Post by shadesofgold on May 28, 2015 15:49:41 GMT -5
UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
Not cool to not invite a spouse to a wedding. Ring = bring.
Kids are another story. If kids are not invited then don't bring them. Some weddings are kid free, respect that *Looking at you ex-husbands cousins*
No ring, no bring is a whole 'nother story. I wouldn't have attended a wedding to which my live-in boyfriend wasn't also invited either.
There are definitely situations where you should invite a significant other who is not yet a spouse. But I can't think of anything that would make it appropriate to not invite a spouse. I am sure there are crazy drama scenarios, but neither spouse should be going in those instances.
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UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
agree!
ETA: I read your post wrong. I thought it was a couple having a fight on FB. But yeah - I can't really imagine communicating with my H on FB. But it happens sometimes.
UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
My husband & I do this all the time..tag each other in stuff & joke back & forth. Don't even care a little bit if people find it annoying. WE DO WHAT WE WANT!!!11!1!
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No ring, no bring is a whole 'nother story. I wouldn't have attended a wedding to which my live-in boyfriend wasn't also invited either.
There are definitely situations where you should invite a significant other who is not yet a spouse. But I can't think of anything that would make it appropriate to not invite a spouse. I am sure there are crazy drama scenarios, but neither spouse should be going in those instances.
I agree. If you just met the person you started dating I don't feel that they should be invited to the wedding. If you have been dating a while and it is a "serious" relationship you get invited. If married they should obviously be invited.
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This reminds me: I get super annoyed when someone's screen name is different than their taggable name. I'm looking at you FearsyW and Sparkly
Sorrynotsorry. My plan is to eventually be clawsome but I realized that it probably wasn't a good idea to do it back when the big move happened. Still blaming the whole thing on @sterling so...
Switch now!!! Errybody knows you. It will make my life easier. #allaboutme
UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
I know someone who disabled her fb over something her H said about a movie and she got pissed over it.
This reminds me: I get super annoyed when someone's screen name is different than their taggable name. I'm looking at you FearsyW and Sparkly
Sorrynotsorry. My plan is to eventually be clawsome but I realized that it probably wasn't a good idea to do it back when the big move happened. Still blaming the whole thing on @sterling so...
I told you that you can just do it any time. Just keep the avy the same for a bit and people will get used to it.
UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
I know someone who disabled her fb over something her H said about a movie and she got pissed over it.
UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
My husband & I do this all the time..tag each other in stuff & joke back & forth. Don't even care a little bit if people find it annoying. WE DO WHAT WE WANT!!!11!1!
We do this too occasionally. Big kids at heart. No curr.
Mostly we do this through messages though which are private.
My husband & I do this all the time..tag each other in stuff & joke back & forth. Don't even care a little bit if people find it annoying. WE DO WHAT WE WANT!!!11!1!
We do this too occasionally. Big kids at heart. No curr.
Mostly we do this through messages though which are private.
Oh, I'm not saying you can't communicate at all on FB. I will often share a story on MH's feed during the day, or comment on his stuff. But if you are having a deep intellectual conversation about something over several days, when you have probably been in the same room to discuss it, I have to wonder what the point is. With some people I think the point is totally just a performance. (Not that any of you are those people, but my SIL might be those people.)
ETA: On the topic, apparently my MIL called MH and asked if I was okay... she was wondering because I hadn't been posting very much on facebook lately. I guess that underscores how often everyone in this family uses facebook as a barometer of health and happiness.
UO: If you're having a conversation with your spouse through Facebook comments, you're doing it wrong. (Inspired by a very in-depth conversation happening right now between my SIL and her husband spanning several days about a news article she shared.)
I know someone who disabled her fb over something her H said about a movie and she got pissed over it.
We do this too occasionally. Big kids at heart. No curr.
Mostly we do this through messages though which are private.
Oh, I'm not saying you can't communicate at all on FB. I will often share a story on MH's feed during the day, or comment on his stuff. But if you are having a deep intellectual conversation about something over several days, when you have probably been in the same room to discuss it, I have to wonder what the point is. With some people I think the point is totally just a performance. (Not that any of you are those people, but my SIL might be those people.)
not offended - I get what you're saying. And yes... we're definitely not having intellectual debates. Mostly playful banter that might span 3 comments each.
