Post by billyhorrible on Jun 8, 2015 15:53:15 GMT -5
theBeeMama, I get it. I get stupid over name stuff too (LBB told his preschool our baby names we haven't shared with anyone, even family and now part of me wants to pick new names).
The good news is, your daughter will be coming first AND you've already told family the name. She's the one who will come off as a "copy cat"
sully326 I'd want to throat punch that friend. Seriously, you couldn't give me a heads-up that your kid is sick and let ME decide whether or not to take the risk? (This is one reason why I'm not going to visit family when the baby is under 6 months. My SIL regularly insists that her younger son just has "allergies", then everyone they visit gets sick. Oh, get some empathy and keep your kid home for a few days.) islandgirl14 - prodromal labor sucks.
Is that what it is!? My goodness! You know, I saw a post about that the other day and read it, but didn't really understand what it was about... Now that you mentioned it, I googled, and sure as sh*t, I betcha that's what's going on. What an awful, awful thing!
sully326 not cool, she should know better you being so close to delivery. And I rarely buy the allergy excuse. I believe it is accurate that medically speaking, kids generally don't develop seasonal allergies until after a few years because the exposure is so limited and they take time to develop. Food/mold/etc. is another story, but seasonal? I don't buy it if they're under age 3/4.
@bendherova you probably already ordered valves too but for future reference check Burlington Coat Factory (of all places), they have them online and I definitely saw them in my store the other day. Other replacement parts too though I didn't see tubing.
I may have been too strict with DS today. I am the reason his nap was pushed back (had dr. appt) so I knew he'd be a crank and I try not to penalize him for bad behavior overly much in those situations, but he was SUCH a sass and refused to listen and behave that I sent him to nap with no books. I've never done that before, typically he just gets a time out, but there were enough incidents that added up I decided to play that card. He was DEVASTATED. Hugging me, begging me to read books, he'd be a good boy, begging me to let him make me happy and not sad... heart-wrenching.
...yeah, I'll totally coddle him when he gets up from nap.
We're trying to get our townhouse on the market to sell it. It's been a rental property for 3 years. The first tenants were amazing and loved the house like it was their own for two years. Then we let our now SIL rent it with some friends even though I really didn't want to because they were really young and I had a feeling it would end in less than perfection. DH is telling me that he doesn't want me to stress about it at all but he comes home stressed about it and won't let me help in any way (mostly because at this point I can't help--it's painting, cleaning base boards, yard work, and other things that 9 month pregnant women just can't really do). A stager went through and sent us an absurdly long list of things to do and DH wants to get it on the market by this weekend. We've already put over $3,000 into it for new flooring and other touch-up stuff. Now we have to have the entire house repainted?! WTF! It is painted in neutral colors because that's what I like. So we're going to dump more money into it and we maybe might be able to break even when it finally sells. My main issue is I know that we don't have the money to lose on it. Oh, and we're having a freaking baby THIS MONTH. Good thing they don't cost money or anything. MIL is a realtor and a fantastic one at that (anyone in the MD/DC/NOVA area ever need a realtor, I highly recommend her). She's estimating we'll lose at least $5,000 in purchase price not including closing costs. But we've been losing $300-$500/month on rent because we got screwed over with a terrible type of mortgage initially (so terrible it's no longer legal). Mostly, I just want to be helpful with the situation but I can't because uber pregnant. I wish we had just freaking sold it last year instead of having SIL live there although the market is technically better now than it was then. I would have rather taken the hit last year and not added extra stress (that I'm not supposed to feel) right now.
I don't know if I'm being hormonal but I'm just not impressed with the pediatric practice I have chosen. They've been good about setting LO up with her bililight and lab draws. However I feel like they aren't personable. Dr today didn't even introduce herself and I don't think they are good at acknowledging my anxiety over the whole thing on top of being a FTM with a newborn. I'm new to all of this and I feel like LO and I are just another patient they have to see as opposed to actually caring. Am I being crazy?
