I guess my confession is that I don't think you need to have a relationship with him just because he is biologically related to you. Some people are toxic and don't deserve to be in your life.
This exactly. As soon as I was of age I had my biological father sign his rights over and I haven't spoke to him since. That was about 10 years ago. I don't regret it in the least bit. He only wanted to be a dad to me when it was convenient for him. He loved his step kids more than me. There was MANY MANY nights I cried myself to sleep because he never came and got me when he was supposed to. And never gave me an explanation as to why he didn't show up when he should have.
If the relationship is toxic, and you see it going nowhere but worse. Leave it in your past. It's so not healthy for you to force some kind of relationship just because they're blood.
Yeah, sometimes fathers are overrated. I left home when I was 17 because of how he treated me and have only spoken to mine a handful of times since then (1997). I do want to speak with him again but only to get stuff off my chest not because I miss him.
I even have a song that I sing when I am cutting someone out my life. Blood or not, I will cut toxicity out my life.
FFFC? I may be too good at cutting people out of my life. One of my bridesmaids sent me a text (intended for someone else), bitching about me when I asked if she was going to make it to my wedding that was in 19 days. Because it is so selfish of me to want to pay for her hair and makeup and spot on the party bus. I haven't talked to her since, and deleted her and everyone that has the smallest connection to her on FB.
You expected a bridesmaid to RSVP to your wedding? Isn't it just a given she'll be there? I think the whole "delete her & everyone she knows" is really childish. So she bitched about you behind your back. You confront it, deal with it & move on.
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My cousin invited me to his birthday party tonight but I told him I already had plans. My plans are actually tomorrow. We're gonna be grilling up some steaks and probably staying in tonight. I just don't feel like being out two nights in a row andplusalso he's having the party at a hotel. I thought that was something you do when you're a teenager, not in your mid-20s. If it was just at a bar like normal, I probably would have stopped by for a drink.
You have every right to RSVP "no" to things and not provide an explanation. I do it all the time.
And yeah - I probably wouldn't go to a party in a hotel room. Now, if they had rented out the penthouse or something maybe I would reconsider. haha.
*I have no intention of skin suiting anyone here. I have plenty in my closet already..... Just in case anyone was wondering.
Related FFFC: I love true crime/forensics/etc so much, I regularly fall asleep to Investigation Discovery. Kinda disturbed MH when we met, but he's gotten used to it.
This exactly. As soon as I was of age I had my biological father sign his rights over and I haven't spoke to him since. That was about 10 years ago. I don't regret it in the least bit. He only wanted to be a dad to me when it was convenient for him. He loved his step kids more than me. There was MANY MANY nights I cried myself to sleep because he never came and got me when he was supposed to. And never gave me an explanation as to why he didn't show up when he should have.
If the relationship is toxic, and you see it going nowhere but worse. Leave it in your past. It's so not healthy for you to force some kind of relationship just because they're blood.
Yeah, sometimes fathers are overrated. I left home when I was 17 because of how he treated me and have only spoken to mine a handful of times since then (1997). I do want to speak with him again but only to get stuff off my chest not because I miss him.
This could not be more true about me. I want to tell him how sorry of a bastard he is (he's just dropped 3 other daughters just like he did me) and that my life is fucking awesome no thanks to him. But I would get way too emotional and ragey if I even thought that I was going to have to talk to him, so I'll probably never get that chance.
*I have no intention of skin suiting anyone here. I have plenty in my closet already..... Just in case anyone was wondering.
Related FFFC: I love true crime/forensics/etc so much, I regularly fall asleep to Investigation Discovery. Kinda disturbed MH when we met, but he's gotten used to it.
I love all of those types of shows. My favorite is Criminal Minds, I know those aren't based on true crimes (or at least I don't think they are) but I still love watching. Andplusalso, getting to stare at this for hours on end is a big plus
Since I've been feeling better, all the work to maintain the house and such has fallen to me. I've been working it seems non-stop to put everything back together since I came "online" again.
My husband deserves the break but I simply don't have enough hours in the day to do everything that needs to get done. I totally lied to him about not being able to get a job for a day so I could stay home and clean, do laundry, file paperwork, fill out job applications, and look into career workshops and stuff. I feel bad about lying, but I needed that day more than words can really describe. I worked myself so raw that I wound up falling asleep on the couch at 8:30...though in all fairness I was up at 5 to get a jump on the day.
My cousin invited me to his birthday party tonight but I told him I already had plans. My plans are actually tomorrow. We're gonna be grilling up some steaks and probably staying in tonight. I just don't feel like being out two nights in a row andplusalso he's having the party at a hotel. I thought that was something you do when you're a teenager, not in your mid-20s. If it was just at a bar like normal, I probably would have stopped by for a drink.
