Post by summergirl1211 on May 6, 2015 8:58:25 GMT -5
bantyrooster, I'm sorry. Even though I know you're anxious to get out of there, I'm sure the change will be hard. Hang in there! Soon your new job will be your new normal and you can be happy to be away from what you're dealing with now!
jfresh, I'm glad you're doing well. I'm sure your parents are a very welcome support for you and Oliver right now. Thank goodness for them! I can somewhat relate to what you wrote above. It's hard to know how unhappy you really are until you remove yourself from that situation and start seeing clearly again. I know it's easy to get overwhelmed with the future and what it could look like, but just try to take one day at a time. Sending you tons of hugs. We are always here for you.
nesenotes - I know while you were still pregnant you mentioned that your sister was trying to come back into your life. Have you let her back into your life? How is she doing with her sobriety/addictions?
jfresh - I'm constantly thinking of you and how hard your situation must be. How are you doing?
Giant fail with her. She relapsed massively and started unraveling right around my babyshower. She completely flaked on me and my aunt the day before I went into labor. This is a big no no to my family. You never flake on family ever it's so disrespectful. So that behavior was not only out of character but just down right hurtful. I went into labor the next day and nothing. She didn't call or come see me or her new niece in the hospital. My parents kept trying to salvage her by offering to pick her up to bring her to see me because it wasn't right. She still had excuse after excuse as to why she couldnt. So a few days later I declared it enough and sent her the nastiest text basically telling her she was a trashy piece of shit and we are done forever and I never want to hear from her again. And I meant it to my core. FF 5 months, she's still on a binger and homeless. My dad took potty on her and let her stay at his house a few days while she found a rehab facility. She continued to get black out drunk so he kicked her out and she departed by stealing 2k from him (he hides cash in house and we all know this but we are not a family that steals from one another). He is devastated. She somehow found a rehab to take her in for free and it's a 4-6mo program. So that's where she is. But I don't think there can be repair on my end. I'm beyond done and she's a shadow of someone I once knew and loved. I do not speak about her or ask about her. Somehow emery still remembers her and will bring her name up occasionally and I ignore it. I've come to peace with my decision and feel nothing for her.
Post by snickers4everyone on May 6, 2015 10:11:40 GMT -5
Oh jfresh....hugs to you friend. I'm so glad you have such a good support system in your parents. Don't try to worry to much about future stuff right now. Take some time to just breathe and recuperate from everything that's happened. You can figure out permanent solutions when you're ready. Meanwhile, we're here if you need anything.
lizwinderson It's hard as others move on and you feel like you don't have that outlet, but you can always talk about him here. Feel free to tell us stories of how awesome he was any time.
nesenotes - I'm so sorry she flaked on you. I know you were leery of giving her another chance last time, but were trying to make an effort for Emery. There's only so many chances you can give someone. I hope for her own sake, she can get the help she needs and really flips her life around. I know Emery and Nora will have a much more stable life without her being present.
nesenotes, I'm so sorry to hear that. It sucks for Emery and Nora not having her around, especially since I'm sure Emery still remembers her, but if she is so toxic in a way it's for the better.
nesenotes, I know you don't come on here very often so I'm not sure when you'll see this. But how is your new house? Is it exactly what you had wanted? Are you all settled and unpacked yet?
LOOOOOVE my new house! Love it! We are mostly unpacked. Painters come tomorrow to paint the living room and Emery's room. Then I can really unpack and organize and decorate. We have a nature trail that leads to the park literally across the street from my house. Just steps. Amazing! Emery can learn to bike ride without getting run over by a car, she can run without getting run over by a car (can you tell I have anxiety about being run over by cars?). I'm much more active now. There are 2 parks walking distance and I'm so stoked. Our living room is huge, baby stuff doesn't feel suffocating anymore. We all have more space and I'm never leaving this place unless we decide to move to the beach one day. I'm minutes from 2 malls and lots of restaurants and the people around here are so friendly.
nesenotes, I'm so sorry to hear that about your sister. I was hoping for Emery's sake (and of course Nora and you) that she would get her shit together. It must be hard to see her just throw everything away. I can't imagine how hurtful that all has been for you. On a positive though, I'm so glad the house is just what you wanted, it sounds great! Congrats again - how wonderful that you've found your long-term home for the girls to grow up in.
Huge hugs nesenotes! I have an older half brother and sister that I refuse to have contact with for similar reasons, so I do get it unfortunately. Let me know if you ever want to talk or vent!
On a brighter note I am so glad you love your new house! It sounds amazing!
nesenotes I am so sorry about your sister. Big hugs girl as I know that it took a lot for you to even give her a second chance. Addiction is a terrible, terrible thing. Congrats on the new house! I am glad you love it!
laurski81 were you getting CeCe checked out this week for reflux? How'd that go??
Oh she was just a delight at her appointment and I'm sure the pedi thought I was nuts. Because we waited forever I nursed her while I was waiting and the pedi got to see how she acted after she ate. She told me that she didn't appear to be in pain and maybe it's more gas issues. She spits up a ton but she's gaining awesome weight so we will just keep monitoring her. We will just keep doing gas drops or gripe water for now and see if it gets better. She loves Henry but he does get in her face, is super loud, and overall just creates a stressful environment that I think she picks up on. Not blaming him for her screaming but I can see the difference in her when he is around and when he's not.
Post by cookiesandwine on May 6, 2015 16:38:35 GMT -5
laurski81 Gas drops were a life saver for us! I also cut out most dairy because it seemed to cause more gas. Sadie was a pretty high needs baby too so I feel ya. Hope she settles down for you soon!!
Post by Riverdong11 on May 7, 2015 18:30:37 GMT -5
Thanks for thinking of me summergirl1211. Unfortunately the job fell through at the very last minute. The guy that tried to hire me fought his management tooth and nail but ultimately lost. It's been hard dealing with that news and now I'm more frustrated than before. But I'll just keep working at it, it's all I can do.
Thanks for thinking of me summergirl1211. Unfortunately the job fell through at the very last minute. The guy that tried to hire me fought his management tooth and nail but ultimately lost. It's been hard dealing with that news and now I'm more frustrated than before. But I'll just keep working at it, it's all I can do.
Thanks for thinking of me summergirl1211. Unfortunately the job fell through at the very last minute. The guy that tried to hire me fought his management tooth and nail but ultimately lost. It's been hard dealing with that news and now I'm more frustrated than before. But I'll just keep working at it, it's all I can do.
Riverdong11, I'm so sorry. That totally sucks. I will keep my fingers crossed that something even better comes along. Chin up girl!
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