Now that the weather is getting hotter and muggier, sometimes I feel like my body wash doesn't quite do the job so I use MH's. I may smell a little masculine, but at least I feel so fresh and so clean.
H always gets lazy about telling me when he's out of stuff and uses all my products.
FFFC - Currently, my cycle is such that it would give me a due date at the end of the month. I love that, because it gives me plenty of time to lurk my potential BMB and see if I want to be an active participant or not. Some months, it makes CD1 easier to bear.
Just curious, but why wouldn't you want to actively participate on a BMB?
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FFFC - Currently, my cycle is such that it would give me a due date at the end of the month. I love that, because it gives me plenty of time to lurk my potential BMB and see if I want to be an active participant or not. Some months, it makes CD1 easier to bear.
I really can't decide how to interpret and feel about this.
I would take any BMB to be pregnant and I wouldn't care who was in it.
FFFC - Currently, my cycle is such that it would give me a due date at the end of the month. I love that, because it gives me plenty of time to lurk my potential BMB and see if I want to be an active participant or not. Some months, it makes CD1 easier to bear.
I really can't decide how to interpret and feel about this.
Each board has it's own personality. Each member fits better with some boards than others. I like being able to see the personality of the board before becoming a member of it. (BMBs are different than the general boards, because they don't exist until people start getting pregnant for that month. So they're a little different. There's no existing culture to observe. So, if I were at the beginning of the month, I'd feel some anxiety not knowing the culture of the board yet.)
We listed our house on Wednesday and are already contracted to buy another one. At first only a select few people even knew about it. DH told his parents the night we listed the house. People will obviously find out about it sooner or later.
Confession: I don't plan on telling my dad or my sister, they can find out on their own from other people for all I care. My sister and I currently have a very strained relationship for quite a few reasons and she lives a few hours away, so whatever. Right now though we are living thirty minutes from my dad and when we move it will only be 15... I would really like him to not know for a while because I don't want him thinking he can stop by all the time.
I really can't decide how to interpret and feel about this.
Each board has it's own personality. Each member fits better with some boards than others. I like being able to see the personality of the board before becoming a member of it. (BMBs are different than the general boards, because they don't exist until people start getting pregnant for that month. So they're a little different. There's no existing culture to observe. So, if I were at the beginning of the month, I'd feel some anxiety not knowing the culture of the board yet.)
But if you're at the beginning of the month, YOU get to help shape the culture from the get go...
I really can't decide how to interpret and feel about this.
Each board has it's own personality. Each member fits better with some boards than others. I like being able to see the personality of the board before becoming a member of it. (BMBs are different than the general boards, because they don't exist until people start getting pregnant for that month. So they're a little different. There's no existing culture to observe. So, if I were at the beginning of the month, I'd feel some anxiety not knowing the culture of the board yet.)
I'd gladly be one of the first ones on a BMB. I like it here but GDI I want to be pregnant like yesterday!
Now that the weather is getting hotter and muggier, sometimes I feel like my body wash doesn't quite do the job so I use MH's. I may smell a little masculine, but at least I feel so fresh and so clean.
I use mens' deodorant year-round because for a while it seemed to be the only way to guarantee no white marks on clothing. For all I know there could be womens' deodorant out there now that's actually clear too, but I just stick with the mens' rather than buy new womens' ones to try out.
Just lurking..... mlgnumbers, so if you don't like what is going on in a board, you would rather not be pregnant??
Edit: If that is how you feel, trust me, the feeling is mutual.
I wasn't thinking of it in terms of Be Pregnant and in a BMB v. Not Be Pregnant.
I was thinking of it more in terms of Be Pregnant in a BMB v. Be Pregnant *not* in a BMB.
Clearly, I would rather be pregnant in a BMB, out of a BMB, or on a remote island with no access to internet.
However, sometimes I can tell that I wouldn't fit well in a BMB, and, if I got pregnant, I wouldn't fit very well here, either. And, to be honest? I really like being a part of the TCF community. The thought of getting pregnant and losing a piece of my community is a little sad for me. So, on CD1, I always know that I can stay here on GKU, and, yes, that brings some form of comfort on a generally depressing day.
