cateyes - Going beta or bust is always the hardest, the anxiety of testing was always the worst for me. I've got everything crossed for you! kaliRN - GL this week mrsjene - Girl you are one lucky lady! Clomid is evil. Grow follies Grow! joy - I'm sorry you are feeling down and they can't figure out why. Mine comes and goes and they can't figure out what's going on. I hope they are able to figure out what's going on and help you feel better Cythe- GL with your appointment today! Hoping the RE will give you a good protocol for you and DH. birdie - Have you thought about IUI w/injectibles? goldenlove3 - So sorry you are feeling worried. The 2WW sucks wanderingheart - Welcome and I'm sorry you find yourself here. 2 months is a long time to wait for RE but hopefully it will be worth the wait. Daikoku - I'm so glad you are seeing results from clomid for your DH. FX!!! babycowbell - One more week of 2WW! FX @diordra - Wow, early July! It will be here right before you know it. longhornwino0907 - I have not heard of them, but wishing you all the best in your Injectible cycle, I liked it so much better than being on clomid/femara. wirt2cute - DH did clomid for 3 months - Before clomid he had low morph 2%/low motility 16%, 3 months after his last dose of clomid he went up to 66% motility. Our RE was more concerned with Motility and not Morph but we were happy with the changes. @sluttybigb00bz- I'd still like to TP your old RE. It is such a hard decisions. IF is not easy and when it comes to spending this kind of money even harder. lilsneezy - Wow that's a lot to deal with. Hugs renbee - Wow, Hawaii that sounds really nice to be able to clear your mind, reconnect and have a great time.
AFM, still benched. We came out on facebook to our friends (immediate family knew) about our IF journey. It is such a vulnerable thing for me to do but if It helps one person dealing with IF then IF didn't win today.
QOTW: working on eating healthy to bring down my glucose levels and thyroid antibodies. Last week was really hard due to anxiety and I was using eating to self sooth so I'm also working on that this week.
Omg omg OMFG - We are on the schedule for IUI next month!!!!1! (This is super amazing because they said no appointments available until August during my last apt).
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
Just got back from the RE appointment - I think I finally found THE ONE! I really liked this RE. Yes, he was a bit "doctory" (a little blunt and to the point), but I think most doctors are like this and it doesn't really bother me. He was also very funny and nice, and he seems to know his shit, which is the most important thing at the end of the day.
He did a little more blood work, and then I had a date with the dildo-cam. As soon as he looked at my ovaries he said "WOAH" and showed me the screen. He said I probably had 30-40 eggs chilling in my ovaries. So I'm like mega ultra PCOS. Now if I could just get one of them to come out...
I left feeling very hopeful - he said I'm not "infertile" - I've had one pregnancy, and I have lots of eggs and healthy organs, I just don't ovulate in a regular/predicable fashion (or at all). It was a kind of nice way to look at it that made me feel like we could do this.
I actually just got my period today, so he was ready to go full steam ahead with a femara + IUI cycle. I told him about our Hawaii trip, and that we wanted to maybe wait until July to do treatment. He said it was up to us, so now I'm waiting for DH to get home so we can discuss. Knowing my DH, he will say "whatever you want to do", so now I just need to decide! Part of me just wants to go for it - we've waited 2 years already, and I'm done waiting!
How odd, renbee MH and I are having a similar discussion tonight! I am booked to go to Hawaii next March and if IUI #1 is a bust, I want to take the next 2 cycles off so that doesn't interfere!
I'm so happy you love your RE and fx you and YH can get to a good decision!
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
How odd, renbee MH and I are having a similar discussion tonight! I am booked to go to Hawaii next March and if IUI #1 is a bust, I want to take the next 2 cycles off so that doesn't interfere!
I'm so happy you love your RE and fx you and YH can get to a good decision!
That is odd! It's so hard - I would hate to go all the way to Hawaii and miss out on drinking yummy drinks and doing fun activities because I was in first trimester. But at the same time, I would LOVE to have that reason to miss out on things...sigh.
Where are you going in Hawaii? Have you ever been before? We are spending a week on the big island, and then four days in Maui! I can't wait!
renbee, I was there in 2007 and we spent the whole time on Kauai (AMAZING island!) but this time we're spending all our time on the big island - which im super excited for! Last time we did a lot of relaxation and such, I'm much more excited to see some volcanoes and such. Mine is still a ways off, so I'm trying to hold off the can't wait bit. Its hard!
