Thursday Random / Bitch

[Widget123]

Because it isn't Tuesday any more...

DD just started the toddler room at daycare this week and so far it seems like it is more of an adjustment for DH and I than it is for her.  She has at least 3-4 different teachers throughout the day and I would estimate there are about 12-15 kids ages 18 months to 3 years in her room.  They are just so much more detached from us parents than what I am used to.  DH used to hang out in the room with DD and play with her and some of her friends for like 15 minutes or so every morning before he would leave, but these teachers want DH out of the room immediately and will kick him out if he doesn't leave.  When I go pick DD up it is like pulling teeth trying to get information out of them about how her day went, other than "good".  I realize they are busy and have a lot of kids to take care of but it seems like they just consider DD as part of a group rather than as an individual.  Like we keep telling them that DD loves baby dolls but they don't get one out for her to play with... Working moms who had/have toddlers is this the norm?  Are we babying DD too much?

[schnurette]

I would say no. We take DD to a home daycare provider and she always tells us how DDs day went and I suspect she knows more about what DD likes than I do. Of course she only has 5 kids to keep track of but still.

My random for the day is that my DD was checking out her 'boobies' this morning and then

DD 'You have boobies too.'
Me 'Yep.'
DD 'I have little boobies.'
Me 'Yep just little boobies.'
DD 'You have BIG boobies.'
Me '...uh...yeah...thanks?...'
DD 'Lets go watch Ninja Turtles.'
Me 'Good idea.'

[threearrows]

My random is this: Fucking Heartburn. What the hell is this shit?! I've never had it before in my life and I'm so annoyed by how awful this feels.

[MisDawnD]

1-I am such a procrastinator that I am scared that as a FTM June is going to be here before I know it and I'm not going to be ready. I read alot and have learned so much from this group but I feel like I haven't actually "done" anything.

2- I have a 30 minute drive to work in the mornings. OJ seems to always make little man kick so I always buy one for the ride. When he kicks it makes me have the silliest grin and I bet other people driving beside me wonder what I'm smiling at.

[dmoney]

I dont think you are over reacting at all. I would check to see what the state laws are in regards to ratios for children in the room. Ever age has a different ratio that is allowed by state. Ive picked my nephew up from daycare before he is 2 years old, and they ALWAYS tell us how his day was, how many times he needed a diaper change, how much he slept, how much he ate, if there were any issues. They send out a sheet every day as well that goes into even more detail then that! I would start asking questions and if they dont want to give you answers maybe look for a new day care. We are sending this LO to the same place where my nephew goes, and they told us if we ever want to pop in for 30 minutes to just come see the baby we could, if my parents or DH's parents want to stop in as long as they are on the approved list, they can come stop in for an hour and sit with the baby during the day. Best of luck to you!

[jbartsy]

threearrows you're incredibly lucky that you've never had it before... I'm in the same boat. I think baby girl is actually a dragon.

My bitchfest: I hate Michigan winters. I hate snow and I hate my 40-mile-each-way commute to work in the snow. I hate traffic, especially on days that it's not snowing but people act like it is. Work sucks. (I know. And my husband didn't leave me roses by the stairs.)

[sammi2884]

Widget123 I don't think that you are overreacting or babying her either. When my DD was in daycare I was told how her day went, what she ate, how she played, how her nap was.

I also feel like this baby may actually be a dragon with all of the heartburn I have had, daily. I didn't get heartburn like this with my DD until I was around 37 weeks.

My bitchfest is that I am feeling really overwhelmed right now with working full time, trying to take a university course, juggling my DDs extracurricular activities and trying to pack up my place to move by March. I don't know how I am going to get everything done in time. On top of this I am so exhausted lately I can barely get out of bed let alone find the energy to do what needs to be done. Coming to work today was definitely a struggle

[teenybird]

My snoogle pillow was a massive fail. I still woke up this morning on my back, dizzy and with my ass cheeks asleep. I quit

Also I've had to ask DH three times this week already to call his union about childcare vouchers (DH is a student so we get a little help to pay for care once bub starts). I am panicked about getting on waiting lists and can't even start until his butt gets me the list of approved providers. Why is it so damn hard to make a five minute phone call?!

