Post by redwellies on Jan 21, 2015 16:14:49 GMT -5
I wish I would have taken more photos to document and would have worked out more. But. Mostly, I wish I would have spent more time with DH and taken the time to really appreciate our time as just the two of us. I miss him now.
Post by crawford411 on Jan 21, 2015 16:15:54 GMT -5
I wish I hadn't gone on bedrest. I know now that I probably would have gone to term even if I stayed at work. I wish that I had had that FMLA time back so I could have spent it at home with Sunny instead of by myself watching Netflix.
I would have relaxed a bit more. I was totally anal so I could avoid an induction and c-section for diabetes reasons. Turns out I had a c-section regardless and DD was just fine in the end. She probably would have still been fine if I had a cookie once in a while.
Post by Oldmomhubbard on Jan 22, 2015 14:08:56 GMT -5
I didn't take any bump shots. I was in a few pics throughtout the pregnancy but no shots of the bump itself. Wish I'd been happier and gotten my head out of my ass sooner. I had some depression and a generally angry for a good part of my pregnancy. I wish I had talked to a professional sooner because as soon as I did, I snapped out of it. I waited too long and it was really hard on DH.
So for those wishing more pics... were you not active on HDBD or are you referring to more full body, in fun situations, type pics?
More fun and organized. I took belly pics but not consistently.
And I didn't join until October when E was born so, I missed out on HDBD. I used a different app to track my pregnancy and it took a shit around the 27 week mark. That's when I switched to TB. Didn't even really think to participate in the forums until the last few weeks of pregnancy and I was due 9/31.
Post by rockynfrankie on Jan 22, 2015 14:50:56 GMT -5
Wish I had more bump pictures, gained less weight and even though I didn't have the easiest pregnancy I think I could have made an effort to be less miserable. Oh and I wish I didn't get the 3D US. I ended up being considered somewhat high risk so I was having US all the time. The only reason I did 3D was cause I wanted to see him once between AS and delivery.
Post by cornerofthesky on Jan 22, 2015 15:23:04 GMT -5
I wish I would have been in a happier place this pregnancy. I was an emotional wreck this time around and would get sad/upset about everything; I was stupid and didn't want to talk to my doctor about it. Luckily it improved quickly after B was born.
Post by ohioloveyou on Jan 22, 2015 16:47:54 GMT -5
I wish I would have been less lazy. I felt so crappy most of the time that I just stayed home and watched TV or hung out on the internet. I wish I would have taken advantage of how easy it was to get out of the house before baby.
My pregnancy regret is that I didn't do it sooner! TTC for 8+ years before seeking intervention & seeing a RE seems foolish now! I guess part of me was afraid they would tell me I wasnt able to have kids. But then on the flip side I wouldn't have had the pleasure to get to know all of you!
I wish I would have listened to my gut and pushed to be checked out more. I had a horrible feeling about the umbilical cord (to the point of severe anxiety) and everyone kept blowing me off. We found out after DS was born that I had a VCI and it results in a stillborn 75% of the time if delivered vaginally. I feel so blessed he's here safely but I don't think I could have ever forgiven myself if something happened to him. I have mini panic attacks thinking about it.
Post by purplehippo on Jan 22, 2015 18:26:45 GMT -5
Honestly? I wish we had waited longer before getting pregnant. I absolutely adore this child, but I wish she had come along a year or so down the road. I really, really miss the days with just me and DD1. I especially miss our days together before I was affected so much by the hormones (or the good days here and there when they weren't so bad). I think about it all the time. I've never felt resentful towards DD2, I try to be very careful of that. But I really do visualize what life would be like right now if DD2 weren't here. Is that terrible? As I'm writing it out, it makes me feel like a horrible mother. I really, really do love DD2 and can't imagine if she were never mine.
Honestly? I wish we had waited longer before getting pregnant. I absolutely adore this child, but I wish she had come along a year or so down the road. I really, really miss the days with just me and DD1. I especially miss our days together before I was affected so much by the hormones (or the good days here and there when they weren't so bad). I think about it all the time. I've never felt resentful towards DD2, I try to be very careful of that. But I really do visualize what life would be like right now if DD2 weren't here. Is that terrible? As I'm writing it out, it makes me feel like a horrible mother. I really, really do love DD2 and can't imagine if she were never mine.
I get this. I had similar feelings while pregnant mostly, like..WTF have I done?! DD and I are so tight, so I was really worried about how the baby would effect that. It hasn't been nearly as bad as I imagined, but there are definitely days that I think to myself why do I have two kids again?! But I really just love my little guy so much, I can't even imagine not being with him every single day now.