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
renbee, I was there in 2007 and we spent the whole time on Kauai (AMAZING island!) but this time we're spending all our time on the big island - which im super excited for! Last time we did a lot of relaxation and such, I'm much more excited to see some volcanoes and such. Mine is still a ways off, so I'm trying to hold off the can't wait bit. Its hard!
I just went to the big island! Lots of good food and beverages. We also drove out to the volcano, visited the black sand beach, and drove around a lot. I stayed I Kailua Kona the whole time. So fun!
After almost three years of TTC, IVF #1 = Menopur + Follistim + other stuff. Retrieved 14, 12 mature, 7 fertilized, only 1 (6AA) made it to day 5 blast. BFP! DD born 12-10-2016
lilsneezy-hugs to you. I am so very sorry for your horrible week.
peaseblossom55-the number isn't terrible so fingers crossed the upped dose helps!!!
renbee-I am sorry today brought back some sad and scary memories. Hopefully the new vitamins will help you! I am glad you are able to go ahead if you choose! Personally I would go ahead-you can still enjoy your trip and what a great baby moon it would be!
birdie-sounds like you have quite a few options now with the new RE and I wish you luck!!!!
kawaiikitsune-I am really sorry for the less than ideal results and am glad your RE was compassionate. Hopefully there will be no more surprises!!!
deelopi9-it is so scary to out yourself. I wish the best for you and that there be no dumb haters!
Cythe-waaahoooooo!!!!!!!!! OMG that's so awesome!!!!
I read everyone's updates, but my brain is still broken from the weekend. Hugs to everyone that needs them.
AFM, I have no idea WTF my body is doing anymore. We had a big out-of-town outing last weekend that involved lots of eating and drinking, so I didn't take my thermometer. I knew it would be falsely elevated from drinking, plus I was sleeping in the room with numerous people. It would have been pointless. Well, I have no idea if I ovulated or not. I had a likely +OPK Friday (well, + for me at least), so I assumed I ovulated that day or the next, which would have made our timing ok. But my temp this morning wasn't normal post-O temps, so I have no idea WTF is going on. I'm a little worried b/c every month I seem to O later and later, which worries me. But whatever, I've given up ever getting KU, so it doesn't really matter.
I'm proud of you for holding off on the testing today, cateyes. Still keeping FX for you. kaliRN, I hope everything goes as planned over the next few weeks! mrsjene, glad the Clomid isn't too terrible and FX that you will trigger soon. I am sorry for all the dismissive responses you are getting from your doctors. That is so unprofessional and the least the could do is give you a referral or direction as to where else to go for answers. That's BS. Good for you for talking to your friend and clearing the air. That would be really hard for me to disclose. Cythe, so happy for your IUI, girl! birdie, renbee, wirt2cute, I'm glad y'all like your new RE's and feel comfortable moving forward with their plans. Welcome, wirt2cute, you couldn't be in better company! goldenlove3 and longhornwino0907, keeping my FX for this cycle. wanderingheart, hi honey! It's ok to be here. We can all commiserate together and make IF a little more bearable. Good luck with your TTC plan! Daikoku, hooray for vacation and taking time off to de-stress from all the IF pressure. @diordra, will be thinking of you as you start all your meds before July! @sluttybigb00bz, I would still try one or two IUI's before moving to IVF, especially if the US today showed good follies. I guess every cycle might be different so just take it one cycle at a time and decide as you go. It seems like your new RE is well-equipped to help you and I'll be praying for you to get the answers you need to have your baby. lilsneezy, how terrible about all the damage. I'm so sorry. peaseblossom55, I hope next cycle works out better for you, though you're not out yet! kawaiikitsune, I'm sorry you got such unexpected news, but at least now you have a clue as to why it is harder for you to get pregnant. It's not a death sentence as he pointed out, and I hope you still get a firm plan in place that will maximize your chances with one tube. ((HUGS)) deelopi9, thank you for sharing your journey. (((HUGS))) kariann12, we're here for you. I'm sorry for the rough day.
