Advice needed - should I say something?
May 5, 2015 13:39:42 GMT -5
Post by smagglebit on May 5, 2015 13:39:42 GMT -5
My MIL and SIL's are throwing me a shower next weekend. It's a family only shower - DH comes from a very large family, so the shower is going to be "open house" style. I was told that they're inviting 55-60 people. I didn't have any details about it until last Friday, and now that I do, I'm a little upset and concerned about some things.
A couple years ago I found out that I have Celiac disease. DH's family has known since my diagnosis, and usually are very accommodating about family gatherings and such. Usually at family parties I just don't eat dessert, or I offer to bring it for the whole group because they don't have experience with gluten-free baking, and I don't like making things difficult. Well, they're planning a dessert buffet for my shower. I think they may be planning on making chocolate mousse for me, so that there's something I can eat there. I'm glad they're trying to make sure I can have something at my shower, but I still feel this was poorly planned, and a little rude.
The other thing is that they've opted to not send out actual invitations to the shower. Instead they created an event on FB and send an email out to those who aren't on FB. I've told them in the past that I hate FB events because it seems like no one ever responds to them. Plus, not everyone lives on FB 24 hours a day, and may not even see the invitation until later. My other issue with this is that since they didn't send invitations out, they don't have current addresses for the guests, which is going to make it very hard for me to send thank you cards out.
I think that they're just really lax about it because it is family. However, despite DH and I being married for about 9 years, there are some family members I've never even met. I'm just not sure how to handle any of this. Should I speak up, or is it too late to do anything about it?
A couple years ago I found out that I have Celiac disease. DH's family has known since my diagnosis, and usually are very accommodating about family gatherings and such. Usually at family parties I just don't eat dessert, or I offer to bring it for the whole group because they don't have experience with gluten-free baking, and I don't like making things difficult. Well, they're planning a dessert buffet for my shower. I think they may be planning on making chocolate mousse for me, so that there's something I can eat there. I'm glad they're trying to make sure I can have something at my shower, but I still feel this was poorly planned, and a little rude.
The other thing is that they've opted to not send out actual invitations to the shower. Instead they created an event on FB and send an email out to those who aren't on FB. I've told them in the past that I hate FB events because it seems like no one ever responds to them. Plus, not everyone lives on FB 24 hours a day, and may not even see the invitation until later. My other issue with this is that since they didn't send invitations out, they don't have current addresses for the guests, which is going to make it very hard for me to send thank you cards out.
I think that they're just really lax about it because it is family. However, despite DH and I being married for about 9 years, there are some family members I've never even met. I'm just not sure how to handle any of this. Should I speak up, or is it too late to do anything about it?