DH got me cards from the cats and dog. I loved them yesterday. Today they're just making me sad. Two years ago SIL announced on Mothers Day that she was pregnant. We are on the way to see them now and I am irrationally afraid that she has another baby to announce. She has been talking about her "next baby" for a while now. And she always gets pregnant first try.
((Hugs))
DH found those cards from the dog... funny how 2 years ago when we weren't trying I thought those were the cutest thing... now, not so much!
I logged in to a notification from MIL and was scared what it might say but she was just wishing a happy anniversary. I probably will avoid Facebook the rest of the day. Facebook is harder for me the longer this process takes and that sucks. I'm glad we have each other!
Today is your anniversary? Now THAT is something to celebrate.
Post by SheilaTheTank on May 10, 2015 12:00:50 GMT -5
We do pet mother/father's day. We've been doing it for years. MH surprised this morning though with a different type of card. It's a cheesy valentines day card that he scratched out the word Valentine's and instead put "hopefully soon to be mother's day". It was so freaking random it made me laugh.
We went out for lunch because we didn't have anything in the house. It was my husband and I. Our waitress wrote Happy Mother's Day on our check. I was like seriously?
We went out for lunch because we didn't have anything in the house. It was my husband and I. Our waitress wrote Happy Mother's Day on our check. I was like seriously?
Ugh. No place is safe. Why do people assume that any woman beyond her teen years must be celebrating today?
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We do pet mother/father's day. We've been doing it for years. MH surprised this morning though with a different type of card. It's a cheesy valentines day card that he scratched out the word Valentine's and instead put "hopefully soon to be mother's day". It was so freaking random it made me laugh.
My 3 cats and my dog got me a card with 3 cats on it and bought me a hammock. It was really nice. MH did it yesterday though so I was fine with that.
I just found out that MH volunteered me to work during the brewery's grand opening next weekend. I was hoping to just run in and out of the grocery with minimal interaction. Now I have to go over to the taproom to go over the schedule and will inevitably be hit with a slew of questions when random customers realize i'm MH's wife.
Strangers at bars ask the most inappropriate questions.
Hugs to all you ladies. I've gone through periods of fb avoidance too.
I did post a fb status but it basically said sometimes the path to motherhood is unexpected, easy or hard, sometimes you hold you babies in your arms and sometimes in your heart, (a bit about dd and then) Happy mother's day. I was hoping it was sensitive to those who I know have had losses or are childless not by choice, but is it?
Post by shadesofgold on May 10, 2015 13:28:56 GMT -5
I keep making the mistake of logging on. A pregnancy announcement and lots of baby photos. The only message I've gotten so far was a joke "happy mother's day, mom" from a friend who I don't think knows about our loss - it's because they refer to me as the mother of our friend group. That actually cracked me up. I don't hate the holiday, but I am feeling feelings this weekend. We went to a wedding last night that I was supposed to have a cute baby bump for. I'm with my best friend and MH today driving across the state and waiting for one of them to say something supportive. I am preemptively sad because I don't think MH is even considering I could be hurting today. So I'm here with y'all instead.
Hugs to all you ladies. I've gone through periods of fb avoidance too.
I did post a fb status but it basically said sometimes the path to motherhood is unexpected, easy or hard, sometimes you hold you babies in your arms and sometimes in your heart, (a bit about dd and then) Happy mother's day. I was hoping it was sensitive to those who I know have had losses or are childless not by choice, but is it?
Hugs to all you ladies. I've gone through periods of fb avoidance too.
I did post a fb status but it basically said sometimes the path to motherhood is unexpected, easy or hard, sometimes you hold you babies in your arms and sometimes in your heart, (a bit about dd and then) Happy mother's day. I was hoping it was sensitive to those who I know have had losses or are childless not by choice, but is it?
I'm clearly in a bad way today. Your post is certainly more thoughtful than most, and I can appreciate that. . Happy Mother's Day to you.
I didn't think anything bad about your last post if that's what you mean. I am a mom, but all the mushy gushy posts about calling your om and hugging your kids etc.... are even to much for me. My cousin and her husband do those kind of posts all the time for every holiday/occasion. It's a little over the top.
Post by lovetruly2015 on May 10, 2015 13:47:48 GMT -5
I haven't had a moment to check facebook today and I don't think I will. I was doing ok until we got the resturant and a little girl handed me a flower, I felt awkward telling her I didnt want it, so I just held on to it. Then one of the waitresses saw it and wished me a happy mothers day and I broke as soon as she walked away. When we got home DH gave me a pandora bracelet which just made me sad all over again. I think I might have hurt his feeling a little bit because I didn't put it on right away but it just hurts to much right now.
Plus, im not sure why he thought jewerly was a good idea when I loose it all the time...
Can I just say I am so happy you all are here!? I was starting to feel like no corner of the internet was safe. Internet fist bumps to everyone who needs them.
Post by notthedroids on May 10, 2015 13:56:43 GMT -5
Just popped in to say I love you guys and am giving all the hugs to you all. I had a moment today too where I logged on to facebook and was like nope. Not today.
I was not expecting to be as upset as I am today. I've been a crying mess all morning. I think because this is the first mother's day that I've really really wanted to be a mom and I'm not. I made the mistake of logging in to FB this morning and quickly logged back out when I couldn't handle all the mom posts.
I kept crying at church, seeing so many moms and their kids, even though the church wasn't as over the top as usual for Mother's day.... thankfully no stand up if you're a mom or anything like that. But they had beautiful red roses for all the moms. They made it clear that all women could take one, so no one would feel left out, but taking one without being a mom felt too much a like a consolation prize. MH said something like "you can take a flower... you're almost a mom." He was trying to be nice, and I'm pretty sure he was referring to the fact that (assuming our licensing goes as planned) I will most likely be a foster mom sometime this year, but it still hurt.
I will be spending the rest of the day cuddling with my dogs and drinking wine... and definitely staying off of FB.
Hugs to everyone having a rough day! I told DH if he sees me checking Facebook on my phone to grab it away from me today. Luckily we haven't had any comments today but my mom is coming over in 2 hours for dinner so we shall see where that goes.
Special hugs to shadesofgold - maybe your H is hurting too and doesn't want to show it in front of your friend?
**possible trigger??** I totally grabbed my niece and held her through church as a distraction today incase it was a sermon about motherhood. I'd rather play with the baby then end up tearing up during the sermon.
Post by mustloveerica on May 10, 2015 14:51:16 GMT -5
My first cry of the day has happened. DH is in a pissy mood so I don't know what's going on with him but it's not helping. I am also stuck at DHs family's house. Which is fine because I love them. But I'm currently hiding out on the porch swing with my toddler niece waiting for my face to not be blotchy because I don't feel like talking about why I cried in the car. Ugh.
Post by rivers and roads on May 10, 2015 14:52:37 GMT -5
I've been gone all weekend, but just yes to all of this. Just yes. Yes to avoiding social media, to the slew of "my first mother's day!" On Facebook, and to letting go of the idea that my gift to my mom today did not include the news that she would also be a grandmother. Blah. Also, thankful for TCF and this community because I'd hate to be a downer today to others, but I do just feel down.
I hear you all today. My mom lives in a different state so I can't even use getting together as a distraction. I'm headed to the dog park with the pup.
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