DH wants to go to the Avengers movie as a date. I hate movie "dates". Paying the baby-sitter $15 an hour so we can sit for 2+ hours in the dark, not interacting? Blech. I'd prefer to invite our friends over for the last time before the baby comes. Given that DH blew 3 date opportunities this pregnancy (invited his brothers along on the first 2, slept through the third), I'm really inclined to just tell him to go on his own
Do you have more than 1 kid that you're paying $15/hr per sitter? Or where do you live?!? DH and I went and saw the Avengers movie the weekend it came out, I vote for you guys to go, but understand your reason for wanting it to be different than just a movie.
Oh. Oh. That's on DH. $10 is the going rate. But because her profile listed $10-15 an hour, he offered her $15 an hour (also no consideration of how I'm supposed to break a 20 every time I come home from an appointment that has her here for 2 hours.) I like the new Marvel franchise a lot, but I would rather wait until it comes out than drop $60+ to see it in theaters (2 1/2 hour movie, 20 minutes each way from home.)
Day 5 of nearly 90* temperatures and a broken AC. I'm dying. God help me. I've been pretty whiny, but surprisingly only had one huge, major, sobbing hysterically meltdown. I feel like crazy pregnant bitch is hiding just below the surface though, and if we don't fix the problem soon, it's not going to be pretty. Super helpful DH doesn't seem to get just how miserable this is for me.
2 more things, I have a doctors apt this afternoon and I can't decide whether to shave the lady bits or not. I can't see the darn thing so I don't wanna shave and then it look like I tried to do cheetah design or something!
Also I'm sure he will ask if I want him to check my cervix, for me I know that it doesn't mean much if I'm dilated but I'm debating whether I should check anyway because maybe it will freak me out a bit if I am and I will maybe act on the nesting...
What should I do?
My doctor wasn't going to check but the pressure i have been having is so intense that she asked me if I wanted her to.. I said yes. it wasn't as painful as so many people have made it out to seem. I have started to cramp a bit but nothing terrible. If it makes you feel better have them check!
Day 5 of nearly 90* temperatures and a broken AC. I'm dying. God help me. I've been pretty whiny, but surprisingly only had one huge, major, sobbing hysterically meltdown. I feel like crazy pregnant bitch is hiding just below the surface though, and if we don't fix the problem soon, it's not going to be pretty. Super helpful DH doesn't seem to get just how miserable this is for me.
Oh hell no I would be raging without ac! I don't know how women did it back in the old days but I can't stand going without when not pregnant. I would not handle that well. Kuddos to you for not snapping already and going five days!! I would be in a hotel until that shit was fixed pronto. In my opinion that is worse then no hot water. You can boil some damn water for a bath ( which I have done before) but no ac. Nope nope nope. That should have been the first thing to be fixed. But I am a big baby about hot weather and hate being hot! I hate summer and being sticky! I hope it gets fixed soon!!!
Kristykristyleelee I am sorry you have to deal with that!! It is your shower and your day! What does she mean if you are just going to relax she isn't coming? What does she expect you to do? I personally would not beg her and try not to let her tantrum bother me. That is easier said then done though. Could you try telling her how she is making you feel? I have no good advice. I hope you can still have a happy shower and a nice day without her trying to ruin it!!
2 more things, I have a doctors apt this afternoon and I can't decide whether to shave the lady bits or not. I can't see the darn thing so I don't wanna shave and then it look like I tried to do cheetah design or something!
Also I'm sure he will ask if I want him to check my cervix, for me I know that it doesn't mean much if I'm dilated but I'm debating whether I should check anyway because maybe it will freak me out a bit if I am and I will maybe act on the nesting...
What should I do?
My doctor wasn't going to check but the pressure i have been having is so intense that she asked me if I wanted her to.. I said yes. it wasn't as painful as so many people have made it out to seem. I have started to cramp a bit but nothing terrible. If it makes you feel better have them check!
When midwives checked, it was painless. A little awkward, but painless. When the OB checked, she just shoved her whole hand up there. AIYAIYAI, woman, WTF are you DOING?!? If it'll ease your mind (regardless of the result), do it.
Kristykristyleelee My mom is very similar, although I'd add "very negative" to the "makes everything about her" description. She whined and complained that no one was RSVPing to the baby shower (we're having a joint one at a winery) and so H and I asked our friends to please RSVP ASAP - and now she's up to 43 and she's like OMG SO MUCH MONEY. You're the one that told us we needed a 50 person minimum, lady!
