Felicia's Bitchfest Friday

[xoxolicia]

I'm considering making this a weekly thing. I feel like all I ever do is complain. So I figured I'd great a thread for all of us to vent and get it off our chests.

[xoxolicia]

I already posted this, but I'm still upset about it.
I got denied for Medicaid. The doctors and tests are so expensive. Even with a co-pay, we can't afford it. I got sick the week before I was supposed to go back to work. Before I had the baby, I accepted a position that was salaried with benefits. Ugh! It'll be at least 6 months before my doctor will re-evaluate whether or not I can go back to work. He told me to expect to be out for at least a year.
How does the state expect us to live off DH's $11/hr? It pisswe me off that people that are perfectly capable of working spend their entire lives on assistance. I'm asking for a year and I get denied. Oh wait it's because I was honest on my application. The system is truly flawed. So now if I get sick and have to stay in the hospital, it'll probably end up on my credit. I don't know what to do. I'm leaning on faith right now. There's nothing I can do.
I also applied for social security disability. IF I get approved for that, it'll be for $1,000 a month. It'll cover bills, but not medical care. DH qualifies for benefits at his job next month, but we're suspecting it's going to take money that we desperately need from his checks.
Ok, that's my complaint for the day. Who's next?

[WittyLittle]

ugh, sorry xoxolicia, you would think with everything you have been through at least the insurance would work out but noooooo... why would it? Why not add some more crap on your parade?!?! I'm guessing there's no way to appeal???

My complaint for the day is that my in laws got LO so over tired and excited that it took 3 hours to get him calmed down and down for the night. No-thing helped. Then at night they were saying how difficult he is and how DH was never like that... he must have gotten it from me And when we suggested that he might be over tired they said 'noooooooo. He slept for 2 hours in the afternoon!' No shit, he was exhausted from 6000 sources of stimulation hovering over his head all day! RARGH!

For the record, we have a pretty easy baby. He usually just cries when he's hungry or something's really bothering him...

[flyster]

xoxolicia, I'm so sorry you have that stress on top of everything else! I have no advice, just feels for you

Because its not the weekend, I don't have any bitching. I realized last week the majority of my complaining is on Friday or Saturday MOTN when DH doesn't help, even though he doesn't have work the next day. So I'll probably be back on here tonight or tomorrow. Or next week when I start work, and he still doesn't help MOTN

[toadandbuggie]

May 1, 2015 6:17:26 GMT -5 WittyLittle said:

ugh, sorry xoxolicia, you would think with everything you have been through at least the insurance would work out but noooooo... why would it? Why not add some more crap on your parade?!?! I'm guessing there's no way to appeal???

My complaint for the day is that my in laws got LO so over tired and excited that it took 3 hours to get him calmed down and down for the night. No-thing helped. Then at night they were saying how difficult he is and how DH was never like that... he must have gotten it from me And when we suggested that he might be over tired they said 'noooooooo. He slept for 2 hours in the afternoon!' No shit, he was exhausted from 6000 sources of stimulation hovering over his head all day! RARGH!

For the record, we have a pretty easy baby. He usually just cries when he's hungry or something's really bothering him...

My ILs have said the same thing and also my mom. I think everyone forgets that a baby is simply a baby and they aren't a 1 year old that can laugh and giggle at you. They get over stimulated so easy & once that happens it's very hard to calm them down if you don't take them to a quiet environment.

DS is sometimes a crank face for no reason, but especially when 9 women are in his face talking to him and being loud. I would cry too

[toadandbuggie]

May 1, 2015 4:43:50 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

I already posted this, but I'm still upset about it.
I got denied for Medicaid. The doctors and tests are so expensive. Even with a co-pay, we can't afford it. I got sick the week before I was supposed to go back to work. Before I had the baby, I accepted a position that was salaried with benefits. Ugh! It'll be at least 6 months before my doctor will re-evaluate whether or not I can go back to work. He told me to expect to be out for at least a year.
How does the state expect us to live off DH's $11/hr? It pisswe me off that people that are perfectly capable of working spend their entire lives on assistance. I'm asking for a year and I get denied. Oh wait it's because I was honest on my application. The system is truly flawed. So now if I get sick and have to stay in the hospital, it'll probably end up on my credit. I don't know what to do. I'm leaning on faith right now. There's nothing I can do.
I also applied for social security disability. IF I get approved for that, it'll be for $1,000 a month. It'll cover bills, but not medical care. DH qualifies for benefits at his job next month, but we're suspecting it's going to take money that we desperately need from his checks.
Ok, that's my complaint for the day. Who's next?

