It was way back in the first year of our relationship and since we were long distance I really didn't put much (read: any) stock in us making it. All of my boyfriends had eventually cheated on me, so I figured I'd just do it first.
I know DH loves me... but he's never treated me quite the same and I'll never know if that is because of what I did or if the "newness" of our relationship had just worn off by then.
wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.
I hope you all don't hate me after this confession.
We all do stupid things. It happens. If anyone hates you for this screw them.
I regret not exploring more before settling down. I moved out of my parents house and in with my boyfriend and then got married and had a baby. I didn't travel. I didn't go away to school. I didn't do anything. I think maybe if I hadn't just settled so quickly that maybe I wouldn't have been so unhappy in my marriage. Maybe I wouldn't have had the affair.
Post by raesofsunshine1 on Jan 22, 2015 6:19:22 GMT -5
I wish I would have traveled more before getting married. The farthest Ive ever travelled was from PA to Washington and Canada right above that, but I had wanted to go to the Philippines but never did. Now, we will have to save for years before we could take a trip like that.
Also, I started working when I was 16. But I never handled my money well. I didnt always make much but I lived at home until I got married. What did I do with what I made?? I have no clue.
Post by munchkin120 on Jan 22, 2015 8:41:32 GMT -5
I wish I didn't go out partying so much during college. I was working as a pharmacy tech. Really wanted to be a pharmacist but didn't want to put in the effort for good grades and have to actually study. Drinking and friends were more important at the time. So I got my business degree instead. And where are all those awesome friends now? I don't even know. Huge mistake.
Post by riverandmountain on Jan 22, 2015 9:46:51 GMT -5
@apk. Mine is similar. My only real regret is driving high and/or drunk as a youth. I cringe over that. I drove so many country roads blitzed out of my mind.
I guess my other one is I wish I had gone into nursing. I didn't think I was smart enough. I got a BFA, guess what I do with that? Nada. It was fun though.
wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.
I hope you all don't hate me after this confession.
Why would everyone hate you? Big props for telling the story and for getting done what you had to do and moving on! I kind of think you rock!
Post by Oldmomhubbard on Jan 22, 2015 9:57:45 GMT -5
I have a few: Not going abroad while I was in college, not going to Italy when I had the chance and all I would have had to pay for is the plane ticket, and my biggest is probably that when my DD1 was in 1st grade she had an awful teacher. She is such a huge introvert and will not very often tell me what's going on or complain if things are upsetting her. It wasn't until the next year that I realized how scared she had been of that teacher who constantly yelled at the kids...to the point that the other teachers on the hall were complaining about it. I wish I'd been paying more attention and advocated for her more and gotten her out of that classroom. The teacher ended up getting fired at the end of that year. She's now 13 in two weeks and has a lot of problems in school and will never ask for help, I'm convinced that part of it is because she was pretty traumatized that year and I didn't do anything about it. Makes me want to cry.
wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.
I hope you all don't hate me after this confession.
No way, sister! Hugs to you. That must've been a tough time.
Mine is weird....it's a big regret but I also think it's the best decision I ever made.
I was accepted to Med School. I had worked so hard for it and in many ways it was one of my greatest accomplishments. But I was SO horribly anxious and burnt out from the process (I don't know if any of you have every applied to med school but its very financially and emotionally taxing...one of the first online forums I belonged to was basically a support group for med school applicants). I was also really disenchanted with the whole medical school model - which I still think is (in many ways) incredibly ass-backwards. especially for someone like me who was interested in primary care.
To complicate things even more, DH and I had just gotten engaged. I was just feeling so fed up with school and wanted to actually live my life a little bit.
So I took a year off, traveled, taught high school biology for a semester, applied to direct-entry NP programs and here I am!
I regret it sometimes because I know I could have rocked it, and I know that I'm often judged by my "lesser degree." But I don't because I love my job, and my H, and my little family. So yeah.
Post by sweetadeline on Jan 22, 2015 10:06:05 GMT -5
Mine is kind of stupid. We felt pressured to have a big wedding with all of the bells and whistles. While it was lovely, I desperately wish that we would have been more wise about it and done a small destination wedding and used the money we spent on the wedding as a bigger down payment on our house. Our mortgage is high and prevents us from doing lots of things that we wish that we could afford to do. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say.
I regret my degree. I should have done midwifery. Instead, I wasted five years on a degree that does nothing for me. I wonder if that disappoints my parents (I know they are proud of me overall...but does it really nag them that they paid for a degree I don't use and could care less about?).
Like others, I wish I would have gone into teaching. My degree does nothing. I love my job as a paraprofessional but you don't even need a degree for it. What a waste of 35 grand.
Secondly, I regret not taking a nannying job for my cousin. My cousin writes, produces and stars in off Broadway plays. They also take their company to Norway where my cousins husband is from. I was offered a nannying position that would have lead to me being in Norway for 3 months but I had just gotten engaged and gotten a job so I turned it down. Kinda wish I would have done it.
Also losing my virginity to my ex. He's an asshat and it makes my husband feel a bit awful that I even had sex with that asshat.
