I think there are certain times when spanking is a useful parenting tool.
L ran away from me at the car today. I had a freaking heart attack. I could hear a car coming but had no clue how far away it was. I wanted to spank her - but did not. She DOES NOT LISTEN when I say come here. I'm ashamed that my instinct is to hit/spank but on the other hand... spanked child is better than a roadkill kid.
This may have been more of a confession.
I've never spanked M, nor was I spanked as a child, but I can understand this. In my mind, inflicting a little bit of pain to teach her that if she repeats that behaviour she will get hurt does make sense. I don't fully know how I will handle this situation if it arises, but you would get no judgement from me if you had spanked her here.
It has sorta made more patient. I'm much more patient (at times) with LOs but I've lost the patience I've previously had with adults and kids that should know better
I think there are certain times when spanking is a useful parenting tool.
L ran away from me at the car today. I had a freaking heart attack. I could hear a car coming but had no clue how far away it was. I wanted to spank her - but did not. She DOES NOT LISTEN when I say come here. I'm ashamed that my instinct is to hit/spank but on the other hand... spanked child is better than a roadkill kid.
This may have been more of a confession.
No flames here. That's the only situation where I'd be comfortable with a swat on the butt. Doing something that dangerous? I'm cool with a swat.
Okay this really bugs me -when people tag dead people in their statuses on Fb to announce their death or to say how they miss them etc. I find it really creepy. Its one thing to mention them or write their name but theres no reason to tag their FB page
Yes, I see mcbush's reasoning, but tagging dead people just seems creepy to me. #AbeLincolnareyouthere?
Okay this really bugs me -when people tag dead people in their statuses on Fb to announce their death or to say how they miss them etc. I find it really creepy. Its one thing to mention them or write their name but theres no reason to tag their FB page
I have a hard time with people posting on the deceased person's page on their birthday.
Creepy anecdote: my husband's uncle set up a fb page for his mom (husband's grandma) before she passed away. I think he still goes on it sometimes because I get game requests from beyond the grave.
I don't get psychics. Do people really think you can talk to the dead? My cousin is very into it and honestly it just seems creepy. I also don't beleive in ghosts.
I originally read this as "I don't get Physics" and I was really wondering where you were going with that.
Post by heelibrarian on Jan 22, 2015 14:35:05 GMT -5
I rarely post UOs because I don't like to argue much and am a people pleaser (really!) but here goes: I think that sleeping is more of a developmental milestone than most people. There are so many factors that make a kid a good or bad sleeper. I will never tell anyone to not sleep train their kid, or how to do it. But I know both of mine do not respond to it and will slog along until they get it. I suffer, but my son figured out the sleep thing when he was ready (later than most) but he does wonderfully now.
I don't get psychics. Do people really think you can talk to the dead? My cousin is very into it and honestly it just seems creepy. I also don't beleive in ghosts.
My mom is really into it and sees one at least once a year for fun. At least I hope it's for fun. She paid for DH and I to do it too last year. It was...interesting? She didn't tell us anything earth shattering that couldn't be guessed. My mom saw her before G was born and the psychic told her she was going to be a grandma months before we told anyone. But again,what person doesn't want to think they'll be a grandparent? So I take it with a grain of salt. I do however believe in ghosts
I rarely post UOs because I don't like to argue much and am a people pleaser (really!) but here goes: I think that sleeping is more of a developmental milestone than most people. There are so many factors that make a kid a good or bad sleeper. I will never tell anyone to not sleep train their kid, or how to do it. But I know both of mine do not respond to it and will slog along until they get it. I suffer, but my son figured out the sleep thing when he was ready (later than most) but he does wonderfully now.
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I don't really agree or disagree with this. I have no clue how to feel. We didn't have to do very aggressive sleep training over a long period of time with M which did make it easier, but the only thing that made me try was conversations my mom and I had had, mostly about me as a baby. My mom rocked me, walk the halls, never let me cry and just stayed up and gently put me to sleep every night. It continued into toddlerhood. There's no way of knowing if it's related, but I am a horrible sleeper now. I essentially cannot "self-soothe", lol. Because of that I just didn't want to risk doing those same things with M if they were by chance the reason I am so bad at sleeping now. Had I not accidentally had this conversation with my mom I probably would have never sleep trained at all and just let her figure it out at her own pace (since that has been my general MO with everything else in her life)
I don't get psychics. Do people really think you can talk to the dead? My cousin is very into it and honestly it just seems creepy. I also don't beleive in ghosts.
I think Teresa Caputo is full of shit. Nothing I have ever seen makes me believe she is talking to the deceased. And I do believe in ghosts.
One of my friends met with her and is supposed to be on the show. I havent had a chance to talk to her about it so i cant say if shes any good or not but i will fill you in!
I rarely post UOs because I don't like to argue much and am a people pleaser (really!) but here goes: I think that sleeping is more of a developmental milestone than most people. There are so many factors that make a kid a good or bad sleeper. I will never tell anyone to not sleep train their kid, or how to do it. But I know both of mine do not respond to it and will slog along until they get it. I suffer, but my son figured out the sleep thing when he was ready (later than most) but he does wonderfully now.
