Post by lilyelayne on May 22, 2015 21:33:16 GMT -5
aggiebug hugs. I hope your H can have a productive conversation with his parents about boundaries. I feel like plane tickets to see them would've been a better present if you hadn't seen them since your LO was born, but it definitely comes off selfish in your situation. T&Ps amd wishes for minimal drama. We're always here to listen!
mmarie that witching hour shit is awful & exhausting in every way. T&Ps.
No STTN here, we were up so many times last night. LO went through a couple of days of nor wanting to nurse before sleep. He just wanted a binky and to be left alone. Now tonight he is comfort sucking.
My little brother is coming into town next week, so I am going to have to clean the house and clear out space in the office for him to sleep. I miss having a guest room, but the new occupant is pretty cute. I can't wait for his uncle to meet him, he is 13 and has never been around babies before so it might be interesting having him here for a week.
Post by WittyLittle on May 23, 2015 2:39:23 GMT -5
aggiebug, sorry that it's still so bad. I can't believe they bought you plane tickets for your anniversary! Do you think it's because they think you have such a good time with them and appreciate their help so much, or do you think it's really an egotistical ply to get you over there again? My inlaws are clueless and would really buy them because they think they're helping us so much by having us over luckily ours don't have the money to buy us plane tickets... As you know, we have veeeeery similar problems here.
Don't know if you've made a plan already about what you're going to do, but in case you're still looking for opinions here's what I think :-P It looks like yours are really not getting the fact that there is a huge issue, so it's unavoidable that this is going to lead to a huge confrontation. And the longer you wait, the more things are going to pile up from both sides. If they refuse to talk to you as a result, remind them that that door is always open when they're ready to talk again, and that you're very sorry that they feel so strongly about it but that in your opinion, this conversation is for the greater good for everybody. You know that they're doing everything out of the goodness of their hearts (note the slight lie here... hehehe) but it's just incompatible with your lives right now how much they're visiting.
In other words, we've just had to have this conversation with the inlaws as well. They ended up still talking to us, though MIL sat and cried for at least half a day about it. And that was just about us cancelling one of their intended visits For us there was never an issue of them likely not wanting to speak to us because of this, but that's different in Greek families. Fighting is normal Good luck. Remember that standing strong as your own little family comes first, and stay calm. They'll likely say something (unintentionally) hurtful in the heat of the moment, but it seems like they're the more volatile/emotional ones in this situation so anything you say in reply will probably just make it worse.
WittyLittle it's is purely so he can see his granddaughter the whole time.! He did throw in Aggie football tickets to make himself feel better. Before child he would toss put having H come down to a game and H would tell him nope I am not spending money or my vacation time on that. FIL would drop it end of story, now he isn't even asking he is just going to pay for how H spends his vacation time.
H knows what he needs to do and he k own he will get the silent treatment from his dad. It's just a matter of how long.
WittyLittle it's is purely so he can see his granddaughter the whole time.! He did throw in Aggie football tickets to make himself feel better. Before child he would toss put having H come down to a game and H would tell him nope I am not spending money or my vacation time on that. FIL would drop it end of story, now he isn't even asking he is just going to pay for how H spends his vacation time.
H knows what he needs to do and he k own he will get the silent treatment from his dad. It's just a matter of how long.
Good luck to him. Hopefully it goes better than expected. Though some silence might be golden at this stage I imagine hehehe.
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