Ugh. That sucks. So sorry. Hugs mama. Hoping things will get better.

[toadandbuggie]

xoxolicia I also agree that it's infuriating people take advantage of the system who don't need the assistance and then people who actually need it can't get it. It makes me so angry to see how much of my paycheck gets taken out every time to support so many people who are just lazy. I knew a 30 year old living off unemployment for 3 years who would sit at home and play video games all day and say "well no one has called me yet to work...."

[toadandbuggie]

flyster my H doesn't help in the middle of the night on weekends either. But since DS goes to sleep after feeding there isn't much he can do. However I do enjoy the very few times he has taken DS when he woke up and let me sleep in a little bit. But he also claims he needs to "catch up on sleep." I laugh in his face.

[WittyLittle]

Wahey, I already have a new one... DH promised me that he wouldn't leave me alone with his parents all week (because they don't speak English) and every time they come over, he breaks his promise. Now he's done it again. Rehearsal here rehearsal there... instead of telling his band mates that he's busy or has to get home to his family, he calls me in front of them and makes me the bitch that says no you can't do that. So of course I end up saying yes and there I am, awkwardly sitting on the couch on a friday night with my inlaws who bring up trivial questions about stuff explaining with hands and feet trying to make conversation. I'M SO BLOODY FED UP WITH THIS CRAP!

This was a dangerous thread to start hehehehe. I might just AW my way through the day! Sowwy!

[ChickenOnSunday]

May 1, 2015 4:43:50 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

I already posted this, but I'm still upset about it.
I got denied for Medicaid. The doctors and tests are so expensive. Even with a co-pay, we can't afford it. I got sick the week before I was supposed to go back to work. Before I had the baby, I accepted a position that was salaried with benefits. Ugh! It'll be at least 6 months before my doctor will re-evaluate whether or not I can go back to work. He told me to expect to be out for at least a year.
How does the state expect us to live off DH's $11/hr? It pisswe me off that people that are perfectly capable of working spend their entire lives on assistance. I'm asking for a year and I get denied. Oh wait it's because I was honest on my application. The system is truly flawed. So now if I get sick and have to stay in the hospital, it'll probably end up on my credit. I don't know what to do. I'm leaning on faith right now. There's nothing I can do.
I also applied for social security disability. IF I get approved for that, it'll be for $1,000 a month. It'll cover bills, but not medical care. DH qualifies for benefits at his job next month, but we're suspecting it's going to take money that we desperately need from his checks.
Ok, that's my complaint for the day. Who's next?

Fill me in on your health since I've been absent. Cliff notes please.

[flyster]

May 1, 2015 6:45:14 GMT -5 toadandbuggie said:

flyster my H doesn't help in the middle of the night on weekends either. But since DS goes to sleep after feeding there isn't much he can do. However I do enjoy the very few times he has taken DS when he woke up and let me sleep in a little bit. But he also claims he needs to "catch up on sleep." I laugh in his face.

Dh's latest sleep thing is that he doesn't think he sleeps well on the guest bed which is why he is tired after getting a full night of sleep (hes been going to bed when we go to bed...9:30-6 or 7 am) and thats why he needs more sleep on the weekend.  Cry me a river and let me lick the tears you poor thing. Ugh.

[junebugjam]

This is perfect because I was coming on here to bitch anyway, and it's not even about my H or my baby today.

Today is my husband's birthday. I ordered him a John Deere mower from Home Depot and I'm so excited for him to have it. He knows he's getting a ride-on mower, but I've managed to keep it a secret that it's a John Deere. I ordered it 2.5 weeks ago and specifically chose today for delivery so he'd have it on his birthday.

I called yesterday to find out what time it was coming and they said they don't make the schedule till the day off. After not getting a delivery call this morning, I called again, only to be told it might not even be come today. Seriously?!

My first issue is that I had to call them to be told this. They should have called me. My second issue is that if you knew this was even a POSSIBILITY, you should have at least called me yesterday, if not earlier. Third, there's really no reason I order something 2+ weeks in advance that it can't get here. They're claiming the John Deere people need to come inspect it or something and they don't know when they're coming. Well sorry, you had plenty of time to figure this out.

I'm waiting for a call back about whether it's coming today or not but I'm basically furious. I fully intend on lying and telling them we took off from work today for the delivery (they don't need to know I'm on leave) and that not only is this an inconvenience but them not giving me advance notice is costing me time at work.

Ugh ugh ugh.

[osumegs]

xoxolicia That royally sucks and makes me mad for you. Your exact situation is why programs exist, but you can't get the help you need. I hope they let you appeal or something!

