Do I have to give out my address

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A co-worker who I am not friends with outside of work has asked me for my address to invite me to her baby shower.  Do I have to give out my address?  What it is the etiquette for that?  I am hesitant because I don't need to be invited to a 2nd personal shower because work will have a shower here for her. 

Is it considered more polite to give my address and then decline the invite?  Or to decline to give my address? 

[jesster88]

Maybe she feels obligated to invite you? I think the path of least conflict is to give your address an decline the invite. I probably wouldn't go to the 2nd shower either.

[ECB]

May 1, 2015 18:30:57 GMT -5 jesster88 said:

Maybe she feels obligated to invite you? I think the path of least conflict is to give your address an decline the invite. I probably wouldn't go to the 2nd shower either.

this. It's an invitation, not a subpoena. You can just decline the invite.

[NariaDreaming]

May 3, 2015 19:02:47 GMT -5 ECB said:

May 1, 2015 18:30:57 GMT -5 jesster88 said:

Maybe she feels obligated to invite you? I think the path of least conflict is to give your address an decline the invite. I probably wouldn't go to the 2nd shower either.

this. It's an invitation, not a subpoena. You can just decline the invite.

I literally laughed out loud.

[Deleted]

I feel like declining to give your address would create a really weird/awkward situation. Do you think she's going to track you down? Deliver hundreds of invitations via owl all Harry Potter-style until you accept? Unless you are somehow concerned for your personal safety and/or privacy, give her your address and find a reason to be busy that day. Like you said, you are basically already attending a shower for her, I'm sure she won't be offended if you decline!

[Deleted]

I ignored her email and so far not weird at all. She sent it to 40 people and I am sure the response has been minimal and most people just prefer it in their work mailbox. It's just not the culture where I work for all 40 people to have each other's addresses. Part of our mission is privacy, so maybe that is why.

If she mentions it again then I will give it to her. Not trying to be difficult, just trying to send a subtle message that I don't want an invite. I realize it is not a subpoena. I was worried about loss trigger issues, but I am becoming more comfortable with the pregnancy/ situation, so I think it'll all work out.