Post by swivelchair5 on Apr 15, 2015 9:00:58 GMT -5
WTF mortgage lender! I was listed as the co-borrower on the mortgage, even though I am the main contact for the loan officer, I make more money, I set up the automatic payment debit to come out of an account where I am the primary holder, and I work in the mortgage industry. So DH is the borrower just because he is the husband? It wouldn't have even bothered me except now that we have started getting mail from the lender about our mortgage, it is all addressed just to DH and I am not even mentioned on there.
WTF to this ongoing cold thing I have. I would really enjoy having my voice back. It's really irritating to have my voice turn to a whisper in the middle of a sentence.
Post by zombiesquad on Apr 15, 2015 9:10:01 GMT -5
WTF pedestrians?!?!?! Even though the "walk" sign is lit, and yes, you do have the right of way, it would behoove you to take a minute to stop talking on your phone and look before you cross the street. I could've hit you and you would have never seen it coming. I don't get walking across the street on blind faith. I always look to make sure crazy drivers are paying attention.
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WTF to my FIL! My husband has been applying to jobs since Dec. He has a pretty good lead on a job right now that has benefits and a pension! HUGE score! Well, his father wants him to teach- nothing else. He had a convo with his father on the weekend and told his father to drop the subject on teaching. We can't afford for him to sit on a supply list, and there are not any jobs teaching in our area, unless we relocate to another province. So he told his dad teaching is not happening. His father responds with "We will see about that", and now his father will not talk to him.
My husband wants his parents to accept him, and whatever he does, but his parents think he is nothing but a disappointment. It kills him! If I had it my way there would be no relationship with his family because of how him and I are treated. But it's not my place to make that decision so I give my husband support when it comes to them. It just makes me so mad because my husband is such a fantastic person, but to his parents he is just a huge let down.
Post by notthedroids on Apr 15, 2015 9:19:44 GMT -5
WTF H's aunt?? Way to ruin our surprise visit to N.Y. for MIL's birthday. I knew you would do it because you are a sadistic conniving bitch but that doesn't make me any less angry. I swear if you show up to N.Y. when we are there we will have words. I'm over your petty bullshit and your constant need to attempt to ruin relationships in this family. Blargh.
WTF H's aunt?? Way to ruin our surprise visit to N.Y. for MIL's birthday. I knew you would do it because you are a sadistic conniving bitch but that doesn't make me any less angry. I swear if you show up to N.Y. when we are there we will have words. I'm over your petty bullshit and your constant need to attempt to ruin relationships in this family. Blargh.
Reading your post then seeing your siggy pic makes me truly fear for your Aunt-in-law.
WTF to my FIL! My husband has been applying to jobs since Dec. He has a pretty good lead on a job right now that has benefits and a pension! HUGE score! Well, his father wants him to teach- nothing else. He had a convo with his father on the weekend and told his father to drop the subject on teaching. We can't afford for him to sit on a supply list, and there are not any jobs teaching in our area, unless we relocate to another province. So he told his dad teaching is not happening. His father responds with "We will see about that", and now his father will not talk to him.
My husband wants his parents to accept him, and whatever he does, but his parents think he is nothing but a disappointment. It kills him! If I had it my way there would be no relationship with his family because of how him and I are treated. But it's not my place to make that decision so I give my husband support when it comes to them. It just makes me so mad because my husband is such a fantastic person, but to his parents he is just a huge let down.
**thanks for letting me vent**
Vent away.
May I ask if there is a cultural reason behind why your FIL thinks he can dictate his son's career. I know in some cultures that this is the way. It royally sucks especially when they can't see reason. Regardless, I hope he does get the job with the benefits and pension. Those are rare to come by and congratulations on the lead!
WTF to my FIL! My husband has been applying to jobs since Dec. He has a pretty good lead on a job right now that has benefits and a pension! HUGE score! Well, his father wants him to teach- nothing else. He had a convo with his father on the weekend and told his father to drop the subject on teaching. We can't afford for him to sit on a supply list, and there are not any jobs teaching in our area, unless we relocate to another province. So he told his dad teaching is not happening. His father responds with "We will see about that", and now his father will not talk to him.
My husband wants his parents to accept him, and whatever he does, but his parents think he is nothing but a disappointment. It kills him! If I had it my way there would be no relationship with his family because of how him and I are treated. But it's not my place to make that decision so I give my husband support when it comes to them. It just makes me so mad because my husband is such a fantastic person, but to his parents he is just a huge let down.