Nope, I totally felt this way at our first appointment. The doctor had rave reviews from several people in town, and since I didn't have a chance to call and set up interviews, I went with it. He seemed very rushed and only spent about 5 min looking at our daughter, who had just gotten out of the NICU 3 days prior. Didn't ask us a lot of questions, didn't explain anything about having a new baby, didn't talk about vaccinations...I kinda felt in the dark after we left. I don't even know if he had her charts and info from the hospital.
Ugh, I was really hoping to have the baby this weekend, I don't want to go to work...
Yup. 100% with you. Was lying in bed last night pleading with her to be ready. Nope. Still pregnant.
erbear my mom is also super stressful and I don't want her anywhere near the hospital for at least a day or two so I totally feel ya! Last time I was in the hospital for my IBS, she offered to sit with me for a while so DH could go home to take a nap on the 3rd or 4th day of my stay. As soon as he left, she started crying and saying how miserable I looked and how much pain I must be in and how it was so hard for her. Ummm...yeah no. Then when my symptoms/pain actually did spike, she just stood there basically hyperventilating while I screamed at her to go find ANY dr and drag him back to my room, willing or unwilling. She didn't. Never again. Now DH is insisting that we tell her that we invited his parents, my BFF and my aunts to the hospital the day of so her feelings don't get hurt. And I told him that if he does that and she shows up, I'm telling the nurses not to let him back into the maternity ward. Ugh. She clearly doesn't care because I asked her what day they wanted to come up when I gave her the c-section info and she said "maybe Tues or Wed if we're not busy." but I feel like if she knows everyone else is coming, she's going to come just to save face, blah! Luckily my hospital also will not let anyone back without the ok from me. I hope that your mom chills so you can have a stress-free delivery!!!
Ugh, I was really hoping to have the baby this weekend, I don't want to go to work...
x2.......for the second weekend in a row!
mnp48, I was spotting last week and my doctor said it's a good thing at this stage - sign of impending labor, meaning you're dilating enough for some of the inside stuff to come out. Hopefully soon that inside stuff will be a baby!
After 4 calls to my OB, they finally spoke to me and dismissed it. Had growth scan and nst which was all fine and said to call if fill up a pad in an hour of Blood. It's not that heavy, but it is like a light period, clumps of dark red blood too. Didn't think bloody show lasts so long. Can't shake the worry .
After 4 calls to my OB, they finally spoke to me and dismissed it. Had growth scan and nst which was all fine and said to call if fill up a pad in an hour of Blood. It's not that heavy, but it is like a light period, clumps of dark red blood too. Didn't think bloody show lasts so long. Can't shake the worry .
I know you weren't asking me, but when I mentioned all my brown spotting he said that's normal, but to go in if I see red. He said if I'm just wiping and there's a bit of red on toilet paper that's fine, but to go get checked if I ever see enough where it's on my pad/underwear.
I don't know what to do at this point. It's def not a bit of spotting but after the nst and growth scan they sent me home. And the midwife says its dilation or whatnot. But it's a good amount of blood ugh.
WTF heartburn. I didn't have it much during pregnancy, which is surprising because she had a full head of hair. Now I have it EVERY night at about 2:30 when I wake to feed the little one.
After 4 calls to my OB, they finally spoke to me and dismissed it. Had growth scan and nst which was all fine and said to call if fill up a pad in an hour of Blood. It's not that heavy, but it is like a light period, clumps of dark red blood too. Didn't think bloody show lasts so long. Can't shake the worry .
I know you weren't asking me, but when I mentioned all my brown spotting he said that's normal, but to go in if I see red. He said if I'm just wiping and there's a bit of red on toilet paper that's fine, but to go get checked if I ever see enough where it's on my pad/underwear.
Mine was at least 3 days, but like michy, it was brown and only when I wiped.
Yours sounds more like a mucous plug, which is can definitely be red blood bloody. And last for a long time. The thing is like the size of a golf ball, I think most people loose it in chunks or "strings" which would be a lot of bloody clumps that could go on for days/weeks/months depending on how much is coming out at one time.
theBeeMama urg how stressful. I hate when people like to make everything into a competition. I hope that the two versions of the name are different enough and at least your LO is due first.