[xoxolicia]

May 1, 2015 7:16:01 GMT -5 ChickenOnSunday said:

May 1, 2015 4:43:50 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

I already posted this, but I'm still upset about it.
I got denied for Medicaid. The doctors and tests are so expensive. Even with a co-pay, we can't afford it. I got sick the week before I was supposed to go back to work. Before I had the baby, I accepted a position that was salaried with benefits. Ugh! It'll be at least 6 months before my doctor will re-evaluate whether or not I can go back to work. He told me to expect to be out for at least a year.
How does the state expect us to live off DH's $11/hr? It pisswe me off that people that are perfectly capable of working spend their entire lives on assistance. I'm asking for a year and I get denied. Oh wait it's because I was honest on my application. The system is truly flawed. So now if I get sick and have to stay in the hospital, it'll probably end up on my credit. I don't know what to do. I'm leaning on faith right now. There's nothing I can do.
I also applied for social security disability. IF I get approved for that, it'll be for $1,000 a month. It'll cover bills, but not medical care. DH qualifies for benefits at his job next month, but we're suspecting it's going to take money that we desperately need from his checks.
Ok, that's my complaint for the day. Who's next?

Fill me in on your health since I've been absent. Cliff notes please.

I have postpartum cardiomyopathy. My heart is enlarged and not pumping effectively.

[xoxolicia]

I'm seriously hating everything right now. My prescriptions didn't get sent in in time (yesterday the 30) and my insurance won't cover them. I am so sad. I need a nap.

[ace226]

My mother in law left a voicemail last night. Do not want. I'm still recovering from having dinner with her. DH, and SIL where they glared at me the whole time and passive aggressively criticized my parenting skills. You'd think I was both the spawn of satan and making meth around DS the way they treat me.

We'll have to see her when we make a trip to the city and I'm not looking forward to that part of our trip at all. I'm just hoping SIL won't be there as well.

Edit/ DH wasn't glaring at me. He was too busy looking at the clock and trying to find a way to go home;)

[maryxc1]

LO has suddenly lost her ability to go to sleep during the day unless I nurse her or she is riding in the car. If I nurse her, she is stuck in my lap because she wakes up if I put her down. This goes over ever so well with her jealous two year old brother.

[osumegs]

@holachica that stinks that there wasn't a job for you, especially since they didn't let you know when they said they would.

I'm also irritated on the whole job front. I'm supposed to go back as a super part time employee. I would work one weekend a month. One of the other girls was going to share those hours with me, so we would make one full time person. We worked it out with the old manager, but he was terminated a few weeks into my leave. Now I can't get an answer as to when they want me back. My approved leave is up may 24. I didn't get paid leave so that doesn't matter as much, but they will let me go if I don't work soon after the leave is up.

[mommadozer]

xoxolicia ugh!!!! That's awful. I don't understand how our government assistance programs work. No wonder we are so much damn debt.

[mishka29]

Man it's a rough Friday. Sorry to everyone for the stress!

My bitch is now insignificant after reading what others are dealing with. Hugs to all!

[mommadozer]

@holachica that's awful!!! My boss pulled some crazy crap on a coworker that was on her maternity leave last year. Granted it was for the better, she claimed to have all of these masters degrees but, couldn't do crap. I was wondering if they were going to try and pull any of this on me but, my boss has kept me in the loop.

[lotsofdotts]

May 1, 2015 4:43:50 GMT -5 xoxolicia said:

I already posted this, but I'm still upset about it.
I got denied for Medicaid. The doctors and tests are so expensive. Even with a co-pay, we can't afford it. I got sick the week before I was supposed to go back to work. Before I had the baby, I accepted a position that was salaried with benefits. Ugh! It'll be at least 6 months before my doctor will re-evaluate whether or not I can go back to work. He told me to expect to be out for at least a year.
How does the state expect us to live off DH's $11/hr? It pisswe me off that people that are perfectly capable of working spend their entire lives on assistance. I'm asking for a year and I get denied. Oh wait it's because I was honest on my application. The system is truly flawed. So now if I get sick and have to stay in the hospital, it'll probably end up on my credit. I don't know what to do. I'm leaning on faith right now. There's nothing I can do.
I also applied for social security disability. IF I get approved for that, it'll be for $1,000 a month. It'll cover bills, but not medical care. DH qualifies for benefits at his job next month, but we're suspecting it's going to take money that we desperately need from his checks.
Ok, that's my complaint for the day. Who's next?

I am so sorry! I wish the system really worked for those in need. My mom worked at social services in the early 90s, but she had to quit because of this exact issue. She had people driving Mercedes that got services, but then an elderly person who told the truth was denied. It was too much for her emotionally, so she had to move on to a new job. I will say some prayers that something positive will happen for you. Keep us updated. 