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I'm totally with you. I probably shaved a couple years off my life with all the stress I put on myself in the first six months of LO's life worrying about how I wasn't doing the right things to get her to sleep "correctly." From the moment she was born, she wouldn't sleep unless she was in contact with another person, and I got all freaked out about trying to follow all the "rules" to "fix" her sleep. I read all the books and tried tons of things, and nothing got better for us until I just gave up and followed her cues for what she needed (which was to be held or snuggled all the time). Finally, she just outgrew the need on her own. I think I would have been so much less stressed if I could have had the confidence to just go with the flow from the beginning.
I rarely post UOs because I don't like to argue much and am a people pleaser (really!) but here goes: I think that sleeping is more of a developmental milestone than most people. There are so many factors that make a kid a good or bad sleeper. I will never tell anyone to not sleep train their kid, or how to do it. But I know both of mine do not respond to it and will slog along until they get it. I suffer, but my son figured out the sleep thing when he was ready (later than most) but he does wonderfully now.
(Slinks away)
I honestly hate the ideas put forth by sleep training principles.
I guess to me it's the fact that they won't straight up admit that sleep training is actually about molding the sleep cycle to societal expectations and parental convenience.
There really isn't anything inherently substandard about a kid who wakes up once or twice in the middle of the night besides that fact that we all have to be somewhere on the clock come morning.
Also with the idea that a baby should fall asleep with no distraction, alone in a crib, in their own separate room, is somehow the pinnacle of appropriate sleep when most humans for most of history of been doing exactly not that.
Don't get me wrong, I like that she does that, but I don't think it's proof of better.
I rarely post UOs because I don't like to argue much and am a people pleaser (really!) but here goes: I think that sleeping is more of a developmental milestone than most people. There are so many factors that make a kid a good or bad sleeper. I will never tell anyone to not sleep train their kid, or how to do it. But I know both of mine do not respond to it and will slog along until they get it. I suffer, but my son figured out the sleep thing when he was ready (later than most) but he does wonderfully now.
(Slinks away)
I'm totally with you. I probably shaved a couple years off my life with all the stress I put on myself in the first six months of LO's life worrying about how I wasn't doing the right things to get her to sleep "correctly." From the moment she was born, she wouldn't sleep unless she was in contact with another person, and I got all freaked out about trying to follow all the "rules" to "fix" her sleep. I read all the books and tried tons of things, and nothing got better for us until I just gave up and followed her cues for what she needed (which was to be held or snuggled all the time). Finally, she just outgrew the need on her own. I think I would have been so much less stressed if I could have had the confidence to just go with the flow from the beginning.
I agree with you guys. With DS, I was stressed because he would only sleep beside me. People kept telling me that their baby slept in their own crib in their own room on day 1 and that I needed to sleep train. DS would never sleep in a bassinet or PnP for more than 30 minutes. He slept better beside me so, after a while I just ignored everyone's "advice" and did what was right for my family. DS only started sleeping better when he turned 3. He starts off sleeping in his own bed, but ends up sleeping with DH in the middle of the night. From day 1, with DD, I co-slept with her and I never stressed about her being sleep trained. She did wake up every hour to nurse until just a bit ago, but since I weaned her, she sleeps better.
So this unpopular where I grew up, but I think #deflatgate is over blown, the refs pumped the balls back up in the second half and they still scored 28 points on us, it obviously didn't affect the score that much.
I totally agree about sleep being just another milestone they hit. I feel like we encourage them to walk and talk, but we don't force it. I personally felt like I had to approach sleep the same way for my own sanity. Especially since the few times I tried to force it were painful disasters.
It makes a terrible screeching noise. We would play with it and the dog would go nuts. She had never previously showed interest in any toy whatsoever.
Shortly after that she was diagnosed with lung cancer, and we put her down in September.
The toy quit working.
A month later I was rearranging things and I tossed it in the corner with other things that needed sorting. That pile sat there for awhile and the toy would randomly go off, all by itself just sitting in the corner. I could never make it work but about once a week it would just randomly screech.
I see it as her reminding us she was still around.
I rarely post UOs because I don't like to argue much and am a people pleaser (really!) but here goes: I think that sleeping is more of a developmental milestone than most people. There are so many factors that make a kid a good or bad sleeper. I will never tell anyone to not sleep train their kid, or how to do it. But I know both of mine do not respond to it and will slog along until they get it. I suffer, but my son figured out the sleep thing when he was ready (later than most) but he does wonderfully now.
(Slinks away)
I honestly hate the ideas put forth by sleep training principles.
I guess to me it's the fact that they won't straight up admit that sleep training is actually about molding the sleep cycle to societal expectations and parental convenience.
There really isn't anything inherently substandard about a kid who wakes up once or twice in the middle of the night besides that fact that we all have to be somewhere on the clock come morning.
Also with the idea that a baby should fall asleep with no distraction, alone in a crib, in their own separate room, is somehow the pinnacle of appropriate sleep when most humans for most of history of been doing exactly not that.
Don't get me wrong, I like that she does that, but I don't think it's proof of better.
Co-signed. I don't judge parents who put babies in a different room and expect them to sleep through the night, but if we're all being honest, that is done for the parents' convenience, not because it's what's best for the child. Baby girl slept in our room until very recently, and even now she'll still have a wake up every now and again and you know what? That's ok. Co-sleeping was really liberating for me because if she woke up and wanted to be comforted or nursed, I was in the same room and it didn't feel like a full-blown wakeup. Now she's older and her body lets her sleep through the night (90% of the time).
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