DS is being super needy this morning. He'll only sleep if he's being held and all he wants to do is sleep. I'm telling myself he's working extra hard at growing so he can show off at his 2 month pedi appointment tomorrow.
No big plans for the day. I'm waiting to hear back from a local MOMs group to see if they have a spot open for me. I had to fill out a questionnaire and everything so that they could see if I was a good fit. It felt like I was applying for a job lol. DS is a little young for the group, but I need to make some mom friends and have some social interaction.
Really? An application? I thought you just show up for those groups. That is weird. I feel like this is a grown-up version of Mean Girls. If they don't like your answers, you can't sit with them?
It wasn't that in depth just general questions like why do you want to join the group and what's your favorite part of being a mom. It did feel a little Mean Girls ish though. Their description was a little intense too. You're required to attend at least 2 meet ups a month and they cap the group at 35 members max.
I have 0 mom friends at the moment and I'm not really close enough to just hang out with the friends I do have here. We just moved here back in June and since I'm not working, there aren't a lot of chances for me to meet new people.
ace226 et all re: purple hair - my sister is 32 and has had some version of purple or teal hair for a decade now. And she works in the corporate world! Do it!
@holachica I hate redoing my resume. Good luck! toadandbuggie glad your boss approved part time! badw0lf WFH would be hard. Can you try headphones? mrszee Internet hugs! You can do this! cloe111479 my work's "leave" is 6 weeks unpaid and you must use any vacation & sick time you've accrued. Sick time does not roll over year to year so you cannot bank it. So when you go back at 6 weeks you also have no PTO left for the rest of the year. It's stupid. I have very special circumstances that allowed me to negotiate something different, and I'm still mad that's their policy. lotsofdotts FX your child support gets finalized today
My leave was the same. I only could have been out longer if I had ended up with a c section. Then they allow 8 weeks. I get 5 weeks of vacation for the year so I had to use all of that. (I was able to not use 2 weeks of my leave last year and get paid for it. So all 6 were essentially paid). So now if I get sick -- tough shit. I'll be at work so we can pay bills.
American maternity leave sucks. Like majorly sucks.
I know me and I would have been ready to come back before the 12 week mark but 8 would have been nice. With 6, I feel like I am missing so much.
We had a big weekend. Saturday was already AWed. On Sunday we put some dirt and plants in a couple of grow bags: a bunch of herbs and three tomatoes. We also go down to the beach every evening we're home now.
Okay, I know this is already covered in a previous thread but I do need input please! Also, TMI warning!
DH and I attempted our first pp sex this morning. (We've done other stuff, just not the real deal because I was kind of a wuss about it.). I say "attempted" because, of course, it didn't fully work out. It did hurt, but it felt so tight (and he didn't even end up all the way in there) and I ended up actually having bleeding and I'm wearing a pantiliner now. It seriously felt like the first time all over again. I had to throw the sheets in the wash! I expected it to be uncomfortable, but not quite like this. Did anyone else experience this?!
I had a tear this time around that I didn't have the first two times. It was painful to have sex this time. Honestly, the tear burned and things did feel a little less comfortable in general. I also think it has to do with the lack of lubrication because of BFing. Maybe that is an issue for you as well.
We haven't gotten into having regular sex yet. We have only DTD 3 times. Hopefully it will get better for all of us. I miss sex...
ace226 In my early 20s I used to color the under part of my hair (layered) bright red or orange. So only a little bit peaked through the bottom. I've been secretly hoping my toddler will want to play around with temporary hair colors/chalks so I can too! I miss fun colors. Dark purple would be pretty.
I got DD to pee in a cup and everything came back normal! Thank goodness. I also wish I didn't decide to stay up at DS's 4:30am feeding. I feel like it should be midnight right now.
DD is getting in a bad habit of taking short naps in PnP but sleeping hours on me- usually with boob in mouth. I'm back to work in 2 wks and need to fix this for daycare's sake but love all the cuddles.
Kids have a way of sweetly smiling while ripping out your heart. I was BF DD and DS was next to me watching "Daniel Tiger" on tv. He smiles at me and says, "Mommy, I wish I was a baby.... that way you would pay attention to me." Ugh.
