.:. WTO Monday .:.

[mugster]

Apr 20, 2015 9:19:06 GMT -5 shadesofgold said:

Cycle/Month: Cycle 4 (2 AL - benched)

CD: 15

What are you doing to GKU?: benched

R/R/CS: Weird feeling of distance with H continues. Last night we were watching a Parks and Rec episode that involved someone making an announcement that they were pregnant. A wave of sadness swept over me and as soon as the episode ended I started sobbing. H just stayed silent and gave me the most lukewarm "there there" pat he could muster. It just made me even more sad - I felt so lonely. Before we fell asleep I told him I didn't need to talk it out right then, but I did want to tell him how I was feeling - lonely, distant, cold and disconnected. All he said was "me too" and rolled over to read a book. I'm a little stunned and really not sure where to go from here. Anyway, that isn't chart related I guess. Sorry for the Dear Diary sneak-attack.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? Twice in my life I've bled through light colored pants during my period. Once in high school and once just last month at work. It was much easier to try to casually tie something around my waist in high school.

I'm sorry. I hope that things get better.

[FrancesHouseman]

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD: 16

What are you doing to GKU?: nothing special

R/R/CS: nothing right now - a bit of longer cycle for me so far, but nothing unusual yet

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? Nothing unique - I've had my skirt blow up multiple times (I love full skirts), and I've had the bleed through twice (thankfully not since middle school)

shadesofgold - I do not know your relationship, but just have a quick observation from what you've said - you may want to ask YH about how he's feeling about the miscarriage and TTC - you're in this together, and he might be feeling neglected - he might be more willing to give support if he feels like he's getting support (or he's just being an ass - I don't know; I'm not there)

[cheshie6]

mugster, I haven't considered that. Thanks!

[requiressnacks]

Apr 20, 2015 10:04:10 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

Cycle/Month: 8 (AL)

CD: 14

What are you doing to GKU?: OPKs, BBT, preseed, sex!

R/R/CS: OPK Confusion!?!  So Wondfo is still negative but close to positive, Target's brand is positive so I double checked with Clear Blue Advanced Monitor and it is saying Low!?!   This happened last month on CD 16 and when I got CH they were dashed.  When I removed the one positive Wondfo reading from last month, I got the crosshairs on CD 18 which matched up Af arriving on CD30.  This seems to be happening over again and I have to wait till the end of the month before I know which is correct.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? Nothing crazy, ripped jeans while out and about!

There are instructions that came with the CB Advanced OPK about when you should start testing.  For example, if you normally have a 30 day cycle, you should start with the CB Advanced OPK on CD10.  This is so you can establish the baseline and the OPK can detect the rise in Estrogen and LH.  

[cheshie6]

Apr 20, 2015 10:45:44 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Apr 20, 2015 10:04:10 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

Cycle/Month: 8 (AL)

CD: 14

What are you doing to GKU?: OPKs, BBT, preseed, sex!

R/R/CS: OPK Confusion!?!  So Wondfo is still negative but close to positive, Target's brand is positive so I double checked with Clear Blue Advanced Monitor and it is saying Low!?!   This happened last month on CD 16 and when I got CH they were dashed.  When I removed the one positive Wondfo reading from last month, I got the crosshairs on CD 18 which matched up Af arriving on CD30.  This seems to be happening over again and I have to wait till the end of the month before I know which is correct.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? Nothing crazy, ripped jeans while out and about!

There are instructions that came with the CB Advanced OPK about when you should start testing.  For example, if you normally have a 30 day cycle, you should start with the CB Advanced OPK on CD10.  This is so you can establish the baseline and the OPK can detect the rise in Estrogen and LH.  

Thanks, I bought the box last summer before my BFP, I had 4 left (don't expire till September of 2015) and was just trying to use them up. I forgot that it tracked and remembered your levels.  My brain doesn't seem to be working these last few days!

