It's that time again...UO's...

[leenziepops]

May 7, 2015 7:48:38 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

So I've got a good UO with all the HDBD and maternity pictures being posted..

I secretly like bare bump pics(even with the sheet). I think they're intimate and as sexy as sexy can be while pregnant. I would not however post bare bump pics on social media because of how often employers check that shit out during the hiring process.

I took a bare bump photo as part of my photo shoot and I like it! Then again DH and I did an intimate photo shoot and I have those photos framed and displayed in our bedroom.

[alayne926]

I've been waiting all week for this one because of the week I've had at work!

It is not your Dr.'s office's responsibility to explain your insurance details to you. As an adult, you should know what your specific insurance policy states regarding deductible and coverage for services after said deductible. I have been yelled at all week because grown adults do not know that just because something is a covered benefit that it still applies to the deductible.

[tatersalad]

I've already put in my two cents about bare belly shots, but I basically think they are tacky and gross IF you are pulling up your shirt for a selfie or taking a selfie in your underpants. I have zero desire to get maternity pictures but if I did get them it would only be for the perfectly shadowed and strategically covered full naked pregnant body in all its glory shot.

[leenziepops]

My UO. I want to know everyone's weight gain. Sensible me says that's just silly and useless information and why compare. Other me, I really want to know exactly where i sit on the curve. It's completely stupid.

[turtletyme]

May 7, 2015 8:14:24 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

My UO. I want to know everyone's weight gain. Sensible me says that's just silly and useless information and why compare. Other me, I really want to know exactly where i sit on the curve. It's completely stupid.

Yesterday I was feeling so awful about myself, I googled "celebrity pregnancy weight gain." I'll just leave this here for you.

www.celebuzz.com/photos/pregnant-celebs-how-much-weight-did-they-gain/orlando-bloom-and-miranda-kerr-in-milan/

[alayne926]

May 7, 2015 8:29:20 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Another UO - I don't like that a lot of people seem to post to a thread before reading any of it. Exhibit A - The Wednesday Symptoms thread this week was from March. There were still so many people that commented about their symptoms and didn't notice...

I couldn't believe it either...even after someone pointed out that it was an old thread...

[txngrl31]

@jemomma,I responded to the Mother's Day and then thought, " wait, I answered this same question last week!" Pregnancy brain here! I've noticed a lot of women coming out of the woodwork without an intro. Example, the bare belly pic convo. Regarding that, I voiced my opinion yesterday- not a fan!

leenziepops, I think a lot of us are curious about weight gain too. Maybe we can get a feel on how others feel, and create an anonymous vote thread? For what it's worth, I think you look fantastic....and I'm not just saying that! 

My UO, although it might not be that unpopular here, is that I am annoyed with the current crop of parents that helicopter their kids and shelter their kids from the harshness of the world. Case in point, schools are now trying to ban Of Mice and Men and the Kite Runner from high school English classes, some of them being SR honors courses. These teens will be in college next year! The main parent complaint is that Of Mice and Men contains harsh language that students are often told to read aloud.

[alayne926]

May 7, 2015 9:00:10 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

@jemomma,I responded to the Mother's Day and then thought, " wait, I answered this same question last week!" Pregnancy brain here! I've noticed a lot of women coming out of the woodwork without an intro. Example, the bare belly pic convo. Regarding that, I voiced my opinion yesterday- not a fan!

I think we have a lot of lurkers that are still on TD.  I was lurking over there the other day and noticed thread titles that were the same over here.  Seemed to be too much of a coincidence.  

[holliberry28]

May 7, 2015 8:14:24 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

My UO. I want to know everyone's weight gain. Sensible me says that's just silly and useless information and why compare. Other me, I really want to know exactly where i sit on the curve. It's completely stupid.

Me too.  For what it's worth, I've gained 31 lbs, and unfortunately, I have 7 more weeks and I'm scared of the damage I'll do.  I wish vegetables and other healthier foods didn't make me wanna gag at the thought of it.  

My UO are my coworkers that take their work so seriously.  I understand you think you're super important, but scrutinizing, nitpicking, and overanalzying everything when you're doing a review isn't gonna change much of anything.  Except make you stay late every day, eat lunch too late, or skip it completely.  And, for what? I'm all for getting the job done as quickly and efficiently as possible.  Flame me for not giving two flying fucks.  I'd say I want to care but I don't and these people drive me crazy.