This reminds me: I get super annoyed when someone's screen name is different than their taggable name. I'm looking at you FearsyW and Sparkly
Sorrynotsorry. My plan is to eventually be clawsome but I realized that it probably wasn't a good idea to do it back when the big move happened. Still blaming the whole thing on @sterling so...
I think my current name fits me better now than my tag.
Sorrynotsorry. My plan is to eventually be clawsome but I realized that it probably wasn't a good idea to do it back when the big move happened. Still blaming the whole thing on @sterling so...
I think my current name fits me better now than my tag.
Haha. I thought of you too. But I don't know how to tag you unless I find a post by you and click your name to find out your taggable name.
If we go somewhere and there are going to be a random amount of people coming, and there aren't enough seats for the maximum amount of people invited I get sweaty palms. I get you.
I totally get this. Sporting events, movie theaters, plays, planes, restaurants- I have seat anxiety. I always want to make sure that I am seated somewhere that is easy access, so I can get out easily if needed. I hate feeling trapped and like just in case I have to pee, I can't. I usually make sure we arrive places where I can pick my seat early...my husband does. not. understand.
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I think my current name fits me better now than my tag.
Haha. I thought of you too. But I don't know how to tag you unless I find a post by you and click your name to find out your taggable name.
If you're not mobile, there's a little button at the top of the post box that has a person and an @ symbol you can use to search for someone. I wish I knew how to do this from mobile.
Haha. I thought of you too. But I don't know how to tag you unless I find a post by you and click your name to find out your taggable name.
If you're not mobile, there's a little button at the top of the post box that has a person and an @ symbol you can use to search for someone. I wish I knew how to do this from mobile.
I'm 99.9% mobile (real mobile not tapatalk) so I don't know how else to do it.
It is SO rude to invite one married person to your wedding, but not invite that married person's spouse.
I can't imagine this is a UO!
Two of H's coworkers got married a few months before we did. Engaged around the same time. They sent an invitation to "Mr. H's Name & Guest" but really, how effing hard is it to look up my name on Facebook (H is friends with the husband and wife).
Oh, and to make matters worse, our invitation mentioned only the ceremony. Other coworkers got invitations that mentioned a reception to follow. Eff that, we did not go.
We do this too occasionally. Big kids at heart. No curr.
Mostly we do this through messages though which are private.
Oh, I'm not saying you can't communicate at all on FB. I will often share a story on MH's feed during the day, or comment on his stuff. But if you are having a deep intellectual conversation about something over several days, when you have probably been in the same room to discuss it, I have to wonder what the point is. With some people I think the point is totally just a performance. (Not that any of you are those people, but my SIL might be those people.)
ETA: On the topic, apparently my MIL called MH and asked if I was okay... she was wondering because I hadn't been posting very much on facebook lately. I guess that underscores how often everyone in this family uses facebook as a barometer of health and happiness.
When I went on a FB hiatus from December to April, my parents and H got numerous messages and emails asking if I was okay. It was a little weird... And I know when I go back off FB here soon, it'll happen again.
It is SO rude to invite one married person to your wedding, but not invite that married person's spouse.
I can't imagine this is a UO!
Two of H's coworkers got married a few months before we did. Engaged around the same time. They sent an invitation to "Mr. H's Name & Guest" but really, how effing hard is it to look up my name on Facebook (H is friends with the husband and wife).
Oh, and to make matters worse, our invitation mentioned only the ceremony. Other coworkers got invitations that mentioned a reception to follow. Eff that, we did not go.
I don't think it's necessary to state that you're lurking in the WTO/TWW if you're in the opposite thread (like you're WTO but want to comment in the TWW). It's not lurking if you're posting in threads on your home/main board(s). #clearlyithinkimboardpolice
Two of H's coworkers got married a few months before we did. Engaged around the same time. They sent an invitation to "Mr. H's Name & Guest" but really, how effing hard is it to look up my name on Facebook (H is friends with the husband and wife).
Oh, and to make matters worse, our invitation mentioned only the ceremony. Other coworkers got invitations that mentioned a reception to follow. Eff that, we did not go.
Two sets of invitations. Interesting.
And weird. H was like, well maybe they're having a small reception. Nope. Most of his department was invited to the reception. I looked over our invitation a million times. Nothing mentioned. Had him look at another coworkers? Mention of reception.
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