To follow up on what starfishy said i hope no one thought I was judging them for staying home. I was just responding to the comment made on facebook that was presumably directed at me that I was some howe jealous. If that wasn't a jab on her part at me and others that work then i have no idea what she thinks i am jealous of
Also of you have a business set up a business page. I will even follow it. Even if we arent fb friends as long as i know about it. Just like i have for other j12ers. Even ones im not fb friends with.
I didn't get that vibe at all. And like I said earlier the thing that irks me the most is that they obviously still lurk here but can show up to support women who were there for them. Like seriously why do they even care if a few of you are annoyed by what they post on FB?
Post by jodielyn10 on May 29, 2015 20:18:47 GMT -5
Well no surprise at all I was unfriended too. But honestly like PPs...I love my life, love my job and choose to do it. I could stay at home. I wouldn't even have to sell anything to do it. I don't work because I have to, I work because I want to. And I have no problem with people who choose to stay at home. What I DO have a problem with is someone posting long diatribes on FB about how her family life and marriage were suffering because she worked. Talking about how toxic her work and her schedule were to her family and how much better life is now? THAT is judgement. My family couldn't be happier and stronger, but I don't feel the need to convince my FB friends on a daily basis of just how happy we are.
Well no surprise at all I was unfriended too. But honestly like PPs...I love my life, love my job and choose to do it. I could stay at home. I wouldn't even have to sell anything to do it. I don't work because I have to, I work because I want to. And I have no problem with people who choose to stay at home. What I DO have a problem with is someone posting long diatribes on FB about how her family life and marriage were suffering because she worked. Talking about how toxic her work and her schedule were to her family and how much better life is now? THAT is judgement. My family couldn't be happier and stronger, but I don't feel the need to convince my FB friends on a daily basis of just how happy we are.
Well no surprise at all I was unfriended too. But honestly like PPs...I love my life, love my job and choose to do it. I could stay at home. I wouldn't even have to sell anything to do it. I don't work because I have to, I work because I want to. And I have no problem with people who choose to stay at home. What I DO have a problem with is someone posting long diatribes on FB about how her family life and marriage were suffering because she worked. Talking about how toxic her work and her schedule were to her family and how much better life is now? THAT is judgement. My family couldn't be happier and stronger, but I don't feel the need to convince my FB friends on a daily basis of just how happy we are.
jodielyn10, I couldn't have said it better myself. I personally don't care whether you stay at home, work or whatever you want to do. But it pisses me off to no end when people assume that working (and in a CUBICLE no less) is a nightmare and the worst thing known to man. Actually it's not. And while you think you're encouraging people to join you by saying that, you're actually pushing people away. Don't say the mommy wars need to stop and then talk shit about how awful it is to work away from the home.
nesenotes, you know I love you girl. I'm sorry if you thought we were putting down SAHM's because that was never the intention.
My FC: I think Advocare products do work because I have used them.. but I am too lazy for it. I totally need to lose 50lbs but suck at taking supplements. I do love the Spark though! Looking at my pre-baby photo on here, I miss seeing my collar bones and not having two chins in pics... I have a drawer full of Advocare supplements and will still not take them tomorrow. How sad is that? lol
The posting of things doesn't really bother me. I am not a good salesperson so I would not be able to make a lot of money...and I love what I do professionally from my degrees. I don't want to give it up. I also don't think the moms' who post about Advocare really mean to cause a rift with anyone or make anyone feel bad. I mean, they were super supportive for so long that I don't think any of them would be mean spirited toward J12.. reactionary, maybe but not mean spirited from the get-go... but that is my UO it seems.
Edited: because my grammar is apparently awful when I am exhausted! lol.. can not even blame it on alcohol bc I am not drunk! Just tired from setting up our clinic for summer services... we moved/set up 8 classrooms for kids with disabilities in two days... that is exhausting!
I've been lurking this all day but had no confession. Anyway just want to say very well said. I knew it would turn into a SAHM vs WAHM debate. As someone who gave up a career that i loved to stay with my kids because MH could not scale his work back it personally stings when people so strongly oppose staying at home. I guess in a weird way it makes me question my sanity and makes me feel like a quitter. I had to cross a bridge mentally where I came to accept my work or career doesn't define me. I'm more than a job title. It was a hard pill to swallow for a long time but I'm perfectly ok with it now.
I saw her status and I don't think she would urge anyone to go one way or another. I know she means well. I can see how all the Jamberry/advocare/scentsy pushers would come off as judgey. But at the same time it's their business. I would get mad at my husband for advertising on yelp and google. FB is just one more outlet. Also I don't know crack goes into spark but I'm hooked. I buy my shit on Amazon though to purposely not hurt any FB friends.