We made it through the first day! I cried a bit, but LO was fine. He ate and slept, and doesn't seem to be worse for wear. The director of my department told me to take off early, so I was able to get LO at 3:45, which was great since that way I could also pop into day care way early/un announced. He seemed a tad overwhelmed, but got back to his little smiley self quickly. All the activity will take a bit of getting used to.
Work was good. Lots of people stopping by to welcome me back, so that was good. My replacement did a just ok job, so my boss is very happy to have me back, never a bad thing!
Thanks for all the well wishes for day care!! It was really comforting today!
aggiebug, what kinds of foods do you make? I can never really figure out stuff to make much except for chilli which I make in big batches to freeze. That gives us 5 or so meals.
ace226 I had purple highlights when I was in high school/college. It was so pretty! I used to have naturally very blond/light highlights and the rest of my hair is very dark. I wouldn't have to bleach it, just put the dye in. After a month or so it would start to fade to pink. My highschool banned non natural hair colors after I came through. Such a rebel.
flyster in general? or freezer meals? or specific recipes?
For freezer meals I highly recommend this book. I will spend a day or two making meals and stock the freezer and I have a list of what is in there. Many have to be thawed to cook, but when I make a weekly plan I can easily take things out in time.
Here and here are 2 fish recipes that are easy and yummy. I also make a tilapia vera cruz, I am guessing that is an easy recipe to find mine isn't sharable
I also always have on hand the ingredients to make a few meals. Spaghetti and sauce and a casserole with rice, cream of ___ soup, can of green beans, frozen diced chicken and shredded cheese. That way if I get in a bind I know I have something I can do instead of going out.
And I do quite a few soups during the winter.
I do try and do a new meal every week or two so we don't get in a rut.
If you want certain types of recipes (ie chicken, pasta, ground beef etc) I will share what I have, I don't make anything really fancy.
aggiebug,Thanks! I really am a beginner. DH and I never really ate sit down dinners much, mostly just snacking at night, or eating something like carrots and hummus. But now I need to eat alot more, so its just not cutting it. I like the freezer things the best, then I don't have to think much during the week.
aggiebug,Thanks! I really am a beginner. DH and I never really ate sit down dinners much, mostly just snacking at night, or eating something like carrots and hummus. But now I need to eat alot more, so its just not cutting it. I like the freezer things the best, then I don't have to think much during the week.
So when both of us were working I tried really hard to cut down how often we had to cook during the week. H's schedule was much more predictable than mine but I am more of the cook so simple was always key. (he would cook but I am more willing to try new things)
We would typically make meals that last for 2 nights. So we would cook Sun, Tues and Thursday. If we had something come up then we could fudge the days a little and eat leftovers a different day that week.
Sundays would be a meal that would take a little more work or time cooking.
Then I would do an easier meal on Tuesday.
I would save my most shelf stable meal or the crackpot meal until the end of the week that way if we had an overwhelming week it was easier to put the meal together.
Again I really recommend that book above especially since you like the idea of freezer meals. Many still require effort the day of but they are still easy. I will try to find some more of my basic go to meals for you.
One thing I have to really pay attention to is to not go pasta heavy. Pasta is almost always easy, and a lot of times cheaper but not ideal everyday which is why I like planning it out
We CD- she sleeps 8pm-5/6am, and we don't wake her to change. We treat the 5:30am like MOTN (though past my normal wakeup time for work) and she typically goes back to sleep until 8/9am.
We went to eat Mexican tonight with a bunch of people. The toddler ate queso out of the bowl with a spoon. And I let her. I will take my mother of the year award now.
We cloth diaper, and I generally only change at night if it's dirty, or sometimes I can tell it's bothering him because he doesn't go right back to sleep after nursing. But most nights he is in the same diaper all night.
To those who cloth diaper: we just finished using most of our disposables and are starting to cloth diaper full time.
How often do you change at night? LO sleeps from 8-11:30 when he gets a dream feed and sleeps till 5 am, then till 9.
I'm afraid if I change him every time (esp. In the 11:30 feeding) it'll wake him up. Thoughts?
It depends on how bothered your LO is by being wet. When she was in NB cloth we had to change DD everytime she woke up because she couldn't go back to sleep otherwise. But those diapers where mostly cotton/bamboo, which got really wet and uncomfortable. The ones we have now have a microfleece layer closest to her skin which allows her to feel a lot dryer so she is less uncomfortable. We still change her MOTN to avoid problems with going back to sleep.
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