[Stormy61]

Jan 22, 2015 9:02:20 GMT -5 jbartsy said:

threearrows you're incredibly lucky that you've never had it before... I'm in the same boat. I think baby girl is actually a dragon.

My bitchfest: I hate Michigan winters. I hate snow and I hate my 40-mile-each-way commute to work in the snow. I hate traffic, especially on days that it's not snowing but people act like it is. Work sucks. (I know. And my husband didn't leave me roses by the stairs.)

Were there supposed to be roses?

[Stormy61]

Jan 22, 2015 9:16:35 GMT -5 teenybird said:

My snoogle pillow was a massive fail. I still woke up this morning on my back, dizzy and with my ass cheeks asleep. I quit

Also I've had to ask DH three times this week already to call his union about childcare vouchers (DH is a student so we get a little help to pay for care once bub starts). I am panicked about getting on waiting lists and can't even start until his butt gets me the list of approved providers. Why is it so damn hard to make a five minute phone call?!

I got the Leachco pillow. It's HUGE but I've been sleeping so much better.

[mrskblack11]

My pitbull was attacked by a medium terrier dog last night on our walk.

My DH and I were walking out pitbull and chihuahua. Suddenly, this dog bolts out of its garage, barking viciously. It went straight for my pit. The dog was biting and scratching my pitbull's face. It all happened so quickly, I barely had time to pick up our chihuahua. Thankfully my DH reacted quickly. Our pit was able to grab the other dog by the neck (not biting or clamping down) and my DH was able to separate them within a matter of seconds. The terrier dog ran back into its garage. It's owner was there to witness the entire thing. Dude didn't even run over to stop his dog. All he said was "I am so sorry. That's what she gets for acting like that". Makes me think that this is not the first time their dog has gone to attack another dog.

Thank God my DH was there. I often walk our pitbull by myself. I don't know how I would have reacted.

[jbartsy]

Jan 22, 2015 9:18:06 GMT -5 Stormy61 said:

Jan 22, 2015 9:02:20 GMT -5 jbartsy said:

threearrows you're incredibly lucky that you've never had it before... I'm in the same boat. I think baby girl is actually a dragon.

My bitchfest: I hate Michigan winters. I hate snow and I hate my 40-mile-each-way commute to work in the snow. I hate traffic, especially on days that it's not snowing but people act like it is. Work sucks. (I know. And my husband didn't leave me roses by the stairs.)

Were there supposed to be roses?

When I typed "work sucks", I had to finish the rest of the Blink 182 lyric... I was hoping someone would get it so I don't sound like a crazy person

[Stormy61]

Jan 22, 2015 9:28:05 GMT -5 jbartsy said:

Jan 22, 2015 9:18:06 GMT -5 Stormy61 said:

Were there supposed to be roses?

When I typed "work sucks", I had to finish the rest of the Blink 182 lyric... I was hoping someone would get it so I don't sound like a crazy person

Lol I get it now! Haha umm I haven't had coffee yet. Forgive me for being slow!

[Widget123]

Jan 22, 2015 8:43:35 GMT -5 dmoney said:

I dont think you are over reacting at all. I would check to see what the state laws are in regards to ratios for children in the room. Ever age has a different ratio that is allowed by state. Ive picked my nephew up from daycare before he is 2 years old, and they ALWAYS tell us how his day was, how many times he needed a diaper change, how much he slept, how much he ate, if there were any issues. They send out a sheet every day as well that goes into even more detail then that! I would start asking questions and if they dont want to give you answers maybe look for a new day care. We are sending this LO to the same place where my nephew goes, and they told us if we ever want to pop in for 30 minutes to just come see the baby we could, if my parents or DH's parents want to stop in as long as they are on the approved list, they can come stop in for an hour and sit with the baby during the day. Best of luck to you!