I triggered this morning for my first IUI. I'm so nervous and excited but mainly scared that it won't work and I'll have to face another BFN and money down the drain. I had plenty of good follies and my lining improved as well. It's only at 6.6, so I am taking Estrace. So far my progesterone is good so I will not be taking any supplements. The IUI is set for tomorrow morning.
QOTW: I have a few small goals that mainly revolve around not skipping meals and improving my body image. I have a long term goal of writing a book to help mother's with eating disorders.
Me: 28, all tests normal DH: 34, very low count, motility, morphology DX - MFI 11/14/09 - Married 01/01/14 - TTC #1 01/06/15 - Started working with RE 04/06/15 - Recommendation - straight to IVF w/ICSI 09/04/15 - Started working with new RE Nov/Dec 15 - IVF w/ ICSI #1 - 11R/8F - 1 transferred, 3 frozen
Post by peaseblossom55 on Apr 20, 2015 19:18:39 GMT -5
icequeen good luck with the IUI!!! The cramping is gone, so who knows anymore....I don't symptom spot but I had period like cramps this morning, oh well. Tomorrow is another day! cateyes thank you! FX for you this cycle! Cythe yay iui!!!
kaliRN, good luck to you! I hope your ultrasound goes well!
mrsjene, glad you don't have any side effects! Anecdote: I didn't start feeling side effects until the second cycle I took it.
joy, I'm sorry you are having trouble with doctors and feeling crappy without explanation. It is incredibly frustrating to have providers that are not looking at your best interests. I hope you are able to find someone. Congrats on moving on to Clomid! Good luck!
wirt2cute, I'm sorry you have to be here, but welcome! I'm sorry about your husband's dx. I hope the treatment plan works for him.
@sluttybigb00bz, ::hugs:: I'm so sorry you're not in a good place right now. Don't beat yourself up about not leaving your old RE sooner. You, of course, expected him to have your best interest in mind. I hope your new RE is much, much better and can get a treatment plan in place.
lilsneezy, ::hugs:: I'm so sorry you're having a bad week. I hope you have a good appointment tomorrow with your RE.
AFM, I am on Day 4 of stims. I had an E2 blood test today and that came back at 237 which is good, apparently because I got instructions to continue on the same doses of Menopur and Gonal-F and then go back Wednesday for another date with the phlebotomist. I'm not really feeling much other than headaches, fatigue, and some mild bruising on my belly.
QOTW: I am trying to reorganize my master closet. It has become a black hole for anything and everything that doesn't have a place, so it's time to make those places!
Post by wanderingheart on Apr 20, 2015 19:57:45 GMT -5
I started to type this all out earlier, but then got roped into working late and I forgot. Thanks everyone for the welcomes! #Ilikeyouguisealready
cateyes – good luck in testing this week!! kaliRN – good luck! mrsjene – good luck with your ultrasound! I’m glad you haven’t experienced any side effects yet! joy – I’m sorry for the medical problems and idiot doctors. Hopefully you find a doctor who can work with you. I’m glad you have such a supportive friend to vent to. birdie – I hope your new RE works out for you guys! goldenlove3 – FX crossed for your 2WW. Daikoku –It sounds like you have some pretty great in laws! babycowbell – FX crossed for you! @diordra and deelopi9 – that’s awesome that you guys “came out” on Facebook. Way to educate others! longhornwino0907 – I’m trying to lose weight that I’ve gained since our wedding too. The struggle is real. wirt2cute – welcome! @sluttybigb00bz – I just want to give you all the squishy boob hugs. #hugsfordays lilsneezy - I’m so sorry about your dog and the awful week. #hugsforyoutoo peaseblossom55 – FX crossed for you! renbee – Super jealous you’re going to Hawaii! I’m trying to give up dairy too but it. is. hard. I’m glad the rest of your RE appointment went well. kawaiikitsune – the HSG is my biggest fear right now. I’m relieved to hear it wasn’t too bad for you! I’m sorry for the results, though. #handingouthugslikecandy Cythe – so exciting!!!!!! kariann12 - #morehugs icequeen – fx crossed for you tomorrow morning!!
ETA: Didn't even answer the GTKY question on my first day. Duh. I'm in graduate school right now, so getting my Masters is what I'm trying to achieve right now.