Post by rockynfrankie on Jan 22, 2015 16:06:10 GMT -5
My proudest moment and biggest regret was going to college. I never planned on going to college but at 17 I was living with DH and his parents. They told me either go to college or get a job and move out. So I took the easy way out and applied to college. I wanted to go to school near DH so I applied to a really great private school right down the street from his. DH parents paid for most of his education. I on the other hand took out student loan after student loan. I borrowed excessively to put it mildly. We had a great time in college. We drank and smoked as much as we wanted. It was the time of my life. But alas, I graduated and got my first student loan bill and realized most people don't even pay that much for their mortgage! I wish I had not only borrowed conservatively, but realized that I am not a trust fund baby and I had no business going to the school I went to. If I had the chance to do it all again I would go to the near by community college, save myself 100's of 1000's of dollars and still have the same job I have today!
Post by monstomommy on Jan 22, 2015 17:02:07 GMT -5
Some days (not all) I regret marrying my high school sweetheart. I went to a college near his and spent most of my time with him at his school. I neglected my own friends. I also didn't go abroad and turned down opportunities that I would have taken if I was single. But it all worked out. We got married when I was in law school and then he moved away from his friends and job so I could have the job of my dreams. Plus now we have two of the most adorable, awesome children in the world. So while I regret it sometimes, I would never change what I did.
Post by breandmikebaby on Jan 23, 2015 0:29:41 GMT -5
I really think everything happens for a reason and try to see the positive lesson in any thing negative that happens.
I guess my only regret is buying the house we have right now. It never fit our family and we rushed into it because houses were selling so fast. I wish we would have found a different house, but we also learned to not rush into buying a house again if we have any doubts. We also learned more about what we truly need in a house.
Post by heathera1979 on Jan 23, 2015 9:54:06 GMT -5
My biggest regret is also something I am very ashamed of. 13 years ago, DH and I were having a lot of problems. I wasn't happy and wanted to leave, but I was scared to. Instead I had an affair that lasted about 3 months. DH never would have found out, but I decided I wanted to make things work, but couldn't unless I was totally honest. We separated for about 2 months, but I have the most wonderful husband. He decided that he wasn't ready to call it quits. It took a long time for him to forgive me, but we have a better relationship now than we ever did before.
My other big regret is that I listened to the naysayers ie: my mom and didn't go to medical school. At the time I wanted to be an OB, but if I were to do it now I would be a forensic pathologist. I actually did start premed a few years ago, but stopped so I could take a 2nd job to save up money for one last round of IVF. I don't regret quitting that time, because if I did the world would be deprived of who I'm sure will be an amazing person. I do have my associates in nursing and will start the RN to BSN in the summer. But I ramble....
Not getting the degree I wanted. I got my degree so I could enter the family business, which is what everyone does, and as the oldest, it was expected of me. I hate it though. I want to teach. But going back to school is not something I can afford.
Second biggest regret: not taking more photos with DH. There are literally 20 photos of us from our entire 6 years together, outside of wedding photos.
I'm glad you said this. We are the same. Aside from engagement photos, wedding photos, maternity photos, and anything with the baby, we have pretty much nothing prior to those formal sessions. I'm forcing us to get into photos with Audrey now.
I have NO photos of me with the baby aside from the newborn photos, and I hate those. I refused to let anyone take photos of me because I don't like how I look. I still don't, but I'm going to get over it. What if something happened to either of us? I wouldn't have photos of myself with my baby or she wouldn't have photos of me.
Not getting the degree I wanted. I got my degree so I could enter the family business, which is what everyone does, and as the oldest, it was expected of me. I hate it though. I want to teach. But going back to school is not something I can afford.
Second biggest regret: not taking more photos with DH. There are literally 20 photos of us from our entire 6 years together, outside of wedding photos.
I'm glad you said this. We are the same. Aside from engagement photos, wedding photos, maternity photos, and anything with the baby, we have pretty much nothing prior to those formal sessions. I'm forcing us to get into photos with Audrey now.
I have NO photos of me with the baby aside from the newborn photos, and I hate those. I refused to let anyone take photos of me because I don't like how I look. I still don't, but I'm going to get over it. What if something happened to either of us? I wouldn't have photos of myself with my baby or she wouldn't have photos of me.
Yep. Do it. Love every single picture you take with your LO, even the funny bad ones.
I love my job but I sometimes regret not picking medical or law school. I would not have been happy, but I would have been doing something that matters and makes more money. I constantly worry that we won't have enough to raise the number of kids we want, or that something would happen. We aren't even poor. I don't know why I'm so worried about it.
I also obviously regret sleeping with my married boss...however, in doing so, I got us both fired. Which lead to the most depressing time of my entire life...which lead to me finally finding a new job in Pittsburgh...hating it...and letting FPurp help me find a job where I am now. We had been talking online for about 6 months (he contacted me to make a website for him--I never made it), and I didn't really like him. It turns out he liked ME, and he moved me to his hometown, and he sort of just never left my apartment, and now we are married with a baby. So, I would never actually choose to sleep with a married boss ever again, but it started the most important chain of events in my life.
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