What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): I married my first husband after 1.5 years together. I got pregnant right after the wedding. When I was 8 months pregnant the cops came to my door to tell me that me H had been arrested for trying to meet a 15 yr old girl for sex. I kicked him out that day, changed the locks and now have full legal and physical custody of my DD. I went through a 1.5 year long divorce and was a single parent for almost 4 years.
I spent 3 years totally single (with the exception of about 4 months when I tried dating too soon) and focused on myself and my kiddo. I am now married to a wonderful man I have know since HS. I may not be single anymore, but I try to give honest and helpful advice based on my experience. I also like to remind other SPs that things will get better!
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Crocheting, watching Netflix, Playing soccer and of course hanging out with my little family.
My favorite condiment is: BBQ sauce followed by ranch dressing (homemade)
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): Mascara and eyebrow filler/powder
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): She is a girly girl (opposite of me) with a clear sense of what she likes and wants. She is tall and quite energetic Love of my life of course!!
Post by monkeytoes15 on Jan 22, 2015 0:53:15 GMT -5
Hello! My name is: Natalie
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): my husband decided other women who didn't just have our son, where more attractive and funner. So once that all went down, we split.
My favorite way to spend my free time is:reading
My favorite condiment is: Ranch dressing
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): my pone
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): DS was born October 15th 2013. And is just a crazy baby. Teething right now, getting in molars. So life has been fun last few days.
Post by 20thirteen on Jan 22, 2015 10:34:01 GMT -5
Hello! My name is: 20thirteen
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): I found out I was pregnant 11/2012, just after the elections, and BD and I panicked a bit about it but he wouldn’t actually hold a conversation with me about what to do. He’d just say “I can’t be a father.” And then sort of change the subject. A couple times, he told me that I had to get an abortion, which was out of the question. Not for some religious reason, but because I am very PRO-CHOICE and MY CHOICE was to go through with it. I will fight for every woman’s choice to do with their bodies what they choose, but I told him from the very beginning that I would never abort if I were to ever get pregnant. On Christmas, after spending the day with him and his parents, he runs off to his other girl’s house and calls and lets her dump me for him since he has NO backbone. I spent the next 6mo preparing myself to be a single mom. I cried my tears for him and picked myself up, dusted myself off, and rocked on.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: gaming. I have a PS3 that takes up whatever free-time I have because I need to get caught up on all my Batman games. Although, my boyfriend got me Injustice for Christmas and I’m plowing through that as much as I can because that game is AWESOME.
My favorite condiment is: Ketchup. I have a hard time not smothering food in ketchup.
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): my PS3. I’m not a social person and anything that requires real life actual human contact makes me nervous.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): She is so unbelievably just like me when I was a kid. It scares me that she might turn out like me in adulthood but for now, she wants to play with her friends at daycare, she wants to make all the art, and makes the funniest faces. I love her. So much.
picklesx I'm so sorry. I'm glad you got out of that relationship!!
Here's mine --
Hello! My name is: Andrea
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): Together 13 years, married 8, my STBXH decides he prefers the company of 20-somethings to his wife. Caught him cheating once, almost left but gave things a second chance. Six months later he was at it again with another girl. He moved out, we separated, and we now live in different states.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Reading!
My favorite condiment is: Ranch dressing (LOL -- anyone who has been around SP for awhile will get why that's funny)
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): My iPhone! I take so many pictures of DD it's ridiculous.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): She's six. Almost seven. And so full of fire and personality. And too smart for her own good. She was just screened for gifted -- and passed!
Hello! My name is: TwizzTastic (previously acbarbour on TB)
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version):
I was a single mom for 7 years before getting married 3 years ago. xBF was abusive and I left after the abuse continued into my pregnancy. He is very controlling and has been absent (beside annoying me) for most of DS's life. I am on this board because I didn't have really have a resource for single parenting and the od things that come up like dating, teach my son to pee standing up, when to introduce the new BF. I hang around and post very infrequently when I think I have some advise.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Sleep, glorious sleep and reading
My favorite condiment is: BBQ Sauce but now Ranch is growing on me
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): Prius I driving more than 500 miles a week and with new gas prices I am filling up for about $15 each week.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): I have two now. DS is 10 and DD is 2. Sibling rivalry is real and while they can mess with each other nobody else can.
Hello! My name is: ontherock2012 What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version)got back together with an ex I hadn't seen in 7 yrs. thought he'd grown up.thought I was madly in love, 6 weeks later pregnant and ex disappears forever
My favorite way to spend my free time is:live to read, surf the net.br] My favorite condiment is:I like all of them except mustard because that's gross.br] I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!) my phone, coffee!):
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): [/] She's polite and funny, and now at almost 3, has really grown into her personality.
