Did anyone's DH not want them to temp/track and just "let it happen"? How did you handle that? Secret temping?
MH knows I do it, but as far as actual temping, he doesn't notice. He's still asleep when I take my temp. And I don't give him a daily update on what my temps are. So to him, it's wait and see what happens, but for me, I have some idea what's going on and will clue him in when necessary.
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mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
I was curious too... just to see how everything worked. We were TTA for a few months post BC, but I viewed temping as a science experiment on myself. I sadly knew very little about cycles in general, so it helped! After over a decade on BC, it was neat to see.
mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
Nothing about temping makes it forced or not fun. All it does is confirm if and when you ovulated.
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Post by notthedroids on May 13, 2015 13:47:32 GMT -5
Okay I'll bite. I had my annual yesterday. My obgyn is testing my thyroid and I am going back on CD21 to do a progesterone test. We're on cycle 8 now. I have another appt on July 10 to discuss other options. I know it's still a bit early, but at what point do I consider looking into an RE? I love my doctor so it's not like I want to leave her. Also, is there anything I should be prepared to ask in July?
mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
Nothing about temping makes it forced or not fun. All it does is confirm if and when you ovulated.
MH is so used to it by now that the beep is almost like the signal that i'm good to go. lol.
Okay I'll bite. I had my annual yesterday. My obgyn is testing my thyroid and I am going back on CD21 to do a progesterone test. We're on cycle 8 now. I have another appt on July 10 to discuss other options. I know it's still a bit early, but at what point do I consider looking into an RE? I love my doctor so it's not like I want to leave her. Also, is there anything I should be prepared to ask in July?
I'll let the ladies with thyroid issues/experience with an RE address that, but I do know that your progesterone should be tested at 7DPO, which for you may or may not be CD21.
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Did anyone's DH not want them to temp/track and just "let it happen"? How did you handle that? Secret temping?
DH was fine with it the first cycle of TTC but when we still weren't pregnant after the second cycle, he suggested I should stop temping and just relax because he was worried it was making me stress out about it too much and that's why things weren't happening. I majorly eye rolled at him and told him I'd be more stressed about why things weren't happening if I wasn't able to track my body's workings with temping because I'd wouldn't get an accurate time for sexing during my fertile window. So, no secret temping, here. I told him I discuss things with him because I want to talk about it with someone around me but we're keeping quiet about TTC right now and my options are limited. I think that's why he was concerned; because I was bringing it up all the time more than because temping was getting in the way of anything.
mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
H asked if it was really necessary and I said I wanted to help confirm ovulation. I just went ahead and started temping every morning. I wish I had started months before I actually did.
Anecdote: As far as fun, I thought it was more stressful thinking, "Did I ovulate? Did I not ovulate?" But that's me.
Did anyone's DH not want them to temp/track and just "let it happen"? How did you handle that? Secret temping?
Yep, and I said "Well I'm going to temp. Might use OPKs too." And that was that.
Last month, MH confused OPKs with HPTs. When I told him I had multiple + OPKs he was like, "Holy Crap, you've had multiple + tests and haven't said anything to me yet. ......Wait a minute, I thought you just had your period two weeks ago...... Now I'm confused."
He tries to understand, but somethings get lost in translation.
mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
H asked if it was really necessary and I said I wanted to help confirm ovulation. I just went ahead and started temping every morning. I wish I had started months before I actually did.
Anecdote: As far as fun, I thought it was more stressful thinking, "Did I ovulate? Did I not ovulate?" But that's me.
This. I took a month off of temping because I thought maybe it was stressing me out. I was more stressed not temping. I felt like I had no idea what my body was doing. I love my thermometer now.
Yep, and I said "Well I'm going to temp. Might use OPKs too." And that was that.
Last month, MH confused OPKs with HPTs. When I told him I had multiple + OPKs was positive he was like, "Holy Crap, you've had multiple tests and haven't said anything to me yet. ......Wait a minute, I thought you just had your period two weeks ago...... Now I'm confused."
He tries to understand, but somethings get lost in translation.
Last month, MH confused OPKs with HPTs. When I told him I had multiple + OPKs was positive he was like, "Holy Crap, you've had multiple tests and haven't said anything to me yet. ......Wait a minute, I thought you just had your period two weeks ago...... Now I'm confused."
He tries to understand, but somethings get lost in translation.
Did anyone's DH not want them to temp/track and just "let it happen"? How did you handle that? Secret temping?
My DH felt this way on our first cycle. I respected his opinion and agreed to not track anything for the first cycle and then re-evaluate. After the first cycle, I had learned a lot about how important timing is and I explained to him why I felt it would really help give us the best chance. He agreed to it, but was still weird about it. He really didn't like it at first, but he now thinks it is great and asks about how the cycle is going (we are on cycle #6). I think it just took time because he knew nothing about temping/tracking.
Okay I'll bite. I had my annual yesterday. My obgyn is testing my thyroid and I am going back on CD21 to do a progesterone test. We're on cycle 8 now. I have another appt on July 10 to discuss other options. I know it's still a bit early, but at what point do I consider looking into an RE? I love my doctor so it's not like I want to leave her. Also, is there anything I should be prepared to ask in July?
You consider seeing an RE at one year (six months if you're over 35).
mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
H asked if it was really necessary and I said I wanted to help confirm ovulation. I just went ahead and started temping every morning. I wish I had started months before I actually did.
Anecdote: As far as fun, I thought it was more stressful thinking, "Did I ovulate? Did I not ovulate?" But that's me.
So much this. My cycles went from 28 days to 30+ days when I got off hormonal birth control so I spent many months thinking my period was "late". We are currently TTA so I am just temping for myself to get to know my cycles better. I didn't mention it to DH. I just bought TCOYF and started temping on FF.