Hey ladies, I'm on mobile so I cant tag- but I read every post and am thinking abour all of you!
Nothing new here since my last update late last week. Robotic myomectomy scheduled for May 8th. Anxiously waiting! I guess because of the surgery, we may have to clue the parents in. I'm avoiding the topic. So awkward.
QOTW: My current goal is to work my core before my surgery and lose a few more pounds (I could lose about 8 more pounds). I'd like to say paying off debt, or getting the house organized... But who am I kidding?! That ain't happening right now.
MrsRC-33, MrRC-37. TTC#1 since 2/13. DX: T2 diet controlled diabetic, removed multiple fibroids blocking tubes, via robotic myomectomy, hysteroscopy and D&C on 5/15. CD3 b/w normal. HSG normal after surgery. On the bench April-June 2015. NTNP indefinitely. Loss mentioned.
wanderingheart tell me about it! I think I forgot when I decided to give up dairy that it meant no cheese. And then I went to chipotle one day and realized I couldn't get sour cream. It's seriously the WORST.
Post by kawaiikitsune on Apr 20, 2015 20:33:19 GMT -5
wanderingheart - I was so scared. I thought I was going to puke when I was in the waiting area because of my nerves. Honestly though, it was not a big deal. I didn't even feel the dye. I did have some mild period-like cramps afterward but two ibuprofen did the trick. I spotted most of that day and a little bit the day after. Honestly, it was nothing like I was imagining it.
Post by brettanomyces on Apr 21, 2015 10:01:33 GMT -5
Hi Ladies! I'm mobile for now so this will be a P&R. Hugs for everyone!
So it turns out our clinic won't allow us to have the religious supervision that we need, so we're transferring clinics. At least the RE was straight up and she said the clinic and Dr I was looking to transfer to is highly recommended. She is sending a referral and they are sending me our file (we still had to pay for our file but whatever).
I didn't tell her that sneaky me already made an appointment at the new clinic for Monday.
Meanwhile I'm 10/11 dpo on my medicated TI cycle. Turns out the clomid succeeded with giving me 3 follies, but thinned my lining a bit- 0.87 down from 1.00 in my natural monitored cycle. So we need to consider that if we want to try again with a clomid IUI. Anyone have any advice on that??
I did poas yesterday, bfn at 9/10 dpo. I get it's still very early ( I never said I had self control) so I'm trying not to lose hope. It's just been "no" for so long it's hard to feel like it'll ever be a yes.
******warning- baby mentioned********** Also, there was a woman at the clinic this morning strolling around with a really fucking adorable baby. We ended up having to be in the elevator with her and two other couples. I tried not to side-eye her. I may not have succeeded. Obviously I don't know her situation, but the situation of the hundred-odd women who file through the clinic every morning for monitoring IS obvious. I'm sure I'm being unreasonable but I feel like there should be more sensitivity with these things.
Well, my appointment yesterday was disappointing. I was very excited to meet with the new RE (whom I researched extensively and waited a month to have an appointment with), only to be disappointed to end up meeting with a Resident. So I was frustrated right off the bat. He was very nice, but I still ended up leaving in tears.
He said he didn't want/suggest to do anymore testing, which I found odd as I have never had any bloodwork done (other than what was done at my yearly physical). Their rationale was, I ovulate regularly so we don't need to get anymore information, because "that can just cause more confusion".
I lost count on how many times he told me "you are young, you have plenty of time to get pregnant" which made me tear up, because yes I am fully aware that I am 26. I don't think that my age should take away from the fact that we will have been trying for 2 years in May.
He also said, numerous times "It's frustrating, lots of people get pregnant on the first time", apparently sensitivity training has not taken place.
They he said that we have plenty of time to try, because of course I am young, so we should just continue to do IUI's because once you move forward, you can't go back.
At the very end of the appointment, the doctor that I was excited to see came into the room and talked to us. Which was fine, DH asked her all the questions we talked about wanting to know, thank god because I couldn't speak because I didn't want to burst into tears. I don't know if I was just irrationally upset, or what. But she basically said all the same things the resident said. She said that I ovulate normally, and they were able to see plenty of eggs on previous ultrasounds, so there was no need to do any bloodwork. She said that she didn't want to test my hormones for that same reason, and that apparently testing progesterone doesn't matter, because it varies too much within minutes of testing. She said that if we wanted to try supplementing Progesterone, that's fine but she thinks that it is unnecessary until someone moves to IVF or has had previous losses.