Ok, I'm here but not willingly! Damn you, my peeps, for bailing!
Hello! My name is: Ali
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): I'm a single parent! Duh! BD is a douchecanoe who'd rather have beer and manipulation in his life than me and his daughter. Hence, we hit the road. He's currently serving 16-60 months in prison for alcohol related charges and stalking me.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: With DD.
My favorite condiment is: Hot mustard sauce from McDonalds and ranch dressing. I'm not a huge fast food fan...but McD's lost my business when they discontinued hot mustard sauce. Thankfully, they saw the light.
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): My kindle. I take it everywhere.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): She's awesome! Duh! Seriously...hrm...well, we're on day 3 of no more paci! She's rocking kicking her addiction! Also, she's 22 months and is so damn smart. She has too many words to count, recognizes and says the first 5 letters of the alphabet, and seems to be as independent as her mama. She is also the best behaved child I've ever seen when we're in public and most of the time at home.
Ok, I'm here but not willingly! Damn you, my peeps, for bailing!
Hello! My name is: Ali
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): I'm a single parent! Duh! BD is a douchecanoe who'd rather have beer and manipulation in his life than me and his daughter. Hence, we hit the road. He's currently serving 16-60 months in prison for alcohol related charges and stalking me.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: With DD.
My favorite condiment is: Hot mustard sauce from McDonalds and ranch dressing. I'm not a huge fast food fan...but McD's lost my business when they discontinued hot mustard sauce. Thankfully, they saw the light.
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): My kindle. I take it everywhere.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): She's awesome! Duh! Seriously...hrm...well, we're on day 3 of no more paci! She's rocking kicking her addiction! Also, she's 22 months and is so damn smart. She has too many words to count, recognizes and says the first 5 letters of the alphabet, and seems to be as independent as her mama. She is also the best behaved child I've ever seen when we're in public and most of the time at home.
The first 3 days were the roughest without the paci for DD. It'll be a month on Sunday and now she says "remember when I was little and had a nummy, that's for babies" It's great to hear your DD is doing so good.
What brought me to the SP board: I was with my boyfriend around 3 years. We lived together. His other children called me their stepmom, we have an 18 month old and one on the way and he decides his 18 year old employee is who he wants to be with. Apparently she is fun like I used to be and doesn't expect things from him. Whatever!
Favorite way to spend free time: I don't have much now, but on the rare occasion my ex sees my daughter I love to read.
Favorite condiment: ranch!
I can't live without: chapstick.
About my LO: She is a very stubborn child. Was a daddy's girl, now I'm struggling to help her adjust to not seeing him.
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): have been married for the past 5 years but currently going through divorce. We just fight way to much. I was always a lurker on TB but saw this board and decided it was time to just jump in.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: reading
My favorite condiment is: sour cream
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!):my phone
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): DD is amazing. She's almost 17 months. She's totally a mamas girl and I love it. she loves to blow kisses and give fist bumps
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): Short version: Married since 2007, husband was being very emotionally and verbally abusive, then when pregnant he was physically threatening including rages while I was on strict bed rest. I kicked him out and he's never been welcomed back. We've been separated for over 3 years and I am in a major transition time, possibly leading to divorce.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: feet up on the couch trying to rest. No, seriously I love to hike, but don't get to do much of it these days, so I take dd running with me or out pulled behind my bike.
My favorite condiment is: I don't use many... kind of boring I know. Salt?
I can't live without my coffee in the morning
Family/friends/pets are a given!): I have a pesty cat who's almost like a second child. He and my girl bug each other all day and the cat gets into so many things.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): I have a daughter who is almost 3. She is a nonstop chatterbox and has been speaking in paragraphs for a long time. It's like she doesn't have an off button. Her imagination is wild too. She has given me a new name, her dad a new name, created 2 imaginary brothers, and a few random imaginary friends. It's crazy and I love her.
Post by jennaleigh23 on Jan 27, 2015 12:36:06 GMT -5
Hello! My name is: Jenna
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): Reunited with someone from highschool at a friend's wedding. We dated for about three months, I got pregnant and a week later he slept with someone else. Have been single since about 7 weeks pregnant, currently almost 14 weeks pregnant.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: watching netflix, (sleeping but this is a new pregnancy thing), reading.
My favorite condiment is: ketchup always.
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): my ipad/iphone
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): still learning about this little one but so far I know it hates everything I eat and likes to flip around a lot!