**thanks for letting me vent**
Vent away.
May I ask if there is a cultural reason behind why your FIL thinks he can dictate his son's career. I know in some cultures that this is the way. It royally sucks especially when they can't see reason. Regardless, I hope he does get the job with the benefits and pension. Those are rare to come by and congratulations on the lead!
His father is from England. He just seems to think you are nothing unless you are a teacher. All 3 of his kids are teachers, but my husband is the only one not teaching. He is by far the most arrogant/controlling person I have ever met.
For Example: My FIL is the type of person who, when he found out I was pregnant, sent us a list of baby names to consider. When we decided to get married, he got mad at us for not doing the wedding his way- in his backyard, with pictures that he painted as favors. The problem with this was, we got engaged, and had everything booked and ready 2 years before the wedding because we moved out of province. His parents didn't want to hear about our wedding because they do not believe in marriage. When we came back 1 month before the wedding, after everything was booked, finalized and finished, his father threw a massive tantrum because we wouldn't do what he wanted.
Oh and his parents turned to my husband and told him "I love you because I have to, and because you are my son, but as a person, I dislike you".- This statement came because I told him I decided to have a c-section and would probably pump and formula feed instead of breastfeeding. My husband stood up for me and that was the statement they gave him.
Sorry for the novel but I don't talk to my husband about this a whole lot because it does hurt him. I needed the vent today!
WTF accountant? It's April 15 and I haven't heard anything from you about my taxes. I just called his office to make sure he got them in or filed an extension and his secretary was just like "uh huh, yep he'll get it in" and hung up. I get that it's April 15 and she probably has a lot of people calling the office today, but I DID get a $5,000 late filing fee two years ago because the IRS supposedly never received the extension that he said he sent. So yeah, I think I have a right to worry.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
May I ask if there is a cultural reason behind why your FIL thinks he can dictate his son's career. I know in some cultures that this is the way. It royally sucks especially when they can't see reason. Regardless, I hope he does get the job with the benefits and pension. Those are rare to come by and congratulations on the lead!
His father is from England. He just seems to think you are nothing unless you are a teacher. All 3 of his kids are teachers, but my husband is the only one not teaching. He is by far the most arrogant/controlling person I have ever met.
For Example: My FIL is the type of person who, when he found out I was pregnant, sent us a list of baby names to consider. When we decided to get married, he got mad at us for not doing the wedding his way- in his backyard, with pictures that he painted as favors. The problem with this was, we got engaged, and had everything booked and ready 2 years before the wedding because we moved out of province. His parents didn't want to hear about our wedding because they do not believe in marriage. When we came back 1 month before the wedding, after everything was booked, finalized and finished, his father threw a massive tantrum because we wouldn't do what he wanted.
Oh and his parents turned to my husband and told him "I love you because I have to, and because you are my son, but as a person, I dislike you".- This statement came because I told him I decided to have a c-section and would probably pump and formula feed instead of breastfeeding. My husband stood up for me and that was the statement they gave him.
Sorry for the novel but I don't talk to my husband about this a whole lot because it does hurt him. I needed the vent today!
Holy shit! It's amazing your husband isn't an anxious wreck in need of constantly therapy. Fuck what I said before (except for the part about getting the job) they are horrible, awful people. I agree that cutting them off is the best thing possible.
Also how can they not believe in marriage but believe they need to dictate how you do your wedding. Sorry, does not compute. Also, teaching may be everything there but teachers are not respected here. This is beyond sad and wrong, but it is the truth. This whole thing is getting me angry for you. Want me to cuntpunch them?
WTF accountant? It's April 15 and I haven't heard anything from you about my taxes. I just called his office to make sure he got them in or filed an extension and his secretary was just like "uh huh, yep he'll get it in" and hung up. I get that it's April 15 and she probably has a lot of people calling the office today, but I DID get a $5,000 late filing fee two years ago because the IRS supposedly never received the extension that he said he sent. So yeah, I think I have a right to worry.
I probably would have gotten a new accountant at this point.
WTF accountant? It's April 15 and I haven't heard anything from you about my taxes. I just called his office to make sure he got them in or filed an extension and his secretary was just like "uh huh, yep he'll get it in" and hung up. I get that it's April 15 and she probably has a lot of people calling the office today, but I DID get a $5,000 late filing fee two years ago because the IRS supposedly never received the extension that he said he sent. So yeah, I think I have a right to worry.
Time to get a new accountant. I hope he paid that $5,000 fee since it was his mistake.