[Deleted]

Cycle/Month: 6 / 7

CD: 5

What are you doing to GKU?: Nothing yet. Just started BBT for this cycle after taking a break during my period.

R/R/CS: Not really focusing on GKU right now. Planned a really fun date night at home the other day with DH. Having a group date night tonight with friends.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? The basics. Period bleed through in middle school, covered up by a sweatshirt tied around the waist. Bathing suit top popping off at the pool once. Thankfully neither was noticed by anyone (as far as I know).

[shadesofgold]

Apr 20, 2015 10:11:41 GMT -5 FrancesHouseman said:

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD: 16

What are you doing to GKU?: nothing special

R/R/CS: nothing right now - a bit of longer cycle for me so far, but nothing unusual yet

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? Nothing unique - I've had my skirt blow up multiple times (I love full skirts), and I've had the bleed through twice (thankfully not since middle school)

shadesofgold - I do not know your relationship, but just have a quick observation from what you've said - you may want to ask YH about how he's feeling about the miscarriage and TTC - you're in this together, and he might be feeling neglected - he might be more willing to give support if he feels like he's getting support (or he's just being an ass - I don't know; I'm not there)

This is a good reminder - thank you. I have felt the disconnectedness was more general, but I should definitely ask when we have a conversation about it. I have felt a little shut down in the past couple of weeks when the MC came up - I have been interpreting that as him wanting to move on and stop dwelling on it, but I should give him a chance to express himself. (Hopefully he does... the expressing himself piece is exactly what hasn't been happening lately.)

[ruthgoose]

Cycle/Month: 2/2

CD:11

What are you doing to GKU?: EOD sex, preseed, OPKs, BBT, CM

R/R/CS: Odd I had O pains yesterday but not today, usually they are consistent. I guess I will see today is only half over.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? I bled through one time in 10th grade in front of my hot 24y/o teacher... ugh that sucked.

[FrancesHouseman]

Apr 20, 2015 11:06:17 GMT -5 shadesofgold said:

Apr 20, 2015 10:11:41 GMT -5 FrancesHouseman said:

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD: 16

What are you doing to GKU?: nothing special

R/R/CS: nothing right now - a bit of longer cycle for me so far, but nothing unusual yet

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? Nothing unique - I've had my skirt blow up multiple times (I love full skirts), and I've had the bleed through twice (thankfully not since middle school)

shadesofgold - I do not know your relationship, but just have a quick observation from what you've said - you may want to ask YH about how he's feeling about the miscarriage and TTC - you're in this together, and he might be feeling neglected - he might be more willing to give support if he feels like he's getting support (or he's just being an ass - I don't know; I'm not there)

This is a good reminder - thank you. I have felt the disconnectedness was more general, but I should definitely ask when we have a conversation about it. I have felt a little shut down in the past couple of weeks when the MC came up - I have been interpreting that as him wanting to move on and stop dwelling on it, but I should give him a chance to express himself. (Hopefully he does... the expressing himself piece is exactly what hasn't been happening lately.)

That could be true too, but if so, he needs to grow up and realize it might take you a while to get over it - and that's ok.  Good luck - hopefully a conversation helps

[swivelchair5]

Cycle/Month: 11 (2 AL)

CD: 13

What are you doing to GKU?: opks and eod sex

R/R/CS: I had another highish temp today and FF gave me dotted crosshairs for CD 10. I still disagree and am going to stick around here, but it is weird. chart

Alternative rant - my OB's office just call me to see if I am receiving pre-natal care somewhere else, because they haven't seen me since January. I guess somebody forgot to write down that I had a miscarriage.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? When I had been at my job for about 2 weeks, the zipper on my side-zip pants busted about an hour after I got to the office. The zipper was stuck in the up position, but the fly was gaping open. I had to get a co-worker to cut me out so that I could use the bathroom, and then needed about a dozen safety pins to keep them closed the rest of the day.

[daystardreams]

Cycle/Month: 12/15

CD: 25

What are you doing to GKU?: Everything except ovulating!