[holliberry28]

May 7, 2015 9:08:34 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

May 7, 2015 9:00:10 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

@jemomma,I responded to the Mother's Day and then thought, " wait, I answered this same question last week!" Pregnancy brain here! I've noticed a lot of women coming out of the woodwork without an intro. Example, the bare belly pic convo. Regarding that, I voiced my opinion yesterday- not a fan!

leenziepops, I think a lot of us are curious about weight gain too. Maybe we can get a feel on how others feel, and create an anonymous vote thread? For what it's worth, I think you look fantastic....and I'm not just saying that! 

My UO, although it might not be that unpopular here, is that I am annoyed with the current crop of parents that helicopter their kids and shelter their kids from the harshness of the world. Case in point, schools are now trying to ban Of Mice and Men and the Kite Runner from high school English classes, some of them being SR honors courses. These teens will be in college next year! The main parent complaint is that Of Mice and Men contains harsh language that students are often told to read aloud.

Wow.  Of Mice and Men is a classic! I remember it being one of my favorites that I read as a Senior in HS.  I have also read the Kite Runner, I didn't know it was being taught in classrooms though.  I consider it a very powerful book and while there are some graphic and intense themes within it, I think overall it is more thought provoking than offensive. 

I agree with you that it is silly to try to ban either book.  Those kids are practically adults! I'm sure they use crude language outside of the classroom for non-academic purposes, why is it not okay in an educational setting?

I loved the Kite Runner and A Thousand Splendid Suns/Sons? I cried so much at the end *Of Mice and Men*.  Thinking about it makes me want to cry.  I also hysterically cried in the movie theater when King Kong died (the most recent version with Naomi Watts).

Edited because I forgot to reference Of Mice and Men.  Woops. Stupid Brain.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Bare Bump pics: My opinion mirrors Kristykristyleelee pretty much in that it kind of depends on the shot and the place it is posted. A simple "here's my bump" sneak a peak shirt lift that shows the belly only doesn't bother me one bit, in fact I think I posted one something like that myself on a HDBD a few weeks ago. A bikiki on the beach also seems appropriate. However even though they show the exact same body parts, if someone were to lift up their nightgown while lying on their bed, or strike a pose in their bra and panties, these things seem a bit more sexual and private and intended for your and SOs eyes only. There is my line. I also feel like the only place I would personally post pictures of my bump is on a HDBD thread. I don't take selfies and post them on facebook or whatever. "Facebook" world doesn't even know that I am pregnant as far as my picture posting habits go, so there is that. I really don't know where I stand as far as posting bump pictures on social media forums like that. I have sent individual long distance friends bump photos if they've inquired for them though!

[bruunk]

May 7, 2015 9:00:10 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

My UO, although it might not be that unpopular here, is that I am annoyed with the current crop of parents that helicopter their kids and shelter their kids from the harshness of the world. Case in point, schools are now trying to ban Of Mice and Men and the Kite Runner from high school English classes, some of them being SR honors courses. These teens will be in college next year! The main parent complaint is that Of Mice and Men contains harsh language that students are often told to read aloud.

Book banning just makes my blood boil!! Also, if you're going to ban Of Mice and Men, harsh language (that I'm SURE those HS kids have heard and used before) doesn't seem like a horrible offense! School is a great setting (when done well) to start the discussion about the topics that are hard/controversial in books - it's how students learn! We were just talking about this at work yesterday!! Huck Finn is constantly on the list of books getting challenged because of the racism. Now - the racism in the book is horrible, there is no debating that, it's vile, but use it to have a discussion with the students about the historical context, what mark twain was doing writing his book like he did, and why it's vile! Same for Kite Runner - those aren't easy topics, they're hard! But not above a HS students head or comprehension - discuss it, and teach --- don't "shield" the students. You're doing them a disservice - they're in school to learn damn it!

I'm off my English Lit degree soap box. Hopefully that rant is cohesive but man, book banning of solid, well written literature is so fing annoying. Now, you want to teach 50 Shades in the class room? I might have issue with that!

[ladysif]

Ha, I'll totally own the Mother's Day thing. I don't even remember if I saw the other one and definitely didn't check. But hey, I got a good gauge of the norm and some ideas so no regrets!

My UO is that I don't think you can credibly or accurately compare weight gains, ladies, and it is just going to make some feel awesome and some feel horrible. For example, those of us with (controlled) GD often don't gain as much as typically predicted in a regular pregnancy. And post-partum some women lose a ton from breastfeeding, others don't.