His father is from England. He just seems to think you are nothing unless you are a teacher. All 3 of his kids are teachers, but my husband is the only one not teaching. He is by far the most arrogant/controlling person I have ever met.
For Example: My FIL is the type of person who, when he found out I was pregnant, sent us a list of baby names to consider. When we decided to get married, he got mad at us for not doing the wedding his way- in his backyard, with pictures that he painted as favors. The problem with this was, we got engaged, and had everything booked and ready 2 years before the wedding because we moved out of province. His parents didn't want to hear about our wedding because they do not believe in marriage. When we came back 1 month before the wedding, after everything was booked, finalized and finished, his father threw a massive tantrum because we wouldn't do what he wanted.
Oh and his parents turned to my husband and told him "I love you because I have to, and because you are my son, but as a person, I dislike you".- This statement came because I told him I decided to have a c-section and would probably pump and formula feed instead of breastfeeding. My husband stood up for me and that was the statement they gave him.
Sorry for the novel but I don't talk to my husband about this a whole lot because it does hurt him. I needed the vent today!
Holy shit! It's amazing your husband isn't an anxious wreck in need of constantly therapy. Fuck what I said before (except for the part about getting the job) they are horrible, awful people. I agree that cutting them off is the best thing possible.
Also how can they not believe in marriage but believe they need to dictate how you do your wedding. Sorry, does not compute. Also, teaching may be everything there but teachers are not respected here. This is beyond sad and wrong, but it is the truth. This whole thing is getting me angry for you. Want me to cuntpunch them?
YES PLEASE!!!
It's been a rough go with them that's for sure. The problem is his father is pretty sick, and older in age. So I'm afraid to say "I'm done with them!" and then something happen. So I just sit back and support my husband when I can. It's a shitty situation to be in.
Ex-Husbands suck. We've been divorced 6 years, you are remarried. Get over it man!!! We have 4 kids together (youngest is 8) so I still gotta deal with him for quite a while. Everytime we talk he has to remind me I broke up the family. No sir, you are wrong when you decided to put your penis is something other than me...that's what broke up the marriage. SMH.
WTF accountant? It's April 15 and I haven't heard anything from you about my taxes. I just called his office to make sure he got them in or filed an extension and his secretary was just like "uh huh, yep he'll get it in" and hung up. I get that it's April 15 and she probably has a lot of people calling the office today, but I DID get a $5,000 late filing fee two years ago because the IRS supposedly never received the extension that he said he sent. So yeah, I think I have a right to worry.
Time to get a new accountant. I hope he paid that $5,000 fee since it was his mistake.
The IRS forgave it because it was our first year filing (for our business). But yeah, I think it's time for a new accountant. I only gave him another chance because he's a close family friend.
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WTF to my FIL! My husband has been applying to jobs since Dec. He has a pretty good lead on a job right now that has benefits and a pension! HUGE score! Well, his father wants him to teach- nothing else. He had a convo with his father on the weekend and told his father to drop the subject on teaching. We can't afford for him to sit on a supply list, and there are not any jobs teaching in our area, unless we relocate to another province. So he told his dad teaching is not happening. His father responds with "We will see about that", and now his father will not talk to him.
My husband wants his parents to accept him, and whatever he does, but his parents think he is nothing but a disappointment. It kills him! If I had it my way there would be no relationship with his family because of how him and I are treated. But it's not my place to make that decision so I give my husband support when it comes to them. It just makes me so mad because my husband is such a fantastic person, but to his parents he is just a huge let down.
**thanks for letting me vent**
I'm sorry your FIL is being that way. Why does he think he has a say in what YH does for a living? I'm glad you are supportive because that would be terrible to have unsupportive parents.
May I ask if there is a cultural reason behind why your FIL thinks he can dictate his son's career. I know in some cultures that this is the way. It royally sucks especially when they can't see reason. Regardless, I hope he does get the job with the benefits and pension. Those are rare to come by and congratulations on the lead!
His father is from England. He just seems to think you are nothing unless you are a teacher. All 3 of his kids are teachers, but my husband is the only one not teaching. He is by far the most arrogant/controlling person I have ever met.
For Example: My FIL is the type of person who, when he found out I was pregnant, sent us a list of baby names to consider. When we decided to get married, he got mad at us for not doing the wedding his way- in his backyard, with pictures that he painted as favors. The problem with this was, we got engaged, and had everything booked and ready 2 years before the wedding because we moved out of province. His parents didn't want to hear about our wedding because they do not believe in marriage. When we came back 1 month before the wedding, after everything was booked, finalized and finished, his father threw a massive tantrum because we wouldn't do what he wanted.