It's kind of ridiculous if you'd rather not be pregnant than on a BMB with someone. I mean, FFS.
If the people on a BMB are the only reason your ok with not being pregnant, then you have some fucking problems.
I think her subsequent explanation made it a little more clear. But at first I was like "that's fucking weird. I'll take getting pregnant any way I can get it!"
Now that the weather is getting hotter and muggier, sometimes I feel like my body wash doesn't quite do the job so I use MH's. I may smell a little masculine, but at least I feel so fresh and so clean.
I use mens' deodorant year-round because for a while it seemed to be the only way to guarantee no white marks on clothing. For all I know there could be womens' deodorant out there now that's actually clear too, but I just stick with the mens' rather than buy new womens' ones to try out.
There is something to be said about men's deodorant. MH doesn't wear cologne, but he always smells so good. He could mow the lawn in 80% humidy and still smell good. He credits his Gilette Cool Wave. I never feel like I smell as good by the end of the day with Degree. You may be on to something.
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FFFC - Currently, my cycle is such that it would give me a due date at the end of the month. I love that, because it gives me plenty of time to lurk my potential BMB and see if I want to be an active participant or not. Some months, it makes CD1 easier to bear.
Just curious, but why wouldn't you want to actively participate on a BMB?
It would help to know that I have a pretty low self-esteem, and I know that I irritate some people on TCF. I don't mean to, but I do. There have been a couple of BMBs that, by the end of the month, I realized I probably wouldn't have fit very well in. I think a BMB should be a pretty happy place. It's one of the happiest times in our lives. I hate the thought of having a negative effect on someone else's experience. (And there are certain members that I'm sure would groan if I became part of their BMB. I hate that.) So, when I end up not being in those BMBs, I feel relieved in a sense.
Each board has it's own personality. Each member fits better with some boards than others. I like being able to see the personality of the board before becoming a member of it. (BMBs are different than the general boards, because they don't exist until people start getting pregnant for that month. So they're a little different. There's no existing culture to observe. So, if I were at the beginning of the month, I'd feel some anxiety not knowing the culture of the board yet.)
But...that's exactly it. There is no culture yet. You and the other members create the culture. What's so anxiety inducing about that?
My anxiety stems from the fact that I feel like I would screw it up.
Each board has it's own personality. Each member fits better with some boards than others. I like being able to see the personality of the board before becoming a member of it. (BMBs are different than the general boards, because they don't exist until people start getting pregnant for that month. So they're a little different. There's no existing culture to observe. So, if I were at the beginning of the month, I'd feel some anxiety not knowing the culture of the board yet.)
I'd gladly be one of the first ones on a BMB. I like it here but GDI I want to be pregnant like yesterday!
Post by TheEleventhHour on May 15, 2015 9:17:50 GMT -5
nuggetrn No one in my family knows about the house being on except my mom (because she lives with us so obviously). I refuse to tell my dad because when we bought it he said we were being "stupid" because we were overpaying (we didn't) and we would be "house poor" (we're not). I am not really interested in his opinions!
Just curious, but why wouldn't you want to actively participate on a BMB?
It would help to know that I have a pretty low self-esteem, and I know that I irritate some people on TCF. I don't mean to, but I do. There have been a couple of BMBs that, by the end of the month, I realized I probably wouldn't have fit very well in. I think a BMB should be a pretty happy place. It's one of the happiest times in our lives. I hate the thought of having a negative effect on someone else's experience. (And there are certain members that I'm sure would groan if I became part of their BMB. I hate that.) So, when I end up not being in those BMBs, I feel relieved in a sense.
You must think pretty highly of yourself to think you being on a BMB with someone would ruin their pregnancy experience.
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Just curious, but why wouldn't you want to actively participate on a BMB?
It would help to know that I have a pretty low self-esteem, and I know that I irritate some people on TCF. I don't mean to, but I do. There have been a couple of BMBs that, by the end of the month, I realized I probably wouldn't have fit very well in. I think a BMB should be a pretty happy place. It's one of the happiest times in our lives. I hate the thought of having a negative effect on someone else's experience. (And there are certain members that I'm sure would groan if I became part of their BMB. I hate that.) So, when I end up not being in those BMBs, I feel relieved in a sense.