Thanks for your comment!  This place is actually highly subsidized by the government and they are extremely crazy with rules/red tape, much more so than any other place I've heard of, so I'm not concerned that they are over ratio.  What they do is have huge classrooms and then several kids and multiple teachers in each room.  And things were great with DD over there when she was in the infant/toddler classroom.  Maybe it is just a teacher/room thing and if this keeps up we should try requesting a different room?  I do get a daily activity sheet, but you know there is so much more to know than when she pee'd, slept, and ate.  For example I like hearing what kind of activities they did that day, if DD learned a new word, etc. so that I can reinforce that stuff at home.  And I have mixed feelings about how they throw DH out in the morning.

[threearrows]

Jan 22, 2015 9:02:20 GMT -5 jbartsy said:

threearrows you're incredibly lucky that you've never had it before... I'm in the same boat. I think baby girl is actually a dragon.

My bitchfest: I hate Michigan winters. I hate snow and I hate my 40-mile-each-way commute to work in the snow. I hate traffic, especially on days that it's not snowing but people act like it is. Work sucks. (I know. And my husband didn't leave me roses by the stairs.)

I feel incredibly lucky to have never had it before now, either. I'll be 30 in a few months, so I feel oddly accomplished for never having purchased Tums before now. But, seriously, the first morning I woke up with it, I may have reacted like a dying panda. I had *no* idea what it was or why it hurt so bad. 

[emilyzemily]

Jan 22, 2015 9:26:44 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

My pitbull was attacked by a medium terrier dog last night on our walk.

My DH and I were walking out pitbull and chihuahua. Suddenly, this dog bolts out of its garage, barking viciously. It went straight for my pit. The dog was biting and scratching my pitbull's face. It all happened so quickly, I barely had time to pick up our chihuahua. Thankfully my DH reacted quickly. Our pit was able to grab the other dog by the neck (not biting or clamping down) and my DH was able to separate them within a matter of seconds. The terrier dog ran back into its garage. It's owner was there to witness the entire thing. Dude didn't even run over to stop his dog. All he said was "I am so sorry. That's what she gets for acting like that". Makes me think that this is not the first time their dog has gone to attack another dog.

Thank God my DH was there. I often walk our pitbull by myself. I don't know how I would have reacted.

That would scare the living daylights out of me! I can't stand people who don't know how to control their dogs and think it's perfectly ok to allow them to attack another dog! Glad your pit and chi are ok!

[Deleted]

I feel like my belly has doubled in size overnight, which is starting to make daily tasks more difficult. I was trying to do dishes last night and felt like I was going to throw up and faint.

I can't decide if I regret buying my Snoogle or not. After two nights of not loving it, the thing just sits in the corner of the room and my DH has started throwing clothes on top of it... I'm hoping now that my belly feels huge that I'll start to love it. I guess we'll see.

Final bitch of the day - I don't feel like working at all!! I'm looking at my long to-do list for today and I just wish I could go home and cuddle with my cat.

[nettje]

My bitch for the day (and yesterday as well) is about the construction on our street. I knew that when building in a new neighbourhood, that construction was a given. But come on guys... 7/7:30 is a little early to be excavating and being all noisy. I have my morning power nap around then... Especially after a rough night with DD.

Which leads to my second bitch: why aren't you sleeping through the night anymore DD! She slept like a champ her first few nights in her big girl bed and now she waking up for about a 2 hour period for the last couple of nights. I hope it gets worked out before this one comes along.

[neongreen]

For work, I've been having to cover the monthly meetings for the county's Solid Waste Authority. (That is exactly as interesting as it sounds.) The good news is that tonight's supposed to be another short one. However, the downside is that I have to get out of my yoga pants and put on slacks and a blazer for, like, 30 minutes worth of work. I've already decided they're not getting full makeup tonight, just lip gloss.

(And watch, tonight will be the one time that the hearing they keep rescheduling goes forward as planned and I'll actually have to use brainpower.)

[elbowpasta]

My bitch seems petty but it happens all the freaking time and I just SNAPPED.

I am a travel agent and a destination wedding specialist. We get requests for vow renewals on the beach all the time, it's super sweet and its a fun trip to organize.

