Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
FFS, people. I wanted a GBCTCF, but not a lame one. This is a case of walk-it-off. At most. How did this become a GBCTCF? What is happening?!?
People are getting butt hurt way to easily. They need to learn to suck it up and put their big girl panties on.
People need to (quietly, in their own heart and mind) seriously adopt the motto: They don't know my lyfe.
After that big shebang that went down with me? I cried myself to sleep. For two nights. My husband was so confused and bewildered. When I finally told him what was up, he started laughing so hard. He was all, "Honey! They are STRANGERS. They don't know you!"
Then, like an idiot, he told my BFF about it. (facepalm. I was totally /ded.) She, so wisely, told me to evaluate the criticism I'd been given and use any nuggets of truth to grow. She told me to throw out all the rest.
And that's been extremely helpful for me. However, if I hadn't had a strong, supportive IRL network, that episode probably would have sent me to a deep, dark place. I take criticism *way* harshly, even unhealthily so. I can see how some people who don't have much IRL support or who are prone to dangerously low self-confidence may need to disconnect from this community. I can also see how others just may not fit in this environment. Most days, I'm still not sure if I belong here.
People are getting butt hurt way to easily. They need to learn to suck it up and put their big girl panties on.
People need to (quietly, in their own heart and mind) seriously adopt the motto: They don't know my lyfe.
After that big shebang that went down with me? I cried myself to sleep. For two nights. My husband was so confused and bewildered. When I finally told him what was up, he started laughing so hard. He was all, "Honey! They are STRANGERS. They don't know you!"
Then, like an idiot, he told my BFF about it. (facepalm. I was totally /ded.) She, so wisely, told me to evaluate the criticism I'd been given and use any nuggets of truth to grow. She told me to throw out all the rest.
And that's been extremely helpful for me. However, if I hadn't had a strong, supportive IRL network, that episode probably would have sent me to a deep, dark place. I take criticism *way* harshly, even unhealthily so. I can see how some people who don't have much IRL support or who are prone to dangerously low self-confidence may need to disconnect from this community. I can also see how others just may not fit in this environment. Most days, I'm still not sure if I belong here.
Maybe it's because I don't do feelings in real life and it makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable when someone expresses their feels, but I don't see how you can take what someone says on here that seriously. Yes, there are people here I would consider friends but just like my IRL friends I'm not going to freak the fuck out when they criticize me. Sometimes I say shitty things. Everyone does. No one is perfect. Learn from it and move on.
People need to (quietly, in their own heart and mind) seriously adopt the motto: They don't know my lyfe.
After that big shebang that went down with me? I cried myself to sleep. For two nights. My husband was so confused and bewildered. When I finally told him what was up, he started laughing so hard. He was all, "Honey! They are STRANGERS. They don't know you!"
Then, like an idiot, he told my BFF about it. (facepalm. I was totally /ded.) She, so wisely, told me to evaluate the criticism I'd been given and use any nuggets of truth to grow. She told me to throw out all the rest.
And that's been extremely helpful for me. However, if I hadn't had a strong, supportive IRL network, that episode probably would have sent me to a deep, dark place. I take criticism *way* harshly, even unhealthily so. I can see how some people who don't have much IRL support or who are prone to dangerously low self-confidence may need to disconnect from this community. I can also see how others just may not fit in this environment. Most days, I'm still not sure if I belong here.
Maybe it's because I don't do feelings in real life and it makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable when someone expresses their feels, but I don't see how you can take what someone says on here that seriously. Yes, there are people here I would consider friends but just like my IRL friends I'm not going to freak the fuck out when they criticize me. Sometimes I say shitty things. Everyone does. No one is perfect. Learn from it and move on.
Just realize that, in the same way you "don't do feelings", other people really, really, really "do feelings". It doesn't make them weak. It doesn't make them stupid. It doesn't make them bad people. They simply process their world differently than you. You may not understand it, and that's okay. Some of the members of this community are way harsher than I could ever be, even to strangers on the internet. But I don't think that makes them bitches or bad people. They're just different than me. And I'm thankful for people like them...it certainly keeps things (here and IRL) interesting.
However, some people don't find it interesting. They find it stressful, hurtful, and anxiety-inducing. Hopefully those people spend a bit of time here and, if they feel this isn't a healthy environment for them, they're able to leave and find a community (online or IRL) that is healthy for them.
(There are a select few who seem intent on self-flagellation via TCF, though. I really, truly don't understand them. I certainly don't have the stomach for it.)
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