Oh and you do realize that the "mean old lady" was in a nursing home for a REASON, correct!? What is it with you.
My point was that sometimes age alone is not enough to be a pass to say something mean or hurtful, unless they don't know what they're saying. My dad's mother was one of the meanest women I've ever met. She told me I needed to lose weight before I had even hit puberty. It makes me angry when an elderly person is mean and people just find it funny just because they're older. (Again, aside from if they're unaware of what they're saying)
My grandmother also told me to lose weight when I was in the 4th grade. But she was in her 60s. The previous posters were talking about people much, much older.
Neither are really great stories. It sounds like that old lady was just messing with your friend.
Would that have been any better? To tell someone they weren't pretty enough to be there with the other girls as a joke? Granted I wasn't there but I remember how hurt my friend was when she was telling me about it. And then overhearing the story, our teacher said "yeah but that woman was old so they get to say things like that." Uh no. Whether you're 9 or 90 you shouldn't say things to hurt someone's feelings. (Disclaimer: this is not regarding the elderly who are unaware of what they're saying.)
My adorable, little 97 year old grandmother would have made your head explode. You have never truly received a insult unless she gave you one. Imagine being told you look terrible in a dress while being hugged. Her sweet smile would never leave her face and she would be out of sight before you even knew what hit you. A true artiste.
Neither are really great stories. It sounds like that old lady was just messing with your friend.
Would that have been any better? To tell someone they weren't pretty enough to be there with the other girls as a joke? Granted I wasn't there but I remember how hurt my friend was when she was telling me about it. And then overhearing the story, our teacher said "yeah but that woman was old so they get to say things like that." Uh no. Whether you're 9 or 90 you shouldn't say things to hurt someone's feelings. (Disclaimer: this is not regarding the elderly who are unaware of what they're saying.)
She is living in a nursing home for a reason!!!!! So she probably didn't know what she was saying or that it was hurtful. I'm not saying it wasn't rude, but people live in a nursing home for reasons other than that they are simply old.
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I'm at the airport now, waiting for my flight. I'm excited for my trip but I already miss my doggies (oh yeah, and DH too...).
These sleep walking/talking stories are cracking me up!! DH had a weird sleep walking type thing a couple years ago when (in his sleep) he thought there was some evil creature on our bedroom ceiling..?! It was part of a dream apparently but in his half awake state, he pulled all the blankets off the bed and went to "hide" in our master bathroom. I slept through this but woke up freezing a few minutes later because I had no blankets on me!
When I asked him about it the next morning, he explained what he thought had happened. I was a little annoyed that he thought there was a evil creature in our bedroom and didn't think to save me too!
Would that have been any better? To tell someone they weren't pretty enough to be there with the other girls as a joke? Granted I wasn't there but I remember how hurt my friend was when she was telling me about it. And then overhearing the story, our teacher said "yeah but that woman was old so they get to say things like that." Uh no. Whether you're 9 or 90 you shouldn't say things to hurt someone's feelings. (Disclaimer: this is not regarding the elderly who are unaware of what they're saying.)
She is living in a nursing home for a reason!!!!! So she probably didn't know what she was saying or that it was hurtful. I'm not saying it wasn't rude, but people live in a nursing home for reasons other than that they are simply old.
To be fair, there are a lot of people who live in nursing homes because they don't have anyone to care for them, or they just need a little bit of assistance. This doesn't mean that they have dementia or aren't aware of what they are saying.
On the subject of longevity; the women in my family typically live into their 90s. I have both of my grandmas and DS has a whopping 6 grand and great-grandmothers combined. Today I'm prepping flowerpots for DS to fingerprint as Mother's Day gifts to them.
I only had two grandparents my whole life. One grandmother died when I was ten and the other just two months ago.
On the subject of longevity; the women in my family typically live into their 90s. I have both of my grandmas and DS has a whopping 6 grand and great-grandmothers combined. Today I'm prepping flowerpots for DS to fingerprint as Mother's Day gifts to them.
I only had two grandparents my whole life. One grandmother died when I was ten and the other just two months ago.
You are extremely lucky.
Kermit is not related to your post. That was unfortunate timing. Just wanted to make sure you knew that.
Post by wanderingheart on May 3, 2015 13:55:04 GMT -5
All this talking in sleep reminds me of MH. I'll give you guys a little story time, mainly because I need a break from my paper. #procrastinationstation
MH talks in his sleep. To the point where it scares the shit out of me. He speaks gibberish most times, and I would wake up (lighest sleeper ever, right here) and tell him to shut up. Most times he would just say "shhh be quiet wanderingheart" and then keep talking gibberish. Eventually he would stop and I'd go back to sleep.