Rant...so I was talking to DH about my appointment tomorrow and he says, "you know, if they want to do your c section early, if you could make it for middle to late next week, that would be great."
Talking to my mom on the phone, "you know, if they would do your csection this week, that would be great."
My dad in the background, "you better not ruin our vacation next week, Ang!"
I'm so glad everyone else has a say when MY dr is going to schedule MY csection.
Rant...so I was talking to DH about my appointment tomorrow and he says, "you know, if they want to do your c section early, if you could make it for middle to late next week, that would be great."
Talking to my mom on the phone, "you know, if they would do your csection this week, that would be great."
My dad in the background, "you better not ruin our vacation next week, Ang!"
I'm so glad everyone else has a say when MY dr is going to schedule MY csection.
So great to know that your convenience outweighs the baby's health or the whole "I'm having major abdominal surgery, after which I'll be caring for a newborn" thing. Nice, guys, real nice
Rant...so I was talking to DH about my appointment tomorrow and he says, "you know, if they want to do your c section early, if you could make it for middle to late next week, that would be great."
Talking to my mom on the phone, "you know, if they would do your csection this week, that would be great."
My dad in the background, "you better not ruin our vacation next week, Ang!"
I'm so glad everyone else has a say when MY dr is going to schedule MY csection.
So great to know that your convenience outweighs the baby's health or the whole "I'm having major abdominal surgery, after which I'll be caring for a newborn" thing. Nice, guys, real nice
My family is pushing for baby to be here the 15. A) his due date is the 21, don't get your hopes up B) I have NO control over this as of right now, so why are you asking me. My mom wanted to know why i wasn't pushing for the stronger acupuncture treatments yet and I pointed out I'm just at 38 weeks. That finally got her to admit that maybe I should wait, but goodness - babies come when they are ready (or your dr tells you it's time) - not so I can accommodate your vacation! Also - this date has been on the calendar for quite awhile, why did you plan a vacation anywhere near it?!
Rant...so I was talking to DH about my appointment tomorrow and he says, "you know, if they want to do your c section early, if you could make it for middle to late next week, that would be great."
Talking to my mom on the phone, "you know, if they would do your csection this week, that would be great."
My dad in the background, "you better not ruin our vacation next week, Ang!"
I'm so glad everyone else has a say when MY dr is going to schedule MY csection.
People are so insensitive about pregnancy/labor/delivery.
My mom referred to me to my daughter by saying " sweetheart let Grammy carry you. Your mom is just really huge right now" I about lost it. Edited because autocorrect was not kind and I didn't read before posting!
We have eat n park in the Cleveland region too. No offense dudes but it's really truly nothing special. The smiley cookies were pretty good but it's your standard "American" food. Very popular with the senior citizen crowd.
So great to know that your convenience outweighs the baby's health or the whole "I'm having major abdominal surgery, after which I'll be caring for a newborn" thing. Nice, guys, real nice
My family is pushing for baby to be here the 15. A) his due date is the 21, don't get your hopes up B) I have NO control over this as of right now, so why are you asking me. My mom wanted to know why i wasn't pushing for the stronger acupuncture treatments yet and I pointed out I'm just at 38 weeks. That finally got her to admit that maybe I should wait, but goodness - babies come when they are ready (or your dr tells you it's time) - not so I can accommodate your vacation! Also - this date has been on the calendar for quite awhile, why did you plan a vacation anywhere near it?!
They are only saying this about their vacation because my dr brought up moving the RCS up if my fluid levels are really high tomorrow. I'm not scheduled right now till the 29th, so it wouldn't "interfere" with their plans. ?
Post by ravinraven216 on Jun 8, 2015 21:09:51 GMT -5
I am completely out of spoons.
My dad called me because my stepmom was hurt by not being invited to my baby shower that my mom hosted in May. I didn't think to ask to invite her (and my mom doesn't like my stepmom on principle) and she would have only known 2 of the people there not including myself. Apparently she made LO 4 different quilts (and she does remarkably beautiful work) all in different sizes and now I feel overwhelmed by guilt. We've always struggled in our relationship, so this is just the latest in a long series of misunderstandings and conflicts. Cue lots of crying on my part.