Post by TheEleventhHour on May 13, 2015 14:15:24 GMT -5
I have one - does anyone notice PMS like symptoms around O? Basically I start feeling awful/BSC a couple days before ovulation AND a few days before AF. I have noticed that ever since I stopped hormonal BC I have been having PMS type stuff twice a month/cycle but once I started temping I was realizing it was happening close to my O date.
I have one - does anyone notice PMS like symptoms around O? Basically I start feeling awful/BSC a couple days before ovulation AND a few days before AF. I have noticed that ever since I stopped hormonal BC I have been having PMS type stuff twice a month/cycle but once I started temping I was realizing it was happening close to my O date.
I personally have not, however you are not the first person I've heard say they feel this way around ovulation.
I have one - does anyone notice PMS like symptoms around O? Basically I start feeling awful/BSC a couple days before ovulation AND a few days before AF. I have noticed that ever since I stopped hormonal BC I have been having PMS type stuff twice a month/cycle but once I started temping I was realizing it was happening close to my O date.
Yes! I have making notes on my chart. According to my notes it happens right before ovulation as well as AF.
mrsjene- he would just like it to be fun and not forced for the first few months, and then start to be more technical if/when necessary, which I guess I can get on board with! I am just curious after years of medicated cycles what my body will do.
Nothing about temping makes it forced or not fun. All it does is confirm if and when you ovulated.
This exactly. By the time you've confirmed ovulation (usually about 3 days after you O and can see a sustained temp rise) your FW is over anyways. Now, some people find OPKs place pressure (because those tell you, "Hey, go have sex right now!" whereas temping says, "Hey, hope you had sex last week - now you know when your period should show up or you should take a test"), so maybe you don't want to jump right in with those, but I find that temping makes the whole thing less stressful and, in turn, more fun. Otherwise you may not ovulate when you think you might (you know, on magic day 14 if you are just guessing off of statistical averages) and then you will spend the end of your cycle WAY overthinking things.
Okay I'll bite. I had my annual yesterday. My obgyn is testing my thyroid and I am going back on CD21 to do a progesterone test. We're on cycle 8 now. I have another appt on July 10 to discuss other options. I know it's still a bit early, but at what point do I consider looking into an RE? I love my doctor so it's not like I want to leave her. Also, is there anything I should be prepared to ask in July?
At 9 months TTC i had my doc check my thyroid because I have a pretty long family history of it. My TSH came back at 3.4, which is well within normal range for a Thyroid. When we did hit the 1 year mark, my RE put me on Synthroid because she said they like to see it around 2 for fertility treatments. I guess what I'm saying is, depending on your results, your doc may not see a reason to adjust your thyroid level so do be prepared for that possibility.
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Thanks for starting! MH is also in the "wait and see camp" (even though he is completely excited and impatient which seems a bit contradictory). Since we're just starting out, I'm going along with it and not temping (yet). If necessary, I'll start temping in a month or two. However, I did think I would try OPKs this month to increase our odds. Is that a good idea or just a waste of money? I know (from you knowledgeable ladies) that it won't tell me if I O'd but I figure it will at least tell me when I'm going to, right?
Thanks for starting! MH is also in the "wait and see camp" (even though he is completely excited and impatient which seems a bit contradictory). Since we're just starting out, I'm going along with it and not temping (yet). If necessary, I'll start temping in a month or two. However, I did think I would try OPKs this month to increase our odds. Is that a good idea or just a waste of money? I know (from you knowledgeable ladies) that it won't tell me if I O'd but I figure it will at least tell me when I'm going to, right?
If you buy Wondfos from Amazon, not a waste at all. They are cheap and easy to use. I find them useful because I've ovulated anywhere from CD16 to CD26, and I also have a low lobido. So it really helps to make sure I hit at least a few days.
Did anyone's DH not want them to temp/track and just "let it happen"? How did you handle that? Secret temping?
My H has been so weird about this whole process. We talked for a while about having a 2nd and I finally went off BC in November. 7 cycles later he is still feeling "rushed" even though I never even say a word to him. The only thing I tell him is this is your week. This cycle I didn't even tell him that and he still felt that way. He is very much in the "if it happens, it happens" camp.
Thanks for starting! MH is also in the "wait and see camp" (even though he is completely excited and impatient which seems a bit contradictory). Since we're just starting out, I'm going along with it and not temping (yet). If necessary, I'll start temping in a month or two. However, I did think I would try OPKs this month to increase our odds. Is that a good idea or just a waste of money? I know (from you knowledgeable ladies) that it won't tell me if I O'd but I figure it will at least tell me when I'm going to, right?
I think expensive ovulation monitors that are available in drug stores are the biggest waste of money ever.
But, I think cheap OPK strips that let you test as much as you want, whenever you want and are just two line tests (like Wondfo) are fine if you want to see an LH surge.
Thanks for starting! MH is also in the "wait and see camp" (even though he is completely excited and impatient which seems a bit contradictory). Since we're just starting out, I'm going along with it and not temping (yet). If necessary, I'll start temping in a month or two. However, I did think I would try OPKs this month to increase our odds. Is that a good idea or just a waste of money? I know (from you knowledgeable ladies) that it won't tell me if I O'd but I figure it will at least tell me when I'm going to, right?
Not a waste of money if you are trying to time sex in your FW, but bear in mind that they tell you that you are having an LH surge, which may or may not lead to O. And some people O without ever having a true positive OPK. In my head, I think of it like the old game Guess Who - knowing that the person has a mustache will narrow down your options, but it's not enough to tell you it's Max.
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