I'm not going to lie... It legit boggles my mind that people are able to be racist or discriminatory in this day and age. I just don't get it.
It boggles my mind too. But racism is a slippery beast. There is very visible racism and more subtle variations. Many people choose not to critically examine their opinions/attitudes and just assume that they are fine if they aren't going around proclaiming "I hate black people." Those are the people that I would most like to help to see the error in their ways.
Also, take everything I said above and plug in other categories of people who are frequently discriminated against.
I still see a little bit of it in my area purely due to lack of exposure to anyone different from them. They only know what their parents have told them, which usually comes from the exact situation with their parents etc. It's really sad to see/hear. As much as you want to explain to them why it is wrong and ignorant they will never listen nor understand.
Popcorn is gross and I have nothing more to contribute to this conversation.
I'll kinda second this (except for Popcornopolis).
I actually HATE getting popcorn at the movies because I'll spend two hours trying to get kernels out of my teeth and out from under my gums and be completely distracted and lose track of the plot.
Seriously. Someone could be flaming me for loving puppies and I'd probably be like "k you're right I'm sorry!!!!" and back away.
Actually, being quoted in UO brings a split second of panic.
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
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It boggles my mind too. But racism is a slippery beast. There is very visible racism and more subtle variations. Many people choose not to critically examine their opinions/attitudes and just assume that they are fine if they aren't going around proclaiming "I hate black people." Those are the people that I would most like to help to see the error in their ways.
Also, take everything I said above and plug in other categories of people who are frequently discriminated against.
I still see a little bit of it in my area purely due to lack of exposure to anyone different from them. They only know what their parents have told them, which usually comes from the exact situation with their parents etc. It's really sad to see/hear. As much as you want to explain to them why it is wrong and ignorant they will never listen nor understand.
Never say never People must be able to learn new ways of looking at things. I know my narrower views I had as a teenager have definitely been pushed open in the last 15 years.
It boggles my mind too. But racism is a slippery beast. There is very visible racism and more subtle variations. Many people choose not to critically examine their opinions/attitudes and just assume that they are fine if they aren't going around proclaiming "I hate black people." Those are the people that I would most like to help to see the error in their ways.
Also, take everything I said above and plug in other categories of people who are frequently discriminated against.
I still see a little bit of it in my area purely due to lack of exposure to anyone different from them. They only know what their parents have told them, which usually comes from the exact situation with their parents etc. It's really sad to see/hear. As much as you want to explain to them why it is wrong and ignorant they will never listen nor understand.
There is very little diversity in my community, with the exception of that being in the summer when there is a large influx of migrant workers. I am bi-racial, so I am able to blend in enough, but because of that, people also think that it is okay to say racist things in front of me. It is aggravating, especially when it is my ILs...
It boggles my mind too. But racism is a slippery beast. There is very visible racism and more subtle variations. Many people choose not to critically examine their opinions/attitudes and just assume that they are fine if they aren't going around proclaiming "I hate black people." Those are the people that I would most like to help to see the error in their ways.
Also, take everything I said above and plug in other categories of people who are frequently discriminated against.
I still see a little bit of it in my area purely due to lack of exposure to anyone different from them. They only know what their parents have told them, which usually comes from the exact situation with their parents etc. It's really sad to see/hear. As much as you want to explain to them why it is wrong and ignorant they will never listen nor understand.
Why assume that they will never listen or understand? Maybe this is the teacher in me, but if the problem is a lack of exposure or a lack of critical reflection, how will leaving the issue alone help anything? My grandparents said racist things all the time, my parents did from time to time, I am not my parents. My thoughts on race have evolved from what they were when I was growing up outside of Detroit in an all white neighborhood, and we locked our doors when we drove through the city. Why have my thoughts evolved? Because I started to encounter people that were different from me, I read, I listened to what other people had to say, I thought about those things. I still think about those things.
Also, because popcorn..... Do you ever put Tabasco or Siracha on your popcorn?! That is good. It's also a bar trick to get you to drink more beer, but it's tasty!!
Speaking of adding things, does anybody else put cheese in your popcorn? Like actual cheese, not cheesy powder. DH thinks I'm so weird when I do that but it's so yummy!
I've never done that or seen anyone who does that, but I could imagine it would taste pretty good!