But the worst time was about a year after we were married. I woke up because I could hear him almost yelling. He was laying on his stomach, propped up on his elbows and facing the headboard. He was talking like he was arguing, and shaking his fists all aggressively. But it was all gibberish, the words made no sense and they were just made up sounds. I told him to be quiet and go back to sleep. He turned slowly to face me, and just blankly stared at me. I stared back, until he rolled over and faced away from me. I assumed it was over, so I laid back down to go back to sleep. Then I heard rustling, so I opened my eyes and his face was INCHES from mine, just staring at me. He had a smirk on his face, and I calmly just said his name and told him to stop because he was scaring me. He laughed in a mean spirited kind of way, and rolled over again. Yeah, I didn't go back to sleep for a while after that.
He did not remember any of this the next day. I could go on about stories of MH talking in his sleep, but that was the worst one. The way he stared at me gave me the creeps.
She is living in a nursing home for a reason!!!!! So she probably didn't know what she was saying or that it was hurtful. I'm not saying it wasn't rude, but people live in a nursing home for reasons other than that they are simply old.
To be fair, there are a lot of people who live in nursing homes because they don't have anyone to care for them, or they just need a little bit of assistance. This doesn't mean that they have dementia or aren't aware of what they are saying.
Yes, but how would she know if the woman who said that rude comment is or isn't suffering from dementia or something similar... She wouldn't.
ETA that this was my whole point. She said she doesn't give the elderly "a pass" unless they have dementia or a painful disease, but how does she know if someone is or isn't suffering?
All this talking in sleep reminds me of MH. I'll give you guys a little story time, mainly because I need a break from my paper. #procrastinationstation
MH talks in his sleep. To the point where it scares the shit out of me. He speaks gibberish most times, and I would wake up (lighest sleeper ever, right here) and tell him to shut up. Most times he would just say "shhh be quiet wanderingheart" and then keep talking gibberish. Eventually he would stop and I'd go back to sleep.
But the worst time was about a year after we were married. I woke up because I could hear him almost yelling. He was laying on his stomach, propped up on his elbows and facing the headboard. He was talking like he was arguing, and shaking his fists all aggressively. But it was all gibberish, the words made no sense and they were just made up sounds. I told him to be quiet and go back to sleep. He turned slowly to face me, and just blankly stared at me. I stared back, until he rolled over and faced away from me. I assumed it was over, so I laid back down to go back to sleep. Then I heard rustling, so I opened my eyes and his face was INCHES from mine, just staring at me. He had a smirk on his face, and I calmly just said his name and told him to stop because he was scaring me. He laughed in a mean spirited kind of way, and rolled over again. Yeah, I didn't go back to sleep for a while after that.
He did not remember any of this the next day. I could go on about stories of MH talking in his sleep, but that was the worst one. The way he stared at me gave me the creeps.
To be fair, there are a lot of people who live in nursing homes because they don't have anyone to care for them, or they just need a little bit of assistance. This doesn't mean that they have dementia or aren't aware of what they are saying.
Yes, but how would she know if the woman who said that rude comment is or isn't suffering from dementia or something similar... She wouldn't.
True. But if an old person called me ugly totally randomly that's still pretty rude.
But my grandpa, who started the old person conversation is just a mean old man. No dementia here! Just a 96 Yr old jerk.
Anyone ever flown Frontier? I'm going to Chicago in July with a group of my favorite gals, and I can get a direct flight for 200 buckaroos. That seems hard to beat.
I've never flown them, but I was advised against it by our corporate travel vendor because sometimes, when transferring flights, you have to go pick up your bags from bag check and re-check them (and thus go back through security).
But if it's direct, I can't imagine it being too bad.
So, my JRT just came inside with a yellow rubber ball that is bigger than her head.
I'm like 90% certain it belongs to our neighbor's kid. Must have bounced into our yard. She's obsessed with it, and so proud of herself for figuring out how to pick it up. I suppose I'll have to get it back from her and bring it back over there later today when they get home.
Post by shadesofgold on May 3, 2015 14:22:54 GMT -5
@rutherily - it is highly likely you are going to be one of those unpleasant old people. Might as well start coming to terms with that.
So anyway.
We had such a successful housewarming party yesterday. It was so fun bringing different friend groups together and seeing people hit it off. Plus, everyone brought such fun housewarming gifts. We have so much nice wine now, plus some fancy spices, 2 cheese boards, a bird feeder and some artisan ketchup and chocolate. Growing up is fun. And despite drinking for 8 hours straight, I woke up without a hangover. How lovely!
H and I are going out for the afternoon. We're going to hit up Macy's (he needs new summer work clothes, I need dress shoes), dinner, then seeing a movie (Ex-Machina). Excited for a relaxed day out!
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