Also, my dad is going to be in the hospital on June 19th for surgery to correct his heart arrhythmia. He has a busy schedule from now through next Monday, so he won't be visiting immediately after LO is born unless he's born on the 16th,17th, or 18th. He's not in good health and went on about how he'd rather die than have a massive stroke and be an invalid. He and my stepmom are also revising their wills on Monday. Add way too many feels.
And both of my paternal grandparents are rapidly declining in health and I doubt they'll get to meet our baby. I was feeling kind of numb by this part of the conversation. I've been expecting them to pass for years, but that doesn't make it any easier to hear. Thanks for the emotionally draining phone conversation, Dad.
Before all of this, DH came home for dinner excited about the possibility of switching to first shift. Priority is being given to anyone who is willing to give up their off-shift salary (2nd and 3rd shift make more). We've built our lives around that salary level and I've been crunching numbers all evening trying to see if we can make the lower salary work, but I don't think we can manage. On the off chance that no one else is willing to take the pay cut, DH has first dibs. I'll cross my fingers, but won't hold my breath.
I also really want to watch this weeks episode of Game of Thrones, but the night is dark and full of spoilers (even though I saw this week's Big Moment coming). I am not emotionally equipped to handle watching it.
I'm going to have a warm bath and a good cry. I really wish I wasn't alone tonight.
My dad called me because my stepmom was hurt by not being invited to my baby shower that my mom hosted in May. I didn't think to ask to invite her (and my mom doesn't like my stepmom on principle) and she would have only known 2 of the people there not including myself. Apparently she made LO 4 different quilts (and she does remarkably beautiful work) all in different sizes and now I feel overwhelmed by guilt. We've always struggled in our relationship, so this is just the latest in a long series of misunderstandings and conflicts. Cue lots of crying on my part.
Also, my dad is going to be in the hospital on June 19th for surgery to correct his heart arrhythmia. He has a busy schedule from now through next Monday, so he won't be visiting immediately after LO is born unless he's born on the 16th,17th, or 18th. He's not in good health and went on about how he'd rather die than have a massive stroke and be an invalid. He and my stepmom are also revising their wills on Monday. Add way too many feels.
And both of my paternal grandparents are rapidly declining in health and I doubt they'll get to meet our baby. I was feeling kind of numb by this part of the conversation. I've been expecting them to pass for years, but that doesn't make it any easier to hear. Thanks for the emotionally draining phone conversation, Dad.
Before all of this, DH came home for dinner excited about the possibility of switching to first shift. Priority is being given to anyone who is willing to give up their off-shift salary (2nd and 3rd shift make more). We've built our lives around that salary level and I've been crunching numbers all evening trying to see if we can make the lower salary work, but I don't think we can manage. On the off chance that no one else is willing to take the pay cut, DH has first dibs. I'll cross my fingers, but won't hold my breath.
I also really want to watch this weeks episode of Game of Thrones, but the night is dark and full of spoilers (even though I saw this week's Big Moment coming). I am not emotionally equipped to handle watching it.
I'm going to have a warm bath and a good cry. I really wish I wasn't alone tonight.
I'm so sorry you're going through all of this right now! I don't have any experience or advice on the parents/ step parents stuff other than to send hugs but my maternal grandmother was just moved to palliative care and it's just a waiting game now. It's a horrible feeling to wondering when it's going to happen and know that it's not an if but a when. Again, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
My mom referred to me to my daughter by saying " sweetheart let Grammy carry you. Your mom is just really huge right now" I about lost it. Edited because autocorrect was not kind and I didn't read before posting!
alayne926 my parents have vacations planned starting the week after kiddo is due. None of their children were born on time so what were they thinking? I think lalamomma summed it up well!
Bluedaisy she has been on a roll lately. I love her dearly but she should know better. When I corrected her about how rude that was she didn't seem to get it. She said "well what else should I say?" I said "well it's never nice to say someone is huge, you could have said the baby is making it hard for mommy or something" I reminded her pregnancy isn't and invitation to make statements about anyone's body.
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