You have every right to RSVP "no" to things and not provide an explanation. I do it all the time.
And yeah - I probably wouldn't go to a party in a hotel room. Now, if they had rented out the penthouse or something maybe I would reconsider. haha.
Penthouse would be totally different but this is at a Marriott.
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You expected a bridesmaid to RSVP to your wedding? Isn't it just a given she'll be there? I think the whole "delete her & everyone she knows" is really childish. So she bitched about you behind your back. You confront it, deal with it & move on.
Am I just not understanding this story??
I try not to punish someone else for other peoples actions. So, the bolded puzzled me.
icaughtfire, She agreed (to participate and be there) when I initially asked her to be a part of the bridal party, but then back pedaled. So I was still in the dark if she would be able to make it or not. I deleted her family members and people who were her friends before we met. I don't think that I should need to be friends with someone on FB if I have no intention of being friends w/ them IRL. I feel there is a huge difference between bitching about someone behind their back and telling lies about them being a crappy friend. I will fully admit to bitching to MH about my friend who I am the MOH for, because she is crazy right now planning her wedding. I would however, NEVER tell people she is being a crap friend, because outside of the wedding planning, she is the best person. I don't think it is childish to not want people who you aren't connected with to not be privy to your life however trivial it may be on FB and IG.
@pineappleoranges, I'm not sure I understand how not being FB friends would be a punishment? I don't think I'm really all that great online that them no longer seeing an obscene amount of pictures of my dog and cupcakes I bake on their newsfeed would be a punishment. If I had invited them to my wedding, and then told them not to come maybe? But, they were not people that I would see or converse with outside of being with said friend.
FFFC: I'm sick of people I know (most of them in their 30's) bitching about "this generation" and "kids these days blah blah blah".
A. When did you become an 80 year man old waving a stick saying "get off my lawn!"
B. Every generation is criticized by the one before it. The generation after us will always have more than we do. Get over it. Cultures change and traditions change. Your childhood wasn’t special because you didn’t have an iPhone.
I'll be as crotchety and cantankerous as I want to be - these dangnab neighbor teenager boys next door play basketball until 11:00 at night. That's two solid hours after my normal bedtime. Almost every night. The way the sound of a dribbling basketball travels is extraordinary.
I can see this both ways, madamewaffles and singingsea, but I thought you'd both get a kick out of this awesomeness:
Post by ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ on May 15, 2015 12:56:31 GMT -5
When I was little, my older brother trickily told me that I couldn't hold in my sneezes or I would kill brain cells. Even though I found out fairly quickly from tattling that that is not the case, I still sneeze somewhat loudly (in my arm now, though) because of the habit I formed then!
FFFC: I don't wash out anything I put in the recycling bin. Ever.
Sometimes I throw things that could be recycled away in the garbage because I'm too lazy to walk to the recycling bin in the garage. I'm a monster.
DH throws random garbage in the recycling bins in the garage... because he is too lazy to throw them in the trashcan that is also in the garage? I don't know, it makes no sense.
FFFC: I told on a coworker who asked me to do something illegal and against company policy because I am not going to jail for anyone. I told her I didn't tell anyone when she asked.
Okay, now I really want to know what she asked you to do.
I try not to punish someone else for other peoples actions. So, the bolded puzzled me.
icaughtfire, She agreed (to participate and be there) when I initially asked her to be a part of the bridal party, but then back pedaled. So I was still in the dark if she would be able to make it or not. I deleted her family members and people who were her friends before we met. I don't think that I should need to be friends with someone on FB if I have no intention of being friends w/ them IRL. I feel there is a huge difference between bitching about someone behind their back and telling lies about them being a crappy friend. I will fully admit to bitching to MH about my friend who I am the MOH for, because she is crazy right now planning her wedding. I would however, NEVER tell people she is being a crap friend, because outside of the wedding planning, she is the best person. I don't think it is childish to not want people who you aren't connected with to not be privy to your life however trivial it may be on FB and IG.
@pineappleoranges, I'm not sure I understand how not being FB friends would be a punishment? I don't think I'm really all that great online that them no longer seeing an obscene amount of pictures of my dog and cupcakes I bake on their newsfeed would be a punishment. If I had invited them to my wedding, and then told them not to come maybe? But, they were not people that I would see or converse with outside of being with said friend.
It's Friday so my brain isn't all there, but I am so confused by this. I'm not even sure what I'm confused about. Were you already friends IRL? Did you have a conversation with her about why she said what she said or why she didn't want to be a part of the wedding anymore? Am I missing something?
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