Oh and his parents turned to my husband and told him "I love you because I have to, and because you are my son, but as a person, I dislike you".- This statement came because I told him I decided to have a c-section and would probably pump and formula feed instead of breastfeeding. My husband stood up for me and that was the statement they gave him.
Sorry for the novel but I don't talk to my husband about this a whole lot because it does hurt him. I needed the vent today!
That is so incredibly fucked up. I'm so sorry you have in laws like that. Seriously that is so wrong.
WTF to my FIL! My husband has been applying to jobs since Dec. He has a pretty good lead on a job right now that has benefits and a pension! HUGE score! Well, his father wants him to teach- nothing else. He had a convo with his father on the weekend and told his father to drop the subject on teaching. We can't afford for him to sit on a supply list, and there are not any jobs teaching in our area, unless we relocate to another province. So he told his dad teaching is not happening. His father responds with "We will see about that", and now his father will not talk to him.
My husband wants his parents to accept him, and whatever he does, but his parents think he is nothing but a disappointment. It kills him! If I had it my way there would be no relationship with his family because of how him and I are treated. But it's not my place to make that decision so I give my husband support when it comes to them. It just makes me so mad because my husband is such a fantastic person, but to his parents he is just a huge let down.
**thanks for letting me vent**
I'm sorry your FIL is being that way. Why does he think he has a say in what YH does for a living? I'm glad you are supportive because that would be terrible to have unsupportive parents.
He was the stereotypical hippie, left Liverpool, road tripping through America, and then ended up settling in Toronto area, but never got a job. He was hooked on drugs and is now addicted to pain killers from a car accident. He always regrets not doing something, like being a teacher. Although he saw a lot in life and traveled, he was really careless and I think now he takes his regrets out on his kids.
I'm sorry your FIL is being that way. Why does he think he has a say in what YH does for a living? I'm glad you are supportive because that would be terrible to have unsupportive parents.
He was the stereotypical hippie, left Liverpool, road tripping through America, and then ended up settling in Toronto area, but never got a job. He was hooked on drugs and is now addicted to pain killers from a car accident. He always regrets not doing something, like being a teacher. Although he saw a lot in life and traveled, he was really careless and I think now he takes his regrets out on his kids.
Pain killers can be so dangerous. My dad got hooked on them a couple years ago after a surgery and he drank a lot. It was scary. Your FIL taking that out on his kids will only drive them away and divide the family so that is really sad.
May I ask if there is a cultural reason behind why your FIL thinks he can dictate his son's career. I know in some cultures that this is the way. It royally sucks especially when they can't see reason. Regardless, I hope he does get the job with the benefits and pension. Those are rare to come by and congratulations on the lead!
His father is from England. He just seems to think you are nothing unless you are a teacher. All 3 of his kids are teachers, but my husband is the only one not teaching. He is by far the most arrogant/controlling person I have ever met.
For Example: My FIL is the type of person who, when he found out I was pregnant, sent us a list of baby names to consider. When we decided to get married, he got mad at us for not doing the wedding his way- in his backyard, with pictures that he painted as favors. The problem with this was, we got engaged, and had everything booked and ready 2 years before the wedding because we moved out of province. His parents didn't want to hear about our wedding because they do not believe in marriage. When we came back 1 month before the wedding, after everything was booked, finalized and finished, his father threw a massive tantrum because we wouldn't do what he wanted.
Oh and his parents turned to my husband and told him "I love you because I have to, and because you are my son, but as a person, I dislike you".- This statement came because I told him I decided to have a c-section and would probably pump and formula feed instead of breastfeeding. My husband stood up for me and that was the statement they gave him.
Sorry for the novel but I don't talk to my husband about this a whole lot because it does hurt him. I needed the vent today!
Ugh. I HATE problems with the in-laws! I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this @erin2021. I think you're wise to minimize the discussions about this topic with your hubby. I've found that it's best to remain supportive and keep your opinions regarding the ILs (especially if they're negative) to yourself.
It's so hard to keep it cool, especially when they're treating your spouse poorly, humph!
My MIL can be a complete nightmare. H knows she can be out of line, but he gets extremely defensive if I say anything negative about her. Even if they're crazy, boys got love for their parents!
