FFF/ rants/ vents/ UO

[aggiebug]

Let's do this

[aggiebug]

I was happy when DD started to roll over right after the ILs left, and when fil pouted /started the silent treatment after I sent a video of her rolling over I feel entirely justified.

[michelle142]

I posted in spam, but it fits here so...

DD has been in daycare since May 14th. We have yet to see an invoice. We have no idea how much we owe them. We can't pay without the invoice ref#. We're probably going to end up having to pay $1K in one crack once they finally decide to invoice! Apparently this has been an ongoing issue with them (for everyone). Irritating.

[aggiebug]

No others? Man we are boring

[dacora]

I could be spending my downtime while DD naps doing responsible things like cleaning the house. Nope, I'm on my laptop or playing my 3DS. I keep the kitchen clean and manage dinner, along with taking care of the litter box and keeping DD alive during the day. Vacuuming and sweeping just aren't very high on my priorities.

[mels823]

My rant... I am working with a pregnant girl who is obsessed with always mentioning how skinny she is and how she is all belly. She has 3 months left and I am praying she gains a ton of weight so she will learn a bit of humility and shut her damn mouth. I want her to get fat. Real fat!! (not unhealthy for the baby fat, but fat enough where she can get off of her damn high horse).

[mels823]

ooooh another one!

People care about weddings too much. I was the same way when I got married I guess, worrying about the weather and how my spray tan would come out (for real), but after being pregnant and now worrying about another human life all the time, making a huge deal about wedding stuff seems petty to me. If I knew then what I knew now, I would have handled my wedding so differently!

[cginge]

UO? I hate donuts. If they all disappeared for forever and ever and bagels were the only ring-shaped breakfast(but really anytime) food item, I would not shed a tear. I want all the bagels. In my mouth.

[dacora]

mels823 Totally agree with you about weddings. I don't understand how people can spend tens of thousands of dollars on a SINGLE DAY. NOPE. We spent, including my dress, tux rental, food, venue, a three day stay at a fantastic hotel (Jekyll Island Club), cake, pictures, EVERYTHING: about $6000. My parents covered most of it, DH and I took care of some things.

Also, the ladies at the bridal shop complemented me when the entire months-long process was over, saying that I was a pleasure to work with and so nice to my mom (you KNOW they've seen some crazy Bridezillas). And the day of the wedding it was colder and windier than we were expecting, so when the coordinator asked if we wanted it moved inside I just said "yeah sure" and didn't make a big deal out if it. We were all a lot more comfortable, and the room the ceremony was in was lovely too.

[WittyLittle]

My contract is supposed to be only 10% teaching but in reality it is 25%. I did 40% last year to make sure id be student free this year. Now theyre telling me last year's hours don't count towards this year... FFS you a-holes you had me teaching 12 hours a day at 8 months pregnant just to screw me over? I need to get my butt in gear and finish. I"ll be such a ghost

[taberbtb]

My mom looks after DD 2 days weeks while I work (1 days is actually for them). I don't know if my sister is being a pot-stirring a$$hole or telling the truth but she told me this a.m. my mom is "tired of being left with this baby all the time".

I can't decide if I am pissed at my mom for saying this, my sister for telling me, both, or it's a lie. Either way, bitter barbie here.

[missys]

I hate Facebook and I'm not even on it.

[dacora]

Confession: I can't stand this one cry that DD does. She doesn't open her mouth, and it's like this moan/groan/whine and it's THE MOST ANNOYING SOUND ON THE PLANET. I don't even feel bad for her, like I just want her to SHUT UP. Sometimes that cry turns into a legit wailing, and then I get that primordial urge to comfort her, but the whining.... UGH.

[lilyelayne]

Jun 5, 2015 12:34:23 GMT -5 taberbtb said:

My mom looks after DD 2 days weeks while I work (1 days is actually for them). I don't know if my sister is being a pot-stirring a$$hole or telling the truth but she told me this a.m. my mom is "tired of being left with this baby all the time".

I can't decide if I am pissed at my mom for saying this, my sister for telling me, both, or it's a lie. Either way, bitter barbie here.

You're probably just ranting & not looking for advice, but this situation happened with MIL & SIL (and other SIL who loooooved being the bearer of bad news) and it ended up being no fun for anyone.

If you just checked in with your mom - how are things going, now that you've had a bit to get settled would you like to change the schedule any (consecutive days better/worse?), etc - would she be truthful with you? Kind of a generic conversation instead of sister told me blah blah blah.
Or frame it in terms of the future - does she plan on keeping baby for 6 months? A year? Until pre-k? Could you set a time frame to check in & re-evaluate so if she does get tired of being a caretaker instead of fun grandma she's got an easy way to tell you?

Unless your sister is just the type to make stuff up or project her thoughts onto your mother. In which case I'm sorry and that sucks.

[taberbtb]

lilyelayne my sister is a born pot-stirrer and probably was howling after telling me that. My mom is also somebody who loves to complain if for no other reason than to have something to talk about. I did mention to her that I was thinking of putting B into daycare one day a week to give her a break and she told me that she was too young (not my opinion) and she wanted her to have the kind of care only a family member can give. I have decided to hold out until she's 6 months and then put her in 1 day a week.

I was just ranting but appreciate the input. It helps confirm my decision to change things up in the near future.

[lilyelayne]

Vent: my kid is probably not going to have godparents because DH thinks we should pick one of his sisters as godmother and at best they're loosely Christian because they were raised that way. He doesn't think godparents mean anything or do anything, and I guess for a lot of people they don't, but I would want someone my kid can turn to when faith gets weird and rocky and uncool (in addition to any other non-faith issues).
I kinda want to ask my childhood BFF but am afraid. She loves DS and is very happy to be around him, but her son was stillborn in December, so there's still some my-kid-would-be when she's with him.