[islandgirl14]

May 7, 2015 8:54:03 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

May 7, 2015 8:32:22 GMT -5 alayne926 said:

I couldn't believe it either...even after someone pointed out that it was an old thread...

That confused the shit out of my dumb ass. I saw and was sitting there with the head scratching, uhh I didn't start a thread today look and then realized it was hella old.

I'll be the first to admit that I don't always look at the dates of threads that were posted... I very well may have posted on that thread, I'm not sure... Sometimes I think when things pop up as "new " (even when they aren't), people probably just assume they are new, and don't look close at the date to verify. And, if I didn't happen to either notice that, or catch a post where someone pointed it out, I would never know!

[littlemissgrump]

First, I apologize I haven't been around much, I don't like typing on the app and I don't like using my computer because it's always moments away from dying. Conundrum.

My UO is I don't like cats. Mostly their hair everywhere. And when they decide they want to be best friends and get all up in your business. I am slightly allergic to them, so there's that.

[veggiemo]

This isn't an UO but am I the only one who thought the bare bump pic may have been demanda? I could be totally wrong but as soon as I read that post I thought it might be her and then when she immediately came back to defend herself it just got me wondering even more.

[Deleted]

May 7, 2015 8:14:24 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

My UO. I want to know everyone's weight gain. Sensible me says that's just silly and useless information and why compare. Other me, I really want to know exactly where i sit on the curve. It's completely stupid.

I won't share my number because my experience here is that if you are on the small/low end of anything weight related and mention it you get ripped to shreds for bragging about how awesome you are, even if you aren't.  And I've had a very hard time putting on what I think is an appropriate/healthy amount of weight this time, between being sick and food aversions.  I wish people would STFU about the size of my bump relative to guessing baby's weight because I have more than a small amount of guilt an concern about where I am. 

[Widget123]

May 7, 2015 11:42:32 GMT -5 veggiemo said:

This isn't an UO but am I the only one who thought the bare bump pic may have been demanda? I could be totally wrong but as soon as I read that post I thought it might be her and then when she immediately came back to defend herself it just got me wondering even more.

I thought for sure it was a troll, probably from another board, who came by to try to start shit and then was probably disappointed that we didn't get as angry as she expected.  If demanda wanted to re-emerge again, she'd probably do so on the July board which she said she had thought of doing previously.

ETA: to clarify.  Been too distracted by all of the random happenings at work today.

[Widget123]

May 7, 2015 8:08:07 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

My UO this week is that I am starting to get really annoyed by all the repeat threads on this board. I say this as an UO because no one else has pointed them out. There have been 3 this week people! 3!!! The mother's day thread, the monitors thread and the labor fears thread. I feel like I'm going nuts because no one seems to notice this, lol.

I pointed out the repeat labor fears thread to hazel, the other ones I noticed but let slide because they didn't bug me as so much.  As much as I try to be sensitive to other people's fears, every time I see someone post about how they are afraid they are going to have a big baby I cringe, but I am probably more sensitive to the subject than most. Some of the other common fears people post about get on my nerves too, but not as much as that one.

[mrskblack11]

Bare bump pics: Eh. Why do feel the need to take an extra step and left up your shirt? I don't mind seeing them during HDBD. I do not however want to see your underwear. Personally, I would not post a bare bump picture. I don't think anyone wants to see all my stretch marks (or maybe you do??). Bikini pictures at the pool and/or beach are fine. Taking a bikini shot in your room is not (my SIL does this).

[silv3rlining]

As far as repeat threads and threads in general this board has had a lot more "rules and regs" than most. There were several of us who were regs on TD who started out posting and then stopped. Some posted early on with the jump to here and still left. I've recently joined back in. I don't think there is a way to please everyone. Old threads that get resurrected are flamed, repeat topics from one week to the next get flamed. Personally I haven't posted on the cloth diaper thread bc it is so old/long.

[countrymama05]

My UO is that I don't understand the purpose of the UO thread each week. Since this is a pregnancy related message board, why is there a thread dedicated solely to expressing your opinions that are deemed to be unpopular, and then waiting for someone to start a debate with you? I could be wrong but it seems like a way to encourage drama on a message board. I guess it makes things interesting, every once in a while (at least I've seen a lively debate every now and then on these threads) but I guess I'm failing to see the overall point.