R/R/CS: I had pretty much given up on this cycle but my OPK was a tiny bit darker than usual yesterday, temperature went up slightly. I've never ovulated past CD 20 before. So now I don't know what is going on!

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction?
A couple weeks ago, I accidentally wore pants with a giant hole in the crotch. I had set them aside to try to find some use for the fabric. I still have no idea how I didn't notice when I got dressed. I was just careful and went home on my lunch to change them. I threw them away immediately.

[FrancesHouseman]

Apr 20, 2015 12:35:10 GMT -5 swivelchair5 said:

Cycle/Month: 11 (2 AL)

CD: 13

What are you doing to GKU?: opks and eod sex

R/R/CS: I had another highish temp today and FF gave me dotted crosshairs for CD 10. I still disagree and am going to stick around here, but it is weird. chart

Alternative rant - my OB's office just call me to see if I am receiving pre-natal care somewhere else, because they haven't seen me since January. I guess somebody forgot to write down that I had a miscarriage.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? When I had been at my job for about 2 weeks, the zipper on my side-zip pants busted about an hour after I got to the office. The zipper was stuck in the up position, but the fly was gaping open. I had to get a co-worker to cut me out so that I could use the bathroom, and then needed about a dozen safety pins to keep them closed the rest of the day.

not cool man

[swivelchair5]

Apr 20, 2015 13:11:16 GMT -5 @emilie818 said:

swivelchair5 ugh, that doctor's office would have gotten some choice words from me. sorry.

did you get an OPK+? that looks like an O jump to me...

@emilie818, this was actually the second time since my MC that they have called me about prenatal appointments.  I've never had great luck with their front office, but I love the doctors and nurses there.

I took my first opk today (negative).  The earliest I have ever ovulated was CD 18, so I never start until CD 14 or so.  I haven't had any fertile CM yet.  I'm just going to hang in WTO for another few days and see what happens.

[cheshie6]

FrancesHouseman, one thing that is hard but try to remember is everyone mourns differently and at different paces. A year after my dad passed, my sister made me mad because I was still in counseling and she kept saying, "you should be moving on by now, time to have kids!" I found out later from my mom, sister was still sleeping with dad's ashes. From the outside, YH may be trying to not over do support (as MH would say, one of you would has to be strong when the other is breaking down) as well as being "that" someone who is being strong. I would totally give him the benefit of the doubt because who do most men have to talk to about this type of stuff? Who tells them its ok to be sad for more than 5 minutes?

[Deleted]

Cycle/Month: 6

CD: 3

What are you doing to GKU?: BBT, Pom juice, green tea

R/R/CS: I'm good today.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction?

My scrub pants tore down the crotch seam the other day at work. I didn't realize until I felt a cool breeze on my undercarriage.

[FrancesHouseman]

Apr 20, 2015 14:45:39 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

FrancesHouseman, one thing that is hard but try to remember is everyone mourns differently and at different paces. A year after my dad passed, my sister made me mad because I was still in counseling and she kept saying, "you should be moving on by now, time to have kids!" I found out later from my mom, sister was still sleeping with dad's ashes. From the outside, YH may be trying to not over do support (as MH would say, one of you would has to be strong when the other is breaking down) as well as being "that" someone who is being strong. I would totally give him the benefit of the doubt because who do most men have to talk to about this type of stuff? Who tells them its ok to be sad for more than 5 minutes?

I totally agree - I thought that's what I was trying to get across in my first response - she might need to check in with him and ask how he's doing regarding the miscarriage and TTC - I know with our miscarriage it felt like all of the attention/focus was on me (I was the one being induced) - but I made a point to keep checking in with MH because he had just lost a baby too

[valie]

Apr 20, 2015 14:50:00 GMT -5 @303sunshine said:

Cycle/Month: 6

CD: 3

What are you doing to GKU?: BBT, Pom juice, green tea

R/R/CS: I'm good today.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction?