But none of it will matter if I don't get my lazy self in gear and schedule his baptism

[toadandbuggie]

@holachica, I don't understand daycare's full day policy either. Why can't it be hourly?

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Jun 5, 2015 12:09:46 GMT -5 mels823 said:

ooooh another one!

People care about weddings too much. I was the same way when I got married I guess, worrying about the weather and how my spray tan would come out (for real), but after being pregnant and now worrying about another human life all the time, making a huge deal about wedding stuff seems petty to me. If I knew then what I knew now, I would have handled my wedding so differently!

Yes, yes, yes!

A friend of my is getting married in July and has asked me a bunch of questions "since I've done it". At first, I didn't mind sharing my "wisdom", giving tips about what to think about and stuff, but she has gone totally overboard.
Yesterday she texted me asking about me having a friend doing my hair and did we use a lot of hair spray? Um, why does that matter? If you want to do your own hair, do it. Yes, you probably need a lot of hairspray if you want it to stay up all night. That's your judgement call. I have a baby, I don't have time to care about how you're gonna do your hair i July.
I did not respond.

[cginge]

Poof

[toadandbuggie]

My vent:
why do people who don't have children feel the need to impart their 'wisdom' onto you? I'm all ears to people who have had kids, but I don't feel like you can give me advice on the rearing of children if you've never had one yourself.

[WittyLittle]

Why do my inlaws have to have all their phone conversations (REALLY LOUDLYYYY) when im putting DS to bed?! EVERY DAMN NIGHT?!
i'm so mad I think i've gone medium-rare...

Etc: phone is dyslexic again.

[mommadozer]

Jun 5, 2015 13:56:45 GMT -5 cginge said:

Rant: When we're in public, H is soo happy to hold/change/show off LO (because H likes the attention, I'm sure). Then when we're at home, he only does what I ask him to do re: baby-care and no more. I've come so close to calling him out as an attention-wh*re on multiple occasions. It would really hurt his feelings (which is why I've held back) but it's true.

DH does the exact same. My blood starts boiling when he says crap like that. I have called him out at home after the fact.

[mommadozer]

To continue the wedding topic.... My future SIL asked that we don't start trying for our second LO until after their wedding next year.

Then she proceeded to tell me that I need to invite my parents to the location of the wedding to watch DS during the reception.

Little miss bossy bride. And no I am not planning my family around your damn wedding!

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Jun 5, 2015 14:21:54 GMT -5 mommadozer said:

To continue the wedding topic.... My future SIL asked that we don't start trying for our second LO until after their wedding next year.

Then she proceeded to tell me that I need to invite my parents to the location of the wedding to watch DS during the reception.

Little miss bossy bride. And no I am not planning my family around your damn wedding!

Haha, that's just insane! Self absorbed much? (SIL, not you of course)

[misshart00]

Jun 5, 2015 14:00:33 GMT -5 toadandbuggie said:

My vent:
why do people who don't have children feel the need to impart their 'wisdom' onto you? I'm all ears to people who have had kids, but I don't feel like you can give me advice on the rearing of children if you've never had one yourself.

I especially hate it when nannies do it. "Well, I pretty much have children." No, no you don't.

[cginge]

Jun 5, 2015 14:21:54 GMT -5 mommadozer said:

To continue the wedding topic.... My future SIL asked that we don't start trying for our second LO until after their wedding next year.

Then she proceeded to tell me that I need to invite my parents to the location of the wedding to watch DS during the reception.

Little miss bossy bride. And no I am not planning my family around your damn wedding!

Whaaaaat? That's crazy. And so rude.

[misshart00]

Jun 5, 2015 14:53:54 GMT -5 badw0lf said:

Also I really hate that "Babywearing" is a thing. When I was kid my parents carried me around in a backpack 90% of the time but it was labelled "Babywearing" and it wasn't like a big f-ing flaunt fest lifestyle choice. ??

Everything is up for grabs in the mommy wars. *rolls eyes*

[hollydfromtn]

I don't babywear as a life style choice. I do it because I'm too lazy to carry that heavy ass car seat around everywhere. They're so awkward to lug around.

[misshart00]

Jun 5, 2015 14:57:31 GMT -5 hollydfromtn said:

I don't babywear as a life style choice. I do it because I'm too lazy to carry that heavy ass car seat around everywhere. They're so awkward to lug around.

Lol. Me too. But I did once have him in the car seat in a shopping cart and someone told me it would be a lot easier if I baby wore.

[hollydfromtn]

Jun 5, 2015 12:25:07 GMT -5 dacora said:

mels823 Totally agree with you about weddings. I don't understand how people can spend tens of thousands of dollars on a SINGLE DAY. NOPE. We spent, including my dress, tux rental, food, venue, a three day stay at a fantastic hotel (Jekyll Island Club), cake, pictures, EVERYTHING: about $6000. My parents covered most of it, DH and I took care of some things.

Also, the ladies at the bridal shop complemented me when the entire months-long process was over, saying that I was a pleasure to work with and so nice to my mom (you KNOW they've seen some crazy Bridezillas). And the day of the wedding it was colder and windier than we were expecting, so when the coordinator asked if we wanted it moved inside I just said "yeah sure" and didn't make a big deal out if it. We were all a lot more comfortable, and the room the ceremony was in was lovely too.

This was totally us and I wouldn't have changed a single thing about our wedding. It was the perfect, stress free day for all involved. Weddings don't have to cost an arm and a leg to be memorable.