It was never supposed to turn into that debate and I honestly don't think it did, but I have never said staying at home isn't a valid choice. Someone said that we were "jealous" and we kind of assumed that the SAH thing was what we should be jealous about (although I'm still not 100% sure what I'm supposedly jealous of.) This conversation was started by talking about annoying Facebook posts that imply that someone's life is soooo great, with constant humblebragging. I find it interesting that we all had our minds go to the same person/people. So the first FC probably wasn't so far off base.
And if you have a business, make a business page.
Edit- I sound a little snarky and it's not directed at you. I don't judge you for staying at home and I hope you don't think I do.
No not at all. I don't think anyone does. I hope no one does that'd be odd. Well my dad does but he can suck a nut. And true she could do a business page but who has time for rules on FB? If i were creating rules I would ban sharing stupid ass articles like the earthquake one that was going around and people believed.
Speaking of the glamour that is being a SAHM... it's a crock of shit. My day blew hard. I had to get a molar pulled. MH started another business last week and is super busy and had to work today. I had to beg my MIL to please watch my kids while I got my tooth pulled and she agreed but acted like she was doing me the hugest favor ever. So anyway I go through the trauma of getting the tooth pulled. It was awful. I ugly cried. I'm not a crier. I seriously made a scene with my reaction to the tooth pull. I cried for a good half hour. Get home with my tore up mouth, she leaves the minute I get back, doesn't even ask if I'm ok and I was not. And I had to pull my shit together and deal with my kids till MH could come home "early" which was 4pm. Worst day ever.
Post by somethingcleverer on May 29, 2015 21:10:14 GMT -5
Oh my goodness nesenotes that sounds completely miserable. I hope you are feeling better now. I can't believe your MIL is such a bitch. I wish I knew some voo doo curse to put on her.
nesenotes, that sounds awful. Did you get some awesome pain meds at least? And also, do you mind sharing what your H is doing now?
Sewer liners! Still plumbing but a different beast. And he has a ft employee so he has to recoup enough to pay off the new equipment and the employee. I get the big picture, our future will be way more stable, but on days where you really really need a day off I get the short end of the stick.
I am dreading taking A to her 3 year appointment. I know they are going to want her to pee in a cup. Unless something changes drastically in the next 3 weeks, she isn't going to pee in a cup. I can't even bribe her to pee in the potty right now. It'll be a walk of shame from the lab with the empty pee cup.
I don't even try the cup. I put one of those sterile hat things that catch urine in the toilet and then transfer to a sterile specimen container. It's so much easier!
Post by summergirl1211 on May 29, 2015 21:40:20 GMT -5
Also, I don't understand how anyone works from home with a 2-3 year old at home too. At least full time anyway. I tried it last week for 2 days and nearly lost my mind. Although it's possible I'm doing it wrong...
Also, I don't understand how anyone works from home with a 2-3 year old at home too. At least full time anyway. I tried it last week for 2 days and nearly lost my mind. Although it's possible I'm doing it wrong...
I work from home, but there is no way in hell I could do it with M here. People always assume since I work from home, he stays with me. Maybe if I had the option of working when I got a chance, but I don't. It's a normal 8 hour job with a begin and end time.
Also, I don't understand how anyone works from home with a 2-3 year old at home too. At least full time anyway. I tried it last week for 2 days and nearly lost my mind. Although it's possible I'm doing it wrong...
I can't do it the one day I supposed to. I'm just lucky my boss doesn't actually expect me to do anything.
Post by somethingcleverer on May 29, 2015 22:08:28 GMT -5
I'm always jealous of the people who have the option of working at home but when it comes down to it I think I would not like it and I would probably be pretty unproductive. I just like the idea of it lol.
I'm always jealous of the people who have the option of working at home but when it comes down to it I think I would not like it and I would probably be pretty unproductive. I just like the idea of it lol.
I very much like the idea of not seeing other people and not having to wear pants!
nesenotes, that sounds awful. Did you get some awesome pain meds at least? And also, do you mind sharing what your H is doing now?
Sewer liners! Still plumbing but a different beast. And he has a ft employee so he has to recoup enough to pay off the new equipment and the employee. I get the big picture, our future will be way more stable, but on days where you really really need a day off I get the short end of the stick.
Have you looked into getting a babysitter maybe one day a week to help give you a break? Now that it's summer I bet you could find a HS or college girl.
I'm always jealous of the people who have the option of working at home but when it comes down to it I think I would not like it and I would probably be pretty unproductive. I just like the idea of it lol.
I very much like the idea of not seeing other people and not having to wear pants!
Post by aylafsu1881 on May 30, 2015 9:27:50 GMT -5
nesenotes, That sucks big time. ANn kind of dental work is traumatic esp with a tooth pulled. I know you are dealing with a lot. I hope you feel better today.
I ate an entire bacon chocolate bar on my way home from work...at 2 am!
I have never heard of this but it sounds so good. I bought some kind of bacon burgers at the farmers market that we had for dinner last night. So good. That butcher is an evil, amazing man.
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