Honestly? I wish we had waited longer before getting pregnant. I absolutely adore this child, but I wish she had come along a year or so down the road. I really, really miss the days with just me and DD1. I especially miss our days together before I was affected so much by the hormones (or the good days here and there when they weren't so bad). I think about it all the time. I've never felt resentful towards DD2, I try to be very careful of that. But I really do visualize what life would be like right now if DD2 weren't here. Is that terrible? As I'm writing it out, it makes me feel like a horrible mother. I really, really do love DD2 and can't imagine if she were never mine.
You pretty much wrote word for word the way I felt for a long time. I felt the exact same way you are describing for the first 6 weeks or so. I felt so much regret about having DD that I actually went to see someone and was put on meds. I had some depression after DS was born but I was WAY worse after this baby. I think I was so bad because I kept picturing my previous life with just DS and I missed that. I missed just having him to myself and showering him with all my attention. Things were so much easier with one kid too. I felt awful.
Maybe it's the meds or enough time has passed but now I can't imagine ever feeling that way towards DD. I'm so happy she's here now and feel like our family is complete.
I'm glad you can talk about this and admit it. That's hard to do.
I wish I would have listened to my gut and pushed to be checked out more. I had a horrible feeling about the umbilical cord (to the point of severe anxiety) and everyone kept blowing me off. We found out after DS was born that I had a VCI and it results in a stillborn 75% of the time if delivered vaginally. I feel so blessed he's here safely but I don't think I could have ever forgiven myself if something happened to him. I have mini panic attacks thinking about it.
Yikes. Luckily nothing bad happened so don't worry about it now!
Honestly? I wish we had waited longer before getting pregnant. I absolutely adore this child, but I wish she had come along a year or so down the road. I really, really miss the days with just me and DD1. I especially miss our days together before I was affected so much by the hormones (or the good days here and there when they weren't so bad). I think about it all the time. I've never felt resentful towards DD2, I try to be very careful of that. But I really do visualize what life would be like right now if DD2 weren't here. Is that terrible? As I'm writing it out, it makes me feel like a horrible mother. I really, really do love DD2 and can't imagine if she were never mine.
You pretty much wrote word for word the way I felt for a long time. I felt the exact same way you are describing for the first 6 weeks or so. I felt so much regret about having DD that I actually went to see someone and was put on meds. I had some depression after DS was born but I was WAY worse after this baby. I think I was so bad because I kept picturing my previous life with just DS and I missed that. I missed just having him to myself and showering him with all my attention. Things were so much easier with one kid too. I felt awful.
Maybe it's the meds or enough time has passed but now I can't imagine ever feeling that way towards DD. I'm so happy she's here now and feel like our family is complete.
I'm glad you can talk about this and admit it. That's hard to do.
Well, that's a huge reason I'm thankful for this group of women. I might say that to DH, my Mom, and SIL... but I feel like anyone else would judge me and think me ungrateful.
I actually want to talk to DH about it. I'm thinking that maybe we could start planning things for me to do with her one-on-one, time to sort of reconnect.
Thank you and pnwlover12, it makes me feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one.
I regret not getting around to making a pregnancy scrapbook. I kept lots if things like shower invites and decorations, u/s pics, etc., but they are just sitting in a box.
I wish we had taken a babymoon. We went for a long weekend to a wedding in Vermont in June that I thought was going to be more relaxing. But the groom was DH's fraternity brother and we spent the whole time hanging out with a big group of other frat brothers.
I am happy that my baby turned out healthy and that my clothes fit ok quickly but damn that was hard. And the freak out I had to prick my finger.
This. Fucking GD! I hope I don't have it next pregnancy. It turned my pregnancy from happy to completely stressful. I felt so much guilt and fear that the baby would be huge and I would have to have a C section as a result. I felt guilt about my starting weight. And fear that she would be hypoglycemic of have related problems. But in hindsight, I shouldn't have beat myself up about it so much and should have just done the best I could. I cried when the MFM put me on glyburide. It wasn't the end of the world and my baby ended up way smaller (in a healthy way) than the doctors guessed she would be and now she is perfectly healthy. A C section also wouldn't have been the end of the world. It's nice to document this so maybe next pregnancy I won't spend so much time worrying and feeling guilty about things out of my control. So much time and energy wasted during such a special time.
I regret letting my OB push me into being induced. He waited until I was 41w1d, but my pregnancy was really easy and healthy. Considering that I was sent home bc the induction didn't cause me to progress enough and that my labor was 25 hrs long after the induction meds, DS obviousky wasn't ready to come out when he did. I sometimes wonder if some of our bf issues are related to my induction and hard labor. Even though I was over being pregnant at the end, I wish I'd made them let me go to 42 weeks and not get caught up in the "your-placenta-could-deteriorate" hypotheticals.
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