I will be switching from Clomid to Femara, assuming we continue treatments. They also do not do any monitoring while on medications. When I asked if I should have a repeat ultrasound to check my uterine lining, they said that it was unnecessary because I did not take Clomid long enough for it to affect that. I was pretty annoyed that they would not just take my money to appease my peace of mind.
We are now looking into a local clinic that doesn't treat infertility per se, but does focus on optimal health and hormonal balance through functional and natural medicine as well as nutritional counseling.
Please tell me if I was just be overly emotional.
RUN, do not walk, RUN from this RE. First of all, how unprofessional to have the resident be so damn insensitive. Asshat, it takes a healthy (no known reproductive issues) 1 years to get pregnant, not one month. No monitoring = lack of concern for my reproductive health = no business from me. I'm am so so sorry you experienced this. I went with a 2nd opinion and because my first RE did not fully look at my blood work (after being with her for 2 years) they misdiagnosed me. I WASTED 2 years of our time, money, insurance coverage and happiness. You are not being overly emotional at ALL.
Post by twinkie0612 on Apr 21, 2015 12:13:07 GMT -5
I am so sorry this is a post and run. I found out Friday that they laid off my boss at work and now work is insanely busy for me while I try to get things settled down. It is supposed to come with a promotion and raise for me (not effective until July but back dated to March), but it is also going to make my job 10x harder.
I am 5dp5dt and right now I am just waiting on my beta on Friday.
TTC #1 since August 2011 DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low P4, hostile CM, carrier for CF, high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA October 2012-August 2015: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, 2 failed FETs w/donor embryos, 1 freeze all IVF, 1 Failed FET, and 1 cancelled FET November 2015: FET w/ DEm #3 Transferred 1 perfect 6AA blast
Post by kawaiikitsune on Apr 21, 2015 12:22:26 GMT -5
birdie - I 100% agree with PP's. You have every right to be upset and I would run away from that RE as quickly as possible. You absolutely should be monitored while taking any fertility drugs. Just because you are ovulating regularly doesn't mean anything. My cycles are fairly regular ; I ovulate normally, my LP is pretty consistent, etc. but had I not had my HSG done, I never would have known about my blocked tube, and neither would my doctor. You need to see the whole picture. I hope you are able to find a doctor who will listen to your concerns and address them accordingly. *hugs*
birdie, I totally agree, run away from that RE. To have not wanted to do any further testing, and then to have sent in a resident, not okay. Not saying that residents are not equip, but you set your appointment up with the RE and not the resident.
birdie - I 100% agree with PP's. You have every right to be upset and I would run away from that RE as quickly as possible. You absolutely should be monitored while taking any fertility drugs. Just because you are ovulating regularly doesn't mean anything. My cycles are fairly regular ; I ovulate normally, my LP is pretty consistent, etc. but had I not had my HSG done, I never would have known about my blocked tube, and neither would my doctor. You need to see the whole picture. I hope you are able to find a doctor who will listen to your concerns and address them accordingly. *hugs*
I have at least had a HSG done, so I do that much. It just frustrates me that they were quick to diagnose us Unexplained and haven't done much investigating other than the HSG and SA. Unfortunately our only other care option is 2+ hours, whereas this one is 5 min. I have given up temping and OPK's and have resigned to NTNP for a while now, because I don't feel comfortable with our care.
That is extremely frustrating. Our RE is about an 1 1/2 hours away, give or take, so I feel your pain there. I'm sorry you have to chose NTNP due to lack of care.
******warning- baby mentioned********** Also, there was a woman at the clinic this morning strolling around with a really fucking adorable baby. We ended up having to be in the elevator with her and two other couples. I tried not to side-eye her. I may not have succeeded. Obviously I don't know her situation, but the situation of the hundred-odd women who file through the clinic every morning for monitoring IS obvious. I'm sure I'm being unreasonable but I feel like there should be more sensitivity with these things.
My RE clinic is also the military OBGYN so the waiting room (which is shared) is always full of babies and pregnant ladies.
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
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