Post by minnesotamomma91 on Jan 28, 2015 9:22:52 GMT -5
Hello! My name is: Lauren
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): i was in a bad place, recentley seperated from my abusive exhusband when i was hanging out with a guy friend who was also xh best friend from high school. Bd and i got drunk together we hooked up and got pregnant. Bd floundered about what he wantes to do for a week but then he punked out. I mostly dont hear frok him.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: pinterest and netflix. Its a problem. I used to love reading but ds destroys my books ao they are packed away right now
My favorite condiment is: i dont really have one...
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): hair product and nail polish. Its a good thing you ladies cant see my bathroom...
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): hes every bit as stubborn as his parents! He is obsessed with mickey mouse and he loves his opa(grandpa) and puppies
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): Married for 7 years but in the process of a divorce. I initiated and I have custody of DD, but he has her every other weekend. STBXH is cooperating (paying child support/ visitation), but is very bitter.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Shopping.
My favorite condiment is: Hot sauce
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): Probably my shoe collection.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): She is the most outgoing, friendliest little girl I have ever known. She loves animals, music and dancing, and she just all around rocks.
Post by freezorburn on Jan 30, 2015 10:09:00 GMT -5
Hello! My name is: freezorburn
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): DH told me 2 weeks ago that he is having an affair at work and wants a divorce. We are starting couples counseling but his mind is made up. 27 years of friendship and 15 years of marriage down the toilet. So I am lurking here in preparation for my impending singlehood.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: what's free time?
My favorite condiment is: Heinz ketchup
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): These days? Chocolate-covered candied ginger
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): 2.5 year old little boy. Loves Octonauts, trains, Legos and the Cutty Sark Tea Clipper (we live a 10-minute walk away from it).
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): my ex and I separated after he became physically abusive. The final straw was when he gave me a black eye because I brought him warm Whataburger instead of hot. He'd been abusing Adderall and just wasn't right in the head.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Hanging out with my 9 month old. I also enjoy reading,, playing nerdy PC games, and swimming.
My favorite condiment is: Ranch. I put it on practically everything.
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): My phone, my tablet, and a good book.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): My DD likes to chase after the family cats, knock over the trash whenever she gets a chance, and thinks it's hilarious to pull other people's hair. Also, she can fall asleep just about anywhere in any position (see attached photo).
Post by madelyndaphney on Feb 14, 2015 21:06:19 GMT -5
Hello! My name is: Madelyn
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): I broke up with my lying/cheating/drug addict boyfriend before I found out I was pregnant. He would rather continue his party/crazy/skeeze lifestyle than be there for his daughter (who will be born in April, I'm 30 weeks). So I'm preparing for single motherhood!
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Scrapbooking, baking, reading & knitting
My favorite condiment is: fancy sauce (mayo+ketchup)
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): lactose free milk and kool-aid
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): I'm having my first child in April, a little girl. So far she's healthy, a little bigger than average, and a ninja.
Another SMBC. I hang out on LGBT families, but sometimes, single is well, more related to singleness than any other thing. My orientation is pretty unuseful- my compass is broken- I landed on SP board and thought Id check it out.
Spare time? When? I have horses and am in the barn when I can be.
Condiment? I will consume anything with buffalo sauce, or Franks Red Hot on it. Almost.
Cant live w/out? Right now, my ipad.
Tidbit? DS is 4 and his super power is climbing. He can scale anything. 6'fence- age 2, to the rafter in the garage-3, to the top of my canopy bed (much to my annoyance) he does this day and night at 4.
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): Found out I was pregnant a month after we broke up, trying to make it work but, honestly rather have 2 happy single parents than a miserable couple
My favorite way to spend my free time is: Free time? Ha, I'm a workaholic
My favorite condiment is: hot sauce, I put that shit on everything
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): my dog, he makes me smile on shity days
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): she will be arriving around April 9th and I can't wait to meet her
What brought me to the SP board? (short or semi-short version): My SO passed away unexpectedly when I was 9 weeks pregnant. I'm 33 weeks now and doing well but am trying to gear up for the challenges ahead! I have a daughter from a previous marriage which ended when she was 5 months old so I've done the single mom with a baby thing before. I'm hoping it goes as well this time as last.
My favorite way to spend my free time is: right now I'm on bed rest so it's alllll free time :-). I sleep. A lot. I also play online or watch movies with DD who is almost 11.
My favorite condiment is: mayo
I can't live without (something frivolous! Family/friends/pets are a given!): I guess my phone and Burt's Bees lip balm.
A little tidbit about my LO (Little One): My 10 yr old is a wonderful spirit. She's super funny and is very sensitive and caring. She's also extremely excited for her little sister to arrive. She had been begging for a little sister for a few years.
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