He was the stereotypical hippie, left Liverpool, road tripping through America, and then ended up settling in Toronto area, but never got a job. He was hooked on drugs and is now addicted to pain killers from a car accident. He always regrets not doing something, like being a teacher. Although he saw a lot in life and traveled, he was really careless and I think now he takes his regrets out on his kids.
Pain killers can be so dangerous. My dad got hooked on them a couple years ago after a surgery and he drank a lot. It was scary. Your FIL taking that out on his kids will only drive them away and divide the family so that is really sad.
He has been on a dangerous amount of fentanyl for almost 15 years now. They are trying to cut down his dosages but his withdrawals are so bad, and because of his age, it could cause cardiac arrest. It's a shitty situation, and I can't believe a doctor would ever prescribe him the amount they did. But he will also double up on his patches if he has a long day.
It's a sad thing to go through, so I know how you feel. I know my husband had a rough patch in his teenage years when his father started going through all of it.
Pain killers can be so dangerous. My dad got hooked on them a couple years ago after a surgery and he drank a lot. It was scary. Your FIL taking that out on his kids will only drive them away and divide the family so that is really sad.
He has been on a dangerous amount of fentanyl for almost 15 years now. They are trying to cut down his dosages but his withdrawals are so bad, and because of his age, it could cause cardiac arrest. It's a shitty situation, and I can't believe a doctor would ever prescribe him the amount they did. But he will also double up on his patches if he has a long day.
It's a sad thing to go through, so I know how you feel. I know my husband had a rough patch in his teenage years when his father started going through all of it.
The only way my dad was able to break free was being in rehab and they did have to watch him closely because the withdrawals can be very bad. Doctors are so quick to write a prescription it's insane.
He has been on a dangerous amount of fentanyl for almost 15 years now. They are trying to cut down his dosages but his withdrawals are so bad, and because of his age, it could cause cardiac arrest. It's a shitty situation, and I can't believe a doctor would ever prescribe him the amount they did. But he will also double up on his patches if he has a long day.
It's a sad thing to go through, so I know how you feel. I know my husband had a rough patch in his teenage years when his father started going through all of it.
The only way my dad was able to break free was being in rehab and they did have to watch him closely because the withdrawals can be very bad. Doctors are so quick to write a prescription it's insane.
This would never happen. Mainly because he would lose control and that is not something is father would be good with. :/
I think prescriptions should be done differently. It's easy to go get prescriptions from multiple doctors and then fill them. It's scary!
I'm sorry your FIL is being that way. Why does he think he has a say in what YH does for a living? I'm glad you are supportive because that would be terrible to have unsupportive parents.
He was the stereotypical hippie, left Liverpool, road tripping through America, and then ended up settling in Toronto area, but never got a job. He was hooked on drugs and is now addicted to pain killers from a car accident. He always regrets not doing something, like being a teacher. Although he saw a lot in life and traveled, he was really careless and I think now he takes his regrets out on his kids.
Still doesn't give him the right to be a complete dick hole. My attitude to this is "Sorry, that you fucked up your life, but you are not going to fuck up ours."
The only way my dad was able to break free was being in rehab and they did have to watch him closely because the withdrawals can be very bad. Doctors are so quick to write a prescription it's insane.
This would never happen. Mainly because he would lose control and that is not something is father would be good with. :/
I think prescriptions should be done differently. It's easy to go get prescriptions from multiple doctors and then fill them. It's scary!
We used to think the same of my dad. He got to a breaking point though when he got a DUI and knew he needed to get his shit together. I hope nothing happens like that with your FIL but sometimes a reality check is all you need.
Our general doctor is now out of practice but he would write you a prescription in two seconds no questions asked. It's so fucked up.
This would never happen. Mainly because he would lose control and that is not something is father would be good with. :/
I think prescriptions should be done differently. It's easy to go get prescriptions from multiple doctors and then fill them. It's scary!
We used to think the same of my dad. He got to a breaking point though when he got a DUI and knew he needed to get his shit together. I hope nothing happens like that with your FIL but sometimes a reality check is all you need.
Our general doctor is now out of practice but he would write you a prescription in two seconds no questions asked. It's so fucked up.
My FIL has been in car accidents because of it! That's the sad part! He just thinks it is everyone else's fault.
I'm happy your father realized it before it was too late. Is he doing better now?
tryingfor5, just relating. I also have 4 with my exh. We do not speak in person except in the rarest of circumstances after 9 years... whatever, I feel bad for him and his anger. Text and emails work well.
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