We're going to dinner with my mentee and her parents later (I mentor a college student) but we might stop and get ice cream first. It's 86 degrees and I'm eight months pregnant; I do what I want.
@kej0004, I've had a fractured rib and it hurt like hell! I also went about 10 days before seeing a doctor. I got a stabbing pain when I moved a certain way and had a moderate throbbing pain the rest of the time. My doctor told me she wished I'd come in earlier. They told me to get as close to bedrest as possible for a week, then no lifting anything for at least another 2 weeks. It was super inconvenient, seeing as how I was a nanny to an 18 month old at the time...It sucks, I'm sorry you're dealing with it!
holliberry28, what is it with mothers going BSC on Mother's Day? I'm so sorry that your mother is acting like a petulant child. If it's any consolation, mine is too. My random (more like a rant!):
So a while ago, I posted that I do nothing on Mother's Day because my mother is really kind of terrible to me all the time. DH has always pushed and pushed me to do something on Mother's Day anyway (he'd never seen her truly awful side before and admitted he sort of thought I was overreacting). So this year, we had to go to her house on the way to the maternity shoot to pick something up, so he convinced me to take over flowers, candy, and a card. To make a looong story relatively short, she just got this dog a couple months ago that is completely out of control. It bites, jumps all over people, growls and snarls at anyone who doesn't live in the house, and is generally menacing. Last time I was over there, I told my mom that the baby isn't coming over with that dog in the house. I'm not an animal person and am truly embarrassingly terrified of dogs, but I'll give people's dogs a chance. This one clearly is not ready to be around people, let alone small children. It's way more than just "puppy stuff". All of the above happened when I got there. My sister was outside so she took the dog in and told my mom that it really seemed like it might attack me and it was safer to just put it away. As we walk into the house, my mom announces that the dog is "having trouble" with new people and she wants to "try to teach it to be calmer" so that the problem doesn't escalate. So I very tentatively walk into the living room and sit down on the couch. The dog immediately starts growling and sniffing around me, so I ask my mom to put it away and work on training it later. She immediately launches into a speech about how unreasonable I am and how I always have to overdramatize things. My sister again told her that it did actually seem like this might be an unsafe situation, and that she was concerned that the dog would hurt me/baby, too. My mom just kept lecturing me about how I can't have my way all the time and I have to be flexible and work with her, because it's really important that she help the dog, and how I'm ever only concerned about my personal feelings. Now crying, I ask her again to put the dog away. My dad comes in and wants to know what's going on; my mom starts telling him how I'm being manipulative and immature and how my feelings about this dog are totally invalid. She says if I'm going to act like that, she's not going to dignify it by "giving in to me". So as my dad stares at her in stupified silence, I finally just get up, tell her I'm not going to stay if she's more concerned about this stupid dog's mental health than her pregnant daughter's physical health, and walk out. About 15 minutes later, after DH freaks out on her, she follows me out to the car and starts give me the following half-ass apology: "I'm sorry that you are letting your fear influence you but being pregnant isn't an excuse for acting like this. You always overreact to things when they don't go your way and I think after the baby is born we need to go to counseling so that you can find a way to have a mature relationship with me. I'll pay for it because you clearly need a 3rd party to help you work through your issues and stop villainizing me in your head." At this point, I cut her off by rolling up the window and locking my door. She literally stands there staring me down for a few minutes before getting the hint, rolling her eyes and walking off.
So my Mother's Day conclusion: FUCK YOU, LADY. I've tried to be SO nice during this pregnancy and make her feel included. This is what I get for trying. She is officially on my list of stressful people and I will no longer be taking her calls, responding to her emails or texts, or spending time with her. We'll do holidays and special occasions only. I don't have time for this stressful, childish nonsense.
I'm making a paper chain tonight, just so I can rip off a chain each day - heck I might make two! One for Mat Leave and one for the Due Date. Not like I expect baby to arrive on his due date, but I need a visual. Six weeks seems so close and SO FAR AWAY at the same time.
mcp6286 Holy shit lady - that's crazy. I'm glad that your DH went off on her - and I'm really sorry it's come this far but good for you for standing up for yourself. That's really hard, especially when it's a family member! I think you handled it quite well.