My scrub pants tore down the crotch seam the other day at work. I didn't realize until I felt a cool breeze on my undercarriage.

lol undercarriage

[shadesofgold]

Apr 20, 2015 14:45:39 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

FrancesHouseman, one thing that is hard but try to remember is everyone mourns differently and at different paces. A year after my dad passed, my sister made me mad because I was still in counseling and she kept saying, "you should be moving on by now, time to have kids!" I found out later from my mom, sister was still sleeping with dad's ashes. From the outside, YH may be trying to not over do support (as MH would say, one of you would has to be strong when the other is breaking down) as well as being "that" someone who is being strong. I would totally give him the benefit of the doubt because who do most men have to talk to about this type of stuff? Who tells them its ok to be sad for more than 5 minutes?

Also good perspective. Thanks for sharing your experience. I will try to give MH the benefit of the doubt. I think I'm going to initiate the conversation tonight and try to let him do the talking. I just hope he does talk. We have had problems relating to each other in the past because he is extremely practical and not emotionally expressive. (Even things like saying I love you have been landmines in the past.) By comparison I feel crazy for what are very normal emotional expressions and needs. But you're right - it is possible that the strong signals I've been getting from him do go beyond "let's move on". I'd love to hear about it either way! Seriously, I'd love to hear anything.

[ruthgoose]

Apr 20, 2015 13:39:16 GMT -5 swivelchair5 said:

Apr 20, 2015 13:11:16 GMT -5 @emilie818 said:

swivelchair5 ugh, that doctor's office would have gotten some choice words from me. sorry.

did you get an OPK+? that looks like an O jump to me...

@emilie818, this was actually the second time since my MC that they have called me about prenatal appointments.  I've never had great luck with their front office, but I love the doctors and nurses there.

I took my first opk today (negative).  The earliest I have ever ovulated was CD 18, so I never start until CD 14 or so.  I haven't had any fertile CM yet.  I'm just going to hang in WTO for another few days and see what happens.

Man and it even corresponds with your post O temps too.  It might be strange but you really might have ovulated early.  I can definitely see why you are hesitant, I would be too!  Luckily if it did happen, you had good timing.

[caer]

(((Hugs))) shadesofgold.
I'm so sorry swivelchair5. That's really unacceptable.

Cycle/Month: 1

CD: 5

What are you doing to GKU: OPKs, starting Wednesday maybe?

R/R/CS: hoping today is the last day of AF.

GTKY: I was in a rush one day in college and threw on a pair of pants I had left on a chair in my bedroom. After leaving the house, I discovered that my dog had chewed a hole in the thigh/crotch area. Not cool, puppy. Not cool.

[swivelchair5]

Apr 20, 2015 16:21:21 GMT -5 ruthgoose said:

Apr 20, 2015 13:39:16 GMT -5 swivelchair5 said:

@emilie818, this was actually the second time since my MC that they have called me about prenatal appointments.  I've never had great luck with their front office, but I love the doctors and nurses there.

I took my first opk today (negative).  The earliest I have ever ovulated was CD 18, so I never start until CD 14 or so.  I haven't had any fertile CM yet.  I'm just going to hang in WTO for another few days and see what happens.

Man and it even corresponds with your post O temps too.  It might be strange but you really might have ovulated early.  I can definitely see why you are hesitant, I would be too!  Luckily if it did happen, you had good timing.

It is very strange either way.  We are going to HIO for the next week just in case.

[Deleted]

Ok, valie, I have to ask. Why did you wear your pjs to work? Was it an accident?

shadesofgold, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. In my experience, men do not handle emotions/emotional situations well. Often, they shut down. I hope you two are able to love on and support each other. ((Hugs))

Good luck, paloslee

Ugh, hugs swivelchair5--that sucks.

[valie]

Apr 20, 2015 17:08:23 GMT -5 @303sunshine said:

Ok, valie, I have to ask. Why did you wear your pjs to work? Was it an accident?

shadesofgold, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. In my experience, men do not handle emotions/emotional situations well. Often, they shut down. I hope you two are able to love on and support each other. ((Hugs))

Good luck, paloslee

Ugh, hugs swivelchair5--that sucks.