Yes, but excessive squeeing is annoying. Real talk is much more....real. I'd rather have that then someone blowing glitter up my ass all day.
Just curious, but why wouldn't you want to actively participate on a BMB?
It would help to know that I have a pretty low self-esteem, and I know that I irritate some people on TCF. I don't mean to, but I do. There have been a couple of BMBs that, by the end of the month, I realized I probably wouldn't have fit very well in. I think a BMB should be a pretty happy place. It's one of the happiest times in our lives. I hate the thought of having a negative effect on someone else's experience. (And there are certain members that I'm sure would groan if I became part of their BMB. I hate that.) So, when I end up not being in those BMBs, I feel relieved in a sense.
Each board has it's own personality. Each member fits better with some boards than others. I like being able to see the personality of the board before becoming a member of it. (BMBs are different than the general boards, because they don't exist until people start getting pregnant for that month. So they're a little different. There's no existing culture to observe. So, if I were at the beginning of the month, I'd feel some anxiety not knowing the culture of the board yet.)
But...that's exactly it. There is no culture yet. You and the other members create the culture. What's so anxiety inducing about that?
And also, most of the time the culture changes in the first few months anyway - new people come in, some people go GBCTCF, it's always evolving. It's for sure not going to be the same at the end of month 1 as it will be 8-9 months in.
But...that's exactly it. There is no culture yet. You and the other members create the culture. What's so anxiety inducing about that?
My anxiety stems from the fact that I feel like I would screw it up.
If your internet activity causes IRL anxiety you should probably not be involved in the Internet activity. Why would you want to be involved in a place you feel you don't fit in, to the point it causes you real life anxiety? You know you have a choice not to be here right?
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nuggetrn No one in my family knows about the house being on except my mom (because she lives with us so obviously). I refuse to tell my dad because when we bought it he said we were being "stupid" because we were overpaying (we didn't) and we would be "house poor" (we're not). I am not really interested in his opinions!
I could have done without telling DH's dad and stepmom as well but knew his dad would be angry and rude to DH if he found out any later than they did.
They complain all the time about how "far" away from them we are and weren't really even excited when we told them we were moving back to our hometown. The only time we really got a reaction from them was when DH mentioned the square footage of the house... "That's bigger than ours!!" ::offended::
Well yea, there are two of you and two of us.... but we already told you that we are moving my elderly grandmother into our home and you do want us to have kids one day, right?
Just curious, but why wouldn't you want to actively participate on a BMB?
It would help to know that I have a pretty low self-esteem, and I know that I irritate some people on TCF. I don't mean to, but I do. There have been a couple of BMBs that, by the end of the month, I realized I probably wouldn't have fit very well in. I think a BMB should be a pretty happy place. It's one of the happiest times in our lives. I hate the thought of having a negative effect on someone else's experience. (And there are certain members that I'm sure would groan if I became part of their BMB. I hate that.) So, when I end up not being in those BMBs, I feel relieved in a sense.
My anxiety stems from the fact that I feel like I would screw it up.
If your internet activity causes IRL anxiety you should probably not be involved in the Internet activity. Why would you want to be involved in a place you feel you don't fit in, to the point it causes you real life anxiety? You know you have a choice not to be here right?
Yep. I know I have a choice. More times than not, however, this places brings far more laughter than anxiety into my life. So, I choose to stay. There may be a point at which that balance shifts. If so, I'll probably make a different choice.
If your internet activity causes IRL anxiety you should probably not be involved in the Internet activity. Why would you want to be involved in a place you feel you don't fit in, to the point it causes you real life anxiety? You know you have a choice not to be here right?
Yep. I know I have a choice. More times than not, however, this places brings far more laughter than anxiety into my life. So, I choose to stay. There may be a point at which that balance shifts. If so, I'll probably make a different choice.
I actually, ALMOST, kind of get what you're saying. I do not agree, but I almost get it. That being said. You have offended people - yet again. Stop trying to explain yourself. You're making it worse. Just stop.
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