Lady calls me last night 2 minutes before close to ask me about a group trip "and also throw a vow renewal in there." Ok. Not how that works, but ok. Unrealistic budget, unrealistic expectations, but I'm nice, I play along, and we get some quotes and we're done.

She just emailed me to follow up on our discussion about her "Vowel Renewal" trip. You're serious? I emailed her back and bolded "vow" about 4 times in my semi-snippy email. Sorry, not sorry. You really don't know you're saying VOWS? You need more than my help.

[turtletyme]

Jan 22, 2015 9:02:20 GMT -5 jbartsy said:

My bitchfest: I hate Michigan winters. I hate snow and I hate my 40-mile-each-way commute to work in the snow. I hate traffic, especially on days that it's not snowing but people act like it is. Work sucks. (I know. And my husband didn't leave me roses by the stairs.)

AMEN SISTER! Also in MI and I also have about a 40-mile commute. Fortunately I only have to go into the office 2 days a week, but of course one of them was YESTERDAY... I didn't think I was ever going to get there, because god forbid there was a half inch to an inch of snow on the ground. TWO HOURS LATER I rolled in! The drive is really aggravating my sciatic nerve problem too, so on top of that I was limping all day. LOLing at your Blink 182 reference, I didn't get roses this morning either!

My bitch is: I have thought of some (personally I think BRILLIANT) baby names this morning and texted them to DH and he is not responding. What's he doing, WORKING? Unacceptable. I told myself I would wait til after our A/S next week to do any more research on names, but I can't help myself. I'm a maniac.

[blasto!]

Jan 22, 2015 9:26:44 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

My pitbull was attacked by a medium terrier dog last night on our walk.

My DH and I were walking out pitbull and chihuahua. Suddenly, this dog bolts out of its garage, barking viciously. It went straight for my pit. The dog was biting and scratching my pitbull's face. It all happened so quickly, I barely had time to pick up our chihuahua. Thankfully my DH reacted quickly. Our pit was able to grab the other dog by the neck (not biting or clamping down) and my DH was able to separate them within a matter of seconds. The terrier dog ran back into its garage. It's owner was there to witness the entire thing. Dude didn't even run over to stop his dog. All he said was "I am so sorry. That's what she gets for acting like that". Makes me think that this is not the first time their dog has gone to attack another dog.

Thank God my DH was there. I often walk our pitbull by myself. I don't know how I would have reacted.

I hate this crap. I have a border collie/aussie shepherd mix and he's been attacked twice in the last month when we were walking. Once was by my neighbor's dog while their little girl stood there and kept asking if she could pet my dog. I was like, um, not right now? Luckily the mom ran outside and grabbed the little thing (I think it's a shih tzu?). The other time was in the next neighborhood over (we go on long walks) and an older rottweiler mix was just hanging out outside by himself and ran over. Luckily he stopped trying to bite my dog's head off when yelled at him, otherwise I have no idea what would have happened.

People are terrible about their pets. I just don't get. I'm glad your DH was with you and everything turned out ok.

[megd893]

Jan 22, 2015 9:26:44 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

My pitbull was attacked by a medium terrier dog last night on our walk.

My DH and I were walking out pitbull and chihuahua. Suddenly, this dog bolts out of its garage, barking viciously. It went straight for my pit. The dog was biting and scratching my pitbull's face. It all happened so quickly, I barely had time to pick up our chihuahua. Thankfully my DH reacted quickly. Our pit was able to grab the other dog by the neck (not biting or clamping down) and my DH was able to separate them within a matter of seconds. The terrier dog ran back into its garage. It's owner was there to witness the entire thing. Dude didn't even run over to stop his dog. All he said was "I am so sorry. That's what she gets for acting like that". Makes me think that this is not the first time their dog has gone to attack another dog.

Thank God my DH was there. I often walk our pitbull by myself. I don't know how I would have reacted.

That's terrifying! I'm glad you're all okay.  I would have lost my mind.  If your dog doesn't listen it shouldn't be off leash.  Pet. Peeve.

[megd893]

My bitch is that it feels like the inside of my lower left ribcage is bruised. I know baby's no where near there yet, but Jesus its annoying.