Yes. It was a complete accident. It was the middle of winter and I usually wore my hoodie on top of my work shirt*, but I was cold and put the hoodie on top of my pjs to keep warm while I was brushing my teeth (or something, who knows?) and forgot the whole changing my top part.

ETA: *I usually wore my hoodie on top of my work shirt under my winter coat for my commute

[paloslee]

Apr 20, 2015 17:08:23 GMT -5 @303sunshine said:

Ok, valie, I have to ask. Why did you wear your pjs to work? Was it an accident?

shadesofgold, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. In my experience, men do not handle emotions/emotional situations well. Often, they shut down. I hope you two are able to love on and support each other. ((Hugs))

Good luck, paloslee

Ugh, hugs swivelchair5--that sucks.

thank you @303sunshine

[icequeen]

pbandj714, I'm so sorry you had a hard time dealing with your friend's announcement. A similar thing happened to me this weekend.
mishy2010, FX for your CH's!
pinkcat, do you have any OPK data to add?
cakewench, I'm so disappointed YH still hasn't gone in. What is going on? I would have a serious convo with him about whether there is a deeper issue than just being afraid of needles. He's not being very fair to you. ((HUGS))
shadesofgold, I'm sorry YH acted so cold last night. That would really throw me for a loop as well. At least he admitted that he also feels that something is off between the two of you because he admitted to also feeling distance. Maybe you can go out to a nice dinner when you are both in a good mood and ask him how he is dealing with the IF stuff. Ask if he just needs his space, or if there is anything you could do to close the gap between y'all? I can't imagine he likes feeling the disconnect and maybe you should try to empathize with his side of the issue, as difficult as it may be, and let him know that you are trying your best.
Big hugs for the hard day today, @wallflwr926, @emilie818, swivelchair5

Cycle/Month: 9/8

CD: 18

What are you doing to GKU?: tamoxifen, follistim, trigger, IUI, progest/estrog, BBT, PNV

R/R/CS: I had my trigger shot this morning and IUI is set for tomorrow! I'm feeling all the feels. mainly just terrified but I've told y'all this before. I feel so lucky to be able to do this IUI. I am just praying that this is the right step for us.

GTKY: What has been your worst wardrobe mixup/malfunction? I came over to my ex-fiance's parents house for dinner one night and we ended up having sex in the basement. I rushed to get my clothes back on and put my shirt on inside out and backwards. His parents were not my biggest fans.

[Sammich_Cat]

Apr 20, 2015 19:53:26 GMT -5 icequeen said:

*snip*
What are you doing to GKU?: tamoxifen, follistim, trigger, IUI, progest/estrog, BBT, PNV

R/R/CS: I had my trigger shot this morning and IUI is set for tomorrow! I'm feeling all the feels. mainly just terrified but I've told y'all this before. I feel so lucky to be able to do this IUI. I am just praying that this is the right step for us.

*snip*

icequeen I have all the feels for you right now too.  We are considering doing IUI later this year if they will even do the procedure on me.  FX for you.

Cycle: 6

CD: 2

What we are doing: waiting for AF to leave

R/R/CS: researching IUIs still

GTKY: I bled through several pairs of jeans. I'm sure there are more embarrassing ones that I mentally blocked.

[shadesofgold]

Just want to say thanks to everyone for the virtual stranger hugs and advice. I love this place.

Sending you crazy good vibes for tomorrow icequeen!!

[helloerrbody]

Late to the party but had to say bravo to valie for the awesome GTKY question! I legit LOLed reading some of those!!!!

[helloerrbody]

Fx icequeen!!!!!!!!

[cakewench]

icequeen - I just saw this! Thank you so much for the hugs. MH said last night he called a bunch of places yesterday, so that's some kind of progress at least. Keeping FX for you today!!!!