[lotsofdotts]

May 1, 2015 8:28:17 GMT -5 junebugjam said:

This is perfect because I was coming on here to bitch anyway, and it's not even about my H or my baby today.

Today is my husband's birthday. I ordered him a John Deere mower from Home Depot and I'm so excited for him to have it. He knows he's getting a ride-on mower, but I've managed to keep it a secret that it's a John Deere. I ordered it 2.5 weeks ago and specifically chose today for delivery so he'd have it on his birthday.

I called yesterday to find out what time it was coming and they said they don't make the schedule till the day off. After not getting a delivery call this morning, I called again, only to be told it might not even be come today. Seriously?!

My first issue is that I had to call them to be told this. They should have called me. My second issue is that if you knew this was even a POSSIBILITY, you should have at least called me yesterday, if not earlier. Third, there's really no reason I order something 2+ weeks in advance that it can't get here. They're claiming the John Deere people need to come inspect it or something and they don't know when they're coming. Well sorry, you had plenty of time to figure this out.

I'm waiting for a call back about whether it's coming today or not but I'm basically furious. I fully intend on lying and telling them we took off from work today for the delivery (they don't need to know I'm on leave) and that not only is this an inconvenience but them not giving me advance notice is costing me time at work.

Ugh ugh ugh.

This frustrates me so much. Customer service sucks these days. They have your money but don't deliver on promises. This makes me angry for you! I hope you get some resolution!

[lotsofdotts]

May 1, 2015 9:40:34 GMT -5 @holachica said:

I'm sorry xoxolicia.

I wanted to start a bitchfest thread today too.

I finally found out from my school that there are no part time teaching positions available for next year. So now I have to spend the rest of my maternity leave applying for jobs and interviewing. I feel pretty disrespected with how the administration handled this whole thing, so I've been very upset.

I'm so sorry! That is bad to have things in limbo. I hope you find something soon.

[junebugjam]

Ok, lawn mower arrived - woohoo!

Now I can bitch about something else. I could deal with a baby who doesn't sleep at night if at least he would take a good nap during the day. Just one. I'm not being greedy. Instead, my baby decided 6:30 am was the time to wake up this morning. He took a little nap in the car when we went out. Finally got him napping again at 1:30 and he woke up 20 minutes later.

There is no way he's getting enough sleep but I don't know what to do about it. Just sleep!!

[lotsofdotts]

My continual bitchfest is about work and my sub.

My dept chairs finally graded some (very minimal) work and posted the grades in the online system, so parents are now complaining. The latest email that was sent to me and the admin said that the kids are not doing any work and playing cards in class while the sub watches TV shows on my desktop computer. The parent was frustrated because the grades are few and no progress has been made on the research paper that was assigned before I left!

I talked to admin and one of them went in there. The students now have a new timeline for the research paper. The rough draft is due next week and the final draft is due on the 13th, just in time for me to come back on the 18th. I will have 11 days to get 3 classes of research papers graded before exams start. I am beyond furious.

Also, I know he showed The Great Gatsby film earlier in the week, but he emailed me yesterday to get me to resend the background PowerPoint for Gatsby so that he can get them to start reading the book. WTF!? This is an honors class! They are not going to read the book after you show them the movie! I am furious!

I am going to wait until I get my class assignments before I go in and pitch a hissy fit. The dept chairs and the admin have dropped the ball with my sub. No one has even stepped foot in there to check on him or they would have known that nothing was being done in there. I am going to have to deal with a shitstorm when I get back.

My husband is afraid I am going to have anxiety attacks when I get back because it is going to be such a mess. My anxiety is going up each day as my return date approaches. I absolutely hate incompetence!

[pitdigger]

My bitch is the damn washing machine repair guy. He finally came yesterday and said he'd be back with at least a temporary fix of the start button. Well, I'm currently at a laundromat because he hasn't returned yet. $25 later and everything will be washed. I can dry it at home.

[greenpony33]

xoxolicia that sucks!

[ace226]

I got another one. Um, I thought my maternity pants would be looser postpartum. 8 weeks out and they're tighter?! Wtf? And I'm hungry all.the.time. I don't have the money for new pants, nor the inclination to buy more. Pajama jeans are looking awfully tempting.

[mamabutt2]

Between little man's constant eating, trying to decide which bills need paid now and which ones can wait, and my mother putting the guilt on that she isn't getting anything for mother's day, I'm about to pull my hair out. She wants a $100 ring... I don't even have money to cover all my bills woman, what do you want from me?!