For a funny... I'm just out of the shower this morning (midst of getting dressed) and my one year old niece (in K's arms) comes up, deliberately pushes my nipple and says "beep". Apparently my body changes are being noticed by even the youngest of family members.

[nchauhan]

Jan 22, 2015 9:26:44 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

My pitbull was attacked by a medium terrier dog last night on our walk.

My DH and I were walking out pitbull and chihuahua. Suddenly, this dog bolts out of its garage, barking viciously. It went straight for my pit. The dog was biting and scratching my pitbull's face. It all happened so quickly, I barely had time to pick up our chihuahua. Thankfully my DH reacted quickly. Our pit was able to grab the other dog by the neck (not biting or clamping down) and my DH was able to separate them within a matter of seconds. The terrier dog ran back into its garage. It's owner was there to witness the entire thing. Dude didn't even run over to stop his dog. All he said was "I am so sorry. That's what she gets for acting like that". Makes me think that this is not the first time their dog has gone to attack another dog.

Thank God my DH was there. I often walk our pitbull by myself. I don't know how I would have reacted.

Jesus this is terrifying.  I hate dog owners that don't actually deserve a dog.  This owner obviously doesn't take care of it properly.  I'm glad you and your dogs are okay! Thank goodness your husband was there to separate the two.  



I also also have crazy heartburn and have never dealt with it before.  That first time was not pleasant.  


My bitch is this girl that I am friends with is driving me insane.  We were never really that close but since I helped her through her breakup, she has been super clingy to me. (She dated a guy for FOUR months and took 1.5 YEARS to get over it...in fact, still not over it.) She is now so clingy that she "gets depressed" if I ever mention anything baby related because she doesn't want to lose me to my baby. And she tries to get me to verbally state that things won't change in our relationship.  Not sure how to tell her that I do not view her as close as she views me.  When she asks me questions like if she's 'back to normal' from the breakup, I've even started making comments on how we were not close at all before this breakup so I can't judge that. Granted it's my own fault for answering all her texts at all hours of the day and night and not telling her that I needed space during the breakup in 2013.  And I have been trying to put more distance between us since I started getting uncomfortable with how aggressive she was being in our friendship.  But since I let this go on for so long, I feel stuck.  Her other friends stopped talking about the breakup with her after a few months and so she stuck harder on me since I didn't 'abandon' her. My sister, DH and best friend all dislike her and told me I should just tell her to back off.  But I am so non confrontational, I'm not sure I can look someone in the face and just say that.  Any ideas on how to start that convo? Sorry if it's confusing, I tried to condense it the best I could. 

[dmoney]

I am probably going to be banned from TB now... someone posted about mums being due in June and this was my response: we are all having babies...but I really wouldnt trust what anyone has been told as a baby girl can grow a penis after 20 weeks and a baby boys penis can fall off... at least thats what ive read on the internet so it must be true.

[blasto!]

Jan 22, 2015 11:00:43 GMT -5 nchauhan said:

Jesus this is terrifying.  I hate dog owners that don't actually deserve a dog.  This owner obviously doesn't take care of it properly.  I'm glad you and your dogs are okay! Thank goodness your husband was there to separate the two.  



I also also have crazy heartburn and have never dealt with it before.  That first time was not pleasant.  


My bitch is this girl that I am friends with is driving me insane.  We were never really that close but since I helped her through her breakup, she has been super clingy to me. (She dated a guy for FOUR months and took 1.5 YEARS to get over it...in fact, still not over it.) She is now so clingy that she "gets depressed" if I ever mention anything baby related because she doesn't want to lose me to my baby. And she tries to get me to verbally state that things won't change in our relationship.  Not sure how to tell her that I do not view her as close as she views me.  When she asks me questions like if she's 'back to normal' from the breakup, I've even started making comments on how we were not close at all before this breakup so I can't judge that. Granted it's my own fault for answering all her texts at all hours of the day and night and not telling her that I needed space during the breakup in 2013.  And I have been trying to put more distance between us since I started getting uncomfortable with how aggressive she was being in our friendship.  But since I let this go on for so long, I feel stuck.  Her other friends stopped talking about the breakup with her after a few months and so she stuck harder on me since I didn't 'abandon' her. My sister, DH and best friend all dislike her and told me I should just tell her to back off.  But I am so non confrontational, I'm not sure I can look someone in the face and just say that.  Any ideas on how to start that convo? Sorry if it's confusing, I tried to condense it the best I could. 

