitive anyway, so it's partially my fault, too
Well that's not cool. If he's not in the mood to snuggle he needs to say that to you, in a nice way, rather than try to squirm away. The other half of that deal, though, is that you have to be willing to accept he's not in the mood to be close without allowing it to hurt your feelings.
His reaction to compliments may not change or may take a long time to change, but letting him know that all you need is a smile or a thank you or something that lets you know he heard you and he appreciates it would be a good first step. It may also take a burden off his shoulders if he is sitting there scrambling to come up with something to say in response, plus he's embarrassed, it's hard for him to be all squishy, etc., it can be a lot of pressure. I have a moment of panic sometimes trying to figure out how to respond appropriately after my initial laugh.
Thank you so much for giving your perspective. I struggle understanding MH's point of view and I'm glad you are able to rationalize it for me. I'll definitely work on this.
MH will usually look down and mumble "thank you" and sometimes say "you look nice too". Like last night I tried to snuggle with him and just fidgeted and tried to get away from me and I felt really bad about that. Part of it, I think, is he was brought up with the military so he is always pretty stoic. He prefers not to talk about his feelings and is super private. He also doesn't like it when I talk about my feelings because it makes him nervous that I'll fly off the edge like I've done in the past. I know he appreciates the comments but I still feel silly when I'm the only one making an effort to say these things and show that kind of affection.
ETA I know he is definitely not trying to make me feel bad and I have a problem with being overly sensitive anyway, so it's partially my fault, too
MH does the same thing! It's nice to hear I'm not the only one who gets sort of hurt or feels foolish. Same thing with the, it's not that he's trying to make me feel bad, I just get overly sensitive.
Sometimes, when MH is especially tired after a long day he has even less tolerance or is more uncomfortable also...
hydrangea1019 I'm so sorry they are making you wait. Are they down staff? I would go uo and check at the desk. They should have said something to you by now.
My twatwaffle is my obgyn's office. My appt was 3:30. It's now after 5. There are only three people (including myself) waiting. WTF is the hold up.
I just want to get this follow up after my d/c over with
That is a ridiculous amount of time to have to wait. I agree with @wallflwr926, definitely time to talk to the receptionist and see what's up. So sorry you've been left waiting, especially for something so unpleasant. I hope you get in soon and the appointment itself goes well and is quick.
Post by hydrangea1019 on Apr 14, 2015 18:42:57 GMT -5
cabgirl and @wallflwr926, thanks for the suggestions. I was just about to walk up to the receptionist's desk, I was going to give it 5 more minutes, and they called me back. I think I overheard a nurse, when they called another patient back, say that there had been an emergency and that her doctor would be returning, but they were not sure when. So I think my doctor had to see all her patients and her own. It just sucked.
Of course my examination was super quick. Probably less than 5 minutes, but everything went well. She told me we were good to go once my natural cycle shows back up. So here is hoping it shows within the next 3 weeks.
cabgirl and @wallflwr926, thanks for the suggestions. I was just about to walk up to the receptionist's desk, I was going to give it 5 more minutes, and they called me back. I think I overheard a nurse, when they called another patient back, say that there had been an emergency and that her doctor would be returning, but they were not sure when. So I think my doctor had to see all her patients and her own. It just sucked.
Of course my examination was super quick. Probably less than 5 minutes, but everything went well. She told me we were good to go once my natural cycle shows back up. So here is hoping it shows within the next 3 weeks.
I hope it shows soon, too. Honestly, I felt so much better once my period finally came. I hope the same is true for you. Sorry you had such a long wait today, but hopefully now you can begin to look forward to a new cycle and new beginnings. Hugs.
Post by fozziebear on Apr 14, 2015 19:55:00 GMT -5
My twatwaffle is the fact that spring break is over. I was up and at 'em yesterday. Today, not-so-much. I wanted to return to the land of sleeping in and pajamas for hours.
I'm so sorry for all you are going through, hydrangea1019. I'm glad you still got to be seen and that everything is looking good. I had the same situation happen to me once with the doctor being stuck like that and there's really nothing you can do. Take care of yourself and FX your cycle returns quickly.
I feel ridiculous for calling MH a TW for not taking compliments well today. Like it's his fault for being awkward. Ugh I suck sometimes. My TW should have been I'm the TW for being monochromatic and childish.
Also, people who ask you a question and then accuse you of trying to create a diversion by giving them additional information. The conversation went like this: TW: Where is the 400k in capital requests being funded from? Me: Since I'm not sure exactly what you mean exactly, here's everything we've approved recently: *Lists 6 projects, their amounts approved and the funds each project is drawing from* Additionally there's five requests coming in later this week for culvert work totaling (dollar amount). TW: I never mentioned culverts, but nice try at a distraction.
Also, people who ask you a question and then accuse you of trying to create a diversion by giving them additional information. The conversation went like this: TW: Where is the 400k in capital requests being funded from? Me: Since I'm not sure exactly what you mean exactly, here's everything we've approved recently: *Lists 6 projects, their amounts approved and the funds each project is drawing from* Additionally there's five requests coming in later this week for culvert work totaling (dollar amount). TW: I never mentioned culverts, but nice try at a distraction.
...Huh?
I give up on today.
This sounds like my CW. I want to throat punch him somedays and stab him in the eye in the next.
I really need to stop engaging this person. They're a member of our HOA, and they're always coming up with conspiracy theories about the HOA board. I will never win, so I really should just stop. I just can't stand the idea that someone who hasn't made up their mind yet (and isn't certifiably crazy) might see her ramblings and think she's right.
I really need to stop engaging this person. They're a member of our HOA, and they're always coming up with conspiracy theories about the HOA board. I will never win, so I really should just stop. I just can't stand the idea that someone who hasn't made up their mind yet (and isn't certifiably crazy) might see her ramblings and think she's right.
Yeah. CW left comments on my PP presentation questions every slinger slide. asking me why certain countries doesn't participate in a treaty. We don't need to know that.
Dear lord. Yea, that would deserve a face punch.
Or knowing me, a politely worded but icy comment along the lines of "I left that information out to avoid taking up everyone's time with irrelevant information."
Or knowing me, a politely worded but icy comment along the lines of "I left that information out to avoid taking up everyone's time with irrelevant information."
"I kept saying"" aha aha oh hmmm ahhh." I'll do It my way instead although you suggestion was good too. "
I do that a lot at work. "Oh, great suggestion. But I think we'll leave it like this."
I'm so sorry for all you are going through, hydrangea1019. I'm glad you still got to be seen and that everything is looking good. I had the same situation happen to me once with the doctor being stuck like that and there's really nothing you can do. Take care of yourself and FX your cycle returns quickly.
I feel ridiculous for calling MH a TW for not taking compliments well today. Like it's his fault for being awkward. Ugh I suck sometimes. My TW should have been I'm the TW for being monochromatic and childish.
Don't think that way about yourself! What you feel is totally understandable. Don't be so hard on yourself!
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