My friend gets extra buttery/salty popcorn and puts a packet of M&Ms in it. Or at least that's what she does when we go to the movies.
Popcorn is gross and I have nothing more to contribute to this conversation.
I'll kinda second this (except for Popcornopolis).
I actually HATE getting popcorn at the movies because I'll spend two hours trying to get kernels out of my teeth and out from under my gums and be completely distracted and lose track of the plot.
Popcorn is my favorite part about going to the movies. So delicious.
Post by squeakyduck on Apr 23, 2015 11:53:05 GMT -5
1) Make popcorn. (no love for air poppers yet? Yum.) 2) Melt real butter. Pour on popcorn. 3) Open a box of Kraft Mac and cheese. Ditch the noodles, and pour the cheese packet over your buttered popcorn. 4) Mouthgasim.
Seriously. Someone could be flaming me for loving puppies and I'd probably be like "k you're right I'm sorry!!!!" and back away.
Actually, being quoted in UO brings a split second of panic.
I don't get this. As joy said flaming is a right of passage. Unless you are being a total and complete asshat you shouldn't need to worry. Please don't be afraid to post because of a little flaming. It won't kill you.
Actually, being quoted in UO brings a split second of panic.
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
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Actually, being quoted in UO brings a split second of panic.
I don't get this. As joy said flaming is a right of passage. Unless you are being a total and complete asshat you shouldn't need to worry. Please don't be afraid to post because of a little flaming. It won't kill you.
I am not afraid to post, my panic is, WTF did I not think through?
ETA: In life I try to say what I mean, and mean what I say. Sometimes that is harder to stick to on the interwebs
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
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#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
My point is I can very well say something that others don't agree with and get flamed for it. Fine. But I'm not going to continue to antagonize a board because of it. I generally like everyone and respect the differences on these boards. I'm not going to lash out because someone takes issue with what I say.
Last Edit: Apr 23, 2015 12:00:54 GMT -5 by zombiesquad
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I still see a little bit of it in my area purely due to lack of exposure to anyone different from them. They only know what their parents have told them, which usually comes from the exact situation with their parents etc. It's really sad to see/hear. As much as you want to explain to them why it is wrong and ignorant they will never listen nor understand.
Why assume that they will never listen or understand? Maybe this is the teacher in me, but if the problem is a lack of exposure or a lack of critical reflection, how will leaving the issue alone help anything? My grandparents said racist things all the time, my parents did from time to time, I am not my parents. My thoughts on race have evolved from what they were when I was growing up outside of Detroit in an all white neighborhood, and we locked our doors when we drove through the city. Why have my thoughts evolved? Because I started to encounter people that were different from me, I read, I listened to what other people had to say, I thought about those things. I still think about those things.
I completely agree. My grandparents still say things that make me side-eye them for it. I also can't force someone to try/see different things. I live in an extremely small town in rural Nebraska and as an "outsider" (we moved there when I was 6 and have lived there ever since) we were weird because we didn't fit the norms for this community. We traveled a lot growing up, and did not fit their lifestyle exactly. We did eventually get them to understand we weren't bad/wrong, just different. In the last 20years they have decided we aren't so bad. So ideas and change can be made, but it definitely doesn't happen overnight.
I'll kinda second this (except for Popcornopolis).
I actually HATE getting popcorn at the movies because I'll spend two hours trying to get kernels out of my teeth and out from under my gums and be completely distracted and lose track of the plot.
Popcorn is my favorite part about going to the movies. So delicious.
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
Look. You're new. But, honestly, you're bordering on trolling right now.
Take your own advice and let it go.
No, we all aren't clones of each other or some shit - we all have our own opinions - but like it was stated earlier, there are ways to express them because 1. this is still a group of strangers to you and 2. this board encompasses people from many many backgrounds.
Being argumentative doesn't help anything on message boards. It only alienates you. So, like, chill. Please.
#TellIt! But I'm like most in here. If I've found a community that I enjoy contributing to and I get flamed, I'm not going to make a point to continually alienate myself by being an ass. I don't do it IRL and I won't do it here.
Soooo welcome back to high school. If you aren't in the "in" crowd, people will turn everything you say around.
You all care ENTIRELY too much about what other people think.
Really? A reply to a thread makes you nervous? How dare you think differently and for yourself!??!!?
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