I'm so bad at confrontation, too. I would probably start by drawing some boundaries. Set your phone to not alert you to texts after a certain time of night, then just respond some time the next day when you have a chance. If she gets clingy about it, it's perfectly reasonable to say that you were sleeping and responded when you had time. If that's not enough, set up "date nights" or "quiet nights" when you just aren't available. No adult should need a friend to be available 100% of the time.

If she handles that really badly, then I think you may find it easier to tell her that the relationship isn't healthy for you any more. As it is, it sounds almost like a verbally/psychologically abusive friendship. At the least, she's unreasonable and needs to become more independent. Good luck. I wish I had better advice.

[ktbear]

My random is that I threw up this morning for the first time in my pregnancy (19w 5d). Don't get me wrong, I was terribly nauseous in the beginning, but just never threw up, and never did with DS either. I thought we were past the sickness anyway, and it's really got me wondering if I have a random bug or something.

[nchauhan]

Jan 22, 2015 11:08:33 GMT -5 blasto! said:

Jan 22, 2015 11:00:43 GMT -5 nchauhan said:

SNIP

My bitch is this girl that I am friends with is driving me insane.  We were never really that close but since I helped her through her breakup, she has been super clingy to me. (She dated a guy for FOUR months and took 1.5 YEARS to get over it...in fact, still not over it.) She is now so clingy that she "gets depressed" if I ever mention anything baby related because she doesn't want to lose me to my baby. And she tries to get me to verbally state that things won't change in our relationship.  Not sure how to tell her that I do not view her as close as she views me.  When she asks me questions like if she's 'back to normal' from the breakup, I've even started making comments on how we were not close at all before this breakup so I can't judge that. Granted it's my own fault for answering all her texts at all hours of the day and night and not telling her that I needed space during the breakup in 2013.  And I have been trying to put more distance between us since I started getting uncomfortable with how aggressive she was being in our friendship.  But since I let this go on for so long, I feel stuck.  Her other friends stopped talking about the breakup with her after a few months and so she stuck harder on me since I didn't 'abandon' her. My sister, DH and best friend all dislike her and told me I should just tell her to back off.  But I am so non confrontational, I'm not sure I can look someone in the face and just say that.  Any ideas on how to start that convo? Sorry if it's confusing, I tried to condense it the best I could. 

I'm so bad at confrontation, too. I would probably start by drawing some boundaries. Set your phone to not alert you to texts after a certain time of night, then just respond some time the next day when you have a chance. If she gets clingy about it, it's perfectly reasonable to say that you were sleeping and responded when you had time. If that's not enough, set up "date nights" or "quiet nights" when you just aren't available. No adult should need a friend to be available 100% of the time.

If she handles that really badly, then I think you may find it easier to tell her that the relationship isn't healthy for you any more. As it is, it sounds almost like a verbally/psychologically abusive friendship. At the least, she's unreasonable and needs to become more independent. Good luck. I wish I had better advice.

You know, I tried something like that a few times.  I would tell her that DH and I are trying to be on our phones less in the evenings/having a date night, whatever.  And she says she gets it and will back off for like 3 days before going back to constant texting.  One friend told me that I'll probably be so busy when the baby comes that I'll cut her out as a necessity.  Hopefully I can put on my big girl panties before June though!

[Deleted]

DH is off work today. A few days ago he emphatically asked me if I could clear my calendar because he wanted to do a date day. So I did reset my one appointment. This morning I asked him what he had planned and he looked at me like I had three heads and had absolutely no clue what I was talking about. When I reminded him what he said he told me "well I don't have anything planned so if you want to do something go ahead and plan it."

::::nut punch::::

And I'm also irritated that it's not 10:00 am yet because I want to watch The Price is Right.