[belle0720]

I already gave my opinion about bare bump pics, but I'll say it again, I think lifting your shirt to post a pic of your stomach is AWish and not my style (and I'm pretty sure that was a troll yesterday trying to stir something up). I think bare bump maternity pics can be (but usually aren't) done tastefully boudoir style but should be kept more private. I hate the windy sheet pics and ones wearing a bandeau and some crazy outfit that you'd normally never be caught dead in...x10 if your SO is in the picture and not wearing a shirt either!

I have no prob sharing my weight gain...35lbs as of today's weigh in. I'm trying to stay active and walk every day and not stuff my face with french fries and bonbons constantly and that's good enough for me! I know my friend and cousin who gained 50-60 lbs during their pregnancies and they bounced back eventually so I'm not terribly concerned about my gains.

[mrskblack11]

May 7, 2015 13:32:22 GMT -5 countrymama05 said:

My UO is that I don't understand the purpose of the UO thread each week. Since this is a pregnancy related message board, why is there a thread dedicated solely to expressing your opinions that are deemed to be unpopular, and then waiting for someone to start a debate with you? I could be wrong but it seems like a way to encourage drama on a message board. I guess it makes things interesting, every once in a while (at least I've seen a lively debate every now and then on these threads) but I guess I'm failing to see the overall point.

Having an intellectual debate on a topic does not equal drama. I enjoy hearing other women's opinions on various topics. It often gives me a perspective that I may not have considered before. 

Sure there are some posters that can't handle a debate and have a melt down, but the majority is able to handle opposing opinions with tact and class.      

[ThePalindromicOne]

I know there was a thread about this, but based on that it seems like a somewhat UO: I'm encapsulating my placenta - finalized it this week, I'm super pumped about it all!

[belle0720]

countrymama05 I don't think UOs and debates are 'drama'. People can disagree and argue their points in a civilized manner. I do think trolling boards you've never participated on before is drama though

[silv3rlining]

May 7, 2015 13:38:34 GMT -5 belle0720 said:

I already gave my opinion about bare bump pics, but I'll say it again, I think lifting your shirt to post a pic of your stomach is AWish and not my style (and I'm pretty sure that was a troll yesterday trying to stir something up). I think bare bump maternity pics can be (but usually aren't) done tastefully boudoir style but should be kept more private. I hate the windy sheet pics and ones wearing a bandeau and some crazy outfit that you'd normally never be caught dead in...x10 if your SO is in the picture and not wearing a shirt either!

I have no prob sharing my weight gain...35lbs as of today's weigh in. I'm trying to stay active and walk every day and not stuff my face with french fries and bonbons constantly and that's good enough for me! I know my friend and cousin who gained 50-60 lbs during their pregnancies and they bounced back eventually so I'm not terribly concerned about my gains.

We took a few mat pics when I was pg with DS with my shirt lifted, but it was mostly just of the belly, so I thought tasteful?

As far as weight gain I'm around 36 lbs gained (which is craziness to me). However with DS I only gained a total of 27 and then lost 41. So really some of it was playing catch up.

ETA: I also had GD with DS and I don't have GD this time AND I'm having a girl this time.

[missjenniebean]

May 7, 2015 8:14:24 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

My UO. I want to know everyone's weight gain. Sensible me says that's just silly and useless information and why compare. Other me, I really want to know exactly where i sit on the curve. It's completely stupid.

Gained 40 lbs but my doctor hasn't said a thing. So I am always shocked when I read about others doctors making comments.

Definitely not contributing to UO but...since you are curious. Haha

[countrymama05]

So then why not debate things that are intelligent such as something political rather than placenta encapsulation and maternity photos? I'm failing to see how debating either of those things are educated or intelligent. That's my UO though so I guess you can flame me for it!

[turtletyme]

May 7, 2015 13:48:08 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

Gained 40 lbs but my doctor hasn't said a thing. So I am always shocked when I read about others doctors making comments.

Definitely not contributing to UO but...since you are curious. Haha

40 here too. And haven't heard boo from my doctor, except when I saw a different OB on Tues. and she mentioned I had gained 4 lbs. Since then I have lost 2, GO FIGURE.

I am short but had big boobs to begin with and now they are enormous, so I feel like that's a lot of it. Not that I am thrilled with the size of the rest of me, but I am trying to stop obsessing about it for the next 6 weeks. (unlikely)