Thanks bruunk! I have this whole angry-crying thing going on that I just can't stop lately...I cry CONSTANTLY whenever anything makes me mad. It's super annoying! I hope you feel better too...I am also tired of trying to pretend to everyone that I'm a cute happy pregnant lady when I just want to bite their heads off for being morons! Only a couple of weeks to go!
mcp6286. Oh wow!! That is horrible! I can't believe she said all that to you! I am SOS sorry you have to deal with that and I would definitely cut her out too. I probably wouldn't even do holidays and such. I am not a huge animal person or dog fan but it seriously pisses me off when a dog is growling and clearly violent and the owner just stands there like nothing is happening. I have a friend like that. We will be having a conversation and her little dogs are growling and snarling the entire time!
mcp6286 oh I hope so! I don't ever want to do that again. And I just started feeling a little better about an hour ago. So yay! I haven't pooped since then so my butt is finally getting a damn break. That shit was just terrifying!
Oh, that makes sense. Let the dog snarl at and bite people to teach it not to snarl at and bite people. That'll work great. Good grief. Sorry you have to deal with that.
@jemomma I would have ugly cried all day too. That really stinks mrsmonogrammed that's pretty funny! I have a great grandma that always did weird things like that too Kristykristyleelee I totally feel you! My mom isn't a big AW, but we are opposites where she just handles things very differently from me. I'm very laid back as well and am never sure how to handle things because I don't want her to feel validated with her nonsense.
Day 5 of nearly 90* temperatures and a broken AC. I'm dying. God help me. I've been pretty whiny, but surprisingly only had one huge, major, sobbing hysterically meltdown. I feel like crazy pregnant bitch is hiding just below the surface though, and if we don't fix the problem soon, it's not going to be pretty. Super helpful DH doesn't seem to get just how miserable this is for me.
Oh hell no I would be raging without ac! I don't know how women did it back in the old days but I can't stand going without when not pregnant. I would not handle that well. Kuddos to you for not snapping already and going five days!! I would be in a hotel until that shit was fixed pronto. In my opinion that is worse then no hot water. You can boil some damn water for a bath ( which I have done before) but no ac. Nope nope nope. That should have been the first thing to be fixed. But I am a big baby about hot weather and hate being hot! I hate summer and being sticky! I hope it gets fixed soon!!!
So I sent some assertive texts to my husband, and he called on his way home from work and asked for a number for this place we saw that had decent reviews. He called me and said the guy would be at the house in 20 minutes. Thank God.
Guy shows up right when hubby does. He looks at the unit for 5-10 minutes, MAX. Says the refrigerant line has a leak in it somewhere. Could try to fix it for maybe $1K, but something else could bust on it. So DH comes inside and asks what do you want me to put this (charge) on? I said for what. He says the service call. I ask how much and he says $150!!!!! For literally 5-10 minutes!!! Unreal!! So I go from bitching about not caring about the money, to bitching about the service call because I'm in complete shock at that outrageous fee. I guess normal service call is $100, and after hours is another $50.
He gave us some prices for a new unit. Ranges from $3k-$10k, with DH saying the ones he would think about are 5-6K.
I know in the grand scheme, $150 is nothing, but geez!! We certainly aren't getting any more estimates!!!
I had the day from hell today. My AP students had their exam today, so I had to relocate all of my other students for the day so they could do the testing in my classroom. No big deal, except that there were no other spaces in school left to use besides the cafeteria. Way worse is the fact that I walked into my office this morning to find my computer turned off- but it wasn't really turned off, it was fried. Apparently, we had a power surge or something over the weekend because my computer is completely dead. When IT set up my computer, they plugged it directly into the wall (no surge protector) and we aren't supposed to mess with their stuff, so I didnt. Anyway, this computer contained ALL of my teaching documents from the last 6+ years, including my syllabi, AP lesson plans, letters home to parents, my alphabetized music octavo library, my yearly goals and work toward my portfolio, and perhaps most importantly, all of the plans and documents that I've been putting together for MONTHS for my maternity leave sub. We have two weeks left of school, and I am having to redo EVERYTHING. So devastating.
DH and I are at our newborn care class tonight, and I feel like the only thing I am going to be able to think about is the massive pile of work that I'm going to have to start from scratch tomorrow. No tears shed yet- I think I am just in shock. I bet I'll cry about it tomorrow when I really get into it. Positive vibes/prayers/thoughts are much appreciated, ladies.
Post by holliberry28 on May 11, 2015 19:36:59 GMT -5
mcp6286, wow, I can't believe your mom! Seriously what is up with crazy mothers this Mother's Day?! I'm sorry she acted that way but at least DH stood up to her. Ugh. She needs to be a bit more introspective before suggesting you need to go to counseling.
I had the day from hell today. My AP students had their exam today, so I had to relocate all of my other students for the day so they could do the testing in my classroom. No big deal, except that there were no other spaces in school left to use besides the cafeteria. Way worse is the fact that I walked into my office this morning to find my computer turned off- but it wasn't really turned off, it was fried. Apparently, we had a power surge or something over the weekend because my computer is completely dead. When IT set up my computer, they plugged it directly into the wall (no surge protector) and we aren't supposed to mess with their stuff, so I didnt. Anyway, this computer contained ALL of my teaching documents from the last 6+ years, including my syllabi, AP lesson plans, letters home to parents, my alphabetized music octavo library, my yearly goals and work toward my portfolio, and perhaps most importantly, all of the plans and documents that I've been putting together for MONTHS for my maternity leave sub. We have two weeks left of school, and I am having to redo EVERYTHING. So devastating.
DH and I are at our newborn care class tonight, and I feel like the only thing I am going to be able to think about is the massive pile of work that I'm going to have to start from scratch tomorrow. No tears shed yet- I think I am just in shock. I bet I'll cry about it tomorrow when I really get into it. Positive vibes/prayers/thoughts are much appreciated, ladies.
I would just cry. I'll be praying for a miraculous recovery for your computer.
I had the day from hell today. My AP students had their exam today, so I had to relocate all of my other students for the day so they could do the testing in my classroom. No big deal, except that there were no other spaces in school left to use besides the cafeteria. Way worse is the fact that I walked into my office this morning to find my computer turned off- but it wasn't really turned off, it was fried. Apparently, we had a power surge or something over the weekend because my computer is completely dead. When IT set up my computer, they plugged it directly into the wall (no surge protector) and we aren't supposed to mess with their stuff, so I didnt. Anyway, this computer contained ALL of my teaching documents from the last 6+ years, including my syllabi, AP lesson plans, letters home to parents, my alphabetized music octavo library, my yearly goals and work toward my portfolio, and perhaps most importantly, all of the plans and documents that I've been putting together for MONTHS for my maternity leave sub. We have two weeks left of school, and I am having to redo EVERYTHING. So devastating.
DH and I are at our newborn care class tonight, and I feel like the only thing I am going to be able to think about is the massive pile of work that I'm going to have to start from scratch tomorrow. No tears shed yet- I think I am just in shock. I bet I'll cry about it tomorrow when I really get into it. Positive vibes/prayers/thoughts are much appreciated, ladies.
It stressed me out just reading that! I definitely wish you the best and hope things come together quickly for you.
Positive vibes/prayers/thoughts are much appreciated, ladies.
kemdupuis Definitely sending you positive 'data recovery vibes' today, I feel sick for you. Hopefully something/everything! can be retrieved from the shell of the computer.
Post by carolyngrace on May 11, 2015 20:54:18 GMT -5
I am SO over taking care of my DH right now. In my head, I get it. He's working 12 hour days in 90* heat. So I've been asking nothing from him for almost two weeks.
Today he texted me that he ate his (tiny, crappy) lunch he packed by 10am and had a hunger headache all day. So I went and bought a shit ton of groceries, carried them up our many stairs, and prepped food for lunches. There are three different kinds of sandwiches/wraps, cut fruit&veggies, baggies of portioned trail mix, and well you get the picture.
Then I noticed his dishes in the sink. After I did counters full of dishes this weekend and the dishwasher is empty.
I want to fight but I literally was just telling him this weekend that I'm ok taking care of everything for a little bit.
But also, we could have this baby any day! I'm not sure how I'll get by other than leaning on my family and letting go of all expectations...
Post by carolyngrace on May 11, 2015 20:57:04 GMT -5
Oh and also, there are so many difficult things happening with all of you! I don't have the energy to tag everyone but I feel for you! Must be a shitty week.
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